The Seventh Lunar Month

In Chinese culture, the seventh lunar month, often referred to as the “Hungry Ghost Festival,” is a time when the gates of the afterlife are believed to open. Spirits and ghosts are said to roam the earthly realm during this period, making it a time of heightened supernatural activity.

The witness:

The last day of 7th month – The Girl

I was walking along the back of Tampines Mcd(the one opposite bus interchange) to get my dinner. I heard a girl(white top & black bottom) sobbing away when I walked past. I stopped for a moment and decided to hand her my one and only packet of tissue paper. When I am done with dinner, I decided to head back to the same place to see if she is still around. To my amaze, the place now stand an incense paper burner..

To the girl(if not ghost):

I hope that packet of tissue wipe away all your sorrows. The call you tried to get through, that person isnt worth your tears.

Everything will be fine in time.

&

You scare me the whole night!!!!

Here are what netizens think:

• She will fly through your window tonight to get more tissue… You better stock up.
• May it be ghost or human, u done well giving her some comfort.
• Maybe she appears in ur dream….
• A Stephen King wannabe. LoL
• No need to be scared if u have done nothing wrong

Girlfriend of 7 months wants me to pay every time we go on a date and it’s getting incredibly expensive

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and while most things are quite good, she’s a good girl and all, she wants me to pay every time we go on a date and also wants to see each other many times per week.

She has a better paying job than I do, but still never offers to pay for meals or anything and it’s getting a little straining on the finances.

She told me she’s been called high maintenance before, but I don’t really see that being the case with most things other than wanting me to foot the bill for everything.

How do I approach this situation?

Netizens’ comments

• “Hey, I can’t afford to pay every time we go out. Would you be willing to start splitting since we both earn a good amount of money?”
  You should get the finances conversation out of the way early on in the relationship to see where you both land on it.
• Sir she doesn’t even offer to go half? Does she make it up doing other things? How often do you go out? It sounds like she’s getting a free ride off you at your expense. If she’s straining your finances now it’s only going to get worse
• When she asks to do something say “if it’s your treat than sure! I’m little stretched from doing X last week” or offer something different “I’ve been Spending too much on going out lately let’s just stay in and watch movies.”

I found out my girlfriend is married.

I found out when I called her cell and a man answered. I was super confused and double-checked the number and asked who it was and he said it was her husband his name and she was busy.

I accidentally yelled out loud and sighed then told him we’d been seeing each other and not once did she mention she had a husband and she never had a ring on.

I apologized profusely and told him that I had no idea and we would not be seeing each other anymore.

The poor guy was obviously crushed and angry at first but he understood and believed I didn’t know.

I told him again how sorry I was especially that he found out like this and told him to feel free to tell her she and I are done when they talk and we cut the conversation short.

Later she started blowing up my phone with calls and I didn’t answer. She texted me and was legitimately angry I told her husband.

I texted her back and told her she and I were done and what she did is scummy and blocked her number.

I know I did the right thing and that because I didn’t know none of this is my fault but I still feel like shit.

We’d only been dating for about a month but it still sucks. I just met her at a bar and we’ve hooked up at my place exclusively because her “roommate works early and needs sleep”

she also never stayed the night because she needed her “sleep apnea mask at home” God I’m such a moron.

Netizens’ comments

1. You’re not a moron, and you did the right thing.
2. I understand it sucks heavily. But you not only did the right thing, you saved yourself from unreliable cheating partner. Hurting is temporarily, you’ll feel better, stay strong.
3. The audacity of her getting upset with you when she should be embarrassed the jig is up! Sheesh.
4. Well, at least you had the balls to tell the poor guy.

Mismatch in work culture, what should I do?

Hi all, seeking some advice on work. Im a 23F who has just landed my first job in a consulting firm. I have interned in other consulting firms before and have friends and family working in this field so I am generally aware of the normal culture of consulting aka working till late occasionally and possibly networking with clients and prospective clients etc.

My current job, it doesn’t require me to stay till late to finish up with work so far. Which is great. But my bosses expects us to stay and drink/play games, usually till 12am and sometimes up to 3-4am.

They say it’s important that we learn to bond with colleagues after work hours. Whenever I had to leave the office at 9pm or if i decline drinking alcohol, they would make side comments on why I had to leave early and why cant I drink just a little.

I’m just 3 months in this job and I am feeling so exhausted from my work interactions.

I feel that I’m not as close with my other colleagues as everyone always stays up in the office to play and drink with one another while I’m leaving early, their conversation would continue on the next day and no one would bother to fill me in on the details.

Hoping to stay at least a year in this job but not sure how to navigate my life around the office now. Send help

No, I don’t want to go to a bar/restaurant, or any other activity in the evenings. My commute eats up enough of my time.

I’ve already made up my mind to say “no, I have other plans” if this rears its ugly head again, and if my boss pushes it and tries to make it even semi-mandatory, I’m going to request time and a half pay, since I’m non-exempt and a work activity has taken me away from my home. That should end the discussion.

I am an escort and have been for nearly three years , I was thinking about retirement but after my last client , I’m not so sure anymore

Hey guys , I’m F22 , this is my first post here so excuse any mistakes lol .

The other day I met with this client in the hotel and he told me he’s a virgin . I can tell he’s the shy type of guy and he was so sweet , even brought me some flowers!

We got on the bed and started kissing and undressing each other .

And afterwards We then got dressed and cuddled together , and as he rested on my chest and I was rubbing and playing with his hair , he just cried .

I asked him what’s wrong and he said he feel really good loved and cared for with me (I always make sure I make my clients feel satisfied) and also told me that no one has made him this way before and it’s honestly sad to hear.

You’d be surprised by how many guys hire me just to cuddle and be affectionate with them , they don’t recieve much love and are so happy when they do and same with compliments , so I always make sure to compliment them . I wish I can give every guy a hug now lol .

Anyways , I reassured him and told him everything’s going to be ok until he slept on me lol .

So now I am at a crossroad , I want to quit and find true love (even tho that would be hard considering my past/present) but at the same time , I get to make so many guys feel happy about themselves , and I want to keep doing that . So idk what to do tbh , any opinions?

And thanks for reading

Surprised by how whiny a teen can be!

I recently joined a volunteer group and got in touch with youth, some of them are poly students whole some are university students.

One of them, a teen mentioned that he wanted to move to Korea and work there after he graduated because he love Kpop.

Another working adult in the group mentioned that he has been to Korea to work for 2 years and that it needs planning and some savings. Also he should pick up basic Korean if possible. (Because he doesn’t know Korean except for song lyrics and a few lines from Kdrama)

The teen suddenly got upset and blamed him for “ruining his dream”. And I was like… Huh? Why is that ruining his dream? I seriously cannot understand why he even feel that! Because I was about to tell him to do more research before committing to it too especially because he is going there because of Kpop and he mentioned to work and not to be an idol.

Am I be old fashion or what? I feel I don’t know how to talk to some teens these days.

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s normal lah. Many of us, in our youth, have many pipe dreams and talk a lot of nonsense. It’s only when we are older that the harsh realities of life hit us like a mountain of bricks. From there, we gradually learn how to deal with it or simply sit on our arses while accusing other people of not being responsible enough to make our lives better.

• Most of them dream with their heads in the air but feet not planted on the ground.

• This kid think kpop is like popcorn. So easy to form a band and no need to think about finance and health. Heard its a gruelling process.

• We were once young. We think life is like this and that. Once we get old we’ll change eventually once we face challenges in life. The only thing we could do as adults towards youngsters who only knows how to take life for granted is teach them, guide them and protect them to prevent those mistakes that we once/twice/thrice made.

• student still living in their lala land. think that is everywhere speaks english. sometimes they need to fall face flat to learn reality

I got so damn lonely I hired a escort to drink with me

I just wanted to have someone to talk to and drinking alone makes me feel like an alcoholic. I’ve been isolating myself since I was injured in an accident that left me scared from head to toe and it left my face heavily scarred and my torso front and back.

I’m thinking about talking to a psychiatrist and maybe trying to become normal again but in the last 9 years I have socialized with maybe 4 people and that was probably less than 100 times all together which sounds like a lot till you spread it across 9 years.

As you can tell I’ve become anti social, bit of a recluse one could say. I used to go out and people used to stare at me or ask me about my scars and I don’t know why it bothered me so much.

Funny story just to show how interested people are in them, I once got 10 plus matches on a dating site just because they were curious of how I got the scars on my face. Hell, I can’t blame them I’d probably wonder too and possibly even stare

Since Covid I have been able to socialize a lot more though since mask were widely acceptable and that paired with glasses covered most of them

Yesterday though I actually broke down and hired an escort just to have someone to talk to at my hotel bar and for the first time in my life I felt normal again.

I hired her for 1 hour but she ended up staying 7 more hours with me till last call. It was sad to hear she also had similar trauma as I but also nice to see someone else could relate though that was not my intentions.

The experience gave me a new sense of confidence, like I can be normal and that I can over come this. Sounds stupid I know but I just wanted to talk a little bit about my night yesterday and today I’m going to a barbecue with my friend and a bunch of his buddies. Maybe this is the turning point for me

I just want to compare notes. Are there any ladies out there who feel uncomfortable about their father-in-laws? It’s apparently common for ladies to feel this way. Just Google it

My fil always stares blatantly at my chest area even though I’m not in tight-fitting or revealing clothes. If I’m in leggings, he will trace the shape of my thighs with his eyes so I’ve avoided wearing that to their house.

U know how those dirty-old-men at coffee shop love to leer at ladies up and down? There’s once I slung a bag across my chest and his eyes lingered very long on my chest because of the shape the bag strap was making in that area. Ever since then, I’ve never carried my bag that way when he’s around.

Please don’t say ‘How can you say that of your FIL??!!’ Rmb that even indecent guys can become FIL. If they don’t act upon their indecent thoughts, there’s nothing we can do either.

I’ve never worn shorts or sleeveless outfits to my in-laws’ place. I’ve even reserved ugly outfits just to wear to their house. I avoid eye contact when talking to him because I don’t want to peer into his eyes to deduce what kind of lewd thoughts may be crossing his mind.

My friend’s advice is not to be in the house alone with him. Of course I won’t!! Another friend joked that I’m younger & prettier than my mother-in-law, of course FIL is going to look.

Lest u think I’m overthinking, all my ex-boyfriends’ fathers had never given me any uncomfortable vibe like my FIL does and I had had meals with them and spent long hours at their houses before.

FIL has shifty eyes and a very untrustworthy vibe, and I find myself very often creeped out by him and his presence.