I get it, money doesn’t literally buy happiness, but it depends on what your definition of happiness is. 99% of people’s definition of happiness is something that you have to pay for.

Like if you have to travel anywhere to feel happy you are spending money in some capacity. Whoever says that money can’t buy happiness literally doesn’t know what life is like without money. If you don’t have a lot of money, then having money will make you happy, but if you have been in an environment where you’ve had money all of your life, then it won’t buy happiness. I’d rather be unhappy on a private jet than trying to worry about rent.

• For lower-income people, the increase in money is buying financial stability (reducing financial insecurity), which is the cause of much unhappiness. Once that is eliminated, money really can’t buy happiness

• As a person that was unemployed and scored a 120k job this year.. yeah, it makes a big goddamn difference

• I think the key is “enough money”. A happy working-class family has enough to be happy, even if they can’t afford luxury trips

• If you’re poor like most, if you get a little bit of money it is rewarding and life-enhancing. Then if you go up a rank and get even more money coming in, people start comparing themselves to others. They are happy to be getting more money than most, but the upward trajectory of their income, means they start comparing themselves to millionaires.

• This is how I see it. I was not the most happy when I held the highest paying job of my entire life. Money opens doors. But it does not guarantee happiness.

• Having money can take away money related stresses which will make you happier, but it doesn’t “add” happiness beyond that point like say a loving partner would. I earned less than $20k but didn’t have much money related stress as a uni student and I was just as happy as I am now with a decent salary after graduating. If I was earning <$20k with two kids I definitely wouldn’t have been so happy.

I (24f) am completely over my husbands (24M) laziness in bed. We’ve been together for 3 years married for about 7 months now. We only recently started living with each other but our bedroom issues have been going on, on and off for majority of our relationship. I like to experiment and love pleasing my husband. I’ve probably done almost everything in the book to satisfy him and have opened him up a lot, and got him into things he would have never known he even liked. He thinks our intimacy is amazing. I have never finished.

Every time we have this conversation he gets upset and says I think he’s a horrible lover, pouts for a few days or weeks. Then will ask me in detail what I want from him. He’s very submissive now so he hates initiating so I’ve given up on that even though I’d really like him to be, so all I ask is for actual foreplay not just him wanting me to give him head and then go straight into the act. He’ll listen and start doing what I want once when we have get into it and then he falls back into his old habits and just keeps wanting head. If I complain or get upset, we don’t do it unless I get over myself and initiate it.

So after the last fight I was willing to have on the subject with him. I decided to go online and buy all the toys I’ve wanted but always put off buying, as well as some bondage items, etc. I didn’t tell my husband because he’s really awkward about me using toys, he feels like I should get off to him naturally and using toys is insulting to him so I never experimented with them. Thing is I don’t plan on using them with him. I brought them for myself so I can finally get the pleasure I’ve been asking for since I started exploring. We have a joint account so I knew he would see the charge eventually and question me.

Well two nights ago he saw the charge and approached me. I told him what I brought and he completely lost it. I told him that I don’t think it’s fair how he gets to experience all the pleasure during our intimacy and when it comes to me gets lazy. He told me I’m being dramatic and why am I with him if I hate our intimacy that much. He says he’s not gonna stay in our apartment while I’m using toys on myself every night and be okay with that. I say we can experiment with them together but he doesn’t want to hear it. Eventually he leaves and he doesn’t answer my phone calls or text for the night.

I got a call from his mother yesterday saying that he was at her house and pretty much saying how immature I was to approach a sensitive topic in such a bizarre manner and blow our money on toys. Furious that he even told his mom I told her I’m not discussing this with her, and that he can call me and hung up. We haven’t spoken in two days and he’s still not texting back. Even though I feel like I’m not wrong for wanting more when we sleep together. I feel like I crossed a line and shouldn’t have blown up at him over it. Am I in the wrong?

A netizen shared how he bought a $300 bottle of scotch for his friend as a surprise gift but his girlfriend then opened it and ruined the surprise.

Here is the story

I bought my best friend of 15 years a decently expensive birthday gift and his girlfriend opened it
I spent $300 on my best friend’s favorite scotch and his gf opened it and the card I wrote him. It seems silly but I’m annoyed.

Would this annoy you?

I took time out of my only day off to buy a present, wrap a present and write a card all for the purpose of it being a nice surprise for my buddy once he got off work.

And his gf straight up opened everything. Am I being selfish?

Scotch isn’t a long term gift so it was important to me that the “surprise factor” was there.

Netizens’ comments

• I think you’re justified in feeling a little annoyed and disappointed, but keep things in perspective… this is small peanuts. And ultimately, this is an issue between your friend and his GF. If he’s annoyed, he should raise it with her. I wouldn’t do anything in your position. It’s just not your place.

• I would be slightly annoyed. Sometimes couples seem to morph into one and it takes away from special moments you want to have with the person you’re actually bonded to. Not to say you can’t be friends with their S/O as well, but it’s not the same.

Last week, I was made an Assistant Manager in my profession after spending 9+ years with this company. Over the 9 years, I stayed on while many turned in their letters. I took over more work when there were no replacements. When the promotion eventually came, many sent their well wishes and congratulations, but little do they know that I only received a meagre $150 increment with this promotion.

Feeling absurd and angry at myself for staying loyal when many who have moved on and are already way ahead in terms of pay scale.

Here are what others think:

• Actually all the work you have been doing for them in the past 9 years is AM job scope. Due to lack of people, they just decided to promote you to AM to keep you around, and anyhow entertain you by throwing you the extra $150 increment.Should know better about the company during your 9 golden years there whether they are the cheapskate ones or can really pay. Most importantly, $$$ > job titles these days. (if just compare the two)

• That’s why when my company want to promote me to assistant manager. I told them I’m not ready knowingly the additional workload and stress that come with it. And the increment is also nothing to shout about. I’m happy to remain as a senior.

• You got promoted, time to throw letters. You can put in your resume you’re a AM now. It weights higher

• I worked for a the same for around 9 years. First few years was great as increment was reasonably good but bonus was normal. After the 3rd or 4th year, we all stopped receiving increment and bonus as boss said company not making money. I don’t know why but I kept staying. 2 years before I resigned, I got “promoted” to assistant manager without even knowing until HR told me but no increment, just a change of title on name card and HR issued a letter for my acknowledgmentNot trying to compare, just sharing

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how do you approach a colleague who owes you lunch money?

I have been lunching with colleagues and sometimes involved me footing for the bill first at a restaurant / cafe. While this not usually often, we do treat ourselves at nicer casual restaurants/ cafes at times for a great catch up during lunch.

We all take turns to pay usually – and when I say “We” they are not the same people most of the time, hence the “need” to hang out at better places to have a better ambience to chat. I will usually check how much is my share, and immediately paynow or return cash to the paying colleague (incl of the taxes).

However when it is my turn to pay, I do get episodes of colleagues forgetting to pay me back, and I believe they are genuine, because of busy schedules they forget as they did mention they would do so “later”.

To put the situation into a better context, we are all middle aged adults drawing an average of 5-fig salary, but to me it is still money – though the bill can range between $15-$25. And because we are all adults of certain level and payscale, it seems (very) petty enough of me to ask them about the owed lunch money, worse still we dont really meet daily. I guess it definitely isn’t an issue if I were to say it was a treat from me, but no it’s an AA go-dutch lunch. And I cannot be consoling myself to forget it – take it as a treat when clearly it was not.

How will you approach for someone to pay you back in such a situation? While it can be deemed a small amount, it definitely is not , especially if this happens more than once, and it is also a matter of principle when it comes to such.

A girl shared how wearing a mask makes her feel safe, not just from the coronavirus, but from creeps as well because it allows her to hide her face.

Here is the story

My mask makes me feel safe at work from more than just the virus.

I work in the service industry as a waitress. I hadn’t served in years but started again last year.

On multiple occasions I had people ask me to pull my mask down so “they could see my face” or ” see what I look like” “oh you have such pretty eyes I want to see your whole face”.

And it’s been so nice being able to just tell people no sorry, you can’t gawk at me, I’m wearing this for my own protection.

I feel like I’ve grown accustomed to having my mask on most as a way to hide from creepy people.

It seems to deter people from hitting on me since for all they know behind my mask may not be as pretty as they think.

When I worked as a waitress before, I feel like I got creeped on at least twice a week, now it never happens and it feels so nice!

I’m just having a crisis now because eventually one day, we won’t be required to wear masks anymore, and I really don’t want to stop wearing it.

It really makes me feel safe from more than just the virus.

I purposely slept through my nephew’s birthday party

I’m 22 and am currently living with my parents until I can find an affordable place to live on my own.

Today we had a birthday party for my 4-year-old nephew, and I pretended to not feel good so I could go to my room and “sleep” until everybody left.

The reason being, my nephews (4 & 5) drive me absolutely insane and I can’t stand being around them. I dont just mean they annoy me, I mean I feel no love for these children.

They are extremely hyper and constantly cry and whine literally every 5 minutes when they come over.

Now I know every kid does that at those ages, but these kids are different.

The 5-year-old is constantly running around, screeching and yelling, and getting into stuff. These kids do not listen to anybody, and my brother and his wife threaten consequences but never follow through.

My mom tells me I need to lighten up, but they literally make my blood pressure skyrocket because they make me so mad and overwhelm me with noise and chaos.

They were wondering where I was today during the party because I never left my room.

I pretended to be asleep anytime someone knocked on my door because I didnt want anything to do with those kids.

I was drunk and she was too and I already felt really pressured by my friends to hook up with her.

Nevertheless, I did it anyway due to peer pressure. Which is my fault. I told her I just wanted “head” and she said to find a condom cause she wanted to do it.

I looked for one and asked my friend hoping he would say no. He said he didn’t have one and I was happy but she then told me she was on the pill and was only worried about diseases. I didn’t have one and my body count was only 1 so I wasn’t worried about that. However, I told her I didn’t want to and I told her to keep giving me head. Right after I said that she sat on my kkb… I was like what the… I

I wasn’t enjoying it and eventually finished and kicked her out of my house and had the worst post nut clarity ever. I literally started crying. Never told anyone and wanted to vent cuz it was disgusting.

Here are what netizens think:

• Yeah, it doesnt matter, if she was attractive or whatever, you said no (didnt consent) and she forced herself onto you. Both men and women can be raped. Its not magically okay just because a woman does it to a man. Im sorry you went through that, I would get therapy or something. If youre really upset about it, its up to you, you could look into pressing charges. Again, imagine if you were a girl and some dude did that to you. It would be a no brainer.

• The drinking is irrelevant to this scenario as being drunk relates to invalidating consent. You not only didn’t consent, you expressly said no.

• Bro, no means no. I’m sorry you had to go through all this. And she definitely had to stop at the first moment you expressed not being comfortable.