Background: 24F, staying in a fully paid HDB with my maternal grandmother for quite some time.

My grandma has two children, daughter (my mom) & son. But none actually cares and takes care of the monthly expenses (utilities, phone bill, scc, etc).

I am the only one paying for everything and supporting her

In addition, my mom uses my grandma’s name for phone contract and now a big fat debt so I have been paying for the bills mainly cause I feel that since I’m staying here and her kids aren’t doing anything.

Fyi, I’m also not in contact with my mom cause of past mistreatment and all that family conflict thingy. do not have a dad as well cuz both her husbands left her lol.

To add on, I’m not sure but, I heard that the house is under a lawyer’s letter that it’s 50-50 with my grandpa’s second family. They contribute nth to the household as well & only wants the money.

But the last time we went to HDB to check, the house belongs to my grandma & great grandfather (passed on alr).

Don’t know if I can fight for her inheritance instead of the money being given to all those who don’t care about her

My question here is,

• if my grandma passes away, other than her kids getting the sum of money, is there a chance that i can fight for the duties i have done in supporting her? do i need actual documents like receipts each month as evidence?
  
• if my grandma passes away, will the second family have an opportunity for their share? how does HDB does this 50-50 thing or like how does HDB determine this flat is out for sale once someone passes away?

my grandma is currently mentally and physically abled. no problem with her health other than old age issues.

i know that will-writing is one method but my grandma is not someone who wants to make decisions on her own. she does not want to be put in a position that she have to think and feel unfair to others.

i also do not wish to put her into pressure cause i dont want her to feel like im after her money or what (which i am really not). im posting this here cause there are friends who asked me and had me thinking.

we do have a counsellor as well that i can seek help/advice from but so far, counsellors can only provide information to client which in the end, my grandma have to make the decision herself.

Can a good hairstyle really change your attractiveness?

Don’t get me wrong, I do agree it can make a difference to ones image. In fact, my hair now is bad but I’m not sure if I should be spending 100+ on Korean perm etc.

Like, one day when u decide to not perm anymore and be back to “square one”, wont you be back to your normal self? like am I supposed to perm 4 times a year that means $500+ on haircuts in a year???

I’m defo not attractive thats why I’m trying my best to change things I can(apart from personality) like I have been ensuring I have good hygiene, shave daily, putting perfume to smell good and in general dress more neatly.

But my hair is in a mess right now so I’m thinking of splurging to get a good haircut and hopefully I can max out whatever attractiveness I can have to boost my self esteem.

What do you all reckon?

Here are what netizens think

• Ya la it does la.
  
  Just spend a reasonable amount on it, no need look like a pop star. She also take off her make up and maybe no eye brows won’t look like pop star also ma…
  
  When u find the right one, she won’t worry too much over how u look. Loyalty, faithfulness, honesty, responsible attitude, these things will beautify u.
  
• Haircut is like a multiplier. If a great haircut makes you x times more attractive, if you’re a base 5/10, a great haircut makes you a 5x/10.
  
  Of course if you’re 0/10, the best hair in the world still means you’re 0x/10. Also max score is still 10, so if you’re base 9/10, a great haircut won’t add much to your attractiveness.
  
• Yes, but a good hairstyle has to match your overall style (may not be suitable for a Korean perm) and doesn’t necessarily have to cost hundreds of dollars.

I have recently changed jobs (currently here for 5 months) doing a job scope similar to what I did in my previous job (which i did for 5 years).

The difference between current job and previous one is that over here, things are really super manual. I spend most of my time doing things the manual way instead of what I’m supposed to be doing.

I have tried proposing changes but management here is stuck in their old ways (it’s the “if its not broken, don’t fix it” mindset) .. to the point that I have to work OT just to complete my work.

I’m not learning anything new however my boss, colleagues, culture are all good (or perhaps I’m still naive as I’m new to the company)

People who have been through this dilemma, how can I make this job work for me? or should I call it quits? thanks!

Here are what netizens think

• I think you’ll just have to come to a conclusion is it a net positive or negative. like objectively list down the pros and cons instead of acting on your feelings eg. after a tough day and on impulse feel like quitting
  
  Money, work-life balance, and company culture/environment this 3 factors usually if 2 are fulfilled it is good enough. rare but not impossible to find a job that fulfills the 3.
  
• For me, I love my colleagues. I quite like the job. The systems very manual too but I’m in a position to and has pushed through many small incremental improvements
  
  But I kinda plucked the low hanging fruits already and the pay is also not great
  
  I mean the pay is great for me relative to my colleagues but the organisation doesn’t pay well in general and I can fetch much more outside so I’m looking to move
  
  As for you, you can see what incremental improvements you can do within your power and start doing them. Don’t need to ask for permission.
  
  Maybe start by doing both the manual way and a digital way and submit both and ask if you can do the digital way moving forward

Background: My (23M) parents are divorced for 4 years now and my siblings and I stay with my father while my mother moved out and stayed in her own flat.

After divorce mother keep asking my siblings and I for money but never take an interest in our lives

Mother (50F) is working FT and earns around $2k (she only has diploma) and lives paycheck to paycheck.

Ever since the divorce, I had been strongly independent and didn’t ask for any help from my mother, and stopped talking allowance from my father once I graduated poly (2021).

Throughout the years, my mother had been asking me for money to lend her as she is ‘tight’ and would return the said sum the next month or so.

Recently, I’ve been reflecting and felt that our relationship was pretty much transactional, whereby she would just text me to request if she could borrow money from me and barely showing any interest in what I am up to in my life.

Two months ago, she borrowed $400 from my sibling (17M) and only paid back $200. And today, she asked if I could borrow her $250 first.

The amount that she has been asking have been steadily increasing, from $20 to $50 to even $400 now.

I am worried that she is a chronic borrower and depending on us for her retirement as I doubt she has any savings for retirement at all.

I am finishing NS and starting Uni next year. I have to pay back my Uni loans (around 40k) as well as plan for BTO in the next 5 years w my partner.

AITA if I choose not to lend my hard earned money to my mother?

Here are what netizens think

• It’s still your money. You can and are free to assist her if you can, but if do not put yourself in a bad situation if you cannot afford to do so.
  
• I won’t lend la. I would give allowance. Probably a small sum like $100 given your current income level. At least I know how much I need to give per month. And I can flat out say no to a loan
  
• Child of divorce here!
  
  I treat people how they treat me, regardless of whether we’re blood related or not. Before the divorce, how did she treat you? Was it good, or just average like fulfilling the basic responsibilities of being a parent?
  
  I’m happy to give allowance to my parents because they have been good parents, even care for them when they’re much older.
  
  If you think she was a good mother to you, maybe give a little bit of allowance to “thank her”. Set a boundary for how much you’re willing to give (like $100), don’t just let her increase every time. HOWEVER you’re still not financially stable, you have your own responsibilities (I.e. debt) and you should not stretch yourself thin to meet her request. Filial piety happens only if
  
  1. you are capable
  2. if you want to. It is not an obligation and you have the choice.
  
  Also with regards to this transactional relationship, I felt like that with my dad as well, except it was the other way around. I hope you don’t blame yourself or feel guilty like I did that you’re not making more effort to improve the relationship. If your mother wants a closer relationship with you she will strive to do so, not how she’s acting now.

It all started with a seemingly innocent plan to go home from Boat Quay. I had been out with friends for dinner and decided that the best way to get back home was to take a Grab ride. Little did I know that I was about to be hit with a huge surprise – a whopping $85 ride fare.

To Yishun

I was so taken aback by the price, I thought I might have entered the wrong address. But no, I had entered the correct address and this was the fare that Grab was offering.

At first, I thought I was just being ripped off. I mean, I live in Yishun and that’s not too far away from Boat Quay. How could the fare be so expensive?

But then I started to think about it a bit more and realised that this wasn’t just a one-off incident. This had been happening to me more and more recently.

The fares from Boat Quay to my house in Yishun had been getting increasingly expensive. I was starting to get frustrated and felt that Grab was taking advantage of me.

So I decided to do some research and try to understand why the fares were so high. What I found was that Grab, like many other ride-hailing services, uses dynamic pricing. This means that the fares can vary based on factors such as demand and supply. In other words, when there are more people wanting to book rides, the fares go up.

But!!!

It used to be much cheaper like maybe $28 to $35.

In light of this, I decided to try and look for other ways to get home. I looked into public transport options and discovered that taking the MRT was much more affordable. It would take longer, but it was definitely more budget-friendly.

At the end of the day, what I learnt from this experience is that we should always be aware of the fares that Grab is charging. We should also be aware of other options that may be more affordable. Yes, Grab is convenient, but it is not always the most economical choice.

In conclusion, I think it is safe to say that Grab ride prices are indeed crazy. I was shocked to find out that it cost me $85 to go home from Boat Quay to Yishun.

I thought Yishun people is crazy, no la, Grab fare more crazy.

It’s been just over a year since I decided to start selling my own sweat from my armpits.

I never thought it would become such a successful venture and that I’d be able to make an extra $2,000 a month in side income as a result. But here I am, a year later, and I’m making more money than I ever thought possible.

I first heard about the idea of selling sweat from my armpits from a friend.

I was skeptical at first, but I figured it was worth a shot. After all, if it worked, it could be a great way to make some extra money. So, I decided to give it a go.

After posting some revealing photos of me on social media my followers increased like crazy

I started by setting up a website and creating an account on a popular online marketplace. I listed my product and waited for the orders to come in. I was pleasantly surprised when I started to get orders almost immediately. I was even more surprised when I started to get repeat orders from customers.

I was making a decent amount of money, but I wanted to increase my profits. So, I decided to start packaging my sweat in individual jars and selling them. I knew that this would make my product look more professional and would likely increase the price I could charge. I was right, and soon I was making more money than I ever thought possible.

I also started to explore different ways to market my product. I realized that there were a lot of people out there who were interested in buying sweat from armpits, so I started to build a social media presence to reach those potential customers. I started to get orders from all over the world, which really increased my profits.

My side income has grown over the past year and I now make $2,000 a month. It’s been a wild ride, but I’m so glad I decided to take a chance on selling my sweat.

It has been a great way to make some extra money and I’m excited to see where this venture takes me next.

I never expected to hear something like this when my maid announced that she was heartbroken and needed her Bangladeshi boyfriend, or she couldn’t work. I was a bit dulan and couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

It had been one year since I hired her to help me around the house and I had grown quite fond of her.

It was hard to believe that she had been keeping a secret from me this entire time. I was curious to know more about her story and why she was so desperate to get her boyfriend back.

I sat her down and asked her to explain everything that had happened. She told me that she had been with her boyfriend since she came Singapore, but he had to go back to Bangladesh to his family.

She was heartbroken and missed him greatly. She had been doing her best to try to get him back, but it seemed like a hopeless cause.

He took her money

She said that she had been feeling so lost and alone without her boyfriend and he had took $3,000+ from her.

She said that she was struggling to concentrate on her work and was having a hard time getting out of bed each day. All she wanted was to be reunited with her boyfriend, but it seemed impossible. She had tried every avenue to get him back, but nothing was working.

I could tell that she was genuinely heartbroken and I couldn’t help but feel sorry for her. I wanted to help her in any way I could.

But there was literally nothing that I can do, her boyfriend obviously cheated her for the money and went back to his hometown.

I’m thinking to fire her and send her back to the agency but she look quite jialat now.

How long should I wait before I fire her? I don’t want to look so bad and do it immediately…

 My manager is a joke. He has a zoology degree, yet manages the IT department at our company. I don’t understand how he is qualified to do this job, and it turns out the CEO is his friend. It feels like an abuse of power.

I have worked at our company for a few years now, and I have been in the IT department for almost all of that time. We have always had a manager for this department, but this new person has me scratching my head. H

He has a zoology degree!

At first, I thought it was strange, but I didn’t think much of it. After all, I’m sure there are many transferable skills from zoology to IT “right?!”. But then I started to get suspicious when the CEO and the new manager started to spend a lot of time together.

I asked around and it turns out that they were friends from uni. This made me think that the new manager was given the job not because of his qualifications, but because of his friendship with the CEO. This felt like an abuse of power to me, and it didn’t sit right.

I’m sure the new manager is a nice guy, and I’m sure he tries his best in the IT department. But I can’t help but feel like he was given the job out of favoritism and not because he was the most qualified.

It makes me think, what if this was the case for other people in the company? What if other people were given jobs and promotions based on favouritism and not because of their qualifications? This would not only be unfair, it would also be a waste of the company’s resources.

I understand that having friends in the company can be beneficial, and having a good relationship with the CEO can be beneficial too. But it shouldn’t be used as a way to get ahead. It should be used to help the company succeed, not to get someone a job that they are not qualified for.

I’m sure this kind of things happen out there right?