I miss the days of my youth, where I could drink nonstop and get drunk without any worry of the repercussions that come with it the next day.

I can’t help but miss the days when I could drink without consequence, because now, I’m not so lucky.

Now drink a bit only hangover, whole body weak

I was almost 30 when I realized that my quick recovery period were gone for good. It was a Saturday night and I had gone out with a few of my friends. We had had a great time and I had drank quite a bit.

The next morning, I woke up with a pounding headache and a sick feeling in my stomach. It was then that I realized that my days of having no hangover were over.

It wasn’t until then that I realized how much I had taken my hangover-free drinking age for granted. I had been able to drink for days without any worry about how I would feel the next day.

I had been able to drink without any of the after-effects that come with drinking. But now, my body just can’t handle it.

I miss the confidence and the feeling of invincibility that comes with being young and able to drink without consequence.

When you’re young, you can drink without worrying about your health or your job the next day. You can drink without any worry about the people around you or how you might act when you’re drunk.

I know that I can’t go back to those days and I know that I’ll never be able to drink nonstop and get drunk without any hangover again. But I still can’t help but long for those days of youth when I could do just that.

It’s funny how something so simple can be so important to us. We often don’t realize how much something means to us until it’s gone.

That’s why I think it’s important to cherish the moments when you’re young and able to do things without worry.

I’ll always look back fondly to those days. Those days were some of the best of my life and I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

Even though I miss my carefree days of nonstop drinking, I’m thankful for the lessons I’ve learned since then and for the wisdom that comes with age.

My PRC friend who has been working here for almost a decade recently rented a condo without his girlfriend’s knowledge.

Has been staying with his girlfriend all along

He has been staying with his girlfriend at their shared rental apartment and is still staying there now officially with his girlfriend.

As his girlfriend is always in the way, he could not possibly bring his flings back to the rental apartment and therefore he decided one day to rent a condo room behind his girlfriend’s back.

He says it’s his “s- dungeon” and he brings his flings there for a one night stand.

I’ve known my PRC friend for a long time and I’ve been aware of his romantic life. At first, I thought he was just a serial dater, but then I found out he was using the condo he rented for his one night stands.

He told me he rented it with his own money so his girlfriend wouldn’t find out about it. He said it was his “s- dungeon” and it was the perfect place for him to explore his wild side without anyone knowing.

I was a bit taken aback by this revelation, but I didn’t judge him for it. After all, he’s an adult and he has the right to do whatever he wants with his own money. I just advised him to be extra careful and make sure he doesn’t get caught.

Says that he has many wild experiences there

At first, I thought his “s- dungeon” was just a passing phase, but it’s been going on for months now. He’s always bringing his flings to the condo for a one night stand.

He claims that it’s the perfect place because it’s private and it’s away from prying eyes. He also says that it’s a great way to explore his wild side without putting his relationship at risk.

I’ve tried to talk to him about it and I’ve asked him to stop, but he insists that it’s just a harmless way for him to have fun.

I understand that, but I’m worried about what will happen if his girlfriend finds out about the condo. It’s a huge risk and I don’t want to see him or his relationship get hurt because of it.

My PRC friend is a grown man and he has the right to do whatever he wants with his own money, but I can’t help but worry about the risks he’s taking.

I’ve tried to talk to him about it, but he insists that it’s just a harmless way for him to have fun. I just hope he’s being careful and that he won’t get caught.

I’ve always been a bit of a party animal, and I love to hang out with my friends and have a good time. One of my closest friends is always trying to show off his drinking abilities and he loves to brag about how much he can drink.

Always hao lian, say three Martell he drink himself also no problem

He always boasts that he can finish three bottles of Martell by himself, and I never believed him.

I had seen him drink a lot of alcohol before, but I never thought he could do something like that. I told him to prove it, and he accepted the challenge.

We went to the store and bought three bottles of Martell and then we went to my friend’s house to drink.

At first, he was doing really well. He was drinking the Martell like it was water and I was impressed. He finished one bottle and started on the second, and then the third. I was really excited for him and was cheering him on.

Started to Merlion non stop all over the floor

But then something happened. After he finished the third bottle, he started to feel a bit ill. His stomach started to hurt and he started to vomit non stop.

It looked like he had transformed into a Merlion out of a sudden, as he kept vomiting and vomiting and soon enough the floor was all filled with his breakfast lunch and dinner.

My friend was so embarrassed that he never talks about his drinking anymore. He still goes out with us and drinks, but he never drinks as much as he used to.

He has learned his lesson the hard way and now he knows the consequences of drinking too much.

I have learned my lesson too. I don’t encourage my friends to drink as much as they used to, because I know it can have serious consequences.

I was always the one in my group of friends who bragged about knowing all of the rich and successful people.

I was very proud that I knew all these people and thought that I could get something out of it

I never failed to bring up that I had connections to the popular and elite, and I was proud of the fact that I seemed to be the only one in my group that had those kinds of contacts.

I was always the one at the center of attention, and I was always the one that everyone looked to for advice.

But, in reality, none of the rich and successful people knew me. I had talked to them, sure, but it was never more than a passing hello

I had never been invited to any of their events, and I had never been given any kind of preferential treatment because of my connections.

I had spent so much time trying to get close to them, only to be completely ignored.

I was embarrassed. I had been so proud of my connections, and now I felt like a fool for thinking that I had made any real inroads with any of them.

I felt like I had been lying to my friends, and I was ashamed of myself for trying to be something that I wasn’t.

The worst part was that I had also been lying to myself. I had convinced myself that I was successful and that I had made it.

I had put so much effort into trying to get close to these people, only to realize that I had been fooling myself all along.

It was a hard pill to swallow, and I felt like a fool for ever believing that I had any real connections with the rich and successful people.

I had been dating my boyfriend for a few years now and I was so ready to take the next step in our relationship. I wanted him to propose to me in the most romantic way possible, and I had come up with the perfect idea.

I always want my proposal to be atas and memorable

I wanted my boyfriend to take me to Europe and propose to me there. It had always been a dream of mine to go to Europe and experience the culture, the food, and the sights.

So I thought it would be the perfect place to get engaged. I wanted it to be something special and memorable, so I was determined to make it happen.

I was well aware that my boyfriend wasn’t the most romantic person in the world, so I knew that I would have to be the one to make this happen.

I had done my research and found out about the perfect destination for us. I had calculated the budget and worked out the most cost effective way to get us there.

I had even planned out a route that we could take and what places we could visit. I had been hinting to my boyfriend about my plan for weeks and I could tell he was getting the idea.

Unfortunately, he still wasn’t on board and I was getting frustrated. I wanted him to take the initiative and make this happen, but he seemed to be avoiding the subject. I had to take matters into my own hands.

I decided that I would tell him that I wouldn’t agree to marry him unless he took me to Europe and proposed there. I knew it sounded a bit extreme, but I was determined to make this happen.

I wanted my proposal to be something special and I was willing to do whatever it took to make it happen.

I tell him about my friends getting proposed to at those places with beautiful sceneries in Europe, and mentioned that how I wished I was as lucky as them.

He just nodded in agreement and did not say a word. Hopefully he gets my hint lol.

Is it fair to get higher pay solely just because of age?
Question
Real life context: a friend of mine who is considered a fresh Poly grad joined as an intern with Company A. However, my friend has 5-month of relevant internship experience with another company before joining Company A. After his internship with Company A, they decided to convert him as a full-timer.

Another intern, let’s call him Person A also joined Company A, same internship period as my friend but different department from my friend. After completing his internship, the company also decided to convert him as a full-timer but he requested to work in the same department as my friend.

So they offered Person A higher pay compared to my friend just because he is older by around 10 years with no relevant experience in the job.

Do you guys think that this is fair?

Netizens’ comments

1. Too little information to judge. Maybe there’s something he brings to the table that he mentioned to the management only, or he is a super good talker that managed to negotiate a higher pay. Alot of things that could have happened.
2. Well.. if the person has nv worked b4, it could be unfair. But this person has working experience, maybe different field. So this person would have maturity and know how to handle issues etc better than a fresh graduate. Who u have to teach everything. Frankly Soft skills are harder to gain
3. First, you mentioned that Person A doesn’t have the relevant experience, but older workers often have a wealth of knowledge and experience in other important areas that younger workers simply do not possess.
   While younger workers may be more technically savvy or have a fresher perspective, they may lack the depth of experience and the ability to navigate complex business situations that come with age.
   As a result, companies may be willing to pay a premium to bring on an experienced worker who can hit the ground running and help the company achieve its goals.
   Second, older workers may be more likely to stay with a company for the long term. This is because they have likely already reached their peak earning potential and may be less likely to be tempted away by higher salaries offered by other companies.
   Additionally, older workers may be more invested in the success of the company as they approach retirement age and are looking to establish a stable financial foundation for their later years.

My 19 F boyfriend 21M keeps calling my mom when we argue

I need some opinions on this. My boyfriend and I have been dating for some time over a year. Every time my boyfriend and I have a falling out he calls my mom and try to get her on his side or in his words “ tell her what happened “ .

Yesterday during the middle of an argument he called and told her to pick me up. My mom thought she gave him the message to stop calling her unless its an emergency the last time he kept calling her, but he still does it.

I think it’s strange. I dont know what has made him so comfortable to do this.

Netizens’ comments

1. If she’s told him to stop, and he’s not listening, it is time to break up with him. From your perspective, he should be able to resolve issues with you; he’s not in a relationship with your mom, after all.
2. Yeah, that is VERY strange. What is he, your dad? Is he going to get together with her and make parenting decisions? Super weird, super out of line, very very sketchy.
3. This isn’t a man. This is a little boy. You’re both still very immature. End it and focus on yourself. You’ll both get the life experience you need apart.
4. This is what sociopaths do to turn people you love against you and to build evidence that you’re a problem. Then he will give you a fake apology and say something like ” what was I supposed to do? You left me no choice!” Trauma bonding bs please leave this person. I wish I left when I was 19! It will only get worse.
5. Honestly not even sure how to answer this besides you need a new boyfriend lol. If my fiance or I called the others parent during an argument, either set of parents would be flabbergasted.
   It kind of seems like he is trying to use your mom against you? But even if he isn’t in his head, this is very odd behavior, almost like he considers you to be a child and going to your parent is how he will get you to behave?
6. This is extremely strange behavior. Hell, it would be strange behavior even if your mom were encouraging it. The fact that she’s uncomfortable with it too yet he refuses to stop is a pretty big red flag; he’s repeatedly doing something that you and your mother both want him to stop doing, and he’s ignoring your requests.
   As to WHY he’s doing it, that’s harder to answer but luckily it doesn’t really make a difference. Regardless of his motivations it’s still inappropriate and unwanted behavior that he seems unwilling to stop, and so no matter what the “why” is it’s still a problem.
   If I had to guess I’d say that he’s infantilizing you a bit, acting like you’re too young to make proper decisions (i.e. agreeing with him on everything) and so he calls your parents to have someone in a position of presumed authority over you put you in your place. If that sounds wildly offensive, that’s because it is.

Boyfriend won’t come inside me even with condom

So basically the title. I’m on birth control which he literally sees me take daily since we live together. We also use condom just to be super safe. But no matter what, he will not finish inside me.

He will pull out with the condom on EVERY TIME. I have tried talking to him about this and he has no reason not to trust me (he’s my first and only).

Is there anything I can do to reassure him? I just for once would like him to finish inside me (w/ condom on!)?

Netizens’ comments

• When you use birth control + another form of protection, you have a high enough chance of avoiding pregnancy that most people are willing to take that miniscule risk. But it’s NOT zero chance. Granted, the only way to avoid pregnancy is abstinence, but if your man is an expert at pulling out, I would say the chances go down a little more. If either of you are opposed to abortion for non-medical reasons and you aren’t ready for a child, what he’s doing is very wise.

On the other hand, my then bf (now hubby) was always begging me to let me finish inside while I was on BC, and even now that I’m not LOL (he doesn’t force it when I say no, so please don’t reply dissing him). I’m no longer on BC and although I’m married and know hubby will 100% take responsibility if I get pregnant, I still make him use condoms because I don’t want to take that chance, however minuscule.

• I had a recent pregnancy scare with a girl who was on bc and it messed me up mentally. Neither of us would want to have a child with one another at this time. After that event, i started pulling out with the condom on.

I see your pov, i mentioned this to some of my female friends and got absolutely roasted. Don’t think of it as distrust. Like myself, maybe your partner knows he’s not capable of even having a scare right now. It’s a draining experience.

Maybe when he’s getting close, you can take the condom off and use your hands or mouth if you want to feel the satisfaction of making him come.

• If this is about not getting you pregnant then the dude is probably ignorant about the relative risk of what he’s doing. Over a year, birth control pills are 99% effective, condoms are 98% effective, so just those two methods combined are already at 99.98% effectiveness (i.e. if 10000 couples who were on the pill and used condoms all had intercoure for a year, 2 of those couples would get pregnant).

If a 2 in 10000 chance of you getting pregnant is more risk than he can handle, well, that’s his choice. Have you discussed what would happen if you did accidentally get pregnant? That’s a really important thing to know. Honestly if I was sleeping with someone who said they could never get an abortion I would probably just stop sleeping with them… but I also might consider pulling out when I came!

• I can see in a comment you haven’t discussed with him what you’d do in the 10000 to 1 odds you got pregnant, but that is a very real and rational concern.

Understand it’s not a lack of trust, it’s that if you do get pregnant he no longer has a say. It’s your body and your decision what to do with it. But if you decide to go through with a pregnancy (whether that be because after reflection you want a child, that you feel too nervous to go through with an abortion, familial pressure, or any other reason) then he IS responsible for that child. Financially for the next 18 years of it’s life at least if not more but if he takes on the responsibility of being a father and staying with you then his life is forever changed.

It’s no longer about him, it’s about that child. He needs to suddenly learn how to be a parent really quick. Plan for education, lots of sleepless nights, working extra hard for the expenses of raising a whole child, next to no time with friends, suddenly planning a lot of schedules and meetings with professionals, and that’s all the basic stuff. And any dreams or goals he had for himself are now either on hold or gone, if he’s especially young well there goes his youth. No parties, very little if any time off, less chances for intimacy with you of any kind (children demand a LOT of attention), and I’m not sure how long you two have been together so if this is still a fairly new relationship and incompatibilities in lifestyle show up down the line he just has to deal.

If you get pregnant he loses all agency in a decision that could majorly change the course of his life. He doesn’t get a say in what you do with your body. He can discuss what would happen with you but at the end of the day regardless of what you tell him or what you agree on…if in that moment you change your mind he’s now a father. And if he genuinely cares for that child it’s not just for 18 years it’s for life. It’s a big decision and it only takes one occurrence. Given that, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to be a bit extra careful for the sake of a moment’s pleasure.

Why won’t some people suppress their body odour?

I’ve noticed this among all races and all social classes here. I don’t understand why some people can afford to wear $100+ outfits but can’t afford $1 shower and $5 deodorant?

Are they even aware they have body odour? It’s puzzling.

Netizens’ comments

• When you’re used to a certain smell, you no longer smell it. So people who have BO typically arent able to realise and people dont tell them. The same way you cant smell the scent in your house because its so normal to you but when you step into someone else’s house, you tend to be able to smell a difference

• I can’t even count the number of time when I’m on the train and suddenly something smells, look around and saw someone raising their arms.

Or when the person beside suddenly yawn and their morning breath just slaps you in your face.

Something worse than body odour is the strong cigarette smell some people has.

• This is a tricky question. Not a simple black and white. Most people are able to remove BO by simply showering or using deodorant.

But there are also other possible causes of BO that a shower and deodorant wouldn’t solve.

– Some people can basically shower in the morning, sweat during commute, and emit BO with deodorant, all within 1 hour.

– Sometimes, it could be their clothes, which despite after wash, still emitting a certain odor immediately after getting sweated on. It usually happens if the clothes are not dried properly

– Some people simply emit BO because of their diet.

But I believe most the more typical cases could be solved with a simple shower or applying deodorant/perfume.

This case of BO is like telling someone with acne to keep their face clean by simply washing their face everyday (which does not solve most acne problems)

• Some people are prone to olfactory fatigue which is when the nose is constantly exposed to a smell and then the sensors just stop trying to identify that particular smell so maybe they just don’t smell their body odour anymore?
  But that being said sometimes it’s also hard to suppress body odour and people aren’t very knowledgeable about how to do it. Like some would compensate by spraying lots of perfume/cologne and the mixture with sweat makes it worse.
  I highly recommend Febreze to eliminate the stench in the air but too bad we can’t spray it in public places hahaha

how would you want to be treated?

Hi! I’m currently working as a retail part-timer and I realized that retail workers are a lot like apex predators.

Whenever a customer comes in, we will slowly and discreetly walk towards them, hover around and wait for the perfect chance to strike (ask them if they need help)

The more I think about it, I feel that if I were the customer, I’d be quite disturbed if there was a staff who kept eyeing and hovering around me.

This is why as a retail worker, I tend to just stand at one spot and wait for customers to approach me themselves.

Personally, I also like to try to understand the customers’ body language first and see if they look lost/confused.

However, my other coworkers who are more experienced tend to just follow them around and ask them whether they need help. This makes me feel like I’m quite useless

This got me thinking, how do you guys want to be treated? How do I improve myself to provide better service for customers? Everyone is different and there’s no way I can cater to all their personalities

Netizens’ comments

1. Just approach once. If I need help, it’s great that they came up to me instead of me having to approach them. If I don’t need help, I’ll just politely tell them I’m looking around, and then they can leave me alone and go and serve other customers or do other store tasks.
2. 9/10 kindly leave me alone. I just want to browse without eyes on my back. I understand you’re trying to help in the name of customer service. if I need assistance, I will ask. otherwise, leave me the f alone.
3. Yeah I’ll probably prefer to be left alone, 100%. But to all customers, please do your part as well and don’t go around making a huge f-ing mess. I think people will be more likely to leave you alone if you’re not one of those itchy fingers.
   Rant-y part:
   Touch this touch that, open and look at stuff you’re not even interested in, pick something up on shelf A and place it back on shelf B, squeeze your nasty ass feet into the shoes on display, pull all the stuffing out of a display bag then just leave it there…
   So if you happen to be one of those people, I’m sure the staff will have their eye on you. Not because they want to push a sale, but because they just know there’ll be a mess to clean up after you leave and they want to know WHERE that mess is.
   Arranging stuff back into place is part of the job, i know, I KNOW. But some people just make it 10000 times harder lol. Giving you extra stuff to tidy up after. Will I lose sleep trying to ensure they have a memorable shopping experience? Probably not. And don’t even give me any of that “but I’m the customer, don’t you want business??” nonsense. If you don’t buy this thing, someone else will. Don’t think that people have to bend over backwards just to keep your business.