Why won’t some people suppress their body odour?

I’ve noticed this among all races and all social classes here. I don’t understand why some people can afford to wear $100+ outfits but can’t afford $1 shower and $5 deodorant?

Are they even aware they have body odour? It’s puzzling.

Netizens’ comments

• When you’re used to a certain smell, you no longer smell it. So people who have BO typically arent able to realise and people dont tell them. The same way you cant smell the scent in your house because its so normal to you but when you step into someone else’s house, you tend to be able to smell a difference

• I can’t even count the number of time when I’m on the train and suddenly something smells, look around and saw someone raising their arms.

Or when the person beside suddenly yawn and their morning breath just slaps you in your face.

Something worse than body odour is the strong cigarette smell some people has.

• This is a tricky question. Not a simple black and white. Most people are able to remove BO by simply showering or using deodorant.

But there are also other possible causes of BO that a shower and deodorant wouldn’t solve.

– Some people can basically shower in the morning, sweat during commute, and emit BO with deodorant, all within 1 hour.

– Sometimes, it could be their clothes, which despite after wash, still emitting a certain odor immediately after getting sweated on. It usually happens if the clothes are not dried properly

– Some people simply emit BO because of their diet.

But I believe most the more typical cases could be solved with a simple shower or applying deodorant/perfume.

This case of BO is like telling someone with acne to keep their face clean by simply washing their face everyday (which does not solve most acne problems)

• Some people are prone to olfactory fatigue which is when the nose is constantly exposed to a smell and then the sensors just stop trying to identify that particular smell so maybe they just don’t smell their body odour anymore?
  But that being said sometimes it’s also hard to suppress body odour and people aren’t very knowledgeable about how to do it. Like some would compensate by spraying lots of perfume/cologne and the mixture with sweat makes it worse.
  I highly recommend Febreze to eliminate the stench in the air but too bad we can’t spray it in public places hahaha

how would you want to be treated?

Hi! I’m currently working as a retail part-timer and I realized that retail workers are a lot like apex predators.

Whenever a customer comes in, we will slowly and discreetly walk towards them, hover around and wait for the perfect chance to strike (ask them if they need help)

The more I think about it, I feel that if I were the customer, I’d be quite disturbed if there was a staff who kept eyeing and hovering around me.

This is why as a retail worker, I tend to just stand at one spot and wait for customers to approach me themselves.

Personally, I also like to try to understand the customers’ body language first and see if they look lost/confused.

However, my other coworkers who are more experienced tend to just follow them around and ask them whether they need help. This makes me feel like I’m quite useless

This got me thinking, how do you guys want to be treated? How do I improve myself to provide better service for customers? Everyone is different and there’s no way I can cater to all their personalities

Netizens’ comments

1. Just approach once. If I need help, it’s great that they came up to me instead of me having to approach them. If I don’t need help, I’ll just politely tell them I’m looking around, and then they can leave me alone and go and serve other customers or do other store tasks.
2. 9/10 kindly leave me alone. I just want to browse without eyes on my back. I understand you’re trying to help in the name of customer service. if I need assistance, I will ask. otherwise, leave me the f alone.
3. Yeah I’ll probably prefer to be left alone, 100%. But to all customers, please do your part as well and don’t go around making a huge f-ing mess. I think people will be more likely to leave you alone if you’re not one of those itchy fingers.
   Rant-y part:
   Touch this touch that, open and look at stuff you’re not even interested in, pick something up on shelf A and place it back on shelf B, squeeze your nasty ass feet into the shoes on display, pull all the stuffing out of a display bag then just leave it there…
   So if you happen to be one of those people, I’m sure the staff will have their eye on you. Not because they want to push a sale, but because they just know there’ll be a mess to clean up after you leave and they want to know WHERE that mess is.
   Arranging stuff back into place is part of the job, i know, I KNOW. But some people just make it 10000 times harder lol. Giving you extra stuff to tidy up after. Will I lose sleep trying to ensure they have a memorable shopping experience? Probably not. And don’t even give me any of that “but I’m the customer, don’t you want business??” nonsense. If you don’t buy this thing, someone else will. Don’t think that people have to bend over backwards just to keep your business.

I am going to be alone forever

I 28, F have completely given up on finding love. I used to fantasize about it. About having a wonderful husband or wife. Having probably three children.

Growing up I always played mom. I had baby dolls, I had all the “accessories”, aka the necessary things you’d need to care for a baby. I was always holding babies, like cousins for example.

Needless to say I’ve always wanted to be a mom. Relationships weren’t (still aren’t obviously) something I had a lot of. I was not dating in middle school. I had two boyfriends in school. I wasn’t hit on, never got asked to dances or dates.

Was there someone who was very special to me? Yes. But we didn’t meet in person for 4 years. A very long story short, he and I broke up. (This was when I was 21. 2016) then in 2018 he passed away. I still love him more than anything.

I had flings, I had short “relationships” if you could call it that. But they all ended poorly. Never anything I did either. Fast forward to 2022, I was flipping through the dating apps as one does. I found someone, we had a first date planned that never happened. He decided he wasn’t ready. We’ve still never met to this day.

But I carried on. The last straw was when I was lied to about this guy having a child. He said at first “I’m open to kids but they aren’t a must” and next thing I know he disappears for a night. Come to find out he was in the hospital with his 4 month old. Excuse me what? I’m not proud of it but I did ghost him.

I have since deleted all my apps. I have zero desire to date. I’ve been working hard on my mental health for a year & starting on my physical health this year. I’ve discovered I’m okay with being alone but I don’t think I grasped how lonely it can be.

Some nights, like tonight, it hits me that it’s just not going to happen for me. Im so tired of being told it will. This sounds like a typical whiny rant but to those who actually understand the feeling.. I’m sorry.

I still hope I’m proven wrong someday. But for now I’m looking at a future by myself

Is 9.5h workday normal in Singapore?

Little background here, Indonesian studied and worked in States moving to Singapore to work in banking.

HR told me work hours are 9-6.30 and fully in office every day with 1 hour break. That sounds really long to me coming from US work culture.

How do people cope with such long working hours without burning out?

Netizens’ comments

• It’s so-so, still within normal range. Most companies are in the 40-44hr/week range It’s counted as 8.5hrs btw, as lunch hour not included.
  Anyway, official hours are one thing, unofficial hours another thing. I’d be more interested in their unofficial hours.
• Yes, normal office working hours:

8am to 5.30pm/6pm
8.30am to 5.30pm/6pm

or for your case its 9am-6.30pm

Please be prepared before coming here lol, Asian work culture is the opposite of what you’ll experience in US.

• I used to work part time for a company in an ulu area, so almost all the time we will bring food in or eat the company ordered lunches in the pantry, so you could always find us there during breaks.

Once we converted 2 long tables to play table tennis. Just 1h5min into our break our manager stormed in the pantry, wanted to scold us and bring us back, then she spotted the general manager playing with us. He just told her to extend our break by half an hour, the look on her face was priceless.

• Previous job was 8.30am – 6pm and current job is 9am – 6pm officially. In both companies (couple of hundred headcount), the aircon turns off at 7pm.

Unofficially people come in late and leave early. I come in at 9.30am and leave at 5.30pm for my previous and current role. Even if I have to OT, I leave work at 5.30pm, have my dinner, bathe, relax and game awhile, before OT-ing a little bit.

I’m a developer.

But I have heard of people working in Japanese banks here coming in late and leaving early.

• I’m in the commercial design industry. Notorious for long hours, low pay and almost no progression.

Normal working hours for me are on average 930am-1030pm, on most Fridays I get to go back by 730pm, Mondays-Wednesdays I usually end at 1030-1130pm, and if there are deadlines to meet, I go back at 2-3am.

• Like some have mentioned, it’s the unofficial hours that matters more. For example, what’s the company culture like? Are you expected to do OT? Do the boss/management expect you to be at your desk and already working on something at 9am (means you’d have to arrive earlier than 9am), to do at least an hour of OT, bother you for nonsensical things past work hours and expects a reply?

My previous toxic workplace that I quit in 6 months was like that. If you leave work at 6pm (agreed hours in contract is 9-6), the boss will claim that the team/employees do not have enough work to do (will sarcastically comment “Wah, y’all got no work to do ah, so free!”) The bosses spams work related messages in group chats after work hours, calls employees over the weekends and expect a response.

My current workplace is way better — they don’t micromanage and are quite flexible on the arrival time and lunch hours. As long as your work is done on time and you don’t take advantage of their flexibility (like taking 3 hour lunch breaks and arriving in office at 11am or something), all is good.

• These hours are only possible because Singaporean workdays are really inefficient. 1.5-hour, even 2-hour lunches. Tea breaks in late morning and afternoon. Lots of standing around not doing work.

In contrast, when I worked in the US, no tradition of tea breaks. When I worked with a German dude, his timing was 9-5, a very efficient 1-hour break, with the rest of the time spent on work.

My boyfriend says my vajayjay is too tight

I’m conflicted because I guess I always thought this was a good thing, but my boyfriend clearly doesn’t think so.

For example the other night we were f-ing and he actually stopped and had me just suck him off to finish because he said my lady parts were “gorilla gripping” (????) him and it was hurting him.

This happens a lot and it makes me feel like I’m not good enough or something. We have been together for years and this has never been something I’ve been able to resolve.

I just have to deal with it ending abruptly because of something I can’t control, and he gets to finish while I can’t.

Netizens’s comments

1. Is it possible that friction is what is causing the issue for him? It may be painful if things are gliding enough. Do you use a lubricant / re-lube as needed?
2. Can we talk for a moment at the bullshit here where people are disparaging the bf or saying he doesn’t realize what she has? He’s clearly in pain, we don’t praise women for having partners with big Ds when it’s hurting them.
   As for you, the general advice is going to be to try to take more time with foreplay. This will help open you up and give you more natural lube. Dilators are an option if you think you’re clapping on him.
   It’s also possible he isn’t fully hard and it’s making him more aware, I know I can struggle with tightness more if I’m not completely hard. Lastly, try different positions, as some make for more tightness.
3. To all the comments disregarding the boyfriends complaints, it’s totally real that this could be hurting him.
   It’s happened before where a male friend I know thought he tore her during PIV because he saw blood mid coitus, but afterwards it was he that tore along the foreskin.
   Be careful and take what he’s saying seriously, as I’m sure you don’t want to cause any permanent damage. I wish I knew some possible solutions besides finding someone else, but just beware that it’s likely a real concern and painful for him at times.
4. The only time my wife’s ever too tight is when she sneezes while im inside. She’s literally sneezed me out of her a few times, even still though the tightness feels really nice.
5. We use coconut oil. It was my wife’s doctor who suggested it. Just don’t use condoms with oil-based lube.

I wish I had heeded my own advice. I was always warning others to stay away from doing business with friends, that friendships often turn sour when friends do business together and eventually you will lose money and the friend you partnered with.

Well, that’s exactly what happened to me.

Partnered a friend for business, end up friendship also gone

It all started a few years ago when a close friend of mine approached me about an idea for a business. He wanted to combine our resources and knowledge to create something that would benefit us both.

With no prior business experience, I was hesitant at first but my friend who had done a business before said that he could guide me.

I saw it as an opportunity to learn and grow. I was excited and decided to go ahead with the venture.

Little did I know that getting into business with a friend can be a recipe for disaster. We started off well, but soon enough, our differences in opinion began to create tension and divide us.

We were both ambitious and eager to make a success of our venture, but our differing approaches to how to do this started to cause arguments.

The disagreements soon turned into full-blown arguments and I soon realised it was time to back out. I decided to withdraw from the business and asked my friend to buy my share of the company.

He refused and demanded I pay him for his share of the company. In the end, I had to take out a loan to pay my friend for his share.

I had lost a lot of money and my friendship with my friend was over. We had been friends for years and to see it end because of a business venture was heartbreaking. I had learned the hard way and paid a heavy price.

It’s been a few years since then and I still look back and regret my decision to go into business with a friend.

It’s a lesson I will never forget, and I will continue to warn others to stay away from doing business with friends. It’s just not worth the risk.

As the son of a very superstitious mother, I had learned to take her beliefs seriously from a young age.

Growing up, my mother had always told me that certain actions could bring bad luck to our family, and so I was careful to abide by her rules because I did not want to be at the receiving end of her nagging.

She not happy that my wife anyhow hang her underwear around the house

When my mother moved in with us a few months after our wedding, she was horrified to see my wife’s underwear hanging all around the house.

She immediately began to express her disapproval, saying that it was bad luck and would bring us harm. She said that my wife’s superstition was putting us all in danger.

Though I tried to reason with her, my mother was determined to stay true to her superstitions. She argued that the bad luck had already begun to manifest itself in our lives, citing the fact that I had recently been laid off from my job.

I tried to explain that it had nothing to do with my wife hanging her underwear around, but my mother was not convinced.

For weeks, my mother continued to berate my wife. She even went so far as to take down all of my wife’s underwear and throw it away, saying that it would bring us luck.

I was embarrassed and angry, but I did not want to get into a fight with my mother. I tried to stay calm and explained to her that my wife’s actions were not hurting anyone.

However, my mother was adamant and refused to listen. She said that she would never accept my wife’s doings and that it would only bring us bad luck.

Moved out of my home because she scared she get bad luck

In the end, she left our home, still convinced that my wife’s actions were bad for us.

I was left feeling frustrated and helpless. My mother’s superstition had caused a rift between my wife and me, and I was unsure of what to do.

I wanted to make my mother understand that my wife’s actions was harmless, but I knew it would be an uphill battle.