this has happened to me multiple times where men will take me out on extensive dates, talk to me every day for weeks, simply as a ploy to get me to hook up with them.

Once they get what they want they stop taking me out on dates and only want to see me at night.

over and over again i think someone wants to get to know me but it’s never true. i don’t get why other women get married and date multiple people, while i’m constantly being manipulated and used for a hooker.

i’m so tired of men devaluing me to only a body. i’m not only pretty, but also intelligent, funny… i can actually hold a conversation.

but not one person has ever cared about that and i’m losing hope that anyone ever will. i try to be happy for my friends who easily obtain love but now im just hurt.

im so tired of being manipulated. im so tired of being insulted. just once i wanted someone to actually like me. i’m turning 26 and have never dated anyone. it hurts really badly.

i want more for myself but i cannot beg anymore to be treated well. i’m so tired of asking.

if you are someone who takes women out on 2-3 dates and pretends to care about them just to sleep with them, you suck. please just join tinder and stop trying to trick me

Netizens’ comments

1. Don’t take this the wrong way….but hold out for months. If they are genuine people worth your time they will wait. I’ve always dated people for a month at least before anything more than making out happens.
2. I’m sorry to hear that. I was thinking that maybe you should start a course, activity or hobby you consider best for you, or that you’ve been postponing for a long time. It’s like ‘finding your tribe’. It’s not the easiest way, but maybe you could find someone with similar tastes and who isn’t planning to go straight to bed
3. Finding a good match is not easy, It takes time and more when you have such facilities as Tinder to get laid nowadays. I really hope you get to know a good person who values you for who you are. Another thing could try is therapy, at least for some time. You could evaluate if you are sending some kind of mixed signals, I don’t know anymore lol

I (18M) have been dating my (18F) GF for 3 weeks now. During this time we have had two gym dates where we go to the gym and workout together, they are nice because it reduces the awkwardness by giving us stuff to do together.

The first date was fine but this happened during the second date at her place after the gym. The gym often gets busy and there is no room on the large green mat area for us to stretch after our workout which she enjoys to do, so we end up going to her place after the gym and stretch there.

We start off with simple stretches and progress from there, she will push me to do the ones that I don’t do very well. When she does this for stretches involving my legs it did increase blood flow to not just my legs but that whole area below mid section and I got a slight b0ner.

It didn’t really cross my mind as I kept moving around. Eventually she pushed me into a sort of straddle position on the floor and she said to bend forward a bit and hold it.

My legs were spread apart and this seemed to make my b0ner larger so I bent forward even more to try and hide it.

Last time she was wearing track pants, but we had changed this time and she was wearing tight leggings which only made it harder to stop having this reaction.

Now she is quite flexible and this stretch is easy for her as she bends all the way forward to the floor. I was sitting there as she slowly moves her legs out turning this into a full split and then stands up and does a right and left split before standing up again, getting some books in a pile and doing a split with her front leg on them and bending her back leg up and arching her back towards it.

She says “how are you doing there” I say fine and do a little smile. She says “awesome” rests her back leg and flexes her butt cheek as some sort of teasing affirmation. By this point I have a full raging hard on and I’m not sure if she can see so I don’t move so it’s not obvious.

She says “can you do this?, betcha I can” then does this next pose that I’m not really sure what it is but from what I could see with her facing me it involves her standing up and lifting one leg upwards and forwards until her foot was above her head.

I didn’t really understand how she did that or what she was doing at all, but she winks at me making my D pulse. She said it’s even easier on the floor, she starts lying on her belly and doesn’t really use her arm this time to move her leg before bringing the other one forward and spreads them.

Now I’m not sure if it was because I was tired from the gym or staying seated on the floor like this but my D pulsed against my pants a few times and started coming after she did this.

I wasn’t even sure I actually came at first but I felt my b0ner going away and the moistness there and I knew I had to go to the bathroom and change but she says she wants to do a handstand and backbend after this.

So I get up and she saw my half hard on and come spot and was kind of shocked as well but eventually she said “I guess you really like me” since she saw I was embarrassed.

After I changed I told her I had to go do an assignment and went back to my place. I’m really embarrassed and don’t know what to say back to her or if I should keep dating her after this incident.

Let me know what your suggestions are on how to handle this and if anything similar has happened with you in a relationship. How did I even come like that? How did she even do that stretch? How can I talk to her after this?

My experience as an intern in the IT department has been far from what I expected. I decided to pursue an Information Technology degree when I was choosing what course to study for Poly back then.

I found my internship irrelevant to my studies

As a student of Information Technology, I learnt things like programming, website design and coding. However, my internship experience has been rather mundane and quite irrelevant to my studies.

I was asked to intern as an IT helpdesk personnel and my job mainly revolves around providing technical support to the employees. I have to troubleshoot basic computer issues and provide instructions on how to use specific software.

While I appreciate the opportunity to be able to intern in the I.T department of a big company, I was not there to learn whatever that the course had prepared me for.

I was hoping to get a chance to explore the field of programming and software development. As a student of Information Technology, I am quite interested in the process of developing software and writing codes.

I was hoping to learn more about how software is developed and gain insight into the process. However, I am not getting a chance to do that at my internship.

I understand that it is important to gain practical experience and that an internship is the best way to do that. However, I feel like I am not learning anything that will help me in my future career.

Felt like I am there just to be an instructor to ‘I.T dummies’

I feel like I am just repeating the same tasks over and over again and being like an instructor to ‘I.T dummies’ and I am not sure how this experience is going to be of any help to me in the future.

I have spoken to my supervisor about my concerns and he has assured me that he will look into the matter. He has promised to provide me with more challenging tasks that are more relevant to my studies.

I am hoping that he will be able to do that so that I can make the most out of my internship experience.

Overall, my internship experience has been quite irrelevant to my studies so far. I was expecting to learn more about the field of Information Technology but I am not getting a chance to do that.

I (25M) will be in a relationship with my GF (24F) for ten years this month. She has been the greatest treasure in my life and I cannot imagine my life without her. She was my first true love and, while I didn’t know it at the time, it was at first sight for me when I was only 12 years old.

I’ve also known I wanted to marry her for years, but our situation was never right for it. We were both living with our parents, saving up for if and when we’d get a place of our own. We’ve now been living together happily for well over a year, and I know I want to ask her to marry me at our upcoming weekend getaway to commemorate our ten years anniversary. Truth be told, I’ve known this for almost 8 months, before any getaway was even planned.

When I started working on my proposal in August, I wanted to make sure it was special, without becoming something she could predict reliably. I am pretty experienced at setting ‘coded’ messages and she greatly enjoys receiving tokens of affection, however small. So eventually, I settled on a 6 month proposal plan that I dubbed ‘Operation Wingspan’.

Every single day, I’d give her a sweet handwritten note to wake up to, all marked with a date in varying date notations (17-12, 20/2, |3-10|, etc.), all with a different text. Each note would have a letter indicated by said date notation. I would clue this solving method on the last dated note she’d receive and when combined/solved correctly, these notes would spell out the text (translated):

“My dear [GF], Today, on the 10th of March 2023 on our trip through [getaway location], I want to ask you to marry me after ten years. I love you and want you by my side for the rest of my life. [GF], will you marry me?”

The day after the final (dated) note, I’d properly ask the question at this scenic view along a nature trail that we intend to walk.

I’ve less than 10 notes left to give. I’m both ecstatic and extremely nervous to ask the question proper and to reveal what I have been doing for the past six months. I hope I surprise her with the act, I hope she likes the ring I bought her, I hope she enjoys the puzzle I’ve left her. But most importantly, I really really hope she will say yes.

Update

I have been proposing to my GF for 6 months

Proposed for the 180th time today, this time verbally. She said yes, was in a state of pure awe for over 20 minutes and loved all the effort to bits.

A little over a week ago, I posted here about how I have been proposing to my girlfriend for the past 6 months. Today, I’ve popped the question for real.

We had a rocky start of the day, but we eventually rented a car to go on a special date. I was nervous the whole day and could barely sleep the night prior.

We were at the park and at one point, when she was with her back towards me to focus on the picture and the nearby area was devoid of other people, I got down on one knee and was ready to pop the question, trying (and failing) to use the line that I had conjured over nearly 180 notes.

Upon turning back to me, she was in complete awe when she saw me, and could barely utter a single word after I asked the question, and just nodded instead (and followed it up with a soft yes). She mentioned to me after the shock died down that she didn’t hear anything I said, only registering her name and the word ‘marry’.

Her face was frozen with this smile of utter disbelief once she put on the ring (which she absolutely LOVES). It took well over 20 minutes until she was able to speak cohesively again. We took some more pictures and videos before heading back to the car, where I could finally tell how she could have known for almost 6 months.

As I was telling her about the work I’d done, without giving away the solving method, you could see the wheels turn in her head. However, with the emotion and disbelief of the proposal still dominating her thoughts, her processing speed was very slow. Still, once she knew it was a puzzle she desperately wanted to solve it.

After some more giddy talking and eventually driving to our next hotel, I provided her with the final clue again and some of the notes. I’d informed the hotel of my intents upon reservation so they’d been so nice as to set a congratulatory gift in the form of chocolate covered strawberries and more delicious fruit. Once she started solving, it took her a bit to understand but eventually she figured out how to solve the puzzle and it made her even happier.

Right now, she’s fast asleep cuddling up to me, exhausted from the tumultuous day, while I am writing this update for all of you and for myself to process it all as well. I feel like the luckiest man in the world.

When I was young, I was an ugly child. I had tanned skin, uneven teeth, and a lot of freckles. It was hard growing up looking different from my peers, especially since I was already an introvert.

People often made fun of my looks and I had a hard time in school

I was often made fun of for my looks and it was a daily struggle for me to navigate my way through school. I had no idea why I was born with such an “ugly” face, especially since everyone else seemed to look much better than me.

At the age of 13, I began to notice slight changes in my face. It was almost as if I was slowly morphing into someone else. I couldn’t believe the transformation that was taking place, and I was excited to see what the final result would be.

Became handsome when I turned 18, girls automatically came to find him

By the time I was 18, my face had gone through a complete transformation. I was no longer an ugly child, but rather a handsome young man. My complexion became fairer, my teeth had straightened, and most of my freckles had faded away.

I had grown into my current face, and it seemed like I had done it all naturally. I had done nothing to make these changes happen, it was simply a result of time.

It gave me a newfound confidence. I was no longer an ugly child, but rather a handsome young man with a bright future ahead of him.

I was happy to be in my own skin and I felt like I could finally be proud of the person I had become.

My newfound confidence opened up a lot of opportunities for me. I was able to go after the things I wanted in life and I was no longer afraid to take risks.

I was also able to make friends much easier, as people no longer judged me based on my looks. I was able to be my true self without fear of judgement.

Girls were also flocking to me, something which I had never experienced before when I was young.

I have a crush on my 63 year old boss

He’s sweet and incredibly handsome. He is the definition of an old fashioned gentleman. He’s always helped me when I had an issue at work.

He broke his tumbler at work. I had a new one (failed Christmas gift) in my office and offered it to him. He was so grateful and offered money for it but I kindly declined.

Every time we meet at the water fountain to refill our tumblers, he smiles and winks at me and nods towards his new tumbler. I try to hide my blush and my heart flutters.

He’s almost triple my age, but he’s handsome, takes care of himself, and looks much younger. I haven’t experienced a crush like this before. I have fantasies of…

…BAKING REAL COOKIES WITH BUTTER for him. Maybe a shoulder rub at the most. And that is all lol.

I developed a new category of a sweet, innocent, fun little crush that I will NEVER act on. He’s so genuine and pure. He’s single and has a big heart

Again, this is a very innocent school-level crush. I would NEVER act on it. I haven’t for the past 5 years. He’s such a very kind wholesome person and I’d like to leave this little crush as cute and innocent

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m sure he knows exactly what he doing when he smiles and winks at you. Probably makes him feel great.
2. This is cute and sweet. But you are right not to act on it because work relationships are bad news
3. That’s so sweet, flirting with that cute old man. I do it sometimes with old men I run into while I’m out and about. I think of it as a form of community service, you’re making someone’s day a bit brighter.

I was enlisted into the Army for two years, after finish my JC education. I had always been a one woman kind of guy, so when my girlfriend dumped me out of the blue for another guy during my Basic Military Training phase, I was devastated.

No one to talk to except my bunk mates

I had no one to talk to except my bunk mates about what I was feeling and going through. I had always been a straight guy, but after my girlfriend’s betrayal, all of that changed.

After a period of emo-ing and confiding my sadness to my bunk mates, I started to take an interest in other men. I felt like I was in a daze, like I had no control over my body or my emotions. I was drawn to men in a way I had never experienced before.

Started to realised that I like men

I was intrigued by the idea of a same-gender relationship, something I had never even considered before.

At first, I kept my feelings to myself. I was scared of what people would think and how they would react if they knew I like men.

I was ashamed of it and I wanted to keep it a secret. But eventually I knew that I had to come to terms with it and accept myself for who I was.

I started to reach out to other men in Singapore via an app for men. I joined online groups and started talking to people who were in the same situation as me. I found solace in the fact that I was not alone, that there were other men who were experiencing the same feelings as me.

Slowly but surely, I began to build a support system of people who accepted me for who I was. I started to go to bars and clubs meant for my kind of people, and I made friends with other men who also like men.

I found myself more comfortable in this new environment, and I started to feel more confident in myself.

It has been two years since my girlfriend dumped me and I had also finish my army. I have come to terms with who I really am. I am now happy and content with who I am.

I have embraced my identity and I am not ashamed to like men.

My (30f) husband (33m) quit his job in a terrible reputation-destroying way, without having anything else lined up.

My husband decided a few weeks ago he wanted a career change. We discussed it and made some plans. He had an interview yesterday, at a much bigger company that was his top choice, for a position that would be a significant upgrade in both salary and rank.

While he said the interview itself went very well and I’m sure it did, he couldn’t have messed up more when it comes to what he did next.

He for some reason just assumed that he’d already gotten/was going to get the job shortly (apparently because the hiring manager asked when he’d be able to start… but that is a normal question that doesn’t mean you’re GOING to start..)

Then, directly after the interview he went back to his workplace. He made a massive disruption insulting his boss, clients, everyone as “incompetent morons”, flung papers and monitor from his office, stormed out laughing as people were calling security.

Now how do I know all this? Because he willingly openly shared it with me? Haha! Nope! I guess he didn’t stop to think about how my roommate from before we moved in together a couple years ago is one of his coworkers.

She saw the whole thing, dug up our old whatsapp thread and gave me a play by play because she was so shocked. When he came home yesterday I waited to see if he’d tell me on his own. Gave him a couple openings to do so.

He said nothing apart from reiterating that the interview had gone really well and they’d offered him the job. I confronted him about what my old roommate said and he tried to lie, but eventually admitted it was all true.

He said he just wanted to go out with a bang and thought it was funny. And that it didn’t matter because, again, he would soon be starting his dream job. And they “really were idiots and I’m not wrong to say that.”

I was already appalled but it only gets worse. He called his “new job” this morning to ask some questions. I got to watch as his expression and voice went from excited to the look of someone who has mucked around and is now finding out. They told him (rightly, it sounded) that they’d never given him any verbal or official offer, and also that they wouldn’t be proceeding with his application.

I don’t even know what to say.. we will not be okay on just my wages, not after a few weeks have gone by like that at least. How could he be so monumentally, recklessly STUPID??? If word gets around what he did he might very well not even find another job in his industry. Not here anyway. What grown adult puts themself in that position?

I just don’t know what to even say to him or how he can possibly fix this. Am I like insane to feel almost like he broke my trust?

What can I do? Should I tell him to go back to his old job, get on his knees and do everything he can to apologize and make things right if there’s any chance they’d let him back? Apply for and take literally any job that will have him even the ones he thinks are beneath him? Something else? I did NOT need this stress and am so indescribably pissed at him.

GF is mad I want to start using condoms, says I don’t trust her natural method of B/C (rhythm method)

For the year & a half we’ve been together my girlfriend & I have never used condoms, contraceptives. I am constantly paranoid we are going to get pregnant, so much that anytime she says she’s not feeling good I immediately think, welp this is it.

I communicated that I want to start wearing condoms. I realize how dumb I’ve been participating in not wearing protection & want to correct this behavior.

Girlfriend is mad at me because she says I don’t trust her ability to monitor her menstrual cycle (rhythm method) & that is her preferred choice of B/C.

I don’t really know how to go about this. This has been a wonderful relationship that I’d like to stay in. But I’m close to losing my cool & telling her pulling out & the rhythm method is a crap method of B/C, that I deserve to feel safe in the bedroom.

I’m not asking her to go on a BC that will mess with her hormones. Just that I want to start wearing condoms. Is this a major red flag where I should rethink my future with this person?

Netizens’ comments

1. “I want to start wearing condoms, and this is my right .It’s not about trust for you, but about controlling my own fertility. I’m sure you understand.”
2. Don’t ask if you can wear condoms, just start doing it.
3. What makes your girlfriend think they are somehow better at it than the roughly 24% who fail at this each year? Bro, that’s you flipping a coin twice and getting tails two times in a row odds.