I found out my brother is actually my dad

I (f17) have always been told I look like my oldest brother “Z” (m33). Everyone always says I look like the female version of Z I never thought anything weird about the fact we look so much alike growing up.

Considering we’re 16 years apart I was only a toddler when Z went overseas to study. He always made sure to come to visit every once in a while.

I remember always having fun with Z when he would visit. After he finished graduated, he came back and started working.

Z still tried to visit most weekends he would do things like bring me gifts, take me out to eat, play board games, we would watch movies, and just talk. I honestly had the coolest older brother in my eyes.

Z recently started temporarily staying with us because for work he is doing a project only a few stops from where we lived and it would just be easier and more comfortable for him to stay with us.

Like I said I always enjoy being with Z so when we both have free time we try to hang out.

Last night I was doing homework in my room and I went to get a drink late at night when I heard Z say to our mom “I know I just sometimes wish (my name) could live with me and actually know Im her dad”.

I instantly confronted them and found out he is biologically my dad. He had gotten his girlfriend pregnant when he was still young, and she had decided at the last minute she was too young to raise a baby.

He wanted to keep me but knew he couldn’t give us both the life we deserved with him being a single teen dad so my biological grandparents decided to adopt me and raise me as their own kid and thought it would be easier to just say Z is my older brother.

I didn’t get mad at Z or my mom/ grandma. But I haven’t talked to them since last night I just don’t know what to say or think.

My SO (32F) owes me (30M) money and doesn’t seem to care.

I have a remote sales/engineering job and she works in software. We do not live together mostly because of the way she treats me financially, I have not raised this as a reason to her. She also has a 12 year old.

We’ve been dating for about 10 months. Last month, she came to me and told me she was going to have the power to her home cut off over unpaid bills of almost $1100. I offered to lend her the money, she agreed and gave me a date she’d start paying me back by.

That date was about 2 weeks ago and she’s made no effort to pay me and hasn’t mentioned it since.

She’s also suggested numerous times we go out and do stuff, which I invariably end up paying for. She also seems to plan her visits to my place so that her kid (12) will get hungry and start asking about dinner; he then refuses anything I offer to make and whines until I order takeout.

I’m really sick of this, I perceive it as being used, and I’m considering leaving the relationship and cutting my losses.

First I feel like I should try to bring it up in good faith with her, but I am not sure how I can do that without coming off overly confrontational. Any advice on how to discuss this would be very welcome.

Netizens’ comments

1. Well first you need to mention the loan to her. Second…stop caving and ordering food. You are 30 you can say no. Cook at home and if she insists on take out..she can order and pay for it. Personally I think she’s using you for some easy money/food but who knows.
2. She’s totally playing you. $1100 for a utility bill? Come on…
3. You’ve been dating for 10 months?!
   Dude, leave. 10 months of your life is nothing in comparison to the years you’ll have to put up with being, essentially, her sugar daddy.
   Also, $1100 in power alone? Sounds fishy to me.
   Furthermore, don’t give that little brat anything. As single father of 3 who has attempted to date I would be incredibly disappointed and embarrassed if my children pitched a fit at somebody else’s house after being offered free food.
   Honestly man, it sounds like you’re being used.

I (M22) recently suffered a TBI (traumatic brain injury) and I have developed prosopagnosia (face blindness).

I am able to vaguely recognize my immediate family, but it’s near impossible for me to recognize anyone else unless I remember other distinctive cues about their appearance (such as a unique hair color or accessory.)

This has been really hard on me, and I’ve been hospitalized for the past two weeks (for other medical reasons related to my TBI).

I texted my girlfriend (F21) to explain my condition to her and linked her some articles on it. She insisted on visiting me since she hadn’t seen me since I was hospitalized.

When she came into my room, I wasn’t sure whether she was my cousin (my cousin had planned on visiting too), a nurse, or my girlfriend. She didn’t say anything to introduce herself, so I asked her “can you tell me who you are?”

When she replied, I could hear that she was extremely mad and I recognized her voice as my girlfriend’s. She said “are you for real? You don’t recognize me?” I told her that I physically cannot recognize her, and she started crying about how that means she wasn’t important enough to recognize and a whole lot of other stuff.

I was honestly hurt that she was upset with me over a medical condition that I recently acquired and am struggling with. This has changed the entire course of my life and caused me so much emotional pain already, not to mention the other trauma I sustained from my accident.

If she had read my explanation I texted her or the articles I sent she would understand that my ability to recognize her has nothing to do with my care for her. She got upset at me for not apologizing to her, but I refused and told her to leave me alone and go home.

my girlfriend farted by accident while we were f-ing and I was so turned on , how do I get her to do it again without coming across as a creep.

I’ve always liked farts in my mind. I have on the odd occasion touched myself to girls farting and have got turned on by girls farting in front of me.

However , I always thought actually smelling their farts would turn me off.

That was until two weeks ago , I was doing my girlfriend doggy style and she farted by accident. The sound of it and the smell of it turned me on like I’ve never turned on before.

It led to me coming so hard, and it was one of the greatest I’ve experienced purely because of the fart.

It was so dirty , taboo and naughty out of her also very intimate that I’d be one of the few people in the world to experience the sound , the site and the smell of what just happened.

I also was so turned on that instead of being embarrassed, and trying to hide it or laugh it off , she acted like nothing happened.

Ive been thinking about that moment for the last two weeks , pleasuring myself to it , thinking about it at work and at home, practically all the time.

I really want this experience to happen again but I don’t want to creep her out.

What’s the best way to approach this ?

I 27F have been with Eric 32M since we were young. We currently live together.

For the most part, we’re active in bed and we have PIV almost every day. The problem is that he’s not able to come or stay hard during intercourse unless it’s the back door.

The back door is extremely painful and I’ve gotten a UTI once before because of it and at that point I said no more of this.

It’s been 4 years since then and everything was normal. It was until he complained that he wasn’t able to finish since the start of our relationship, and I was getting too loose too fast.

He got mad and told me how fed up he was. He said it was like going in the hallway. I’ve tried everything possible to try to fix it. I’ve tried kegels, tightening creams, even made an appointment to the doctor.

He has continued to pressure me into going the other way and at one point did it backdoor until it hurt. I had to scream at him to stop. He told me to get tighter so he wouldn’t have to go the other way.

A week later I’m showing symptoms reminiscent to the last UTI I had. Now I have to see a doctor. I’m both sad and pissed.

Is there any way to fix this so he doesn’t do this anymore?

Netizens’ comments

1. Yeah I don’t get what she’s trying to fix…OP did you want to sew yourself up down there? Solder it closed? Tf… get rid of the “man” and I use that term VERY loosely (ironic isn’t it) and get yourself checked by the doctor and into therapy.
2. You fix it by leaving. He doesn’t see you as a person, not fully. Not if he can disregard anatomy and tell you to make yourself tighter.
3. This has to stop. He needs to fix himself, it’s not your job to figure out how to fix this. Get out. You’re wasting your time and causing yourself misery. There are too many people on planet earth you could be with to waste another second with this one.

carousell buyer threatening to make a police report

so i sold an item on carousell to a buyer and in my description i wrote that i haven’t had the old issue of the sensor picking up.

So i reckon it was working fine as i tested it prior and it didnt show any signs of the old issue popping up , so in my eyes it was working fine.

we meet up and i allowed him to test it out and there wasn’t any issue so we agreed to the deal and i handover my item.

more than a week goes by and he sold it to another buyer and the other buyer told him that it is not working anymore and that it was faulty and had a defect the whole time.

buyer msg me saying he’ll make a police report along with screenshots that i said it was working fine.

in my post of the item i’ve already written a disclaimer no refunds and that reading it means that you understand the issues stated and risk of issue that might occur after purchase.

what should i do, as this is my first time encountering this. thank you

TLDR sold an item to buyer buyer tested it out and it was working fine afterwards buyer sold it to another buyer other buyer says it’s not working and that it was faulty from the start first buyer then msg and says he’ll make a police report and how i failed to inform him of the defects

Netizens comments

1. tested the item on the spot before accepting, no issue.
   between then and selling it on, suddenly have issue.
   sounds like his problem, not yours.
2. Trying to scare you to give in only. If the buyer say he use the thing and find out there’s an issue, maybe he still can do something.
   But now he SELL TO ANOTHER GUY after taking ahold of your item, and the issue comes after the item was handed over to the next guy, you can just say he was the one who made it faulty. Checkmate. He made it easy for you
3. No, do not feel threatened OP. More than a week had gone by and anything could have happened during that 1 week when the item was in that 1st buyer’s possession. Both of you tested it out and it was working perfectly normal. So it’s no longer your responsibility when the 1st buyer went ahead to purchase it.

What to do with bosses who expect you to join activities post work hours

Sibei sian. My boss plan for team offsite starting from 8am to 10pm. Don’t allow claims for transport because boss says dinner and networking not mandatory activities.

The same boss just niaoed me for not networking when I was nursing an infection and very unwell and still doing my tasks on a recent work trip.

Whole week 8am to 10pm plus 1 hr commute each way. My old bones can’t take it.

Same boss likes to ping me at night or call me at night to KP me for not representing boss well…

I can’t quit. Need to pay mortgage.

Netizens’ comments

1. This kind of work culture is dumb as f. Employers need to realise that every minute of your employees’ time needs to be compensated. None of that after-work drinks and dinner crap. Why follow the shitty work culture of the Japanese?
   Man unless your bosses are paying you extremely well or you don’t have dependents or you love your current job, maybe find somewhere else to work. This kind of shit is a red flag.
2. Just say in an apologetic way that you have family commitments. You have already worked with them since 8am, how much more do they want to see your face lol. Your boss must be lonely, no friends no life, that’s why forcing your team to spend time with him/her.
3. Drop obvious hints like not picking up phones after work. Next day blame it on your kids who are sick. Worked for me; my boss relented and say he will only call me when it is urgent, and when he called, he begged me to answer the phone. Apparently when I diao him that one time, he was in some deep shit and needed me. Learnt his lesson well.

I had always been a risk taker. Ever since I was young, I had a knack for taking risks and coming out on top.

I was never one to shy away from a challenge, and so when I heard about the stock market, I knew I had to give it a try.

Started to be successful in my investments

It was with this adventurous spirit that I set out to invest in the stock market. I started small, investing only small amounts at a time.

But, as luck would have it, I started to see some success. I quickly started to build a portfolio of investments and my profits started to grow.

Things were looking up, and I was feeling on top of the world. That is, until my ex-wife showed up.

Wanted to come back to me after she heard I was successful

She had heard about my success and wanted to try to patch things up between us.

She told me that she was sorry for how our relationship soured, and she wanted to make things right for us.

I was hesitant at first. After all, I had been hurt by her before. But, in the end, I decided to take the risk.

At first, things seemed to be going well. We started to talk more, and I could feel a connection between us starting to form. But then, things started to turn sour.

She began to be more demanding and I could feel the trust between us slipping away.

As time went on, I started to realize that I had made a huge mistake. I should have never trusted her, and I should have never spent on her or gave her what she wanted.

I had been too eager to try to patch things up, and in the end, I had only made things worse.

She still left me after all, and I was left with half of my profits gone.