I (21F) threw a birthday party and only a single friend (M22) showed up

The last time I celebrated my birthday was when I turned 18. The pandemic started right afterwards and I did not have many opportunities to celebrate, until this year I decided to unite my closest friends to throw a birthday party.

I talked to each of them and asked if they would like to participate on a brunch. They all agreed and confirmed that they would be showing up.

I spent about 15 hours cooking and 3 hours decorating my place for about 16 guests and when the day and time arrived, I simply waited for 3 or 4 hours and nobody, but this friend of mine, showed up…

I then sent a text in the WhatsApp group of my birthday and canceled the birthday party, since I was already waiting for a while and nobody else came.

I was crying my heart out and never thought that those things happened in real life. I literally felt like they were pranking me or something, so it was really harsh to let the reality sink in.

After I cancelled the party, my friends started to desperately text me and apologize. They all wanted to schedule to do something with me, but I simply don’t want to since they ruined my birthday.

I don’t even know how to react or what to answer… any thoughts?

Netizens’ comments

1. So sorry that happened. Did anyone even give a valid reason for just bailing like that? That one friend who showed up is the real one. A true keeper. I think you should have a bday redo, and just the two of you go do something adventurous or new. Figure out some sort of experience you both would enjoy and go do it, then have cake at the end. Build a whole new memory around this bday that you can look back on with a smile. Also, happy belated birthday! Cheers to 21 years!
2. That’s so upsetting, I’m sorry it happened to you. I would probably cut the people that didn’t show up out of my life unless there was an emergency. Did anyone have a decent excuse?
   TBH, I don’t see these friends following through on planning something for your bday party when they couldn’t show up for a brunch where you did all the work/planning.

How to run away from Home in Singapore?

I’m 19 this year and I have an overbearing father wanting to know my exact location, given me an airtag to carry around and restricts who I see.

Mind you, he was never like this before. This is because I got a boyfriend and he dislikes his parents so he wants to restrict me from seeing him.

I feel lost and hopeless because he makes me happy and now he’s currently in the hospital after undergoing a 17 hour surgery and he won’t let me see him.

I am sick and tired of having a father like this (other underlying issues too, not just this) Please if anyone has any idea how to run away from home in Singapore please give me advice.

Netizens’ comments

1. Since you’re not a child anymore, you don’t “run away”. That’s what kids do.
   The best thing is to bide your time and try not to piss off dad. Get a job, save money, and move out like a responsible adult.
   As long as you have no money, you are gonna be dependent on someone and that someone is gonna have rules. If you move out before you can take care of yourself financially, you’re gonna find yourself in a worse situation.
2. I see many replies here encouraging her to run away and be independent, which I understand is the natural response. However, we’re seeing only one perspective of the picture here, from the very tinted lens of a love sick teen struggling against her parent.

There’s no assurance that this boyfriend has her best interests at heart, and no indication if the daughter has a history of making good decisions.

It’s pretty irresponsible to just ask her to run away. If something goes wrong, and many things can go wrong, the father and daughter will be the ones left to pick up the pieces. We’ll just feel good about making an internet post for a minute. This family may be dealing with the fallout for a long, long time.

To the OP, ask yourself this. When you are taken advantage of, when you have no money, when you have no home, no bed and no where to stay, what will you do? Is your boyfriend going to be providing the same financial support your father currently does, or can you?

If you cannot afford to run away, then your options are very limited.

My bf likes to block me

I’m 22f and he’s 27m

He told me once that he likes to block me in weeks. 1 week for the first time I’m dramatic, 2 weeks for the second time, 3 weeks ect. It got up to 2 months with no contact.

What kind of behaviour is this?

He prefers to not talk and then go back to normal with enough time. He doesn’t talk it out unless I bring the issue up again.

Also might be good to know the 2 month no contact was a few months ago… I just thought to post this now.

I assumed we were broken up, but he said I was just blocked and should’ve came to see him.

Netizens’ comments

1. No. That’s just him trying to make you feel bad when he’s not even doing the bare minimum for a relationship.
   It’s not even that he’s mad about you not reading his mind.
   He just wants to condition you to let him treat you like shit.
   Edit: My friend you are not dumb. He’s just made you feel like you are because that’s probably how he treats you.
   I’m sure there’s quite a few things you’re not only very smart and knowledgeable about but talents or other hobbies that are neat, but back to the point.
   First step is to start to make a plan. It doesn’t sound like you live together, but is there anything tying you financially?
   Do you have friends, family or coworkers who could help if necessary?
   Can you start discreetly gathering any valuables that may be at his place? A couple gym bag from savers is great.
   Does he have access to your accounts? A pet?
   Do you think he will try to find you if you stop contact?
   I don’t mean to overwhelm you with a bunch of questions, and you don’t have to respond to me but start making a list.
   Once you’ve detached yourself, I found it was most helpful to make a list of things I always wanted to do that he hated. Then I started checking them off.
   My ex had addiction issues. It was hard but I didn’t want his relapses to because my regular life. But I understand. I did absolutely love him, but I had to accept that the person I loved was a work of fiction in my head wearing his face. Who he was in real life was not who he said he was or how he actually was.
   P.S. I’m rooting for you. I hope in six months you’re happier than you’ve ever been before.
2. Block you in weeks and make it longer each time? That just sounds like he’s conditioning you to not say or do things that upset him with him blocking you for even longer a threat/punishment. That’s not a man, that’s both an immature little boy and a manipulative monster. Confront him on his bullshit or cut your losses

I’m tired of receiving the same old bouquets of flowers. I want something that’s a bit more unique and memorable. I want to receive flower bouquets filled with money bills!

The more ‘Yusof Ishak’ inside the better! Especially if its blue and above!

Recently saw a friend receiving one for valentine’s

I recently saw a friend receiving a flower bouquet during Valentine’s Day made of many ‘Yusof Ishaks’.

It’s not that I’m trying to be greedy, it’s just that money is something that’s a bit more practical. You can use money to buy whatever you want, whereas with a flower bouquet you have something that will wilt and die after a few days.

Plus, money is something that will continue to have value, whereas a flower’s value is fleeting.

Money bouquets are also much more interesting to look at. Imagine the look on someone’s face when they open a box of flowers and out comes a bundle of money!

It would be a much more exciting surprise than a traditional flower bouquet. Plus, it would be something that they could keep forever and display in their home or even take it out to use it when they need the money.

Don’t need to break the bank, smaller denominations also ok

Of course, the downside is that money bouquets can be a bit more expensive than traditional flower bouquets. But that doesn’t mean that you have to break the bank in order to send one. You can easily find money bouquets that are made with smaller bills, so you don’t have to worry about spending too much.

In addition to being more practical and interesting than traditional flower bouquets, money bouquets are also much more unique. They’re something that your recipient probably won’t expect, which makes it all the more special.

Plus, you can customize the money bouquet to suit the recipient’s taste. Whether they like traditional bills or more colorful ones, you can find something to fit their style.

So, the next time you want to show someone you care, why not send them a money bouquet instead of the same old flower bouquet?

It’s a much more original and memorable way to show your appreciation. Plus, you can be sure that your recipient will be thrilled to receive such a special gift.

I’m getting real tired of silent treatment.

It’s like when they screw up big time towards me, as disappointed as I can be, I approach them and talk. Not in an angry tone. Just let them know that what they did is not right, they apologized and that’s it we move on. No one is perfect at all.

Gets silence treatment in return when I make a mistake

But when I made a mistake, no matter how small or how unaware I was, all I get is silent treatment.

And it’s always the same cycle. First when I approach, they’ll tell me “I need time”. I let them have their time. I wait. Days. Weeks. Months.

Asked again, still no answer. Asked when they do want to talk. Still nothing. Months and months past. A whole entire year later, I asked again, then they’ll say I’m “overreacting”.

And worst of all, they’ll say “It’s been a whole year and you’re still living in the past and not getting over it”.

I mean, yes? Cause I’m putting so much effort to resolve the issues that I don’t even know what was it I did at all. I want to learn. I want to improve. I want to be better. How can I achieve anything if silent treatment is the only one they give?

Why can’t they just talk? Do I really deserve to be punished that way?

Tired of being the one who always try to resolve issues

I’m just so tired of being the only one taking accountability over my action.

I’m tired of being the better person when the person other person never tried to be better at all.

Seriously it’s frustrating.

And when I leave, suddenly they’ll go “So you don’t care after all”. What the f-? A whole entire year I’ve waited and give all the time. And still nothing.

Just cause you “healed” from the unspoken things I did, doesn’t mean I deserve to be treated like I don’t exist. Doesn’t mean I have no feelings at all.

I’m not a monster. But they’ll always treat me like I’m one. But when they became literal monster, society expects me to tame them.

I’m done being the better person.

I’m done.

I don’t know if I should break up with my boyfriend. Advice please?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I was upfront with him and told him since the start of our relationship that I had baggage over my exes always initiating the talk of marriage and then afterwards just being reluctant to commit afterwards

Didn’t keep to his promise as to when he will propose

I don’t want to go into further detail but in both cases both exes did me quite dirty. I’m no longer in contact with one, and the other has reached out to apologize for what he put me through and expressed regret at giving me that baggage.

When I first met my boyfriend, I told him how pathetic it made me feel and that it was a deep insecurity I had, that guys would pursue me hard, swear to move the earth for me, etc….and then when it came down to it, all of it just never happened.

My boyfriend said he would be different, and told me he would propose at the 2.5 year mark (2022).

We spoke about it at length and several times we confirmed we would be engaged by 2022. He even tells this to my mother and grandmother of his own accord. We have the ring ready.

2022 comes and goes and he hasn’t proposed. I ask him about it and he asks for an extension. I’m a bit sad since he never initiated the conversation and I had to bring it up, but I agree. We have end Feb in mind.

I asked him today again, since end Feb is coming . He asks for an extension again and this is honestly killing me. He has the ring, and he’s had 14 months to plan. I don’t get it. I don’t need anything extravagant but just something that shows he’s put thought into it.

He hasn’t even asked me for my schedule for the rest of feb, apart from this though we’re a great couple and don’t fight. He tells me I’m the love of his life everyday.

Afraid that he will end up like how my exes treat me, so I want to break up

I love him but I feel my boundaries are constantly being stepped over and disregarded. I hate that I’m the one initiating these conversations and every time it just makes me feel resentful.

I know my past baggage and insecurity is playing a part here but I can’t help how crappy I feel.

I love him so much but I’m also already planning the breakup conversation in my head.

According to Lianhe Zaobao an elderly woman was found dead on 30 August 2022. The elderly woman was living alone and she was only discovered after her granddaughter visited her.

The elderly woman had 7 children but none of them bothered to visit her for the last 3 years.

How she was found?

The granddaughter visited her Grandmother and was surprised no one answered the door, worried that her grandmother who suffered from hearing difficulties pushed open the wooden door but only to smell a rotten smell.

She then contacted SCDF who managed to open the unit and found the rotting body.

Ageing in Singapore

Not taking care of elderly parents is an increasingly common issue in today’s society. With more and more families living in separate places, it can be hard to ensure that elderly parents are properly taken care of. While it is true that some families are able to provide adequate care for their elderly parents, many are not able to do so. This can have serious consequences on the elderly parent’s health and well-being.

One of the biggest issues associated with not taking care of elderly parents is that they can become isolated and lonely. With fewer people around them, elderly parents can become withdrawn and depressed. This can lead to a decrease in overall physical and mental health. It also makes them more prone to falls and other injuries, as they may not be as attentive to their physical well-being.

Another issue is that elderly parents may not be getting the care they need in terms of medical attention. With fewer people around to help monitor their health, elderly parents can suffer from medical conditions that go unnoticed and untreated. This can lead to serious health issues down the road.

The financial burden of not taking care of elderly parents can also be significant. With fewer people around to help support them financially, elderly parents can find themselves in a situation where they are unable to cover basic living expenses. This can lead to a decrease in their quality of life and an overall decrease in their financial security.

Lastly, not taking care of elderly parents can have an emotional impact on the family. It can be difficult for family members to watch their elderly parents struggling without any help or support. This can lead to feelings of guilt and regret, as well as a sense of disconnect with the elderly parent.

It is important for families to take the time to ensure that their elderly parents are being taken care of. This can involve making sure that they have access to medical care, providing them with financial assistance, and making sure that they are surrounded by people who care about them. Taking the time to make sure that elderly parents are taken care of can make a huge difference in their overall quality of life.

Will I get jailed or fine?

I am divorced and there is a court order for me to pay my ex for children’s maintance of $400.

Did not fight for children’s custody

The reason why I didn’t fought for care and control of my children is because we stayed in my parent’s 3 room flat during our course of marriage and the court will look into which parent is able to provide a better living for the children.

Obviously I couldn’t provide a room for them, I was a stay at home mum for 10yrs+ and wasn’t working at the time of divorce.

Knowing how my ex’s heart is as small as his d**k, he will file maintenance order from time to time. He recently filed for maintance order and I am required to attend court soon.

I have another child under 3 yrs and will be going to childcare, I can only find work within childcare hours. Which means my salary is limited, I can only look for part-time work.

Not much money left after spending on my children when I meet them

I meetup with my daughter once a month, I would spent around $100-$120 for meals and buy her stuffs. After deduction of childcare fees, bills, insurance I left with $300-$400 for food, transport, any medical bills.

I am soley taking care of my child and unable to work more hours or take on a 2nd job.

I am worried and very stressed, will court send me to jail and/or fine cause I am unable to pay maintenance to him?

Is there anyone with experience on this matter?

Here are what netizens think

• Go to court and present your case and ask for adjustment of the maintainence amount due to your current situation.
• Seek the help of pro-bono lawyers and get free consultation on your case. As for finances, can consider getting financial help from your MP by chatting with them during MPS and see if the MP can help you out with them. Good luck!
• Just submit your payslip , daily expenses and whatever u spend on your child to the family court.
• The court see evidences, not like anyhow will send you to jail just because u can’t pay. It is not like you refused to pay but based on the fact that you have limited resources.