I married my wife for her money

I have been with her for her money from the moment we started dating. I treated my relationship with her like a second job.

I tried to be perfect in every way until I ask her to marry me.

After contacting a lawyer I was planning to get a divorce within two to three years. But I fell in love with her and she truly changed me from the selfish a-hole I once was. She gave me a family.

Our 8th wedding anniversary is next month. and I still feel guilty to this day.

For the people asking. I do have a job. I never cheated on her or treated her badly and I know that I don’t deserve her.

Netizens’ comments

1. Don’t ever tell her. Consider the guilt you’re feeling your punishment. If you tell her you’d feel relieved but you’ll be punishing her instead, and that’s just selfish. The reasons you got with her are not the reasons you ARE with her right now. Keep being the best husband you can be
2. Thanks for sharing. I am happy for her that it ended this way. And obviously never tell her if you want to stay with her. It’s the most selfish thing people do to off their own guilt by ‘coming clean’ and ruining the life of the other person. I can’t believe there are people here suggesting that. Must be teenagers. Definitely not married. Go to therapy.

Office whines

Just checking if anyone has a boss like mine.

She says words like, “If you don’t like me as a boss or if you don’t like what you are doing, you can think of going elsewhere.”

“Your performance is bad, you better improve or you can rethink your career.”

She says such things to everyone, be it during 1-1 or group setting. I have never come across a boss like this and wonder if she will get herself into trouble ?

I work in a very disciplined team (but she is never satisfied?). We are an OEM company and my team is doing order fulfilment. She felt that as we are frontline, somehow we always need improvement.

She never think of looking into internal customer satisfaction so that everyone can discuss, work together. She also likes to command respect. Basically not a people person.

Netizens’ comments

1. Instead of complaining about your boss behavior and all, just ask yourself if it’s an environment you want to be in. If not, then move on. If you can’t for whatever reasons, just got to bite the bullet and do your job.
2. Toxic boss, leave. No need to think.

Already nearing 30s but not allowed to go overseas with SO

My family doesn’t let me go overseas with my SO because they think we will have intercourse. The only way if I can go overseas with him is if we get married.

My SO and I are both nearing 30s and we only have been together for a year. We aren’t thinking of getting married so quickly. However I would really love to go on a small trip with him.

How do people manage to convince their families to go overseas with their SO before marriage?

Netizens’ comments

• The real issue is why are you still listening to your parents? But if you really want to piak piak go staycation lo.
• Tell your parent you are going with another couple and that solve your problem. I am sure you also want to do it .. Which couple goes overseas and dont have intercourse Otherwise , don’t blame your parent. You can always go and stay in Sentosa… overseas.
• Don’t give a F, you’re already almost 30 but still have to seek approval from parents? Tell them intimacy can possibly happen anywhere not only overseas and not only in hotel rooms 
• Just take ur passport and go lah. U r 30 years u can take care of urself

In a dilemma of which company to choose? Currently, I’m in company A as an Executive, salary of $3,200 with a culture of so many unspoken rules.

For eg: Working hours are from 8:30am to 5:30pm. However, if you leave at 5:30pm you’ll be deemed and blacklisted as “lazy”.

Only by working OT, you’re a good employee to the bosses. Hence, I now don’t dare to leave at 5:30pm you know. I’d just stay back till about 6pm even though I have done my job and have nothing much to do.

I feel guilty for leaving on time even though it’s not wrong entirely. I always believe in work-life balance. But here don’t encourage it and bosses will get angry if you have something on & need to leave, even after your stipulated working hours. I’ve been in this company for 3 months, newly joined.

Then, my ex-internship manager approached me and would like to invite me over as a Senior Executive in Company B, with a salary of $3,800 as I have 4 years of relevant experience. The boss is pretty nice I’d say, just that the environment is a bit toxic with politics, but not too bad I guess.

Now… Company B is so attractive and I feel so bad to resign from Company A as I only work for 3 months, under probation still. I’m not too sure if it’s right and nice of me to just resign. I’m actually afraid the boss in Company A will be angry as people always say it’s not too nice to leave until you stayed for 1 year++ etc, but the opportunity is hard to come by too. What should I do? Appreciate advices!

OK. I am a mother of 2 and was seeing someone for a couple months, for the first time since the breakup years ago.

I was walking near Yishun MRT and a man in his 60s approached me and complimented my short haircut. I said thanks and the guy was not giving off red flags on the approach. Then he started walking with me… I suppose I should have stood still and not kept walking- first thing I could have done differently. He said he hoped he wasn’t bothering me and I honestly said that he wasn’t.