Be careful who you trust at work.

How would you outwardly treat a co-worker whom you learnt has been making personal attacks and trash-talking you behind your back, but continues to act really friendly to your face?

This co-worker, along with a few others, have also attempted to lead me to believe something about our mutual co-worker was true, and unfortunately I realised it wasn’t true only after everything was said and done, but by then it was already too late.

They have since been making use of this incident to make fun of me and put me in a spot in front of the rest of our co-workers whenever they get the chance to do so, always trying to paint me out to be someone that I’m not.

Here are what netizens think:

• I always tell myself, there is no friends in work as you go there to work and not make friends. Stick to that rules and you can keep yourself from trouble.

• Be careful who you trust in this world haha!

• Always remember co-workers are not your friends… I don’t even add them on Facebook

• The mouth grow on their face, let them say whatever they want, just focus to do ur work. That’s what I did. My colleagues can say whatever they like but 99% I just ignore and just focus on my work. Maybe I anti social , but I lazy to mingle too. I don’t go around say hi too. Do my work , time’s up and I just go home btw I lunch alone too, that’s peace. Sometimes they call me or text me, I always say I will return their call but I never. Until the management walk by, I have no choice but to just smile and make small talks otherwise I just can’t be bothered.

• Blanket party him below his house lor

• Some people are just sht, cut them off

I was always a bit apprehensive about shaving my pubic hair. It was something I had heard about from my friends, but I was hesitant to take the plunge myself.

I had always felt uncomfortable about having a lot of hair down there, and I wanted to do something about it.

Took up the courage to try and shave

So, I finally decided to take the plunge and shave my pubic hair. I was a bit nervous, but I was also excited to see what the result would be.

I started by trimming the hair down with a pair of scissors. This was surprisingly easier than I thought it would be. After I was done trimming, I moved on to the shaving part. I went slow and careful, as I wanted to make sure I did not cut myself.

The shaving part was a bit more difficult than I thought it would be because I used a manual shaver. It took me about an hour to get everything shaved down to the same length. I was relieved when I was done, as I had not cut myself at any point during the process.

If you want to do it faster and seamlessly, I would suggest that you buy and electronic shaver.

Shocked and surprised by the difference

When I finished, I was shocked by how different I looked. I had always had a lot of hair down there, but after shaving it off, I looked much cleaner and more confident. I felt like a new person.

I was also surprised by how smooth my skin felt after shaving. I had heard that shaving could cause irritation, but I did not experience any at all.

Shaving my pubic hair was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I feel like a new person and I am much more confident in my appearance. I have more self-esteem now and I feel more comfortable with my body.

I would recommend that anyone who is considering shaving their pubic hair to go for it. It is a relatively simple process and the results are definitely worth it.

Plus, you will feel much cleaner and more confident afterwards.

So, if you are thinking about shaving your pubic hair, I would highly recommend it. It is a great way to improve your appearance and your self-confidence.

Plus, you will save a lot of time on grooming in the future.

It was supposed to be a night of celebration. My girlfriend and I had been together for two years and we were both ready to take the next step in our relationship.

We had talked about having relations for a while now and we both felt that the time was right.

However, my ‘kkj’ is not working

But when we began to get intimate, I noticed something was wrong. My body was not responding the way it was supposed to.

I was embarrassed, frustrated and scared. I tried to make excuses but my girlfriend could tell something was wrong.

She asked me what was wrong and I told her that I had been having problems with my penis. She was understanding and supportive, but I still felt ashamed.

I had never experienced this problem before and I was worried that I was broken. I didn’t want to hurt my girlfriend’s feelings, but I also didn’t want her to think I was lying.

Eventually, I told her the truth. My ‘kkj’ was not working and I was scared. She hugged me and told me it was okay. She said that she still wanted to be with me and that we could still be intimate in other ways.

At first, I was relieved. But as the weeks went on, I started to feel worse. I had never experienced this kind of physical problem before and I felt like I had let my girlfriend down.

I was scared that she was going to leave me because I could not give her the physical satisfaction that she wanted.

Started avoiding her

I started to avoid her, and even when we were together, I was distant. I was too embarrassed to talk about it and I was afraid that she was going to leave me.

Finally, after a few weeks of this, my girlfriend had enough. She told me that she was not going to put up with my behavior any longer.

She said that she loved me and wanted to be with me, but that she could not do it if I was going to shut her out.

So, I opened up to her. I told her about my fear and my embarrassment. I told her that I was scared she would leave me because of my inability to be physically intimate.

She reassured me that she was not going to leave me and that she still wanted to be with me despite my problem.

She told me that she loved me and that she wanted to help me get through this.

I still feel embarrassed and scared about my problem, but now I feel a bit more hopeful. We are taking things slow and exploring different ways to be intimate.

I am still scared that she will leave me, but I am also hopeful that we can make it work.

Frustrated with customers who are differential to skin colour

I grew up in Singapore. I have travelled a lot during my previous job and am familiar with the different accents others use.

It’s easy to spot a fellow Singaporean from the way we speak. Even if a speaker’s native language is not English but is speaking english to me, I guess most people can roughly guess what the person is trying to convey.

I know I am privileged to have this exposure and experience. For each job I stay in that city for a few weeks or up to a month so I am adaptable to different environments quickly.

After travelling for my jobs for 10 years I’ve decided to settle down and find a ground job. I still interact with mostly foreigners as my job scope is similar to the previous one.

Despite working for 10 over years, the amount of ageism, difference to skin colour and gender differences never leaves me.

When I was in my 20s, I used to brush it aside quickly. But the older I get, I find myself getting increasingly frustrated with the rudeness that people exhibit.

I don’t understand why some foreigners come here get angry and expect us to understand their language. Our common link is English. Learn the basics or use Google translator.

Actually my job doesn’t require me to speak 20 languages and I’m already using whatever I’ve learnt and picked up from all my travels, but it’s not enough.

Insulting the way I speak just because you claim to not understand me just shows you’re a country hillbilly and have probably never travelled out of your country or ever seen or met an Asian your entire life.

I used to be nonchalant to those who complimented and were surprised that I spoke fluent english. Now I just think, you don’t have internet? What village hole you’ve been hiding your whole life that you are so ignorant that you know nothing outside of your own home?

Once a customer’s condescending episode gone wrong when I corrected him about an info that he shared about his country.

We googled the answer and I was actually right. Please don’t try to impress and show off when you don’t even know your own country’s metro system.

When I’m in my 20s. Talk to me like I’m a small girl. When I’m in my 30s, still talk to me like I’m a small girl. I don’t make comments about how much older you look for your age. Why are you talking about my age?

Just sick of the differential to skin colour treatment.

Maybe I should switch to a job where I don’t need to interact with any human being.

“Whenever I hear people around me complain about the rising living costs due to inflation, war and increased taxes, I can’t help but really just want to speak to them the truth especially late millennials and gen Z kids.

No doubt, it is true that consumer good prices have increased significantly over the years, housing getting less affordable, rents are spiking, COE has reached its all-time high, fuel price has gone up, and the list goes on.

However, do people especially kids these days do their part to overcome this situation? The short answer is NO, as most people that I know including friends and family, and uni mates, they all don’t really treat this as a serious issue, and it’s just sickening to see how people complain everyday without putting some serious effort.

Let me list out a few “hobbies” or in other words, “entertainments” that youngsters do nowadays. Every now and then I see friends sharing stories of their staycations, and their frequency can be as high as once every 1-2 months. Youngsters also don’t refrain themselves from frequently dining at places like HDL, beauty in a pot, din tai fung, and a whole bunch of fancy cafes and restaurants. It’s so terrifying to the point where it has actually become mandatory that one must dine in at least once a week at some fancy eatery, and I honestly ain’t sure if they realize that. Starbucks or coffee bean has become a usual hangout spot to “study” too, and they can easily order food and drink that cost up to $20-30 per pax. The convenience of cabbing just makes basic transportation even more accessible that they can just Grab without even actually trying their best to settle for buses or MRT. I personally know a few friends and acquaintances who already got platinum tier for Grab. “I’m lazy”, “it’s too far”, “I don’t wanna wake up so early”, “it’s raining”, “I just wanna chill”, so on and so forth, these are the common excuses to spend tens of dollars just for a short period of unurgent convenience. I think I don’t even have to point out branded goods and limited-edition clothing and sneakers that youngsters don’t mind forking out hundreds of dollars for per item. Is it also necessary to purchase the latest phone models? I don’t get why people can’t just buy only when necessary or at least wait till the next model releases and buy the current model as its price drops.

There is no need to attend every single one of your friend’s birthday, and instead, do kindly wish them and just go for those whom you’re closer with. If you have friend’s birthday all the way from January till December, and for each birthday, the expenses are unexpected because it’s not up to you to decide the venue and type of birthday celebration, you’ll only end up being a broke ass. Please have some decency to reject politely, and if rejection would only cause them to be unhappy with you, then congratulations, as you’ve just witnessed the true side of your “friends”.

It’s totally fine not to invest your money if you don’t wanna risk losing money, but at least don’t let your cash flow out so quickly, and have some proper control over your money. You can’t control the government’s plan, as well as the happenings all over the world that negatively impacts your financial situation, but I believe there are a ton of simple and implementable ways to reduce your unnecessarily hefty expenses. So stop complaining and do your part if you don’t wanna go broke!”

Since Singapore is living with Covid, I do feel that government should do more for parents.

Recently my little one caught covid, she was less than a year old. She caught it from my helper who also positive. High fever, diarrhea and vomits, fortunately, this was shortly after i recovered my covid and i am able to take care of her.

However, due to my limit leaves, l tried to take MC using my daughter medicial cert and was rejected by HR as this is not the general guidelines by our government.

Unfortunately, my LO have a couple of unfortunate events such as UTI after birth, my leaves had runs out. As a parent, i do feel that it is almost impossible to prevent my LO from getting covid but at the same time government is not helping parents. If our kids gets it, who going to take care of them, and 7 days or even more mc is just hard for parents to take urgent leave.

Just venting….

Here are what netizens think:

• Go see doctor for what? No cure also one. You go there they give you panadol, you go guardian faster and cheaper

• Unfortunately, cant use your child MC and claim it under your own MC. It doesnt work that way and most probably wont have such a thing in the foreseeable future. However, you can take unpaid leave and use your childs MC as supporting document.

• She sounded like she has exhausted all her leave including childcare leave. Assuming a parent has exhausted all their leaves, it makes me wonder, in this scenario wouldnt it be fair to take unpaid leave? Wouldnt doing more for the parents means being unfair to the organisation (be it small or big) and to others who arent a parent because they have to cover more duties.

• Progressive companies provide childcare leave which is exactly for the purpose you mentioned. Lobby your MP for it to be put into law

Well honestly, it wasn’t today but when I first entered the relationship that my screw up began.

To give some history: I (M) met two individuals about a year or two ago and we became fast and best friends very quickly.

Not using real names we will call them Jake (M) and Lena (F).

Our friendship became more than just friends

Our friendship grew intimate, and we began participating in ‘three way’ with each other both before and after Jake and Lena became a couple.

Our friendship grew to the point we were inseparable.

Lena ended up going home to see her family last year while Jake and me became ‘bros’ as we spent a lot of time together when Lena was gone.

My girlfriend came into the picture

Enter my relationship with the most wonderful woman I have ever met. We will call her Sabrina (F).

Myself and Sabrina hit it off shortly after meeting each other, and entered a relationship.

Upon telling Jake and Lena about my relationship with Sabrina, the obvious questions were asked like “what does this mean for us and our friendship/intimacy” and “can we all be friends still” which led to “if we are all friends; what do we tell Sabrina about our past”.

At this point; Sabrina had met Jake personally as he was always around me and had met Lena online. I, like a dumbo, came to the conclusion that mine, Jake and Lena’s past deeds would remain between us to preserve our friendship, but I made it known that if Sabrina ever asked; I would not lie to her.

Months passed, we all hung out together multiple times and life felt like life could go on.

Gf then questioned the relationship between us

Well the inevitable day came last Saturday night/Sunday morning when Sabrina asked me if I had done anything intimate with the two of them, based on a long suspicion of how we all acted towards each other.

I had to look her in the eyes and tell her “yes”

This broke her. The truth came out in its entirety and the justifiable rage, sadness and myriad of other emotions from Sabrina came flooding down upon me, reducing me to nothing.

The questions asked were many, and I answered truthfully to all of them.

“How could you keep it a secret from me” “How could you allow me to sit in discomfort and suspicions for this long” “How could you be alone multiple times with past partners and think it was okay”

And many more. All her questions were justified, all her emotions valid.

She went back home, I had to decide between my friends or my gf

She left yesterday to stay at her parents, and I had to come to face facts with what I did and make very difficult decisions that will hurt for a long time.

After a full day of being alone with my thoughts; I came to the conclusion that I had to step away from Jake and Lena. And before anyone can say “you really chose some girl over your closest friends” or “Sabrina really made a slave out of you”; I’ll have it known I made this decision on my own, without knowledge of where my relationship is and for more than simply trying to repair my relationship.

I did this for my future.

If Sabrina doesn’t come back and I remain close with Jake and Lena; what happens if ever I enter another relationship? Do I lie for longer? Do I offer any potential future partners an ultimatum of their own morals by saying “I’m always going to be close with people I’ve slept with. Deal with it or leave”?

Nobody here can tell me either of those options are fair on a romantic partner, and wouldn’t be fair on myself either.

I ran multiple hypothetical scenarios through my head and came to the same conclusion every time…

Chose my relationship instead

I told Jake and Lena my decision. It hurt them. I can tell. It hurt me, too, but I simply didn’t and don’t see a way to continue a facade of normality where so much intimacy once was.

That wouldn’t be fair to my future partner, Jake and Lena or, ultimately, to myself.

I ruined the trust in my relationship, ruined friendships between multiple people, lost my closest friends and relationship and have not felt this alone since.

I’m writing this because I feel like I need to get some things off my chest. I’ve been with my girlfriend for a few months now, and although I care deeply for her,

I’m starting to think that we won’t be able to make it in the long run. The main reason is because she is already a mother.

Doesn’t see himself looking after her kids

I’m not saying that I can’t handle the fact that she has a child. I’m very understanding when it comes to that, and I’m even willing to help out whenever I can. But the thing is, her child is not mine. I’ve grown to care for her daughter like she was my own, but at the end of the day she’s not my responsibility.

Still stays close to her ex-bf

The other issue I have is that my girlfriend is still very close with her ex-boyfriend, who is the father of her daughter. They still talk, and he’s even been over to our place a few times.

I can’t help but feel like I’m competing with him for her attention. It’s not fair for me to feel this way, but I can’t help it.

I also can’t help but feel like I’m constantly being compared to him. He’s obviously been in her life longer than I have, and she knows him better than she knows me.

He seems to understand her better than I do and I’m always second guessing myself when I’m around them.

Would have been better if she doesn’t have extra ‘baggage’

I’m sure that if my girlfriend and I had met under different circumstances, things would be different. But the fact is, we didn’t. She’s already a mother and he’s already in her life.

I’m starting to think that it’s too much for me to handle and that I should move on.

I don’t want to hurt my girlfriend, but I also don’t want to waste any more of my time. I care for her deeply and I want her to be happy, but I just don’t see a future for us together.

I think it’s best if we just stay friends and I move on with my life.

It all started on a typical evening. I was getting ready for bed when my phone rang. Thinking it was just a random text message, I picked it up to check it. But instead of a text, I was greeted with an unexpected call.

The caller on the other end was a man with a deep voice. He asked me if I’d already peed. I was confused and asked him why he was asking. He just laughed and hung up.

I was a bit shaken from the strange call and tried to brush it off. However, the same man called me again the next night and asked me the same question. This time he asked me if I’d peed in the past 24 hours.

I had no idea what he was talking about and told him so. He just laughed again and said he’d call me back.

This continued for a few nights in a row and soon I began to dread the sound of my phone ringing. I was becoming increasingly paranoid and I was afraid to leave the house.

Eventually, I decided to look into the matter and contacted my friends for help. They told me that this type of phone harassment is actually a crime. They advised me to keep records of all the calls I was receiving and then to report it to the police.

Luckily, my friend help me to install this app that helped to block unknown numbers who are not in my contact.

Since then, I haven’t received any more phone calls from that man. I’m so relieved that it’s finally over and I’m thankful to my friend and I did not need to get the police to involve.

It had been a long day at the office. I was exhausted and ready to go home. I had been researching different adult toys online for the past few weeks and had decided to finally take the plunge and buy one for myself.

I had been a bit apprehensive about it at first, but I was feeling adventurous and wanted to give it a try.

Accidentally put the delivery address to my office, everyone saw

So, I ordered it online and eagerly awaited its arrival.

I had accidentally put the delivery address to my office instead of my home, and was afraid that everyone will see it.

I wanted to change the address but forgot about it and it came to my office the next day.

There it was, in all its glory; my brand new adult toy. I was so embarrassed that I had ordered it, my colleagues who walked passed by desk all saw it and I was sure my colleagues would be able to tell what it was and judge me for it.

Tried to hide it to save myself from embarrassment, but no use

I quickly tried to hide it and decided to take it home with me that evening. I stuffed it into my bag and tried to act as natural as possible as I left the office.

I thought I had been successful in my mission until I heard a few of my colleagues snickering behind my back. I had no idea what was going on until I heard one of them say: “Did you see the package she was carrying out? That was definitely a adult toy!”

My face flushed red and I felt myself shrinking in embarrassment. I was so embarrassed that my colleagues had seen my adult toy.

I had no idea what to do or say. I wanted to crawl into a hole and disappear. All I could do was keep walking and try to act like nothing had happened.