Every day I tell myself that my husband was my own choice so I have to stick it out no matter how difficult it may be but honestly, some days I really feel so exhausted to the point I wish I could just let everything go.

Doesn’t bother about the children

We have two children and one more on the way, and I don’t know if it’s a guy thing that he just doesn’t show it, but he doesn’t seem to be attached to our children at all.

We both work 9 to 5 and unlike me, when he comes home, the first thing he spends time with is his phone.

I’m not against him using his phone. I understand we all need our alone time but I just thought that while the kids are still awake, he could afford to spend sometime with them before they go to bed.

After they do to bed, he can do whatever he wants and I won’t disturb him.

He always says that our kids like to stick to mommy and that they dont want his company.

Although I admit that our children do tend to gravitate towards me, if he doesn’t try to engage them then how are they going to know that their dad’s company can be equally as fun too?

The saddest part is I didn’t use to like kids. In fact I didn’t want any kids and he was the one who kept pushing for us to have our own.

Feels like i’m the only parent

Now that we have our own, it feels like I’m the only one in this by myself. I’m really tired and I really need him to step up before I break down.

Sometimes I wonder what life would be like if I never met my husband.

I am a 3rd year engineering student that recently went to the CDE Career Fair and it was really an eye-opening experience.

BUT I am insanely offended by a ‘recruiter’ from this prestigious company – Cxxxxx Axxxxxx (you guess the company, basically when y’all fly off to another country you will be there one ok)

She’s from the People Team, but I guess she’s not that nice to people afterall

Like literally, what are students there for?

To look for internship opportunities, understand more about the company and hiring processes right? Well, that was not the case because she was so stuck up and told students like we shouldn’t go into internship thinking that we will have a FT opportunity.

When we ask her what kind of internship roles they offer to a particular course, she say ‘OH DON’T HAVE, you go the website see lorh, if don’t have means don’t have’.

Amazing unhelpful and sarcastic.

Here are what netizens think:

• I have no idea what company that is, but what I’ve found is basic respect and courtesy is a good marker of whether the firm would eventually be a good employer. Rude recruiters, interviewers forgetting about appointments, incomplete contracts and subterfuge at hiring stage all suggest internal problems: low regard for new joiners, confusing direction from management etc. No matter how big the outside reputation it will never compensate for a miserable internal experience.

• I suggest you name and shame. In 1999, I also noticed that EDB officers who came to NUS had a really stuck up attitude towards engineering students. There was o social media then, so they could get away with it. Thankfully we have a vibrant job market (indirectly due to EDB) so we don’t have to kow tow to bureaucrats. Please name and shame he firm and the office in the future, thank you.

• Actually this CA company is actively hiring for many positions… Hopefully it’s an one off matter and their culture is ok.

• What the recruiter said is true. Don’t go into internship thinking you will get a full time job. It depends on luck if there is a headcount when you graduate and if there are people within the company that still know, like and think you are competent enough to hire you.

“Whenever I hear people around me complain about the rising living costs due to inflation, war and increased taxes, I can’t help but really just want to speak to them the truth especially late millennials and gen Z kids.

No doubt, it is true that consumer good prices have increased significantly over the years, housing getting less affordable, rents are spiking, COE has reached its all-time high, fuel price has gone up, and the list goes on.

However, do people especially kids these days do their part to overcome this situation?

The short answer is NO, as most people that I know including friends and family, and uni mates, they all don’t really treat this as a serious issue, and it’s just sickening to see how people complain everyday without putting some serious effort.

Let me list out a few “hobbies” or in other words, “entertainments” that youngsters do nowadays. Every now and then I see friends sharing stories of their staycations, and their frequency can be as high as once every 1-2 months. Youngsters also don’t refrain themselves from frequently dining at places like HDL, beauty in a pot, din tai fung, and a whole bunch of fancy cafes and restaurants.

It’s so terrifying to the point where it has actually become mandatory that one must dine in at least once a week at some fancy eatery, and I honestly ain’t sure if they realize that. Starbucks or coffee bean has become a usual hangout spot to “study” too, and they can easily order food and drink that cost up to $20-30 per pax.

The convenience of cabbing just makes basic transportation even more accessible that they can just Grab without even actually trying their best to settle for buses or MRT. I personally know a few friends and acquaintances who already got platinum tier for Grab. “I’m lazy”, “it’s too far”, “I don’t wanna wake up so early”, “it’s raining”, “I just wanna chill”, so on and so forth, these are the common excuses to spend tens of dollars just for a short period of unurgent convenience.

I think I don’t even have to point out branded goods and limited-edition clothing and sneakers that youngsters don’t mind forking out hundreds of dollars for per item. Is it also necessary to purchase the latest phone models?

I don’t get why people can’t just buy only when necessary or at least wait till the next model releases and buy the current model as its price drops.

There is no need to attend every single one of your friend’s birthday, and instead, do kindly wish them and just go for those whom you’re closer with. If you have friend’s birthday all the way from January till December, and for each birthday, the expenses are unexpected because it’s not up to you to decide the venue and type of birthday celebration, you’ll only end up being a broke ass.

Please have some decency to reject politely, and if rejection would only cause them to be unhappy with you, then congratulations, as you’ve just witnessed the true side of your “friends”.

It’s totally fine not to invest your money if you don’t wanna risk losing money, but at least don’t let your cash flow out so quickly, and have some proper control over your money. You can’t control the government’s plan, as well as the happenings all over the world that negatively impacts your financial situation, but I believe there are a ton of simple and implementable ways to reduce your unnecessarily hefty expenses.

So stop complaining and do your part if you don’t wanna go broke!”

Am I wrong for expecting my fiancé to stop making me pay for 50% of the bills?

I had been with my girlfriend for almost two years now, and it had been a rollercoaster ride.

From the moment I met her, I knew I had found the one. She was everything I ever wanted in a partner and I was so happy to have her in my life.

But lately, things had been rocky. She had been playing this game that I didn’t understand, where she would ignore me or act distant whenever she was unhappy about something.

She wouldn’t talk to me or try to solve our problems, instead she would just play this ‘cold war’ with me and leave me in the dark.

At first, I thought it was just a phase and that things would get better soon. But as time went on, it became clear that this wasn’t just a phase, it was a pattern of behaviour. She would be cold and distant, and then when I tried to talk to her about what was going on she would just shut down and go back to playing her coldwar game.

I tried to talk to her about it multiple times, but she refused to open up. She would just keep playing her coldwar game, and I felt like she was pushing me away. I was so frustrated and hurt that I finally reached my breaking point.

I told her that if she didn’t want to talk to me, then she could just play her game forever and I was done. I said goodbye and walked away, not sure if I would ever see her again.

That was the last time I saw her. To this day, I still think about her and wonder if she ever stopped playing her game and opened up to me. But deep down, I know the answer is no. I had had enough, and it was time for me to move on.

My experience with my ex-girlfriend taught me a valuable lesson: no matter how much you love someone, if they aren’t willing to communicate and work on their problems, then it’s time to let go. No matter how hard it may be, it’s the only way to find true happiness.

Interning now at a corporate company.

A non-executive staff saw me on the first day and started to talk to other colleagues about my appearance as a student.

After she went about that, she also started to talk to me rudely, criticising me and yelling at me many times.

I would often give in and do what she asks of me when she yells at me. She would then proudly tell everyone else that yelling made me obedient. One other colleague sided me and advised her not to do it, but I still continued to be picked on by her. I tried to tell my boss what happened but I would be ghosted and avoided immediately.

What should I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• You can inform your school or lecturer about the situation. I can understand if you are being told off if you make a mistake. However, being yelled at for no reason is bullying. Please tell your senior to talk to you nicely, you don’t deserve such treatment. Stop her from yelling at you, she will just make it worse. Workplace bullies enjoyed silent preys. Be strong! Learn how to protect yourself.

• Actually just tell her off. She can’t do anything about it. Cos you are an intern only. If she yells, u can yell louder. If anyone asks, say u thought she is hard of hearing because she yells all the time, so u were just being considerate

• Learn to suck it up. You may not believe it but yelling also happens at management levels. An internship is only temporary. In working life, you just plan your exit strategy accordingly.

• Of course it’s not ok to be bullied but when I was an intern more than a decade ago (when the old birds are more moronic), there were such seniors who thought they were really entitled to ill-treat interns. Deep inside, I knew they were ill-mannered and we cant change the way they look at us at first. That’s their bloody problem. If you can, don’t get frightened and step up. We always have room for improvement. Improve your body language: strong eye contact, pull up your shoulders, straight posture, stand firm, keep your breathing slow and steady, firm tone when you speak. I also forced myself to speed up my learning at the job, make sure I’m proactive, efficient and after sometime, your capability can change people’s opinion. Always keep in mind, that you can only be a better version of yourself so you won’t have to be treated the same way in the future. Please stay strong dear!

Very very long story. TW : Physical + Mental manipulation, Unalive attempt.

This will be a long story. Also, I understand the amount of hate I will get, however, I deserve the hate. In fact, I don’t deserve anything good in life after what I did. I just need to get this off my chest. Also for the admins, I did my best to censor sensitive words. If there’s any I miss please help me replace or censor them a lil. This is for awareness purposes.

This happened between 2013 – 2017. And to cover up his real name, I’m going to call him Henry in this post.

Henry was the greatest guy anyone could ever be with. He’s every girl’s dream guy in terms of personality. He’s very understanding, funny, joyful, mature, romantic, smart, a great cook, non-judgemental, extremely loyal, extremely selfless, etc. For some bonus, he has a very handsome look. I dare to say that he’s near perfect.

But I destroyed that.

In 2013, when I met him, I fell in love with him after getting to know him for few months. I got some contacts to try to find out what kind of woman he would like to be with. After some digging, found out he only wants an understanding woman. To be honest, I’m not an understanding person. But to get him, I decided to pretend to be understanding. It works after a month or so. He asked me out and confessed his feelings for me.

He treated me so well. He cooked for me, he was my crying shoulder, he was my ear to listen to my problems, he was the light of my life.

But I was the total opposite. I gave nothing in return cause being understanding is so not me and I’m done pretending at that time.

After 6 months, I started to pick fights with him. He was so patient and handled it well, but I decided to fight him anyways. I want to see how far would he bend if things get real ugly.

I pulled his hair, I hit him, I kicked him, I pushed him, I yelled at him in public, I called him names, I humiliated him. After all that, all he did was apologizing for everything. Why? Cause I continuously gaslight him. He has soft heart, so when I hurt him he will always beg on his knees and say that everything is his fault. He even cries sometimes.

He doesn’t have a happy family. When he had a huge family problem, and say that he needed me, I ghosted him on purpose. I left him in the dark. Only when he recovered from whatever issues he was dealing with was when I got back with him. At one point he said “You used to be so understanding..I don’t know what I did that made you changed this way..if you’re not happy, please tell me. We can break up in peace. I don’t want you to be hurt by me anymore..if you’re hurt, then I’m hurt too..”. He still blames himself eventho I’m the problem.

What I did when he said that? I threatened to unalive myself if we ever break up. As always, he begged me not to do so. I did that just to make sure that I’m in control.

This goes on for years. Almost everyday. But he kept trying to be a good boyfriend to me. He never touch me or raise his voice at me whenever I caused a pointless drama.

Years later, in 2017, I said something horrible about his 18 year old cat that recently passed due to car accident. Something like “Its just a cat. Who cares? Get over it”. And that moment was the first time he showed a lil bit of anger. He told me to stop saying anything if I have nothing nice to say. I provoked him still, things get really really heated but I was still being immature and took the risk to see how far will he bend.. And..

He slapped me.

He slapped me so hard, I fell on the floor. I looked up to him and I saw an extremely furious face. I have never been so scared in my life. However, about 5 seconds later, his face changed immediately to regret, his hands were shaking, tears started falling from his eyes, and he immediately attended me, asking me if I’m okay repeatedly. His voice was in fear, his body was trembling, he was in a state of shock and he was in his knees checking if I’m okay. He repeatedly asking if I’m okay and that he’s very sorry. He was begging for my for forgiveness, repeatedly apologizing , to the point he forgot to breathe properly.

I just stared at him. I then told him to go away and leave me alone. He was begging still, but eventually, he left but he told me that once I’m okay to please contact him.

A week passed, but he always tried to call me. I ignored him all the time. Just to pass some time, I cheated on him with some guy in my class. This guy has no idea about Henry at all.

Days passed, I saw Henry, holding flowers and chocolates in front of my house. Apparently he wants to give it to me to say that he’s sorry. I told him I found someone else. He cried. He cried so hard he couldn’t breath. He was asking why but I didn’t give him any answer. I told him that I don’t need him and that this new guy is way better than him in every single way. I locked my main door and go to my room to sleep. Completely ignoring him.

The same day, at night, I got a call from his phone, I picked it up for some reason, and apparently it was his bestfriend (Let’s call him Joshua), informing me that Henry attempted to take his own life. He saw him trying to h*ng himself and stopped him. He said that he was physically harming himself in every way possible. His bestfriend had to call the neighbors for help. Henry was screaming and asking everyone to let him unalive himself and said that he’s a monster and that he deserves nothing in life. His hands, body, face, was full of cuts he inflicted on himself.

He ended up in the hospital in November 2017. When I went to the hospital to visit him, Joshua saw me and immediately stopped me. He asked me to go away. I insist to see Henry. And then Joshua told me everything that happened that night.

Right after Henry found out I have someone else, he called Joshua to meet him at his house. Joshua came and Henry was crying so hard that he vomited, asking him what did he do wrong. He kept asking if he’s enough, that he’s a good person, what he meant for me. He kept scrolling through his messages with me to see where did he go wrong. Joshua was there the whole time, learning more about me from the text messages. Hours went by and Joshua wants to buy some food for them both. He went out, grabbed Henry’s favorite food, only to find him trying to unalive himself. That’s where it all started that night.

I broke down after that and I decided to leave the hospital.

In the middle of December 2017, Henry was discharged (Was informed by some of my girl friends who knew him).

At that point, I felt guilt. It took that far to realized that I’m the monster. I’m the toxic one. I’ve destroyed him. I don’t deserve him.

He wasn’t the same after that. My girl friends who are still in contact with him told me that Henry has turned very heartless. He turned rude, he started arguing loudly whenever people tease him (even if it’s a friendly joke), he got involved in fights, he cursed a lot, and always being extremely defensive over the smallest matter. The only thing remain the same is his love for cats as my girl friends saw him regularly feeding the strays.

I guess his bad behavior is his defense mechanism of not letting anyone to step on him as I did..

I tried to be a better person since then. I started to work on myself, treat everyone nicer, serve community service, help stray animals, etc just to give back to society and help others.

But the guilt haunts me till this day. Nothing I do will ever unmake things in the past. I tried and I tried. But I’m a mess right now.

I know I will forever be living with this guilt.

I wanted to try talk to him. But I’m scared. I’m scared if he’ll react negatively. I don’t want him to be hurt anymore so I don’t know if I should..

5 years later, I saw him last week with someone else. They look like they’re married and…he looks so happy. Whoever that woman is…she treated him the way he deserves to be treated. I wish I did better…

To everyone out there, if your partner treats you great, please don’t try to make drama out of nothing just cause you’re bored. You’ll end up like me in the end.

You’ll also end up creating a bad guy in the process.

Appreciate your partner.

Appreciate the fact they love you and do everything for you.

Thank you for reading all the way..

Have a nice day.

I am a man who is deeply concerned by the rise in gender inequality in Singapore.

While the nation is constantly striving to promote gender equality, the fact remains that men are still largely disadvantaged in many areas.

This has led me to consider taking action in order to protect men’s rights in Singapore.

I am proposing that a Men Charter be set up in Singapore. This charter will be a document that will provide men with a set of rights and privileges that are exclusive to them. It will be an official document that will be recognized by the government and other legal institutions. This charter will protect men’s rights and ensure that they are not discriminated against due to their gender.

Example: Alimony is often one-sided.

The Men Charter will be a comprehensive document that will address a variety of issues. Firstly, it will address the issue of gender-based discrimination in the workplace. It will ensure that men are provided with equal opportunities regardless of their gender.

This includes ensuring that men are not discriminated against in terms of wages, hiring practices, and promotions.

The Men Charter will also address the issue of gender-based violence. It will ensure that men are protected from physical and verbal abuse, as well as harassment. This will also include legal protection for men who are victims of domestic violence.

Finally, the Men Charter will also address the issue of gender-based stereotypes. It will ensure that men are not judged based on their gender, but rather on their individual merits. This will include ensuring that men are not judged for their physical appearance, sexual orientation, or any other factor that is not related to their abilities.

The Men Charter will be open to all men in Singapore, regardless of their race, religion, or socio-economic status. It will also be open to both genders so that women can benefit from its protections as well.

I believe that the Men Charter is an important step in the right direction when it comes to protecting men’s rights in Singapore. It will ensure that all men are treated equally and with respect. It will also provide a platform for men to voice their concerns and ensure that their rights are being respected.

I am confident that the Men Charter will be a success if it is properly implemented. I am confident that the government and the people of Singapore will support this initiative and help to ensure that men’s rights are respected. I am hopeful that the Men Charter will be a success and will help to create a more equal and just society for all.

I recently read an article that caused me to pause and really reflect on the subject of gender roles in the workplace.

The article reported on a woman who had made some very controversial comments about men who earn less than her. She was quoted as saying that these men were “garbage” and that she felt superior to them.

This woman is certainly not alone in her beliefs, as I have heard similar sentiments from other women in my life.

This statement made me think about the societal expectations placed upon women and men in the workplace.

Specifically, I began to consider the idea that women are expected to take a more passive role in the workplace, while men should be the primary earners. This notion has been around for quite some time, and it has had a detrimental effect on the way that women are perceived and treated in the workplace.

First and foremost, women are often seen as the “lesser” gender in the workplace.

Women are expected to take a backseat role, while men take the lead. Women are expected to stay in the background and do whatever is necessary to support their male counterparts. This can lead to women feeling like they are not valued, or worse, like they are disposable.

This is especially true when it comes to wages. Women are often paid less than their male counterparts, even when they are doing the same job. This inequality can lead to resentment and a feeling of inferiority.

The woman’s comment about men who earn less than her was particularly concerning because it perpetuates this idea that women are superior to men. It implies that women should not be expected to “settle” for less than what they are worth, and that men should not be given preferential treatment because of their gender.

This attitude is counter-productive and does nothing to promote gender equality in the workplace.

The reality is that men and women should be treated as equals in the workplace. Men and women should be paid the same for the same amount of work. Women should not be expected to take a backseat role, and men should not be seen as the primary earners. This attitude is damaging to both genders and only further perpetuates the gender inequality that exists in the workplace.

It is important to remember that everyone has value, regardless of their gender or income level. No one should be looked down upon because of their income level or gender. Everyone deserves respect and to be treated with dignity. This is especially true in the workplace, where everyone should have the same opportunities to succeed, regardless of their gender.

It is my hope that, in time, society will come to see that women are just as capable and valuable as men in the workplace. Women should not be judged based on their income level, and men should not be expected to take a primary role in the workplace.

Everyone should be respected and given the same opportunities to succeed, regardless of their gender. Only then will we begin to see true gender equality in the workplace.

Growing up, I was always fascinated by my grandfather’s stories of his younger years. He happened to be born in the early 1930s and lived through the Japanese Occupation of Singapore during World War II, which was a tumultuous period in the history of Singapore.

Reminded of the war whenever he hears the Total Defence Day sirens

I remember one day, when I was a young boy, the war warning sirens went off. I was too young to understand the gravity of the situation, but my grandfather had a look of dread on his face. He said that the sound of the sirens reminded him of his life during the Japanese Occupation of Singapore.

My grandfather told me tales of how he and his family were forced to flee their home and take refuge in the jungle as the Japanese forces invaded and occupied Singapore. He remembered the fear of not knowing what would happen next, the struggle to survive in the jungle, and the sorrow of losing so many friends and family members.

He also told me about the harsh conditions of the Japanese Occupation. He remembered the severe food shortages, the lack of proper medical care, and the oppressive rule of the Japanese forces. He said that during this time, he and his family were living in constant fear of the unknown, not knowing when the next attack or massacre would happen.

Shared that the locals were brave and united in those times

My grandfather also spoke of the bravery of the people of Singapore during the occupation. He remembered how the locals would band together and help each other in times of need, and how they would take risks to protect their fellow citizens. He told me of how the people of Singapore would often take part in acts of resistance against the Japanese forces, such as smuggling food and weapons to help the British forces fighting back.

These stories of my grandfather’s life during the Japanese Occupation of Singapore have stayed with me ever since. Even though I was too young to understand the severity of the situation, his stories gave me a glimpse into the courage and strength of the people of Singapore during that difficult period.

Whenever the war warning sirens go off, I can’t help but remember my grandfather’s stories. It serves as a reminder of the resilience of the people of Singapore, and the strength of human spirit in the face of adversity.