Am I wrong for expecting my fiancé to stop making me pay for 50% of the bills?

I had been with my girlfriend for almost two years now, and it had been a rollercoaster ride.

From the moment I met her, I knew I had found the one. She was everything I ever wanted in a partner and I was so happy to have her in my life.

But lately, things had been rocky. She had been playing this game that I didn’t understand, where she would ignore me or act distant whenever she was unhappy about something.

She wouldn’t talk to me or try to solve our problems, instead she would just play this ‘cold war’ with me and leave me in the dark.

At first, I thought it was just a phase and that things would get better soon. But as time went on, it became clear that this wasn’t just a phase, it was a pattern of behaviour. She would be cold and distant, and then when I tried to talk to her about what was going on she would just shut down and go back to playing her coldwar game.

I tried to talk to her about it multiple times, but she refused to open up. She would just keep playing her coldwar game, and I felt like she was pushing me away. I was so frustrated and hurt that I finally reached my breaking point.

I told her that if she didn’t want to talk to me, then she could just play her game forever and I was done. I said goodbye and walked away, not sure if I would ever see her again.

That was the last time I saw her. To this day, I still think about her and wonder if she ever stopped playing her game and opened up to me. But deep down, I know the answer is no. I had had enough, and it was time for me to move on.

My experience with my ex-girlfriend taught me a valuable lesson: no matter how much you love someone, if they aren’t willing to communicate and work on their problems, then it’s time to let go. No matter how hard it may be, it’s the only way to find true happiness.

Interning now at a corporate company.

A non-executive staff saw me on the first day and started to talk to other colleagues about my appearance as a student.

After she went about that, she also started to talk to me rudely, criticising me and yelling at me many times.

I would often give in and do what she asks of me when she yells at me. She would then proudly tell everyone else that yelling made me obedient. One other colleague sided me and advised her not to do it, but I still continued to be picked on by her. I tried to tell my boss what happened but I would be ghosted and avoided immediately.

What should I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• You can inform your school or lecturer about the situation. I can understand if you are being told off if you make a mistake. However, being yelled at for no reason is bullying. Please tell your senior to talk to you nicely, you don’t deserve such treatment. Stop her from yelling at you, she will just make it worse. Workplace bullies enjoyed silent preys. Be strong! Learn how to protect yourself.

• Actually just tell her off. She can’t do anything about it. Cos you are an intern only. If she yells, u can yell louder. If anyone asks, say u thought she is hard of hearing because she yells all the time, so u were just being considerate

• Learn to suck it up. You may not believe it but yelling also happens at management levels. An internship is only temporary. In working life, you just plan your exit strategy accordingly.

• Of course it’s not ok to be bullied but when I was an intern more than a decade ago (when the old birds are more moronic), there were such seniors who thought they were really entitled to ill-treat interns. Deep inside, I knew they were ill-mannered and we cant change the way they look at us at first. That’s their bloody problem. If you can, don’t get frightened and step up. We always have room for improvement. Improve your body language: strong eye contact, pull up your shoulders, straight posture, stand firm, keep your breathing slow and steady, firm tone when you speak. I also forced myself to speed up my learning at the job, make sure I’m proactive, efficient and after sometime, your capability can change people’s opinion. Always keep in mind, that you can only be a better version of yourself so you won’t have to be treated the same way in the future. Please stay strong dear!

Very very long story. TW : Physical + Mental manipulation, Unalive attempt.

This will be a long story. Also, I understand the amount of hate I will get, however, I deserve the hate. In fact, I don’t deserve anything good in life after what I did. I just need to get this off my chest. Also for the admins, I did my best to censor sensitive words. If there’s any I miss please help me replace or censor them a lil. This is for awareness purposes.

This happened between 2013 – 2017. And to cover up his real name, I’m going to call him Henry in this post.

Henry was the greatest guy anyone could ever be with. He’s every girl’s dream guy in terms of personality. He’s very understanding, funny, joyful, mature, romantic, smart, a great cook, non-judgemental, extremely loyal, extremely selfless, etc. For some bonus, he has a very handsome look. I dare to say that he’s near perfect.

But I destroyed that.

In 2013, when I met him, I fell in love with him after getting to know him for few months. I got some contacts to try to find out what kind of woman he would like to be with. After some digging, found out he only wants an understanding woman. To be honest, I’m not an understanding person. But to get him, I decided to pretend to be understanding. It works after a month or so. He asked me out and confessed his feelings for me.

He treated me so well. He cooked for me, he was my crying shoulder, he was my ear to listen to my problems, he was the light of my life.

But I was the total opposite. I gave nothing in return cause being understanding is so not me and I’m done pretending at that time.

After 6 months, I started to pick fights with him. He was so patient and handled it well, but I decided to fight him anyways. I want to see how far would he bend if things get real ugly.

I pulled his hair, I hit him, I kicked him, I pushed him, I yelled at him in public, I called him names, I humiliated him. After all that, all he did was apologizing for everything. Why? Cause I continuously gaslight him. He has soft heart, so when I hurt him he will always beg on his knees and say that everything is his fault. He even cries sometimes.

He doesn’t have a happy family. When he had a huge family problem, and say that he needed me, I ghosted him on purpose. I left him in the dark. Only when he recovered from whatever issues he was dealing with was when I got back with him. At one point he said “You used to be so understanding..I don’t know what I did that made you changed this way..if you’re not happy, please tell me. We can break up in peace. I don’t want you to be hurt by me anymore..if you’re hurt, then I’m hurt too..”. He still blames himself eventho I’m the problem.

What I did when he said that? I threatened to unalive myself if we ever break up. As always, he begged me not to do so. I did that just to make sure that I’m in control.

This goes on for years. Almost everyday. But he kept trying to be a good boyfriend to me. He never touch me or raise his voice at me whenever I caused a pointless drama.

Years later, in 2017, I said something horrible about his 18 year old cat that recently passed due to car accident. Something like “Its just a cat. Who cares? Get over it”. And that moment was the first time he showed a lil bit of anger. He told me to stop saying anything if I have nothing nice to say. I provoked him still, things get really really heated but I was still being immature and took the risk to see how far will he bend.. And..

He slapped me.

He slapped me so hard, I fell on the floor. I looked up to him and I saw an extremely furious face. I have never been so scared in my life. However, about 5 seconds later, his face changed immediately to regret, his hands were shaking, tears started falling from his eyes, and he immediately attended me, asking me if I’m okay repeatedly. His voice was in fear, his body was trembling, he was in a state of shock and he was in his knees checking if I’m okay. He repeatedly asking if I’m okay and that he’s very sorry. He was begging for my for forgiveness, repeatedly apologizing , to the point he forgot to breathe properly.

I just stared at him. I then told him to go away and leave me alone. He was begging still, but eventually, he left but he told me that once I’m okay to please contact him.

A week passed, but he always tried to call me. I ignored him all the time. Just to pass some time, I cheated on him with some guy in my class. This guy has no idea about Henry at all.

Days passed, I saw Henry, holding flowers and chocolates in front of my house. Apparently he wants to give it to me to say that he’s sorry. I told him I found someone else. He cried. He cried so hard he couldn’t breath. He was asking why but I didn’t give him any answer. I told him that I don’t need him and that this new guy is way better than him in every single way. I locked my main door and go to my room to sleep. Completely ignoring him.

The same day, at night, I got a call from his phone, I picked it up for some reason, and apparently it was his bestfriend (Let’s call him Joshua), informing me that Henry attempted to take his own life. He saw him trying to h*ng himself and stopped him. He said that he was physically harming himself in every way possible. His bestfriend had to call the neighbors for help. Henry was screaming and asking everyone to let him unalive himself and said that he’s a monster and that he deserves nothing in life. His hands, body, face, was full of cuts he inflicted on himself.

He ended up in the hospital in November 2017. When I went to the hospital to visit him, Joshua saw me and immediately stopped me. He asked me to go away. I insist to see Henry. And then Joshua told me everything that happened that night.

Right after Henry found out I have someone else, he called Joshua to meet him at his house. Joshua came and Henry was crying so hard that he vomited, asking him what did he do wrong. He kept asking if he’s enough, that he’s a good person, what he meant for me. He kept scrolling through his messages with me to see where did he go wrong. Joshua was there the whole time, learning more about me from the text messages. Hours went by and Joshua wants to buy some food for them both. He went out, grabbed Henry’s favorite food, only to find him trying to unalive himself. That’s where it all started that night.

I broke down after that and I decided to leave the hospital.

In the middle of December 2017, Henry was discharged (Was informed by some of my girl friends who knew him).

At that point, I felt guilt. It took that far to realized that I’m the monster. I’m the toxic one. I’ve destroyed him. I don’t deserve him.

He wasn’t the same after that. My girl friends who are still in contact with him told me that Henry has turned very heartless. He turned rude, he started arguing loudly whenever people tease him (even if it’s a friendly joke), he got involved in fights, he cursed a lot, and always being extremely defensive over the smallest matter. The only thing remain the same is his love for cats as my girl friends saw him regularly feeding the strays.

I guess his bad behavior is his defense mechanism of not letting anyone to step on him as I did..

I tried to be a better person since then. I started to work on myself, treat everyone nicer, serve community service, help stray animals, etc just to give back to society and help others.

But the guilt haunts me till this day. Nothing I do will ever unmake things in the past. I tried and I tried. But I’m a mess right now.

I know I will forever be living with this guilt.

I wanted to try talk to him. But I’m scared. I’m scared if he’ll react negatively. I don’t want him to be hurt anymore so I don’t know if I should..

5 years later, I saw him last week with someone else. They look like they’re married and…he looks so happy. Whoever that woman is…she treated him the way he deserves to be treated. I wish I did better…

To everyone out there, if your partner treats you great, please don’t try to make drama out of nothing just cause you’re bored. You’ll end up like me in the end.

You’ll also end up creating a bad guy in the process.

Appreciate your partner.

Appreciate the fact they love you and do everything for you.

Thank you for reading all the way..

Have a nice day.

I am a man who is deeply concerned by the rise in gender inequality in Singapore.

While the nation is constantly striving to promote gender equality, the fact remains that men are still largely disadvantaged in many areas.

This has led me to consider taking action in order to protect men’s rights in Singapore.

I am proposing that a Men Charter be set up in Singapore. This charter will be a document that will provide men with a set of rights and privileges that are exclusive to them. It will be an official document that will be recognized by the government and other legal institutions. This charter will protect men’s rights and ensure that they are not discriminated against due to their gender.

Example: Alimony is often one-sided.

The Men Charter will be a comprehensive document that will address a variety of issues. Firstly, it will address the issue of gender-based discrimination in the workplace. It will ensure that men are provided with equal opportunities regardless of their gender.

This includes ensuring that men are not discriminated against in terms of wages, hiring practices, and promotions.

The Men Charter will also address the issue of gender-based violence. It will ensure that men are protected from physical and verbal abuse, as well as harassment. This will also include legal protection for men who are victims of domestic violence.

Finally, the Men Charter will also address the issue of gender-based stereotypes. It will ensure that men are not judged based on their gender, but rather on their individual merits. This will include ensuring that men are not judged for their physical appearance, sexual orientation, or any other factor that is not related to their abilities.

The Men Charter will be open to all men in Singapore, regardless of their race, religion, or socio-economic status. It will also be open to both genders so that women can benefit from its protections as well.

I believe that the Men Charter is an important step in the right direction when it comes to protecting men’s rights in Singapore. It will ensure that all men are treated equally and with respect. It will also provide a platform for men to voice their concerns and ensure that their rights are being respected.

I am confident that the Men Charter will be a success if it is properly implemented. I am confident that the government and the people of Singapore will support this initiative and help to ensure that men’s rights are respected. I am hopeful that the Men Charter will be a success and will help to create a more equal and just society for all.

I recently read an article that caused me to pause and really reflect on the subject of gender roles in the workplace.

The article reported on a woman who had made some very controversial comments about men who earn less than her. She was quoted as saying that these men were “garbage” and that she felt superior to them.

This woman is certainly not alone in her beliefs, as I have heard similar sentiments from other women in my life.

This statement made me think about the societal expectations placed upon women and men in the workplace.

Specifically, I began to consider the idea that women are expected to take a more passive role in the workplace, while men should be the primary earners. This notion has been around for quite some time, and it has had a detrimental effect on the way that women are perceived and treated in the workplace.

First and foremost, women are often seen as the “lesser” gender in the workplace.

Women are expected to take a backseat role, while men take the lead. Women are expected to stay in the background and do whatever is necessary to support their male counterparts. This can lead to women feeling like they are not valued, or worse, like they are disposable.

This is especially true when it comes to wages. Women are often paid less than their male counterparts, even when they are doing the same job. This inequality can lead to resentment and a feeling of inferiority.

The woman’s comment about men who earn less than her was particularly concerning because it perpetuates this idea that women are superior to men. It implies that women should not be expected to “settle” for less than what they are worth, and that men should not be given preferential treatment because of their gender.

This attitude is counter-productive and does nothing to promote gender equality in the workplace.

The reality is that men and women should be treated as equals in the workplace. Men and women should be paid the same for the same amount of work. Women should not be expected to take a backseat role, and men should not be seen as the primary earners. This attitude is damaging to both genders and only further perpetuates the gender inequality that exists in the workplace.

It is important to remember that everyone has value, regardless of their gender or income level. No one should be looked down upon because of their income level or gender. Everyone deserves respect and to be treated with dignity. This is especially true in the workplace, where everyone should have the same opportunities to succeed, regardless of their gender.

It is my hope that, in time, society will come to see that women are just as capable and valuable as men in the workplace. Women should not be judged based on their income level, and men should not be expected to take a primary role in the workplace.

Everyone should be respected and given the same opportunities to succeed, regardless of their gender. Only then will we begin to see true gender equality in the workplace.

Growing up, I was always fascinated by my grandfather’s stories of his younger years. He happened to be born in the early 1930s and lived through the Japanese Occupation of Singapore during World War II, which was a tumultuous period in the history of Singapore.

Reminded of the war whenever he hears the Total Defence Day sirens

I remember one day, when I was a young boy, the war warning sirens went off. I was too young to understand the gravity of the situation, but my grandfather had a look of dread on his face. He said that the sound of the sirens reminded him of his life during the Japanese Occupation of Singapore.

My grandfather told me tales of how he and his family were forced to flee their home and take refuge in the jungle as the Japanese forces invaded and occupied Singapore. He remembered the fear of not knowing what would happen next, the struggle to survive in the jungle, and the sorrow of losing so many friends and family members.

He also told me about the harsh conditions of the Japanese Occupation. He remembered the severe food shortages, the lack of proper medical care, and the oppressive rule of the Japanese forces. He said that during this time, he and his family were living in constant fear of the unknown, not knowing when the next attack or massacre would happen.

Shared that the locals were brave and united in those times

My grandfather also spoke of the bravery of the people of Singapore during the occupation. He remembered how the locals would band together and help each other in times of need, and how they would take risks to protect their fellow citizens. He told me of how the people of Singapore would often take part in acts of resistance against the Japanese forces, such as smuggling food and weapons to help the British forces fighting back.

These stories of my grandfather’s life during the Japanese Occupation of Singapore have stayed with me ever since. Even though I was too young to understand the severity of the situation, his stories gave me a glimpse into the courage and strength of the people of Singapore during that difficult period.

Whenever the war warning sirens go off, I can’t help but remember my grandfather’s stories. It serves as a reminder of the resilience of the people of Singapore, and the strength of human spirit in the face of adversity.

Growing up, I was always aware of the inequality of the world.

I had friends who were from affluent backgrounds and friends who were from average households. It didn’t take me long to realize that those with more resources had much better access to opportunities than those who had less.

I was never envious of the wealth, but rather of the opportunities that came with it.

I always felt like I was at a disadvantage, especially when it came to getting a job. I didn’t have any special skills or qualifications, and I wasn’t particularly good at anything either.

My family wasn’t well-off, and my mother had to work two jobs to make ends meet. In school, I was an average student at best and I wasn’t sure what my future held.

As I looked at my best friend, I couldn’t believe how lucky he was. His mother had just managed to get him a job at a renowned local bank, despite the fact that he could barely spell basic English. I knew that there were many more qualified candidates who were just as qualified and had a better command of the language than him, but who were overlooked because of their lack of connections.

The world is not fair.

I had known my friend since we were in poly, and I’d seen firsthand how hard he worked for his grades but always ended with nothing but disappointment.

In every group friends there is always a dumb one.

Meanwhile, my friend’s mother was able to pull some strings and get him the job he wanted, despite his limited English skills. While I was happy for him, I couldn’t help but feel a little envious and resentful.

It seemed unfair that someone with an impressive CV and a great academic record was overlooked in favour of someone who couldn’t even spell basic English. But what made it worse was the fact that the person who was chosen was someone who was connected to the right people.

It made me realize how unfair the world can be. It doesn’t matter how hard you work or how qualified you are if you don’t have the “right” connections.

I couldn’t help but think about how many other people were in a similar situation. How many people with impressive resumes and great qualifications were overlooked in favour of those with the right connections? How many people lost out on the chance to pursue their dreams because of their lack of connections?

It made me sad to think about, but it also made me angry. It made me angry that the world is so unfair. It made me angry that the ones who succeed are often the ones with the right connections, not the ones who are most qualified.

It’s easy to get discouraged when you see something like this happening. It can make you feel like you’re not good enough and that no matter how hard you work, you’ll never make it.

But I want to encourage everyone out there to keep going, because eventually, hard work and dedication will pay off.

My friend, was always a very ambitious person. He always had grand ideas about how to make money and get rich quickly.

As such, he decided to open three shops at once. He opened a shoe store, a coffee shop, and a bakery.

I supported him and even helped him to be free labour when he needed

I was really impressed with his ambition and I thought that he had a good chance at succeeding. I supported him in every way I could, from helping him with the paperwork to offering advice on how to manage the three stores and also offering him labour when he needed manpower.

Unfortunately, he was not able to manage the three stores properly. He was so focused on getting them opened that he neglected the important task of actually managing them.

After he opened all three stores, he began to hang out with other friends who were detrimental to him to the point that he did not have any time to focus on the important tasks such as marketing the stores, hiring staff, and managing the finances.

The stores were not properly stocked and he was not able to attract enough customers. The coffee shop and bakery were not able to make enough money to pay the rent and they both eventually closed down.

The shoe store was the last to go, but it too eventually closed as he did not have enough money to pay the bills.

I was really disappointed in him. I had genuinely thought that he had a good chance at succeeding, but his lack of proper management had led to the failure of all three stores. I tried to talk to him about it, but he was too embarrassed to talk about it.

Felt sad that he failed in his business

My friend was really devastated by the failure of the stores. He was someone with such a high ego and does not take advice well and now that all his stores had failed, he felt so embarrassed that he refused to talk to anyone.

He eventually MIA-ed from our lives.

I was really sad to see my friend go. He had so much potential and I had really believed that he could have succeeded if he had managed the stores properly.

It was a really hard lesson for my friend to learn, but it was a valuable one.

I hope that he has learned from his mistake and that he will be more cautious in the future when it comes to taking on such ambitious projects.

It had been six months since my girlfriend and I had moved in together and we were finally starting to get settled.

We had a great apartment and were starting to make it our own, but there was one problem that kept coming up: credit cards.

She applied for a credit card a few months ago, but her application was rejected due to her lack of credit history. She had never owned a credit card before and was ineligible to apply.

This was a major problem for us because we needed a way to pay for everyday expenses and larger purchases.

That’s when she had an idea.

What if I applied for a credit card in my name? I had a good credit score and I was confident I would be approved.

So, I applied for a card and it was approved. Now, I had a credit card in my name that I could use to pay for things, but I had to make sure she was able to use it as well. I decided to make her an authorized user on my card, which meant she would be able to use it as if it were her own.

I gave her the credit card and told her to use it. She was hesitant at first, but I assured her that since the card was in my name, I would be responsible for any charges she made. I also made sure to set up an automated payment for the card so that it was always paid on time.

This is where the situation happened

She starts swiping the card to buy stuff that has little to no use, it was like she is using it for the sake of using it. Buying absolute garbage.

She bought so much makeup, a new phone a laptop and a necklace until the card’s limit EXPLODED through the roof.

I then confront her about it, she says “I am not responsible for the charges, that’s what you said right?”

I feel like after knowing her for so long this is the first time I really know her. She tries to act dumb but no one is that dumb.

COME ON!

I demanded for her to payback but she did not want to and I kicked her out of the apartment and end it right there.

I called the bank and reported that the charges were fraudulent and I only managed get some of the money back. Oh well, better than nothing.