It was a few years ago when I first met my girlfriend. I was immediately smitten by her charming personality and good looks. She seemed to have a good head on her shoulders and I thought that I had finally found the one.

Little did I know, beneath her seemingly perfect exterior was a controlling and possessive nature.

At first, it was a little subtle. She would always want to know where I was and who I was with. If I wanted to hang out with friends, she would expect me to call her and check in with her constantly. But I was in love and I wanted to make her happy, so I didn’t think too much of it and I just complied.

But as time went on, her controlling behavior got worse and worse. She didn’t want me to go out with my friends at all. She wanted me to stay home with her all the time. She wouldn’t let me do anything without her permission. Even when I had to go to work, she would call and text me multiple times to make sure I was where I said I was.

I started to feel like I was in jail. I felt like I had no freedom or autonomy. I was so frustrated and angry but I didn’t know how to express it without getting into an argument. I tried to talk to her about it but she would just get defensive and accuse me of not loving her enough. I felt like I was walking on eggshells around her and I just couldn’t take it anymore.

After several arguments, I finally decided that I had to leave her. I was tired of being controlled and I wanted to be free. I tried to explain to her that her behavior was unhealthy and not fair to me, but she just wouldn’t listen. So I had no choice but to break up with her.

It was a difficult decision, but it was the right one. I needed to be in a healthy relationship where I could be my own person and have some freedom. I had to learn to stand up for myself and not let anyone take advantage of me. I was relieved to be out of that situation, but it was still hard to let go of someone I had cared about for so long.

Breaking up with my over-controlling girlfriend was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. But looking back, I’m glad I did it. It taught me a valuable lesson about relationships and how to set boundaries. Now I know that I don’t have to tolerate anyone’s disrespectful behavior, and I’m much happier for it.

I was really looking forward to celebrating Valentine’s Day with my boyfriend this year.

We had been together for over a year and I was excited about a romantic evening out. We had been planning it for weeks, arranging our time off from work, making reservations, and picking out the perfect outfits.

Unfortunately, things didn’t go as planned.

5 days before Valentine’s Day, my boyfriend got called into work for an unexpected overtime shift. I was really disappointed, but I was also understanding. His job was important to him and I knew that he had to take it seriously.

But then he told me that he wasn’t going to be able to make it up to me. He said that he was too exhausted to do anything after his shift and that he just wanted to go home and rest. I was hurt and frustrated by his lack of consideration.

I tried to explain to him that this was an important day for me and that I had been looking forward to it for weeks. But he just rolled his eyes and said that it was just another day. It felt like he didn’t care at all.

I felt so rejected and unimportant. I wanted to spend the day with him and I felt like he was choosing his job over me. I wanted to make him understand how I was feeling, but he just kept insisting that it wasn’t a big deal.

I didn’t want to make a scene, so I just said that it was fine and that I would go out with my friends instead. He said that was a good idea and then just left for work without saying goodbye.

I was really upset and I felt like my feelings didn’t matter to him. I thought that he would make an effort to make it up to me, but he didn’t even apologize. I was so angry and frustrated that I couldn’t even bring myself to talk to him.

I spent the whole day alone, feeling like my boyfriend didn’t care about me or our relationship. I wanted to talk to him about it, but I knew that it would just end in an argument. So I decided to just let it go and try to forget about it.

But I couldn’t get over how much he had hurt me. I was so angry and disappointed that he had chosen work over me. I felt like I was never going to be able to trust him or feel secure in our relationship again.

But I was still unhappy, by then all my friends had already posted on their instagram.

I remember the day I decided to break up with my boyfriend.

He had been talking about opening a restaurant for months and I was so supportive of his dream. He had a passion for cooking, and I wanted him to have the opportunity to pursue his passion. I even offered to help him with the financials and the planning.

But then one day, after 4 months of hard work, his restaurant closed down. He was devastated and I felt terrible for him. He had put so much effort into it and now it was gone. I was scared of what this meant for us.

He was so heartbroken and felt like a failure. He kept saying “No risk, no reward,” but I felt like he was trying to tell me that I should have been more supportive of his dream. I was scared that he was trying to blame me for his failure.

I started to think that maybe it was time to end things. I had been there for him through thick and thin, but now I was scared that he wasn’t going to be able to handle it if I didn’t stick with him. I was scared that he would feel like I wasn’t supportive enough or that I didn’t believe in him.

I didn’t want to leave him, but I was scared that he would be too hurt if I stayed. I was scared that if I stayed, he would keep blaming me for his failure. So I decided to leave him, even though it felt like I was breaking my own heart.

The next day, I went to his restaurant to say goodbye. He was still so upset and I felt so guilty for leaving him when he was going through such a hard time. He told me that he was proud of himself for trying, and he said that he was glad that I had been there with him through it all.

Then he said something that I will never forget. He said, “No risk, no reward. You have to take risks if you want to achieve your dreams. I took a risk and it didn’t work out, but I’m still glad I tried. I can’t regret it because it was a risk worth taking.”

I was so grateful for his words and for his understanding. I knew that he was right and that I shouldn’t regret taking a risk. I knew that I had to take risks if I wanted to achieve my dreams and that it was ok if things didn’t work out.

I hugged him goodbye, and I said goodbye one last time. I knew that I had made the right decision for both of us. I was scared of the risks, but I knew I had to take them if I wanted to achieve my dreams.

I was a student in my final year of uni, with a bright future ahead of me. After years of hard work and dedication, I was on the brink of graduating with a degree that would give me the opportunity to have a successful career.

But instead of walking across the stage to receive my degree, I decided to take a different path.

I had a burning desire to become an entrepreneur, to create something of my own, and to make an impact in the world. So, I decided to forgo my studies, and use the remaining time of my uni life to focus on starting my own business.

I had a plan and I was determined to make it work. I was confident that with enough hard work and dedication, I would be successful. I used my savings and took out a few loans from friends to finance the business. I was working long hours and putting in all my energy and effort into making it a success.

Unfortunately, my business didn’t take off as I had hoped. Despite my best efforts and dedication, the business failed and I was left with no job and no degree.

At first, I was devastated. I had worked so hard to make my dream a reality and now it had all gone to waste. I was filled with regret, feeling like I had made a huge mistake by forgoing my studies. I felt like I had wasted my time and money, and had nothing to show for it.

But I eventually realized that I had to move on.

I had to accept that my business had failed and that I had to find a new way to make a living. I decided to look for other opportunities and use my skills to try and make something of myself.

I started looking for jobs in my field, but with no degree, I was having a hard time finding a job that was willing to take a chance on me. I started to take on freelance work in order to make some money, but it was not very reliable. I soon realized that I was going to have to find another way to make a living.

So, I decided to go back to school. I was determined to complete my degree and get the job that I had always wanted. I worked hard and was determined to make up for the time I had lost. After a few years, I was able to complete my degree and I was able to find a job in my field.

Although I had originally failed as an entrepreneur, I was able to turn things around and use my degree to find the job that I had always wanted. I was able to make a living and pay off my debts.

I learned a valuable lesson from my experience as an entrepreneur. I learned that it is important to take risks and follow your dreams, but it is also important to have a backup plan. I learned that it is possible to have success, even if you fail at something.

I am now thankful that I followed my dreams and tried to become an entrepreneur, even though I failed. I am glad that I was able to learn the lessons that I did and to eventually find success.

No job and no degree was not the end of the world, and I am thankful that I was able to turn things around.

I just got a girlfriend. Yes, some of my friends still can’t believe I can get a girlfriend, but I did. We met on the mobile game Maplestory M, and got close through several meet ups with our “guild” and eventually got together.

We have been dating for about 3 weeks, and she’s the tomboy-type of girl but she’s very pretty and sweet looking.

Anyway, for context, everytime we went out for our guild gatherings or on our dates, she has always worn jeans or pants, and I didn’t realise it until now but I have never seen her legs.

So anyway this morning I went to my girlfriend’s house to pick her up for breakfast and she came out wearing a skirt. This was the first time I had ever seen her wearing a skirt and I was really surprised by it.

At first I didn’t really notice anything strange but then, as I was looking more closely, I noticed her legs were really hairy, like they were much hairier than mine. It was a bit shocking because you can literally see her leg hair was a little bit curly at the ends.

It made me a bit uncomfortable and I wasn’t sure how to react. I mean, I don’t want to make her feel self-conscious about her body but at the same time I’m a bit taken aback by the difference in our leg hair. I admit I felt a bit disgusted but i try not to pay too much attention to it.

I ended up just trying to act normal and not make a big deal out of it but it was still really strange for me. Later I asked her why she was wearing a skirt and she said she just felt like it and wanted to “air” her legs because the weather was very stuffy.

So I “tore off the plaster” and went ahead and asked her about her leg hair, then she got a little bit upset and asked me “why? what’s wrong with not shaving?”

She said if guys can keep their leg hair and armpit hair, why can’t girls do the same? I really don’t know how to answer.

Anyway I really don’t know how to move on from this, I can’t stand the sight of her hairy legs but I don’t want to piss her off by asking her to shave it off.

Help?

I have a friend working in the financial industry earning about $5k per month after cpf, minus away his bills and loans repayments, he has about $3.5k to spend every month.

He has been spending almost all of his money visiting the geylang fishtanks, like literally every night for the last 2 months, then once he no more money, come and find me and kpkb about having no money to survive and borrow money from me.

I asked him honestly, do you see what’s wrong with your life? but he just gets defensive and insists that he’s not doing anything wrong.

It’s really sad to see how much he’s been wasting his money and his life. I’m worried about him and I just want to help him get out of this destructive pattern.

And I also want my money back, he owes me about $1k and everytime I ask him about paying me back, he tells me “next week”, then next week I ask him, he tell me “next week” again.

Has anyone else been in this situation? this is really making my blood boil. How did you handle it? Is there really no hope left for him (and my money)?

Here are what netizens think:

• Invest in a ‘A’eroplane Cup / 飞机杯‘’ when need go Geylang, take out the money to be spend for the Geylang session put on table. Next take out the aeroplane Cup staring at the money while using the Cup. When finished using the Cup, take money from table and put back in the wallet. Happy man Happy wallet.

• If u can’t afford to borrow him money, just borrow him your hand, settle.

• yaa. We got one friend but he dont earn 5k. He earn more cos 2 jobs. But still post sad story no money to eat. Sad siaaaa

• Geylang got cheap cheese pies also what..Mai hiam I heard got those Sri Lanka ones only $20

My (F19) ex-boyfriend (M21) dumped me after getting me pregnant, and my parents kicked me out of the house and I have nowhere to go.

I’m feeling so lost and overwhelmed right now. I recently broke up with my ex-boyfriend and he had gotten me pregnant.

Coward wasn’t ready for that kind of responsibility and dumped me. Then, my parents found out and threw me out of the house. Now I’m alone and have nowhere to go.

I’m so scared and confused about what to do next. I don’t know who to turn to for help and I don’t want the baby to suffer from my lack of resources.

I’m also worried about how I’m going to support us both. I don’t have a job and I don’t have any family members that can help me.

I’m not sure what to do. I feel like I’m in a hopeless situation and I don’t know how I’m going to make it through this.

I’m scared of being a single mother and I’m scared of not being able to provide the best life for my child.

I just need some advice on what to do next. I need to know how to get back on my feet and how to support my child. I’m also looking for advice on how to cope with being a single mother and how to get through this difficult time.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m so lost and I don’t know what to do next. Please help me.

Netizens’ comments

Shame on your family and boyfriend for doing this to you. Do you have any friends or relatives that can take you in while you sort things out? Stay with a friend or relative while you get a job and make some money first before you think about your next step.

My girlfriend and I had been together for a few years now, and while our relationship had gone through its share of ups and downs, we were pretty stable.

And throughout the relationship, she has always been the type to look at babies and go “awwww”, and she really loves children.

She just started work as an admin assistant earning $1.8k per month and I’m in between job, so we are not exactly in a good place financially.

So it came as a surprise when she told me that she wanted to have a baby, and we ended up having a big argument over it, where she shouted at me “if you don’t make me pregnant, then I’m going to find someone else to do it.”

Are you f-ing kidding me, we can barely take care of ourselves and you want to take care of another human life?

I was shocked and angered by her ultimatum. It felt like she was threatening to take away the control that we had over our relationship. I was desperate for her to understand how serious I was about her, but she seemed to be stuck in the idea that she needed a baby to make our relationship complete.

I tried to reason with her and explain why I didn’t want to take the risk of making her pregnant. I explained that we were still young, and that I wanted us to be financially and emotionally stable before we took such a big step. I wanted us to have a solid foundation before bringing a child into the world.

But my girlfriend didn’t see it that way. She insisted that we were ready and that having a baby would make our relationship stronger. She argued that it would give us a sense of purpose and that it would be a way for us to express our love for each other.

I tried to explain that our love was already strong enough and that having a baby wasn’t the only way to show it. I begged her to reconsider and to think about the consequences of our actions.

But she was insistent. She said that she wanted to be a mother and that she was going to find someone else if I wasn’t willing to make her pregnant.

The fact that she is considering finding someone else to do it, is raising all kinds of red, burgundy, maroon flags and I honestly don’t know if I want to continue this relationship anymore.

Any advice please?

Netizens’ comments

1. Advice? You just gave yourself the best advice, leave her. Like you said, the fact that she is threatening to find someone else to have a baby with just because you feel you are not ready, is the biggest indicator that you need to get out of there, ASAP.