How do I (26F) tell my boyfriend (25M) that I’m not attracted to him anymore?

My boyfriend and I have been dating almost 2 years. In the beginning of our relationship he was all over me, always touching me, kissing me, trying to be intimate.

Now, the intimacy between us is rare. Our bedroom activities have started to feel awkward and uncomfortable and forced.

He never kisses me, hugs me, tries to be close with me, anything. He chalks it all up to saying it’s not who he is and in the beginning it was just him “love bombing” me.

He says it has nothing to do with me and that he’s attracted to me and loves me, he’s just never been a loving or intimate person.

I’m at a loss with this. I’ve been craving touch and intimacy and passion and have found myself daydreaming about it with other people.

It grosses me out because he is the only person I want to be with, I just feel so unloved and unwanted.

It’s to the point where I’m losing my attraction towards him and our relationship. I don’t know how to talk to him about it to help him understand or even what to do.

I’m at a loss with what to do.

I am (19m) dating someone 13 years older than me (32f) and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore

bit of context to our relationship, we met at work and after about 1-2 of talking we became a couple and have now been together for almost 2 months.

I just don’t know what to do anymore because I feel like I’m not ready to be in a relationship with somebody who is over a decade older than me,

she seems pretty serious about us but I can’t help the fact that I always have this voice in the back of my head telling me that I can’t be doing this.

She’s a really good person and I care about her but I’m just not mentally there yet for her and I don’t know how to even speak to her about this.

She also has kids with her oldest being 7 years younger than me which I find a bit weird. I’m just a kid myself.

It seems to me that this relationship is more lust than love and I’m now just realizing that. I know I’m all over the place with this but I just don’t know where to begin. Any advice would help, thank you.

My dad is breaking up my family by dating again 2 months after my mom died.

My mom died from a hemorrhagic stroke. She was recovering from the initial stroke that landed her in the hospital but had another stroke on her 30th day of recovery that ultimately left her brain dead.

Two months later, my dad mentions that my little brother’s teacher (a colleague of my mom’s) has been texting him in an overly friendly manner. He insists that he isn’t ready for anything romantic but that he would like to have someone closer to his age to talk to (he’s 40, she’s 50). I told him that having friends is not a bad thing and encourage him.

Suddenly, he’s telling me that things are moving way faster than they could’ve imagined. About two weeks after they started texting, she introduced him to most of her family and is calling him her boyfriend. My dad tells me about this after the fact. Since then, he has brought up moving in together and getting married.

My brother (22) straight up told him from day one that he was not okay with the situation. He said he needed time to come around to it. My dad, however, continually oversteps his boundaries and has forced him to interact with her or to leave the house as my brother is living at my parents house still.

My other brother (10) says he is okay with them dating but often complains because my dad spends more time with his gf than he does with him. I know my dad cares for us but it seems obvious where his priorities are. The sad part is my brother is not okay. He needs counseling and all the extra support he can get. I’m trying to help but I live in another state. Still, I talk to my brother for at least an hour everyday and play online games with him. He says I’m the only one who’s really there for him.

I met his gf. She had the audacity to tell me that my dad calls her the most beautiful woman in the world and that he acts like he’s never been loved before. I had an experience with her and my dad where they were acting like a loving couple in front of me on a day where my dad knew that I was really struggling with losing my mom.

He took her on a date on my birthday and spent most of the time with her. He says that she would make a good maternal figure for my brother, and that hes scared to lose her by taking things slow. I feel like those are unhealthy approaches to a relationship and I don’t know how to voice that.

I feel like an idiot for empathizing with him and encouraging him down this path. I figured that losing your partner unexpectedly might create a sense of urgency to live the rest of your life. Nothing is guaranteed. I just didn’t realize that he’d leave us behind for it. There’s plenty of examples I could give that showcase him putting his own feelings over ours. He asks for our opinions but blatantly ignores them. He apologizes for hurting our feelings but doesn’t see anything wrong with his actions. My dad says he doesn’t want to lose us but he keeps pushing us away. My brother’s and I feel like a second choice to this woman he just met. Sometimes, I even feel like an obstacle in the way of his happiness. Seeing the relationship materialize this way has made me resent it. I’ve told my brothers that they are my priority, and as long as I can keep my relationships with them strong, my dad can have his happy life without us

Recent grads of SG: are you getting offers?

How has your job search been going?

I’m currently job hunting and only got a handful of interviews and an offer with a pretty low salary :/

I graduated from NTU and got offered $3000 gross, I’m not sure if that’s the market rate now that we seem to be entering a recession.

but most people around me had at least a $3.5k starting pay so I’m a bit conflicted, not sure if I’m being lowballed or the economy is rly bad now

Netizens’ comments

• You can start with some contract work? That’s how i (and some others) started out, it was only at least till after 1.5 yrs of contract work that i got my first perm job post-grad at a local bank.
  Was converted after the initial 10 months of contract, which i considered blessed. Because getting a headcount in the department was tough.
  The past 7-8 months before the initial bank contract, i was working in a government agency.
  I’m from private uni by the way.
• Most calls will come in after cny in feb after resume dropping
  Depends on how eager you are to accept the first few offers – can be tempting not to accept something but know what you are giving up
• Same. I started applying end of oct. Went for 8 companies’ interviews till date. Was officially jobless by end dec.
  When i graduated in 2016, i was offered $2600 for a mid size accounting firm
• I got no advise for getting offers, but..
  One thing I can advise you is properly look at termination notice and probation period.. If you end up hating the job you wouldn’t want to be giving money to terminate immediately .
  Turns out I don’t even want to do the work I’ve been wasting a great fraction of my life studying and paying for.
  2 weeks is a long time when you feel like shit .
  If a company only gives you an afternoon to accept the job offer take a week or two to do it .. Never give into something that can affect future chances.
  There’s always new chances to be discovered

I am 30 years. I have had no girlfriends ever. I have never even hold a girls hand.

I was14 when I started liking girls, maybe even get a girlfriend. That was 16 years ago. I don’t even know where I went wrong.

It’s not that I have not tried, but nothing has worked out. I have tried to be just friends to girls as well but even that has ended up in disrespect.

I emotionally crave to hold someone’s hand, hug them, maybe even kiss. I am an old fashion mind person, I don’t have the guts to do or say this to any of my guy friend.

I have tried tinder, asking colleagues out, trying to bond giving it time. I am an introvert but I have even tried to talk to strangers, it just makes me feel more sad later.

I dream of listening and talking to people for a long time. I am okay with platonic relationships, it’s that I feel not needed as I am. I feel I don’t matter to anyone.

Netizens’ comments

• I would not bother with Tinder because it sounds like you’re looking for more of a relationship-type deal. Tinder is mostly people seeking hookups or people cheating on their gfs/bfs pretending to be single. It can still happen though. My cousin was a huge wallflower and she didn’t meet the guy who is not only her husband but the only dude she’s ever been with til she was 31.
• You are worth while and somebody is going to love you in that way someday I am sure you are very loved.
• I think if your guy friends make you feel as if you can’t speak to them about this then they aren’t very good friends. If you truly believe they are good then I recommend speaking to them. I think you just really need some validation in your life and validation from friends is a great way to start. As for your remark about “tried being friends but it ended in disrespect” I’m not sure what you mean by this but if you genuinely were being a good person and were disrespected, you need to talk to better women. Not all women are like that. Overall I really recommend talking to friends about this and working on your own self love and reflect on your past relationships.

I work 2 jobs but my family takes all the money

Hi everyone, I am so tired, I just wanted to ask for a bit of strangers’ thoughts. I work at a well paid job and I also run my own business as a side hustle.

Both are doing great but you can guess that I am exhausted. I took one week off from my day job but I still have to work in my side hustle and I can’t seem to disconnect from my day job as my team is very junior and the problems at work are too many to handle.

To make matters worse, even though I work like a dog, I cannot enjoy or save it because my family spends it all.

My partner has a low paying job so I get to cover for his expenses and his son has an internship so I get to cover his expenses too.

In addition they always make lavish purchases like sneakers and shit so we stay broke all the time.

I love my job and my side hustle and my family but all three of them are massively draining me to the point I want to quit everything. Any advice? Thanks for reading

I caught my brother in law wetting all my panties so I wont be able to wear any I was absolutely mortified when I caught my brother-in-law wetting all my panties.

I couldn’t believe what I was seeing, and I couldn’t help but feel violated. I had no idea how long this had been going on, but it was clear to me that he had been doing this for some time.

I was so angry that I wanted to confront him right away, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I was so embarrassed and confused that I decided to just let him finish and then confront him later. I then went to the computer to research what he was doing and what it meant.

I soon found out that my brother-in-law was a panty-fetishist, which means that he has a fetish for women’s panties. I was so disgusted and embarrassed that I had to confront him about it. I waited until he was finished and then I asked him why he was doing this.

He admitted that he had been doing it for a few months, but he said that he didn’t think it was a big deal. I told him that it was a big deal to me and that I was not comfortable with it. We talked for a few minutes and he apologized for what he had done.

He said that he was sorry and that he would never do it again. I accepted his apology and told him that I needed to take some time to think about it. After a few days of thinking, I decided to give him another chance.

However, I told him that I was not comfortable with him wetting my panties anymore, and I wanted him to stop. He agreed and said that he wouldn’t do it again. I was relieved that he was willing to stop, but I was still concerned because I wouldn’t be able to wear any of my panties anymore.

I was afraid that if I wore the same panties that he had wetted, he would be tempted to do it again. So, I decided to buy all new panties and throw out the old ones. I was also very careful to keep my new panties away from him so that he wouldn’t be able to get to them.

I was relieved that he was willing to stop, but I was still very uncomfortable with the whole situation. I felt violated and I was worried that he might do it again. I was also embarrassed that my brother-in-law had been secretly wetting all my panties.

Although I was angry and embarrassed, I was also thankful that I had caught him in the act. It could have been much worse if I hadn’t caught him. I was relieved that he was willing to stop and that I wouldn’t have to worry about him wetting my panties anymore.

My brother-in-law may have an odd fetish, but it was important for me to make sure that he respected my boundaries. I was glad that I was able to confront him and get him to stop. Now I can wear my panties without worrying about him wetting them again.