My husband just informed me he plans to be a househusband and I need to get a job.

I have been a stay at home mom since our first child. We have three school aged children now and I’m in my mid 40’s. I haven’t worked in 17 years.

My husband was diagnosed with mental health problems and he hasn’t gone to work physically since the pandemic and started the process of leaving over two years ago.

His plan was to go to school, try a new career and worst we would both work part time while things got going.

We’re still stuck in limbo, with one child due for university in a year and a half. And with inflation and a recession I am feeling hopeless.

I need to find work sooner rather than later and it’s just so depressing thinking about working for the next 20 years of my life just to scrape by because he can’t deal with life anymore.

I’ve had it good and he is sure to rub that in my nose and I know he is hurting but it just doesn’t feel like he’s even trying to get better and he’s just falling into his thoughts.

I want to work and help with finances and before he never wanted me to. I will get a job whether I like it or not.

Im just very stunned and confused and don’t know where to begin and what this means for him and us. I feel like he’s pulling away and is giving up and I’m scared.

Just needed to rant somewhere and i hope fellow singaporeans are able to relate to my problem.

My mom is ruining my long-term relationship with my partner. We met in school and have been in a relationship for going 5 years.

These 5 years, my mom has never been satisfied with my boyfriend. We’re in our mid 20s now and she still thinks he’s immature despite him consistently trying to improve himself. She always nitpicks on his tiny/old bad habits whenever he comes over.

My mom and him don’t talk much as my mom doesn’t speak english while mandarin is not my bf’s best language.

Recently, my mom called up a relative who has been unofficially practicing suan ming (fate calculating), and my relative predicted that i’ll surely divorce with my bf if we ever got married.

I know marriage should be between couple but i hate how my mom always rubs the old saying in my face, ‘Marriage without parent’s blessing will never be blissful’.

My bf has tried many ways to improve the relationship but my mom chose to only see the bad in him.

My mom is ruining my relationship but i also hate to be an unfilial child. I feel like i’m being kiap in the middle and just needed to talk to someone.

Sometimes, I really don’t understand the purpose of a dating app anymore.

I mean the whole real purpose is to find people to date while I understand some uses it to find ONS/FWB/hookups (how dating apps have been evolving to such use over the years)

but why are there attached people trying to look for ‘online’ friends to talk to when they have their partners/real life friends to talk to?

And they’re more opened to talk about their problems to strangers instead.

Am I being very narrow-minded for having thoughts like that because somehow I feel it’s a form of emotional cheating to their partners?

Not unless they have their partners’ consent to do it or they firmly know their intention to just find friends on the app when there’re probably other ways to look for friends instead of on a dating app.

Netizens’ comments

• Last time dating is just dating. Now dating got long term, short term and day dating.
• Because a lot of us need the feeling of being validated,liked,wanted,sought after…we constantly want to know our market value.. even when attached..we like that we are desirable..some people may never act on it..they take the attention but don’t respond per se ..but there are those weaker ones that will fall fully..its always a dangerous game to play,but like Russian Roulette it’s exciting,it provides a spark and cause your heart to beat a little bit faster,butterflies in your stomach..it feed something deep inside of us..and for that while we feel good..confident even..alot of people have the need to feel that they are constantly wanted by so many..feeds the ego and narcissist in us.
• Question is: can you control/stop others in a relationship from accessing dating apps? If not, just move on. It’s really none of your business what other people are doing, right?
• Because today’s ‘liberal thinking’ is that you can have open relationships, which imo isn’t even considered a relationship anymore

It all started when I got my first job out of Uni.

I was excited to start this new chapter in my life and the salary was good enough for me to pay for my monthly expenses, bills and still have some extra left over for fun.

But after a few months, I noticed that my bank account wasn’t increasing, in fact, it was decreasing. I wondered where all my money was going and decided to investigate.

It turns out that I was spending a lot of money on food. I was eating out with my friends almost every day and I was buying groceries every week.

I realized that I was spending way too much money on food and it was taking a serious toll on my finances.

That’s when I had the idea to start eating food from my office pantry every day.

It was a great way to save money, since the food in the pantry was free. I was able to make my own breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day and still have some snacks in between.

It was also a great way to connect with my colleagues, since we would all grab something from the pantry in the morning and chat while we ate.

At the end of the month, I realized that I had managed to save almost all of my salary.

I was amazed by how much money I had been able to save by eating from the office pantry.

I was also able to cut down on my grocery bill, since I was only buying items that I needed and not buying things that I would have otherwise bought out of impulse.

I have been eating from the office pantry for almost two years now and I have saved a lot of money.

I am able to use the money I save to pay off my student loans and invest in my future.

I also use some of the money to treat myself to something special, like a weekend getaway or a nice dinner out with friends.

As an expat who has been living and working in Singapore for the past six years, I can say that Singaporeans are truly lucky.

Singapore is a beautiful and prosperous country with a lot of opportunities for people looking to make a good living.

The country has a vibrant economy, low unemployment rate, and relatively low cost of living – all of which make Singapore a desirable place to live and work.

Singapore has a diverse range of industries, from finance and banking to media, technology, hospitality, and more.

This means there’s plenty of job opportunities for people of all backgrounds and skill levels.

Additionally, Singapore has a robust infrastructure and efficient public transportation system, making it easy to get around.

Singapore also has some of the world’s best educational institutions.

The city-state offers a variety of universities, polytechnics, and other higher education institutions, making it easy for Singaporeans to get a quality education and acquire the necessary skills to get a good job.

Singaporeans also have access to quality health care and affordable housing, which can be a big help in times of need.

Another big plus for Singaporeans is that they don’t have to go overseas to make a living for a better life but rather people from other countries come to Singapore to work in search of a better life.

As an expat who has been living and working in Singapore for the past six years, I can say that Singaporeans are truly lucky.

The country has a vibrant economy, low unemployment, and excellent educational and social services.

Singapore is a wonderful place to live and work and Singaporeans are truly lucky to enjoy all these peace and stability.

Broke up with my girlfriend because she said I need to ask for consent before kissing her on lips

I (19m)recently got into my 6th-7th relationship with an 18f. I was her first boyfriend, this was her first relationship.

We were really both into each other, we connected very well, everything was going amazing! We had kissed multiple times, we haven’t been intimate in bed just yet. We had kissed while dancing, while walking while doing anything. Things were going like a dream.

3 weeks into our relationship and at this one party night, we danced and kissed, had fun. Next day, she calls me and asks to me to meet her, she brings her friend with her like she’s her bodyguard or some shit. They both tell me that I need to slow down and that I need to ask for consent before kissing her on lips as it makes her uncomfortable and anxious because she’s inexperienced. Kissing anywhere else is okay, hugging is okay but I need to ask before I kiss on the lips.

I’d like to clarify here that I never once forced her to kiss, it was all we were feeling the moment and we both leaned into the kiss. If she didn’t wanna, she could’ve given me some hint and I could’ve backed off. I was completely taken by surprise by this. She even brought her friend to talk on her behalf as if she was somehow scared of me to talk about it. I was completely shocked and felt betrayed.

I simply told her I can’t continue this as I feel betrayed,embarrassed and shocked. She kinda showed that she doesn’t trust me by bringing her friend to talk bout this. She could’ve told me that herself and we could’ve discussed it. This has never happened to me before.

Since then I’m constantly overthinking that maybe I overreacted. Maybe I should’ve given her more time to slowly ease into how relationships work… maybe she brought her friend because she was too shy to tell me that herself… or maybe she was scared of me? What? It’s just breaking my mind if I did the right thing… I was really into this person and losing her hurts. Idk what to feel…

My MIL hates me, and thinks her son is still a child and needs to be babied and looked after by her and her only and because I’m his wife I obviously get in the way of her getting to do that.

Thinks he can do better than me, Nothing I do is good enough and so and so on .. She’s never liked me , probably never will and I accept that. Has never tried to get to know me. When hubby and I left during covid she never wished us well or congratulated us , pretty sure I didn’t even get a text that day.

Currently : We announced we are expecting a little girl in April and she was elated when my hubby told her, much to my surprise. hubby said she always wanted a girl (here we go) when he called to tell her she was on speaker and said confidently “you’ll be naming her after me right” hubby laughed and said “No probably not. We haven’t even talked about names we just found out the gender a few hours ago”. It was cringe but I assumed it was a joke and that was it.

The past few months she’s mentioned it over and over almost anytime we speak with her. She’d constantly text me to ask if we picked a name knowing we did.. Each time it’s mentioned hubby says Not happening . Now she’s pushed the chore off onto HER Husband because she got nowhere and now he asks while she sits quietly and annoyed. Again, hubby says nope . We finally got so annoyed by the badgering that DH spat out the name we did pick to shut everyone up and emphasize it was decided and set in stone. Things of course then shifted to , that name sucks , that name isn’t great and so on..

Now that she was put in her place she’s pissed and offended , I can tell the beehive of unrelated insecurities has been shaken and we’re in for hell in the coming months and preparing myself for it .. She’s been trying to find my sore spot to poke at but I don’t engage or react as hard as that can be. This weeks theme was “mini me” . All week long she’s mentioned how it’ll be so nice having a mini HER around and how grandma and grandpa think she will be a mini HER and look like her. She says this in a condescending tone with a smirk poking for a reaction. It’s super strange to me … again we more or less ignore it but it’s uncomfortable as hell.

She went from being excited for baby being a girl to now never asking once how me or the baby are doing the second we told her the name wasn’t going to hers. Not even sure she knows her due date. Hasn’t said a word regarding the baby ever unless it’s to remind us how the baby will somehow magically be her kindred spirit twin.

Also ,Not that it’s her responsibility either or that id EVER expect her to but she’s not throwing me a baby shower , I have a mom with a name as well and it’s ultimately our choice ! What on earth would make you think you being not even close enough to me to congratulate us on our wedding day , us never spending time together or knowing anything about eachother that out of every female role model in my life I’d choose your name ? For my first child ? Lmao like what

I stumbled across a Thai potion that was said to be ‘blessed’.

I was skeptical at first, but determined to try anything that might make me more desirable to women.

Little did I know that this would be the start of a wild and crazy journey.

I ordered the Thai magic potion via a Thai Friend of mine, and when it arrived I was beyond excited.

I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I had a sneaking suspicion that it was going to be powerful.

I followed the instructions and rubbed a small amount of the potion onto my ‘kkj’ before going out for the night.

To my surprise, I noticed a difference almost immediately. I felt more confident and attractive to women.

It was like a veil of magnetism had been placed over me.

By the end of the night, I brought a girl back home and ‘did it’.

She kept wanting more and more, and even after that day kept looking for me for s-.

I’m not sure if it was the potion or just my newfound confidence, but I was feeling very satisfied with the results.

Fast forward a few weeks and I’m still using the Thai magic potion. I continue to find that women are more attracted to me than before.

Every time I brought them back and ‘did it’, they will keep wanting more and more.

I’m not sure what it is about the potion, but I’m definitely feeling the effects.

Maybe it’s the power of suggestion, but I’m convinced that the Thai magic potion is working its magic on me.

I’m sure that it’s helped me to be more attractive to women, and also made me more desirable to them to satisfy their ‘needs’.