Hi all! What do you think about this situation?

My boyfriend (35) and I (28) are planning a trip in April. I decided to buy a couple cocktails dresses for the occasion.

I found a couple that I think would be flattering to my body. I have a small chest and waist but wide hips and butt.

I workout to be proud of my body even though society’s standards might not agree.

When my boyfriend saw my dresses, he became angry and asked, “are you going to wear a bra with that?” and “you need to wear a bra that makes you look like you have something.”

I am convinced he is ashamed of my body. I told him I am proud of the way my body looks and I think the dresses I found were very flattering for the itty bitty committee but he disagrees.

What do you think about this?

Netizens’ comments

• Tell him to f off.
• i think you should bring some friends to the trip instead of that oaf, but that’s jus me 🤷🏼‍♀️ man seems too old to be saying juvenile things like that
• Offer to pack an extra set of socks for him to ‘pad’ ‘things’ out so it looks like HE has ‘something’
• Wow, dude has a lot of nerve.
  Who cares what he thinks. Love your body and be proud of it. If he doesn’t love and appreciate it there are plenty of men or women out there that will. Wear whatever the hell you want and screw him!
• It should not be his choice. It’s your body and as long as your proud nothing else really matters.

I need advice about the thing with men having female friends. I don’t know. I could understand if it is a childhood friend. And old ex where love and attraction is long gone (ON BOTH PARTS) and only friendship is left etc. But my boyfriend of 3 years (Been living together for a month), suddenly became friends with a girl from work(f25?).

I DON’T LIKE IT.

It started with him telling me how happy he was that there’s finally someone new at work that he clicked with. He told me who she is and they had a lot in common etc. I didn’t mind it at first. I was happy he was having a good time at work. I started minding when I met her. She was hostile, she called me the lucky one. And asked me if I felt threatened by younger women since I’m older (whut? I’m literally 2-3 older than her and 6 months older than my bf). He laughed. I told him that I didn’t like her and that I didn’t want him to be closer to her. He has a lot of friends and he doesn’t need her. He called me jealous and ridiculous. I said fine.

I kept an eye and they started texting more and more frequently. We celebrated our anniversary last weekend and she knew it. She was texting the whole evening and he answered some of her texts. She asked him if he was having fun at our celebration and he said very much so she texted:

“If you’re really having fun you wouldn’t be texting me instead😈😈”

I told him that was enough and that he should put his phone aside. I asked him if he thought what she wrote was okay. He said that she was only joking. That’s her sense of humor. I should loosen up. I told him again that I didn’t like her and that even though I could be wrong he should respect my wishes and cut her off. He told me that I was controlling and insecure and that he isn’t doing anything wrong so I should respect and trust him. The evening was ruined. We fought.

I thought to myself. Maybe I was controlling and inecure and in that case he shouldn’t be with someone like me. Or I could be right and he is letting someone step over my boundaries and then I shouldn’t be with him. Either way we should be with each other. I took a personal day. Moved all my stuff from his apartment and went back to my old place that I shared with a friend. She was happy to have me back so she didn’t need to find a new roomie.

Everyone now from my bf to our friends to our families think I’m overreacting. We could discuss and solve this. But I have tried. For many months. To make him understand that i was very uncomfortable. He texts me multiple times a day to come to my senses and to stop being childish. He loves me and she is just a friend. Funny that old me is the childish one isn’t it? With the age gap and all.

My boyfriend smells bad…down there

So when my boyfriend and I first started dating it was fine. No smell and it was summer IN THE SOUTH!

Now, not to be gross, but if I were to describe the smell it’s like..sour milk. Like sour milk left in the sun all day. The second he takes his pants off I smell that dreadful smell.

I obviously hide the fact that I’m grossed out because I don’t want him to feel bad. My guess is his pubes. He shaved when we first started dating and then he gave up after we got comfortable with each other so now he has a whole jungle of it.

I don’t understand why that would make it smell bad because he showers every day. I try not to gag when it goes anywhere near my face and it’s getting to a point where I just don’t wanna sleep with him at all.

I’m surprised he can’t smell himself because of how strong it is. I have a weak sense of smell because I had Covid in 2020 and I can STILL SMELL IT!!!!

I can’t take it anymore so what do I say to him without hurting feelings?

My heart secretly breaks for my girlfriend because without me she has literally nobody and I know I’m not the best partner.

I’d like to preface this by warning you how shitty of a person I prove myself to be.

So, I have been with my girlfriend for close to a decade. She is my best friend. Lately however, I have not felt very close with her in a sense of wanting to be intimate.

It’s not that I am not attracted to her, but after being together for so long you start to think about what another woman would be like.

Im not a cheater, but if I was, I still don’t think I could act for that on that desire and here is why. She is so good to me.

Time and time she has proven through actions that she truly loves me. But there are times that I know I am neglecting her in terms of her feelings.

I sometimes isolate myself and ignore her texts, I have knowingly let her put herself in risky situations for a potential payoff….I’m basically really shitty sometimes.

I begin to HATE myself for ever treating this person anything less than perfect. I can be selfish to this person at times, inconsiderate, amongst other things, and even tough i don’t do these things with malicious intent, I look back afterward and see me for who I was being.

My fwb has slowly become into a sugar mama and I am having the absolute time of my life

So I met her online funny enough and she’s been the most ideal fwb. Hot, older, great in bed, and keeps the relationship to mostly physical. Couldn’t have asked for a better time. I legit think I hit the jackpot with her.

Flash forward a few months later and now she’s just showering me with gifts. Without even asking! It started with a random Gucci wallet and it’s just been non stop gifts ever since.

I know it’s not like your typical sugar daddy/mama situation where they give out money and pay for stuff but it’s been a hell of a surprise!

I come from relationships where I’m always the one doing gift giving. A true giver. So being on the receiving side has been a game changer. It’s nice to get gifts out of the blue.

She’s asking what I want for Christmas like I can just go to a catalog and pick out whatever. Anyways, rant over. Enjoy the rest of your Sunday!

One of my close friends proposed to me, I’m 18m and my close friend is 19f.

So I’ve been working at a fast food restaurant for almost 2 years now, and I’ve developed a close relationship with one of my managers. We’ve progressively gotten closer; we’ve spent a lot of time inside and outside of work together. We even went on a trip with each other and some friends and all of our friends said we give off couple’s vibes.

Needless to say, we both like each other.

But this morning, after I clocked out, she said she needed to talk to me in private. No big deal right?

So she pulls me into the Manager’s office, and she starts telling me that she has feelings for me and has had feelings for quite some time. I said my feelings were likewise, and in that moment I thought she was going to ask for a relationship. But instead, she gets on one knee, takes out this super nice engagement ring and proposed for marriage.

Now, I’m feeling pretty blown away at this point. I asked why she wants to skip straight to engagement, and she answers that she doesn’t really believe in courtship as it relates to dating. Obviously I like her and all, but I don’t think either of us are in a position to make marriage happen anytime soon. So I said I’d get back to her with my answer.

So here I am now. I really like her, and I feel like we’d be a fantastic couple, but I’m not even close to thinking about marriage or any kind of engagement. It’s jarring. I’m super confused right now and I’d appreciate any kind of advice on this situation.

The amount of men that don’t wash their hands after going to the bathroom is disturbing and disgusting.

I work in retail and have to use a public restroom quite frequently, and the amount of men I see walk out if the bathroom without washing their hands is gross and makes me angry.

It’s mostly middle age or older men and some days I would wager almost half don’t wash their hands…

Netizens’ comments

• AGREED am man and the amount of people who don’t wash is crazy. I worked in food and I would say 25% of people would wash their hands more than twice in a shift and it’s pretty nasty tbh. I wish there would be moisturizer though so I don’t have to suffer for washing if I forgot mine
• I don’t understand why people push back on this. Is it laziness? We have known since 1847 that hand hygiene prevents the spread of infection. Just wash your freaking hands. It takes 30 seconds!!! Bathrooms are dirty, your genitals are dirty. Wash your hands!
• Ive seen this happen in the restroom of a high end restuarant. The chef took a whiz in the urinal and walked right out. I suppose he could have washed his hands in the kitchen. He touched 2 surfaces: urinal flush and door knob. I had to use a paper towel to open the door which I do anyway regardless.

Rivalry between my in laws

Are there any married couples out there who can give me advice regarding dealing with a in law? My case is with a sister in law.

2 weeks ago, my family and I have planned for a staycation for Christmas. We intended to book a 5 star hotel locally in Singapore on Xmas Eve, stayed there for two nights and returned to SG on 26th Dec, in short just to enjoy our Christmas holidays. We are a Singaporean family. I am staying with my husband and his parents.

My Malaysian sister-in-law ( my husband’s brother wife) asked my parents-in-law not to spend their holidays with me and my husband. My sister-in-law mentioned that her own parents are coming to visit SG next month and she state that they will bring my parents overseas instead. My parents have never been on a plane ride before and they are hesitating to join my husband and I for our staycay. My sister-in-law even mentioned to the parents that I am not rich, if they come with me, we can’t afford to get them good food and let them enjoy. My sister-in-law claims that her parents are ultra-rich folks who own big businesses in Malaysia.

My husband and I aren’t rich. He’s the sole breadwinner. Due to liver disease, I can’t work so our funds are limited. The money for our year end holidays is mostly though months of saving up. The only country we have visited so far in life is Malaysia. My sister in law have always disliked me that I am just a housewife and being useless.

How will you guys deal with an in law like this? Any similar experiences? I am very upset and annoyed that our year end holiday is getting spoilt.