Jealously and insecurity

When you tell your partner you’re not comfortable with them going out with a gender of opposite sex from them should they proactively try to avoid the person in respect for the relationship?

or should they ignore and stand their ground for just being friends?

We all know being friends is the first step to something more happening esp if they spend time together at work and travelling back home etc.

Here are what netizens think:

• Human being is a social animal. We need to interact with all kind of people. If restriction, jealousy and insecurity are what you have in mind, then stay single. It will make you happier than to get involved in a rs. Trust is what you need in a rs.

• We also know being in relationship is the first step to jealousy and insecurity if there’s lack of trust.

• if he does, it’s good and shows respect to you. If he doesn’t, you can’t blame him as well. It just means y’all ain’t suitable. There will be people out there who share the same values as you in this aspect.

• What is meant to be yours will be yours. No amount of ‘protection’ can prevent that. If both parties in a relationship do not see eye to eye, have unmet expectations and yet continue to disagree with each other, what’s the point of staying together? Instead of saying he should or she should, the 2 of you are simply not compatible.

• So the post is saying making friends with people of the opposite gender will inevitably lead to something more than friendship and hence we should avoid doing so completely.

• It is human nature to interact with other gender.. firstly, if you feel insecure means you do not trust enough or he did something to make you feel that way which is unhealthy.. secondly, if his colleagues or if his bosses are ladies, should he ignore which seems rude.. lastly, you should talk to him about it

What do couples do for fun?

My partner and I have been together for a little over a year now.

A little bit of context is that we like very different things, and without similar interest and hobbies, there’s not much activities we can do together. We’ve tried movies, some of which my partner dozes off on. We seem to like hiking but there’s really not that much hiking trails before we run out of options too.

Don’t get me wrong, we can enjoy each other’s company at home when we do our own stuff too. But I wonder if a relationship built solely on romantic pull will really last if there are no shared activities.

Any advice on what type of hobbies/activities you do with your partner and he/she seems to enjoy as well?

Here are what netizens think:

• I together with my blockhead for 16years already. So I drag him to do those lomantic activities but he say I siao. To him a meal together is enough bonding. I accept him for what he is

• From my experience you don’t have to like the same things. Anyway after you have kids you will share one thing you have to do tgt that will take up all your time haha!

• A relationship doesn’t last because of romantic pulls or “magic”. It lasts because both of you make a decision every day to love each other, and put in the effort which proves that. It actually takes work to make a relationship work.

• try the activities each other likes, start new activities you both never tried, go makan (singaporeans’ fave activity), go holiday, start a fun project together (jigsaw puzzles, even a photo book), take a class, lol there are too many things to do. google articles for free stuff to do in Singapore?

• Animal sanctuary, canoing, universal studio singapore, jalan2 ard johor, jogging along the beach and then have a nice meal, try his hobbies and him try yours.

I need some advice.

I am a 35M in a MNC. I have been in a mentoring relationship with a 26F since she joined the company beginning this year. We cliqued instantly and of course she was very pretty and i was honestly flattered when she chose me as a career mentor.

Over time we grew closer and we started sharing personal stuff with each other. I admired her strong work ethic and maturity in thinking – i felt she was an intellectual equal despite age or experience difference. There were some tough times at work for her where i was there as a pillar of support , and during those times she was vulnerable, seeing her suffer and affected me and emotionally broke my heart.

This is how i know i actually truly care and have developed feelings for her. I am married but its a loveless marriage. my wife and i are on the path to formal separation. I recognise that this might have caused some emptiness in me and made more susceptible to “catching feelings”. But now it has already happen and i cannot help myself. I am trying to be strong.

I am trying to limit my “extra” interactions with her – ie texting on whatsapp/telegram/work communication tooling – but unfortunately i still have to meet up with her for mentoring catchups and we always have a great time chatting and enjoying the time we have (at least on my part). I say its on my part because she is super attractive and i believe she has many guys in office and outside always trying to meet/date her. She is single now btw.

I am realistic and while i have feelings for her, i dont think it is reciprocated given her many options. but having those feelings stuck in me makes it a torture to continue being her mentor and also being friends. Even if the feeling is not mutual i still enjoy being her friend and helping her grow in her career (she is very talented).

So my plan is to tell her my feelings in the hope that it will “get it out of my system” and somehow i can continue to enjoy our time together in a platonic way. Will it work?

Found my underwear in brothers room

My brother is not young, he is 32 years-old this year and I am afraid to think the worse, I am stopping my thoughts as I don’t want to go further down that lane.

I wish it was the dog but I have no idea to find out, I do not have a camera at home neither can the dog speak human language.

What should I do? Should I confront my brother about it or should I tell my parents or should I just keep quiet.

I am scared as my parents are seldom home and if he is really what I think he is, I could be in danger. This kind of thing always start somewhere and I don’t it to get worse.

Please advise me what should I do?

Am I wrong for shutting down the family’s suggestions about parenting – especially about hitting my kids?