So my husband (m36) and I (f35) are school sweethearts. We got pregnant while studying, dated for a few years after we had our baby, and decided we did want to get married.

Through every single up and down, we were there for one another. I honestly didn’t think we could have a more perfect relationship. It’s something I have been so proud about most of my life.

About four months ago, my husband asked me to get a job at his company. Before this I had just been working part time jobs, because we didn’t really need the money since we weren’t financially responsible for a child anymore.

However, we agreed the extra money would be lovely to go towards our family trip funds. Something we both and our son add too as often as possible. Our hope being to take a family vacation across Europe for a few months.

And we are trying to make it happen sooner than later, because our son is recently married. We want them to be able to still go one the trip without worrying about a new baby.

Once I got the job I thought it was such a great decision. I was making quite a bit of extra money and seeing my husband so much more. Well a couple weeks ago, one of his co workers approached me, and asked how I could be so cool with the ongoing situation.

I had no idea what she was talking about. So I asked for more detail, and she told me my husband and one of his coworkers had been having an affair for over a year. Well honestly, I trust my husband more than this woman I just met. I told him about it that night, and he immediately broke down. He told me he was so sorry, but it was true.

He said I’m still the love of his life, but he needs some excitement outside of our relationship. He told me he had been feeling so guilty about it, he asked me to start working there. Hoping it would make him want to cheat less. But it’s actually just caused them to sneak around more, and find their relationship even more hot.

I don’t know what to do. I’m so humiliated. I feel like I should stick this out, because we have been together so long, and I know it would devastate our son. But I don’t think I can move on from this. He didn’t even apologize. Just told me every man needs something new and exciting in a long term relationship. And that it means nothing. Well it certainly feels like something.

My friend is struggling with a horrible landlord.

Back story: friend found a job in a different country and is moving out of Singapore. He conveyed his wish to landlord to terminate the rental agreement at the end of 4 months. He said he will then serve 2 months notice and then leave.

While negotiating his rental contract, he had a diplomatic clause put in which says….

“… shall be transferred, assign, posted or relocated out of the Republic of Singapore permanently by his organisation or cease to be employed and required to leave the Republic of Singapore then and in such a case, it shall be lawful for the Tenant to determine this tenancy by giving not less than 2 months’ advance notice. The tenant are required to find a new family profile tenant if the lease is less than 6th month or nis tenancy. Documentary evidence of such transfer or cessation shall be required and such notice shall be deemed to have commenced on such date as the Landlord shall have actually received such evidence and refund the deposit.”

But even after the 6 months (4 months + 2 months notice), the landlord first asked him to find an EXACT same family profile to transfer the lease. Friend showed him a PR couple (got rejected saying they don’t have kid), a live in couple (got rejected saying they are not married) and a family with 2 kids (got rejected saying they have 2 kids and not 1 like my friend has)…. So basically the landlord wants an exact same family profile like my friend’s…

Now, after my friend could not get a replacement tenant, landlord goes over and finds a new tenant, but now says he will still not return the deposit because my friend did not get him a replacement tenant. Threatened him to quietly buzz off or apparently he will take my friend to court.

Wanted to understand is there something that can be done about such cheapskate landlords? He is well aware my friend won’t file charges coz he has to leave the country.

Said this here once and I was char siewed roasted by others. I get that most Singaporeans have that “mind your own business” mindset and you’d survive but is it that difficult to at the very least be kind and empathetic.

Like today on the MRT, in a short train ride from Pioneer to Tanah Merah, I witnessed an auntie telling a little boy to get up from the seat cause she wants to sit. Didn’t ask nicely, didn’t say thanks. And on another reserved seat, man was playing his game from Pioneer to Queenstown. The minute a pregnant lady came in he turned off his game and immediately pretended to sleep. Again, “He also paid for his seat blablabla” argument would come into play. Or that one guy with their dirty ass shoes who chose to sit cross legged when it’s already so cramped up to begin with.

I myself have encountered cranky aunties and extremely rude customers on the job. Complaining at the littlest of things, demanding but redditors here said ,”oh they had a bad day, just move on with your life”

What if the person you yelled at, is having just as bad a day as you? What if that guy just received news that his grandma recently passed and that’s why he isn’t aware of his surroundings cause he is in deep thoughts. Or someone just got fired from their job and is now thinking of the multitude of bills to pay and family to feed. The waitress you yelled has worked 14 hours straight because she needs to earn extra cash to pay her medicines. Yes we do have bad days, but why do some choose to take it out on others? Is it cause they look “weak” as what some redditors here says?

We don’t have to go around hugging people and kissing their lips but life would be a whole lot better if we’re kind to other and be mindful of our words, don’t you think so? Or is that a utopian mentality that we can never achieve?

I just bought a corridor unit and my house is currently undergoing renovations. I like to go over every now and then to check on the process.

During one of the time, I noticed my neighbour letting her dog walk along the corridor by my house, waiting for her dog to go toilet (either 1 or 2 or both.. idk)

I mean, maybe they’ve been doing that cause for a couple of years that unit was empty.

But now, I’ll be moving in pretty soon and I’m hoping they’d stop with initiative.

In the event they don’t, am I in the right to go over to them and let them know that I’m uncomfortable with them allowing their dog to do that instead of bringing the dog for a walk downstairs.

Or will it cause an unnecessary drama/issue cause the corridor is a common area even though I can see whatever the dog is doing from my hall or room.

I’m kinda lost and I need advice.

Netizens’ comments

• If they let the dog pee outside your unit I think you have a strong case to confront them. If they let their dog pee outside their unit then… it’s very annoying but the unspoken rule is it’s “their corridor”
  Anyway that’s a very inconsiderate owner. None of the dog owners on my level allow their dog to do that. There was a new owner that let their dog do it and we all gather to tell them off. Quite epic sight actually. Anyway they “expat” and left after 2 years
• (OP) I understand that. This dog always walk around “my corridor”. I’m thankful that even though my floor is the corridor floor, for every 2 house, there’s a lift. I don’t have a need to be walking along anyone else’s corridor to get to the lift UNLESS my lift is broken down/under maintenance. I’ve not spoken to them about it cause I’ve yet to move in. So I’m hoping that they’ll have some initiative and stopped doing this. But in the event they don’t, and if I go talk to them to let them know how inconsiderate that is, I’m afraid I’d be causing like neighbour disputes and the environment will be hostile.
• Technically the area outside your house doesn’t belong to you, belongs to HDB.
  You can try asking nicely. If it doesn’t work, can contact Town Council

I (25F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for almost 4 years now.

We have been in an LDR situation for 3 years because of the Pandemic and we both live in different countries because of his work.

There’s no reason for me not to trust him. All our years together (and majority of it being LDR), nothing happened for me to lose my trust in him or to even doubt his feelings for me.

Except for 3 months ago. In our relationship, we often talk about how our day went, what happened at work, etc. It’s all pretty normal until he started talking about his colleague, Let’s call her Amy (not her real name). My BF has been working for that company for 2 years, while Amy worked for more than 5 years there.

I can’t really say that they recently met because from the beginning, they’re on the same department and team. In all my BF’s years of working there, he never once mentioned Amy. At least, not like how he does now.

Anyway, my BF told me how amazing Amy was at work, and how basically he feels really happy to have found her as a friend. I don’t really mind that until he said she’s his work wife. I know the concept of a work husband and work wife, and to be frank I don’t like that.

I asked since when have they been each other’s work spouse, and he told me around 3 months after he came to work, their office started to joke around saying how good Amy and my BF looked together. Their office consistently and always teased them together by giving projects both Amy and my BF need to do together which made them grow closer. They look after each other, and Amy even goes as far to pack my BF lunch everyday. She would often ask BF what he wanted to eat, and the next day she would cook it and bring it for him to eat.

I really couldn’t bear to hear more of what my BF had to share because I feel so betrayed. I feel lied to. In all those time I asked him how his day went by and how his work was, I never heard him tell me this story. I never knew Amy and him were that close, and I never knew his co-workers teased them.

I don’t know what to do, BF thinks I’m blowing things up for no reason and that I’m overreacting, but I feel really betrayed. What should I do?

I (28 f) and my ex (30 m) were divorced for 8 years.

We share a 7-year-old son together and he had a daughter with his current wife.

The reason for the divorce was that he was cheating on me with another woman (not his wife) and I found out by the text message he had on his phone. His new wife is an absolute sweetheart. She would always greet me whenever I picked up my son since we share custody or invite me to family events.

She was very friendly and decided to help co-parent for my son’s sake. Recently, she and my ex had a fight. He made a comment about her body and she was furious. I would be too because she had his daughter not long ago. I found out by my son and decided to help her.

She was always helping me out and I wanted to return the favor. She was judging her body by a full-length mirror and seemed pretty sad. I encouraged her that she was one of the most beautiful women I ever met and gave birth to the most beautiful angel there is.

That comment made her feel a bit better. I found myself turning her around and soon we kissed. This led to lovemaking. Honestly, it was one of the most amazing things that happened to me. After it stopped, she told me that I was beautiful. This made me feel more loved.

Never once, not even my ex, had told me I was beautiful. This made me feel happy and good. We soon got back to normal and soon the guilt soon met up with her. She mentioned that she cheated and that she needs to say the truth to my ex. I don’t want her to. There was already drama as it is. Honestly, if they do get a divorce, I want to date her. I’m inlove with her and want to be with her. She made me happy and is the most perfect woman I’ve met. I wanna be there for her and her daughter.

Treat her daughter like mine. Like she does for my son. But I don’t know. I need advice on what to do. Does my ex deserves this? Should I have pushed her away? Am I the bad guy?

After I had my first child I had postpartum depression.