Today I found out that I got super lowballed salary as a fresh grad. I’ve been working for this company in finance for 6 months as a junior PM. Drawing 4.5k.

Just found out today that there’s a girl who just joined, same role and same team, where she let it slip that she’s drawing 6.2k a month. WTF. No prior experience, graduated from some uni in the US, 21 yo. While ive been working my ass off for internships as local grad wasting my life away in NS and joining workforce at 25.

How should I raise this to my manager, or should I even? What should I say?

To be fair, I might have lowballed myself during the interview too, when I was asked. As I only used Glassdoor and some friends as reference. Asked for 4.7k, got 4.5k. But knowing that theres someone who just joined thats getting 1.7k more than me is insane.

Am I screwed now or what when it comes to next job during negotiation (since they ask for last draw).

I’m afraid of asking for a raise now, since there’s nothing to so-called back my claim on what I’m doing better to deserve higher pay. Then again, whatever i overheard about the new girl earning more is more hearsay (not even sure if i can use this to leverage, or worst make it look bad on me or backfire)

What should i do? Or suck thumb? 🙁

I (20F) recently went through a medical abortion here in Singapore. I’m not going to specify my details here for confidentiality reasons but I’m just going to share about my experience and my emotions.

I found out I was pregnant. A week later I broke up with my boyfriend as he did not want to be part of this. He neglected me right after i brought up the break up and went on to clubbing,parties and gone back to his old ways while I’m still going through my pregnancy. I can’t deny that it hurts terribly but from that point I knew that I could never have him in my life anymore.

Obviously I’m too young to raise the child by myself and I had covid and even took emergency contraceptive weeks before confirming my pregnancy. With no partner around and a baby potentially growing unhealthily in me, it is best for me to abort.

The experience to those in Singapore who want to know:

During ultrasound, i was still under 10 weeks pregnant so I didn’t think I would be able to see the shape of the baby and the heartbeat. The guilt really hit me as I have to abort him/her.

Counselling is mandatory. It was a 15 minute talk with a councillor. She didn’t convince me to keep, she only went through the abortion process and advise me on the variety of contraceptive options they have such as IUD and hormonal injections.

The abortion is in two parts: Part one is having the mifepristone orally then going home after 30 mins of observation. Soon after taking the pill I experienced fever and fatigue. The second day I vomited for an hour and had diarrhoea.

The second part is a misoprostrol pill that will be inserted into the vagina 2 days after taking the first pill.

For KKH, it is mandatory to be admitted in the hospital until its confirmed that the baby is fully expelled while the rest of the hospitals allow you to go home after the insertion of the pill.

I was still vomiting in the morning and I was told to be admitted in the hospital at 5am(not real timing). I got a bed 30 mins after registration and changed into the gown provided. They provided pads, disposable underwear, pee pads for the bed and wipes. Before breakfast, medication is given. Anti gastric to be taken before breakfast, antibiotics and painkillers to be taken after.

They inserted the misoprostol pill before breakfast came so I was already experiencing cramps before I could even take the painkillers. Breakfast came and i took the pills with it but vomited out everything 30 mins after. I wasn’t allowed to take anymore painkillers as i could only have them every 4 hrs.

The pain was horrible, it was the worst I’ve ever gone through. The nurses said that it is similar to childbirth and the pain was necessary to expel the fetus. I couldn’t sleep or use my phone to distract myself so it was just pain for the next 4 hours. I vomited and had diarrhoea another 3 times.

Around 4 hrs later a huge blob came. Its a clear sac filled with purple blood (probably deoxygenated since i had the pill two days earlier). Called the nurses and they retrieved the fetus. There were a lot of mixed feelings. Relieved because its out but sad because my body lost a child.

I then bled most of the tissues out, going through 1 pad every two hours. I had my last ultrasound and its all good so I was discharged in the evening. The whole process was 11 hours.

That was my abortion experience in Singapore and I would never want anyone to go through that.

Right now, I’m still experiencing the grief of losing my partner and the guilt of terminating our child. I would like to know if there’s anyone that went through the same situation as me, how did you go through this without a partner?

What would you do if your neighbour smokes at his balcony all the time?

I asked this in my BTO chat and to my horror up to 6 families have all their windows shut to accomodate and live in stuffy conditions only to allow their smoking neighbour the ability to smoke in his own home.

I’ve always felt that in SG, you are not really a king of your own property. If you make too much noise at midnight, too frequently, you can get sued for private nuisance.

Likewise, if you decide to grow plants in your house till its an eyesore and grows outta your window, the TC will come chop your plants away. Sadly, for ciggs which are way more harmful than plants and music, its supposedly ok.

How would any of you deal w a neighbour who smokes like a chimney?

Edit: have gone down a few times and pressed the doorbell but left standing there. Not keen to talk somehow.

Also all 6 families i polled in my bto telegram all have different smoking neighbours hahaha.

Netizen’s comments

Is the smoking unit above or below you? Above then nothing can be done from your side. Maybe burn some incense.

If they are below you, a lot of things you can do. Spray insecticide to kill mosquitos and insects, use Mr Muscle Bleach to clean your wall, wash your windows, do jumping jacks to keep fit every now and then, aim your subwoofers downwards and blast some death metal while you are at work or out for dinner.

Morale of the story is don’t have bad relationships with neighbors who live directly above you. They can make your life a living hell.

This is frustrating me. He doesn’t believe in using a microwave to heat up food. If I have left overs and it’s been a long day I can’t heat up food in a microwave it has to be on a stove. If I want popcorn I can’t use the microwave.

Now that I started my new job he refuses to let me use the microwave at work and suggested I take the air fryer. He gets frustrated when I want to use the microwave. He believes it can cause cancer.

Like wtf it feels over controlling. I don’t tell him how to eat his food or what he eats. I don’t know but it’s starting to upset me. I can’t even drink regular water from the fridge it has to be filtered water he filled up at a store.

It’s upsetting me. I understand he means well about health but I’m not stuffing my face with greasy fast food, sugar ladden soda, carbs, and anything that can severely damage my health.

UPDATE: We had an argument and I asked if we could have boundaries he blew it out of proportion and brought up a past relationship about his ex drinking soda and that’s what ended their relationship.

He said ok you can have boundaries you can do whatever you want to do don’t let me stop you. Then he went on a tangent about me and my blood pressure issues and how the microwave is damaging my body.

My BP issues are from major life stressors before I met him. He said sure we can have boundaries and if I decided to go out on a drinking binge, I have that right…

Like…. He doesn’t believe in me taking BP medication, he doesn’t believe in using a microwave, he doesn’t believe in drinking certain water. I’m at a loss.

We just moved in together two days ago and I made the 200 mile journey for my health. I don’t know… There’s so much I can type to this story it’s overwhelming.