Found out that some girl is claiming to be dating my ex; has his picture as her phone lock screen and everything.

Even posts Instagram posts about him using pictures that look quite dated. (His hair is way longer in person now)

I know that my ex went out with her a few times before, but I also know that there’s no way she’s dating him.

How do I know she’s not dating him? She claims to go out for lunch with him every other day, but he usually eats lunch in his office. She says he works at a startup, he actually works in NUS in the building next to mine. He is attached; just not to her.

I don’t know why she’d do this; she patently doesn’t go out with my ex for lunch, that’s impossible because she works in Pasir Ris and he eats in his office, and all the things she’s posting are obviously a couple of years old.

I’m just very confused to why anyone would claim to be dating some guy they weren’t, and my ex no less. He used to be a player kind of guy so my friends suggested that some girls like “snagging” this kind of players but I honestly have no clue what that would be like – we broke up because he cheated on me with some attached girl he met at a bar. What’s the draw even? What does it even benefit her to fake a relationship with someone like him?

Here are what netizens think:

• Why would you even pay attention to what your ex is doing and your ex’s life? Before you even judge about other girl’s actions, maybe you yourself should get a life first… he’s your ex not your bf, you have no rights to be stalking him or that girl (although you shouldn’t be stalking your bf as well but stalking bf is more justifiable than stalking your ex) whatever the girl is doing, you shouldn’t even be affected by it cos she’s not doing you any harm in any way…

• Probably your ex asked her for help to do all that to get u off his back. Cos ex already but u still stalking his life. Get a grip and move on la.

• Ytd, my ex ate chicken rice for dinner.

• Crazy. Delusional. Send her to doctor

I work with a woman whose mother passed away last month and now she’s raising a special needs kid by herself.

Well, everyone has their own problems and we are not like close or what. I had it enough and did not want to hear her sob story.

So I told her to go jump down the building if she had enough, I also said that this is a workplace to earn money, not for you to sell your sad stories.

She then said she was just telling how she feel, I told her. “Guess what nobody cares, You sound like a geylang girl who tells me a sad story and wishes the customers tip them more. But your too ugly to be one.”

Am I wrong for not being her soundboard or unpaid therapist?

My boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 years, we live together and I love him so much, we have a great time together, we are constantly laughing and having fun.

But I have a higher S drive than him and it sometimes makes me sad.

We do it 2 maybe 3 times a month and recently I feel like he’s just trying to get it over with. Tonight i told him I was in the mood and I kept trying to kiss him. He was kissing me back but in a fooling around kind of way which wouldn’t allow me to get things more hot and heavy.

He also told me he wasn’t really in the mood. Eventually, after a while, he gave in but it made me feel like he was doing it because he felt bad. We ended up doing it, but he finished very quickly and I was noooo where near my finish.

He attempted to keep going for me but I was messy and uncomfortable with him finishing that I just told him to not worry about it. We got into a little bit of a heated discussion afterwards because he sensed that I was upset and it’s not that’s I’m upset with him personally, it’s just my love language is physical touch and it’s important to me that we have a healthy S life.

I rather have it everyday.

He also takes this very personally when I bring it up. This has been something that has come up here and there in the past. But I’m wondering what we can do to improve our lives.

We are very honest with each other and he knows how I feel but he just keeps apologizing and promising me that he’ll make it up to me. I just feel like he doesn’t have it in him all the time.

Can someone help me understand why people choose to spend 3 or 4 years studying for a degree in soft fields such as sociology or history or english literature, when it is so clear that first, it would be next-to impossible for them to get a decent-paying job; and second, they will spend the rest of their lives being mocked by computer scientists, engineers, data scientists etc. as being significantly less competent/intelligent; not to mention the fact that their fields provide nothing of value compared to STEM.

I don’t even like CS. I was a HP student in JC. I’m inclined to say that I hate it. I hate computers, I hate math. But I dragged myself out of bed everyday to do it. I graduated FCH and I now have a high-paying job.

I understand how much someone can love subjects like history and literature. I love world history with a real passion. I just don’t understand how people can spend money to study it. I have had JC classmates who are studying history at some of the most expensive universities in the US. Why?

I’m not discrediting history/literature as “easy” subjects. The amount of time you have to spend digesting all the readings and to package them coherently in your mind in order to put forward a critical argument is sometimes more difficult than any math or CS class I have had to take. My best friend studies anthropology and his readings are so esoteric (and long) that it is a wonder how he manages to synthesize them all. But the stigma that humanities-types are inferior in intelligence is nothing new, and it will always be a puzzle to me that someone will subject themselves to that sort of societal discrimination.

If I was born to a rich family and I know I wouldn’t have to work for the rest of my life, for sure I will be pursuing a degree that I am passionate in. I’d even do a PhD. But for the majority of us who do not have that luxury, it will forever elude me that someone would graduate with a history degree, with which the only thing they can do is teach.

Honestly, how do people be like earning anything more than 3k when they’re starting out?

I (23M) barely managed to crawl out of poly and NS, and the success stories out here makes me damn salty with my meager 2k borderline salary lmao.

And it’s not like I can’t wait to get a higher pay, but I really feel like the science industry (lmao lab techs especially) are really paid too little. Scrolled through JobStreet today and all I see are <2.5k salaries, minimum bachelor’s, some even degree!

Man with the amount yall paying me not only do I get to eat grass every month, but also watch my salary get increase by a meager $50 per year, while trying to save up for a uni cert, hopefully in a different industry where it’s easier to advance.

If there’s any advice though, please help a poor guy out sigh.

Netizens’ comments

• If you are chiobu just work in siam diu easy peasy get $10k per month, but you guy ah so bopian
• When I grad from poly last time, my starting pay was only $1.4k. You need to do job hop like every 2yrs in order to increase your pay faster. At the same time, gain as much working experience as possible. Learn as much as possible during the starting stage.
  Best is to get a degree. Jiayou!
• Get a degree cert then?
  Last time I was a diploma holder with years of relevant experience but I was doing the same role and getting the same pay as my then colleagues who were a few years younger than me and freshly graduated from uni with zero experience.
• Although our salaries were the same, I was doing more because managers liked to find me to do their work (even if I wasn’t assigned to them) because I was more experienced.
  Was quite frustrated because my pay seemed to get stuck at a certain amt. Simply couldn’t hit $3k despite working for many years already. For my case, I later went to get a degree also lor.
• Why the need to feel so salty of your 2k salary. You are a fresh grad with no experience. There is this echo chamber happening in social media now that it seem like everyone started with 5k – 6k. Those type of starting pay demand you to be certain field where talent are scarce and the industry is blooming. In tech, there is nothing to be envy about. These fresh folks that earn 6k. If they are not any good, out they go within 2 months or their salary will be stagnant for a long time. So don’t be too upset, everyone have a different staring point. Uncle here also started at the lowest food chain before raises all the way up. So substance more than fluff is the way to go forward. Life is a long journey, they can be higher earning now doesn’t mean they will be 20 years down the road. Heck even 30 years. So no biggy, be smart, be hardworking, be opportune seek the right moment and you have a chance to be successful.