I told my mom that I would put her in a nursing home as soon as I able to

My dad died when I (18f) was 10. Ever since my mom (58) and I have had a complicated relationship. Some days we are good, others not so much.

Today was one of the not so much days. She wanted that we go out on a walk. My clothes weren’t perfectly ironed but still good enough to go out.

When she saw me, she flipped out. Started screaming at me that I was lying to her face about my clothes, she wanted to slap me, took most of the clothes out and put them on the floor.

I told her to go alone then because I was scared of her in that moment. Again, she started screaming at me and I went to another room.

When she entered and yelled at me, I couldn’t hold it in and told her that as soon as I’m able to that I will leave her in a nursing home. She went silent and when I left the room, she was gone.

I don’t regret it one bit.

EDIT: A lot of people have asked me about dementia and menopause, I’m not really sure has my mother even been tested for dementia but it does run on her mother’s side of the family (but most of them got in their 70s/80s).

She started her menopause 6 years ago. But she has been acting this way for years, it just was easier to deal with when my father was alive.

She does have a boyfriend. They’ve been together for the last 5 years or so.

And we’re not from the US.

Minor update: when she came back, she was all quiet and didn’t even try to talk to me (to be fair, I didn’t try to talk to her), then she went to sleep to get ready for her night shift. Right now, she is at work, I’ll see what tomorrow brings.

Partner with wild undiagnosed anger issues took back my engagement ring but im scared ill be painted as the bad guy if I leave

Hello, much like the title says my (28F) partner (29M) of 5 years took back my engagement ring yesterday in what I would describe as a daily mood swing.

This morning before he went to work he was behaving weirdly and tried to say goodbye before he left. I just ignored him.

His mother told me I need to be supportive of him (he had a major injury a few months back) but I feel like his behavior as of late teeters on possibly mistreatment.

Ive tried to leave in the past and he’s made it almost impossible

I’m worried if I leave, ill be painted as a monster over it because of his injury and the fact our wedding is 2 months away.

I feel like I’ve hit my limit and its probably time to leave, but I dont know how as our lives are so intermingled.

Any advice appreciated

Netizens’ comments

DO NOT GET MARRIED IF YOU ARE UNSURE.

He took the ring back, the wedding is off. Send out that announcement. Put the blame where it lies..

If you still want to marry him make him repropose and do not say yes until he has dealt with his issues.

2 months is far to soon for him to work on it.

I would start untangling your lives.

My Wife has become a militant vegan and I can’t stand it any more.

My wife became a vegetarian during the lockdown. When she told me she wanted to change her diet, I told her that was fine but not to expect me or the kids to follow along with her.

I would not expect her to cook me meat, and if we were eating together I would make sure to either cook vegetarian or make sure to cook meat separately from everything else. This worked well, there was literally no problems until this year.

At first it started with her getting a bit preachy about things. She would start to tell me or the kids how unhealthy meat was, how cruel the industry was, yada yada.

She went Vegan soon after and it has been a nightmare since then.

A few months ago, out of nowhere, she told me that animals products would not be allowed in the house at all. Obviously she does not just get to say that. I brought up the fact that she agreed that the rest of the family would not have to follow her diet.

Our kids are teens, and I’m a fully grown adult. She had a tantrum. A full on toddler tantrum when I told her this.

Now, she chastises me and the kids whenever she sees us eating meat. She tried to get the kids to watch documentaries with her, and has meltdowns when they don’t want to.

She got into a fight with her dad and refused to go to his birthday celebration because they refused to only have a vegan cake (but offered to buy a second one so she could join.)

I don’t know what happened. I’ve tried to talk to her about this and she looses her cool with me every time. Her insults just get more bizarre.

She calls me and the kids nazis and says we are supporting the “modern day holocaust.” The kids are absolutely tired of it.

Our son makes fun of her behind her back all the time now, and I’m less and less inclined to stop him. Our daughter refuses to be around her now, and tells me when she moves out of the house that she will never talk to her mom unless something changes.

I just want my wife back, now whatever activist monster she’s become.

I think my mom hasn’t showered in over a year.

For context, I (16F) and my mom (~45F) live together in, what id say, is a nice home. We aren’t super fortunate but we manage, we are lower middle class.

She works 6 days a week for hours at a job that’s pretty exhausting, she’s a manager for a place that’s especially busy during this time of year.

When she gets home, I’ve noticed that she’s usually too tired to cook and she just chills out – which I’m okay with.

On her day off, she spends time with me but i haven’t seen her shower in a while. She sleeps in the living room every night despite having a room.

I think it’s just a bad habit but it makes me sad seeing that she doesn’t take care of herself properly anymore.

She doesn’t smell or look dirty so I’m pretty sure she showers but not often or when I’m around. I want to convince her to get back into the routine of showering or bathing everyday but I don’t want to seem like I’m calling her dirty. I love her so much and I just want the best for her.

Ever since i developed anorexia, she’s cared about me much more than herself and i think the habit just stuck. Any advice??

Joss paper burning smoke

Okay I understand that it is ghost month now and this is a religious practice, and i fully respect that but honestly the smoke is just getting unbearable.

I live on the 3rd floor and there 3 joss paper bins placed just below my block.

I honestly don’t even know where they come from cause ive been living here for a while and from what i can recall there was only 1.

To add some salt to the wound, I have no idea who set this up but there are 1-2 incense stick shrines set up on my void deck (pardon me as i have no idea what are they called) so my whole house smells nothing but smoke.

From the toilets, kitchen, living and dining, nothing but smoke. And its been causing alot of health problems as well cause allergies that i have not experienced before started to appear(allergic rhinitis, for those people who knows, yeah they suck) which coincidentally started when the burning starts.

So i am now on daily meds because of it. Its honestly getting real frustrating cause theres almost nothing i can do about it and its affecting my whole family..is there any way to bring these matters to?

I’ve recently been getting a call from a robot claiming to be from MOH. Apparently they have tried to call me ‘many times but no response’.

It’s pretty annoying because I run a business and therefore have to pick up every time I get a call from an unknown number (I don’t trust enough that a +65 code automatically means it’s a scam).

Does anyone here know how this scam works? If I press 1 for English, will that put me on some premium pay call that adds hundreds of dollars to my phone bill, or is it just going to take me to someone who wants my personal/bank details?

Asking because I would just really love to waste someone’s time.

Netizens’ comments

1. After you pressed one, they will transfer you to a Chinese speaking person who asked you what they can do for you. This is dumb as they are the one who called you in the first place.
   Anyway, when I feel it I will play along. I wil give my name which is obviously a fake to any Singaporeans, like Chan Kee Chiu, or Pinky Lee Ah Long. They won’t have a clue. If it is an Indian sounding person, I will give my name as “Far Kyo Urmum” and my email is “my name without the blank” @gmail.com. It will take a while but they get it.
   Use your imagination and just play along. No need to get angry as you are just having fun.
   In most cases I couldn’t be bothered and just declined any +65 calls.
2. A +65 on a telephone line is almost 100% a scam. It’s only through digital call-over-internet services where normal people need to transmit the country code to another local number. If they are dialing you from a Singapore number (+65) to you in Singapore though the telephone networks (not whatsapp), they would not be using an international service to do so because it’s expensive.
   If you see the +65 this means it is an international call with caller ID spoofing. There are a few legitimate uses for this, mostly overseas customer support services for local companies, but if you’re getting called out of nowhere from a +65 number it is almost certainly a scammer trying to pretend to be Singaporean when they are likely sitting in a call center in Yunnan or whatever.
   Whatever you press, you’ll get connected to a Chinese scammer. The button press isn’t for language – it’s to screen out automated answers, answering machines, and missed calls due to the automated cold call system. When you press 1 or 2 they know an actual human is on the line, so they redirect you to their human scammer.
   Then they’ll hand you their spiel where they claim you have to pay a fine or whatever and convince you to transfer money to them. The scamming itself is profoundly unsophisticated and works by cold-calling massive numbers of people and hoping for the naive exception who will believe them. In fact, answering a +65 number is the first screening step for the gullible, and pressing the language button is the second. The pool of those who do both is prime material for being scammed.

A man in his 50s shared a story about how he visits brothels in Geylang just to listen to the stories of the women working there.

He said that “not once have I engaged in anything more than a chat, I hear teary stories.”

Here is what he said

Single Male Who Is Into Visiting Prostitutes With a Twist

I am 50 and single Indian Singaporean male. I have never had a girlfriend nor wife. I have visited many porstitutes especially those within licenced brothels.

I am sure that you must have assumed I had poked a lot of oysters and what a lucky chap I am.

To be honest, not once have I engaged in anything more than a chat. I hear teary stories. Some were forced into the world’s oldest profession. Some were tricked into a decent job which turned out to be prostitution.

Each time I walk in, I bring 4 packets of tissue. Two for the lady and two for myself. I walk out with tissue filled with tears and mucus.

I walk out with thoughts and reflection of all the various stories. It makes me hate those who go to these places and pay for happy ending, without knowing what they are going through.

Most just want you to do whatever you want to do and get out. They de sentisise their body and just lie down waiting for it to be over.

My heart aches for each one of them.

A man shared a story stating the amount of money one has does not equate to happiness after investing in stocks and earning almost a million dollars.

But many disagree and said that the amount of money has directly impacted the happiness level. What do you guys think?

Here is the story:

I been working part-time and odd jobs since I was 16. In that time I have also invested since 18 and with sheer luck, I am close to being a millionaire now(had an amazing run in 2020).

No one knows but it has chipped at my motivation for school. Knew that it would take me years to earn the same amount. And given the return, if I would get from S&P 500 I should be able to just cruise on in life without ever finding a job.

The lesson learnt here is money really doesn’t bring happiness, but it sure does make life a lot less stressful and reduces your motivation for almost everything as well.

Here are what netizens think:

• Yes, and daydreaming about being a millionaire does make life a lot less stressful too

• Weird flex but okay

• It’s all fun and games till the S&P eventually goes down. Hope you’ve been cashing out consistently or have some cash for the bad years

• Because you don’t have enough money lah. If you have one billion, things would be vastly different.