Fresh grad here. Got into a decent division for work n stuff, everyone in my team is at least 10 years older than me.

Just got my first dose of workplace harassment today. It was from someone way older at a better division.

The person intentionally spelt my name into a cursed word that is ominous especially during the 7th month for Chinese and replied super rudely to my emails.

She also kept spam calling my extension number until I start doing the stuff she emailed me (everything crucial and necessary was missing too).

This was all just to spite me because I didn’t reply on 9 Aug and was prioritizing the really important/urgent things to be done today. Hers wasn’t urgent.

is there anyway to handle this? I will probably see her a lot in the future too. I foresee myself staying in my first job for at least 2 years since I get lots of useful experience and exposure.

Neighbour’s renovation damaged my wall

Update: Contractor said that the wall was shoddily built in the first place, he’s willing to fix it (the way he phrases it is as a favour to us), acknowledges that he didn’t do pre-survey but said that it would have cracked anyway.

So apparently it’s our fault as well? Says he’s straight up not going to pay for a third party to fix it, and that getting HDB would only result in us & neighbour splitting the cost. Can somebody confirm?

I suspect he’s trying to take advantage of the fact that we don’t have much construction knowledge, mom wants to give in and just let them repair the wall w/o getting hdb involved but at this stage I don’t trust them??

As per title, neighbour has been renovating for probably about a week, and one fine day we noticed that our wall was kinda protruding in the middle & had cracks along the walls, very obvious and huge ones. The wall was still fine the day before.

We spoke to the contractor, they came down to have a look but what they initially proposed was for us to bear half the cost of repairs.

Of course we found that ridiculous – it had been totally fine for 20+ years, now that they have damaged it, we still had to pay to fix it? We rejected it and they said they would speak to the owners and get back to us again.

Would like to ask:

is there any recourse for us if they insist on us sharing half the cost?

what we requested was simply for them to restore the wall to its original state. however is there a possibility that they may do a shoddy job just to placate us?

anybody experienced the same? how did that work out?

A netizen shared how his wife works for a minimart as a storekeeper, working from 11am to 8pm, and her employer refuses to let her go out for her lunch break.

He said that her employer makes her eat at the shop and she has to stop eating when a customer comes in to serve them.

He also said that the employer monitors her via the CCTV and asks her where is she if the employer can’t see her on the CCTV.

Here is what he said

Denied Lunch breaks by employer

So my wife is working at a minimart as a storekeeper/cashier. She is the only employee. She works 5.5 days per week. 11am to 8pm on Mon to Thurs and Saturdays. She works 11am to 3pm on Fridays.

On Saturdays(busiest day), her employer does not allow her to close the shop for her lunch break which means she eats in the store and has to stop everytime a customer comes in. She is still technically at work, and working.

I have been on MOM and she is entitled to a minimum of 45 mins break for every 8 hours of work. i have also seen shops with the ‘closed for lunch break’ sign so its perfectly normal.

Being the only employee, if she were to bring this up to MOM, she would be found out and could risk being fired. Plus her employer is quite the a-hole, always monitoring the cameras and asking her whereabouts if she cant be seen.

Is there any way this can be resolved?

Female boss hitting on me, GF wants to breakup 7 yr relationship

For a bit of context, I (28M) have been on a 7 year relationship with my GF (27F) and we have been living together for almost a year now.

However, for the past 5 months, I have been approached by a senior manager (who is 2 levels above me in my company). First she (31F) invited for some 5 minutes coffee machine breaks, then she started a project and choose me for that project, and then for a drink and for dinner.

I thought that I was being valued for my performance and developing a good relation with my boss, however she told me she had feelings for me, and I explained to her that I didn’t feel the same, I had a GF and was building a life with her. After this conversation, she stopped the moves for a while.

Some weeks later, she called me to advise there was an open position for team leader in another department and that I should apply to it. She also told me she could give some tips, and we agreed to meet after work, and I cleared up that it wouldn’t be any date or something, just as work friends.

Long story short, I always told my GF what was happening, however seeing as she reacted, I hid some things from her, and this is where i messed up.

I didn’t tell my GF of all the times I was with her, and lied to her about not being woth her. Also, there were some company events where she was and I didn’tell my GF to avoid a fight. However I NEVER considered cheating, and wasn’t attracted or anything.

My GF saw some messages in my company laptop and found out about it. She moved out and thinks I cheated on her. I have no idea what to do. Any help?

I’ve known this guy for years. He works in USA, 14000+ km away. He earns like USD 9k per month minimum, the company paid for the car and housing, and he got bonuses for being expat in a foreign country.

He can only return to Singapore once a year. We talked on a daily basis for hours using whatever means of communication – videocall, whatsapp, instagram, everything. I literally switched on my camera the whole time by the time he got home until his bedtime, like a CCTV, solely to make sure he’s not lonely in such a foreign country.