A man that my mom rejected in back school messaged me on Facebook today, saying he’s been waiting for me to be 18…

18f here. I don’t really know where to start but, today I got a Facebook message from someone named “David” asking me if I was available to chat.

Now normally I don’t even answer random requests but I saw he had a few mutual friends with me (one being my mom) I figured if she knew him then maybe he’s not a creeper.

I reply, saying yes and asked why he was messaging me. He then says that he’s about my moms age (she’s 42) and that about their last year in school he asked her out and she sadly rejected him because she only wanted to date tall men.

I say that’s pretty unfortunate, but maybe he’s confused cause I don’t have anything to do with that. He said he’s been waiting for me to turn 18 and would’ve messaged sooner after my birthday but he’s been in jail. Yikes…

He then sends a long paragraph explaining that he has vowed ever since that day that he would marry one of her daughters and since my twin sister seemed uninterested in men, and that my older sister was far too old for him, he decided to go after me.

Meaning he’s stalked all of our profiles…..

He said my body didn’t even look like I had a kid and that he’s glad I’m so petite unlike my mother. Added that he’d gladly accept my son in our new life. I stopped him right there and said I was in a relationship and was definitely not interested in someone who was as old as my mom!

He said he had money and a house and was far better in bed than the “man child” of a boyfriend I had. That this was his chance to prove to my mom that she messed up. I stopped replying, sent the screenshots to my mom and she was mortified. We’ve both blocked him and had a good laugh.

Moral of the story, don’t keep in touch or add your rejected school friends on Facebook or else they may try to date your kids when they’re 18 :,)

Is a single income of 100k per year enough for a family of 4-5 to live in Singapore?

I am turning 33 this year and my wife is 1 year younger and in early pregnancy with our 1st child. We have discussed and she has plans to quit the workforce and be a full time stay home mum when the child is born.

In the last 2 of her jobs, she was unlucky to be in toxic workplaces and it has pretty stressed her out. We had also agreed that it is good she would take care and be fully present for our kids during their growing up years and it will allow me to concentrate on my career also.

We have plans to have 2-3 kids eventually. She currently earns about 60+k per year and we won’t have this income anymore in a few months’ time.

For myself, I earn slightly above 100k per year but I foresee that the future increases in the next few years won’t be substantial as I am nearing the ceiling of the market rate for my type of job. Unless I go into management or totally change industries, which is really not my preference.

Our home is currently a 5 room resale flat with monthly payment of 2.5k per month for the home and reno loan paid with CPF and cash.

We have no plans to change houses for a long time as the place is big enough even with 3 kids.

Insurance about 500+ per month for the both of us and I believe it will go up as more kids come along.

Other than these, we have no other major fixed expenses. We also have no other passive or investment income as we are not experts in investments and most of our savings have went into the house and wedding and our remaining funds need to be saved for the future kid’s expenses.

I might get a used car for transport if we have 2 or more kids, but it is still early days.

I would like to ask for any advice esp for folks with a young family and who have done it on a single income, is my income of 100k alone enough to support a family of 4-5 people in Singapore?

I worked as a software developer for a company that provided 5500 dollars for training.

The only stipulation is you have to stay at the company for six months after your last training or else your last paychecks are deducted to cover the amount you used. So in my case – I used 4500 dollars by April.

Since I left before November, I won’t get paid for all of August. I signed a contract so there is no way out of this. I used so much of my budget because I loved the type of software I was developing and had every intention of staying at the company indefinitely.

Girlfriend [22f] flirts with others in front of me. She has a history of cheating

I’m 28M. We’ve been together for 5 months. Recently we went out and she spotted a hot guy at the bar. She has never been so keen to get the drinks. I didn’t pay for a single beer that night.

They chatted, laughed – she was very flirty – and he gave her the drinks half price. I was ignored by both of them. I thanked him but no eye contact and she said nothing to me either.

Later we were dancing, got pretty drunk and ended up kissing heavily against the wall of the place. It was hot but she definitely kept looking over at the guy at the bar in between kissing – it hurt me but I didn’t let her know.

There have been other times – harmless, nothing ever goes further than flirting and chatting, but it bothers me because of something she said: she cheated on a previous boyfriend, kissing a mutual friend in a club when they were there together. This started a new relationship.

The jealousy and feelings of inadequacy really hurt. It makes me think I should end the relationship now, before she does something – even though as far as I’m aware she has been loyal to me. Should I talk to her about my fears or is this the wrong thing to do?

Background: This is a fresh story and I want a spectators opinion, it happened 2 days ago. My wife (32F) and me (32M) are expecting a baby soon. She’s 7 months pregnant, 1st child.