I have a cousin from my aunt. Said aunt is my mom’s cousin and very close friend. We grew up raised as siblings, as I had no other siblings until I was 10 years old.

So I am working as a secretary, I have been in this company about 6 months and in that time I have seen come and go:

• 4 managers
• 13 executives

The manager (Let’s call him Ben) has been there for about 8 years even though the owner (Lets call him Tony) keeps trying to replace him, but that’s a different story. I’m going to talk about Tony.

He is an older guy, about 62, and he is the most disgusting man I have ever worked for in my life. He is a pervert and when girls come in for interviews he will sit down with them for about 3 hours, ply them with drinks, give them food and tell them the same recycled story:

• He used to work for some big big MNC
• He has a supermodel girlfriend (who leaves her panties in his car according to him)
• He is looking for someone to really change things around here (BS)

In reality what he does is offer these girls jobs as managers or whatever positions he promises, and then uses that as an excuse to talk to them for hours about perverted things. When the girl asks to bring the conversation back to the office he says “But if you want to be a manager here we need to know each other better.” One girl told me that he asked her things that she would be uncomfortable telling her boyfriend.

He hires girls from as young as 17 and brings in clothes for them to wear, all the time talking to them about inappropriate things. He will ring them and try to convince them to go to the cinema with him.

He gets jealous if I talk to any of the girls too much or hang out with them after work. He uses pseudonyms when he rings girls for interviews, pretending to be the hiring manager for the restaurant chain when theres only one restaurant! In this persona he even refers to himself as a ‘child prodigy’. He even has a wife he pretends does not exist.

When I’m off work he often calls me and asked me to come back, he even asked me to leave my boyfriend if I cannot “prioritise my boss”.

My question is how can I get him to suffer? What rights do I have and who can I contact to hold him accountable? I don’t think I can get him on anything S because he is careful and the 12 or so girls that have quit because of him are hard to contact.

‘How can I do it but still protect my job? I need to pay bills!

Any help would be appreciated!

I [m29] was secretly a cam boy for 10+ years without any of my friends or family knowing

I started the day after I turned 18 and continued for a bit more than 10 years. I perceived it first as a community of people who do explicit stuff in front of each other.

I found it exciting and the interest in me and the people coming into my stream and interacting was what got me hooked.

Over time I got into more extreme things to attract a bigger audience. I got bigger toys, deeper insertions, fisting and other weird things for the shows.

I did all of that while studying and also later when I took on a teaching job at the university. I lived a double life in constant fear of being found out, but when I came home I often went immediately in front of the cam and stayed until late into the night.

When I had less time to spent on camming I started uploading picture sets and videos to several adult pages. My profile on PH made it to 3.5 million views before I closed it.

A woman shared a story about her boyfriend tricking her to use her credit card to make big purchases so that he can earn some “cash back” but it ended up with her having to pay the debt.

Using a credit card is like a loan, while a credit card has a lot of perks it could have some downsides as well.

Here is the story:

I have been together with my boyfriend for 6 months, we often talk about how we are going to get married in the future and settle down.

But as it turns out it was nothing but a fairy tale, in fact, it has become a nightmare.

About 2 weeks ago, my boyfriend said that he was going to purchase a Gucci Bag that was around $1300++.

He told me that he wants to buy it and wants to use my credit card as I am able to get a 2% cash back, he said that it is like getting almost $30 off discount from the purchase and I reluctantly agreed. I normally use my credit card only to pay the bills and discounts for buffets or some restaurants.

So I helped him with the purchase and he received his Gucci bag and he received it in about a week’s time.

We went out for dinner and he told me how happy he was as he had a new bag and said that he will pay me back later that night.

“Later that night” has been two weeks, I called him several times and send him many Whatsapp but he did not respond.

I tried to contact him via Facebook and realised that he has blocked me on all social media platforms including Instagram and Telegram.

I did not know what to do and started confiding in my friends, they told me that he probably hatched the plan a long time ago and had the intention to broke up with me all along. Deep down I knew it but I did not expect him to really break up with me this way.

Now I’m left with paying back the credit card debt and I am thinking of how I can get my money back, I don’t want to make things big as much job is already giving me enough stress and problems.

Any suggestions will be appreciated.

Employer terminated me after calling me a joke

I’m reflecting and thinking how to change myself in the future.

Yesterday I got into trouble with my boss and resigned on the spot but got terminated first by her.

I joined this company 2 weeks ago and she has been passive aggressive to me since the interview and signing of the contract. For instance, she would accuse me and then praise me, say something bad then say something positive like “oh I was just joking”.

Was supposed to meet her to collect my stuff but she cancelled out 8am, saying she had an emergency family meeting, then later when I met her, she slipped that she slept more and woke up at 10. She last minute wanted me to come down at 3pm and said she has no other time and I went.

I was supposed to start WFH on friday and we had a call. Then she stated that I can come down on saturday to have an in person session, which frustrated me more as that was not planned. I said ok to come down 8am-1pm the next day

The next day, I overslept. I woke up at 8.15am and texted in the group that I will be there at 10am. She sent a list of texts that I infer are to guilt trip me or show me she is alpha (in which case, she can go f herself with that attitude). I am not sure what she wants me to do since I had apologised and had taken grab and otw. She was going on about how the other employee’s mother is sick and has to go back at 1pm and me being late has inconvenienced them, and how sat is not usually their working day and they specifically came down for me, and then at one point accused me of taking her company as a joke. I was just like …

I lost it and sarcastically replied that if you have a time machine, please let me know, so that I can go back in time and wake myself up when the alarm rang at 6.30 on saturday morning. She said if she had a time machine, she would rethink her decision to hire me. I asked her what she wants me to do now, come back another day? She said no you can uturn back. I said no worries I will come and return my laptop. She asked how and I replied, she deleted her message for all of us. Manipulative but I guess this is normal in the work place.

Anyway I went there and signed the paperwork and she yelled at me raised her voice, she called me a joke and said I do not know how the real world works. She also kept me beyond 3pm as she made me wait 4 hours for her to print the papers. At one point i got up because she was clearly doing it on purpose and said you can send me an ecopy and I will sign it, she chased after me yelling until the lift “where the f are you going, you need to wait and sign it now and here”.

I recommended them to use e services to make it easier for them, she said no I do not know how the world works. Later when I went home she sent me the paper I signed via gmail so it was clearly to mock me. Anyway dumb girl learnt a lot. Also f her once again.

Anyway she asked me what my problem was, I said I have GAD (diagnosed general anxiety disorder) and she is making it worse by triggering me, ever since I joined. I told her it was impossible to work with her and I do not need to come into work and defend myself or prove myself everyday while she plays difficult. She mocked my GAD diagnosis and said I can’t function like this so good luck to me in the next job sarcastically. Towards the end, she kept saying I am a joke.

She handed me a letter of termination saying she is firing me for misconduct and no subordination. I told her I resigned first via text, she said she printed it out first so hers counts. I told her I needed to consult someone to check on this and I will come back, she said I needed to submit it right there otherwise we would have a problem. I signed it and left.

I am kind of very hurt by this whole thing. Whether someone has GAD (i have SAD and MJD as well) or not, if someone is getting upset, you shouldn’t make them more upset. And what is the point of bosses who make their coworker life hell, do they want them to quit or is this a strategy to ensure they stay at low position with lower pay or what? Any anyway I wonder why did she hire me in the first place if she felt that way and was reflecting on what I may have done that could have contributed to this. Has anyone been told such things before?

I also unsafe that she has my address, as well as my parents address. Knowing how unstable she is and the accusation and insults, I do not know what she may do. I wish I had not played a part in it and made her angrier, and now am fearful she may do something bad to me.

I also wonder why she called me a joke, is it my looks, the tone/ my voice that makes her not take me seriously? What can I do to be less of a “joke” and how to respond appropriately with such employers?