I’m a girl who is really concerned over my appearance, I’m always wearing makeup and dressing my best. I barely have any tshirts and only wear those to sleep.

Just an FYI , I think hickeys, bruises and scars are absolutely disgusting and ugly. Especially hickeys, I think it’s really embarrassing to show them to the public. My boyfriend however, hates me wearing anything that shows too much skin. How does he deal with it? He forces hickeys all over me forcing me to wear ugly tshirts.

I’ve told him multiple times how I hated it and we’ve got into argument over it many times as well. He would say things like ‘why do you need to wear clothes like these? Why do you need to show your skin?’ ‘And why can’t I give you hickeys? Are you afraid to let people know you have a boyfriend?’

I understand he might be insecure but this is how I’ve always been before even meeting him and I also post all over social media about us. I don’t understand why he needs to act this way.

I feel so overly controlled by him and I feel like crying everytime I look in the mirror and see all these horrendous looking hickeys everywhere. I feel like I don’t have the right to be pretty and all he wants me to be is ugly so that other people will not even turn to look at me.

Am I wrong to want to look pretty? Is disliking hickeys wrong? Am I asking for too much? So many things run through my mind everytime this happens

My neighbor is so cheapskate. We stay condo and she never fails to surprise me. She wears the same shorts and slippers whenever we meet. To the mall, to the supermarket. Even when we go further out to run errands, I’ve never seen her in a different outfit. She got laughed at for wearing so sloppily once when I was with her. She was mad but she didn’t self reflect if the comment was true.

We used to go for morning walks and she would wear the same top and pants. I noticed there was a big hole at the crotch area and she never bothered to patch it up too. It’s impossible to miss it. I didn’t dare to mention it given her strong personality.

She tried to do something dubious and got banned by an online e commerce website. She said she boycott them but I found out from her she actually got banned. I think she signed up several first time accounts or used referrals when its actually just her alone and got caught. How on earth does someone get banned by an established online business?! She spends on other things. She would have a craze and buy everything related to that craze. She has parcels coming in every week.

She would buy branded clothes and shoes a few size bigger for her children. Stuff tissues into the shoes and make them wear. She also often pass me used things that I politely accepted but just throw it down the bin instead because the condition is actually beyond usable. She even pass me used old grey kids underwear. I’m like?!?!?!  I don’t know why she would think it’s ok. Sometimes I feel disgusted and insulted but I try to tell myself this is just how she is.

Christmas.and birthdays are the worst. She would gift you things that are obviously freebies. Tupperware, dusty water bottles with company logo like milo, a gift card from ulu shop that is about to expire and have to spend certain amount then can use, claw machine soft toys. She even gifted my kids used story books. I’d rather we not exchange anything.

She would sign up for freebies using everyone’s name, including mine, changing the unit number. I caught her using my name and unit number several times to claim free or discounted items and I was actually pissed off. She just assumed I would be ok. And no, she did not ask me. I only found out when the item was sent to my home and she came over to collect it. I lost count the number of times she ordered something and had it sent to my home instead because she assumed I would be home to collect it when she’s out.

If I travel I avoid telling her because she would shamelessly give me a list of things that she want me to buy back for her. As though my cargo bag space is not precious and I don’t need to shop for myself and my family. So many years being her neighbor I find we have no true friendship. She’s just using me. When I’m no longer of use to her or when one of us move out, she would definitely unfriend me immediately.

How do you deal with such a neighbor? I try to create more space but she keeps knocking on my door. Moving out is not possible because I love my place and the environment. My other neighbors are more normal. The lucky thing is we are all cordial with one another. That’s why I’m unwilling to move too.

My mom threatens to kill us when she gets angry,
Teachers, other parents and other ppl in general, they would say my mom is a loving, kind, patient gentle person. She is nice when shes not angry, but apparently she gets mad on a daily basis.

And she says all kinds of nasty things like
“one day I’ll put poison in the water jugs and we can all die together”
“u wait, one day ill take the knife and kill u in your sleep”
“Ill set a fire and burn the house”

And about the things she get angry with? When we are watching tv during dinner and we didnt off the tv immediately after she said so

1. When my brother cant control his emotions (because he cant he has autism)
2. When the table is cleaned after a meal immediately
3. When we are doing our homework and the table is messy
4. When we dont go to sleep on time
5. And of course when i talk back to her
   
   yeah sometimes i cant bear it and i talk back to my mom regarding all the nasty things she says she would start yelling and shouting and say why my attitude so bad, what did she do wrong and all this sort of things.
   But when shes good, she all lovey dovey saying what “oh ur brother has learning disabilities and autism, yall must be patient with him” and is just like a nice parent the model parent typeAs if she has forgotten what happened maybe just yesterday.
   Which makes everything seem like an illusion.
   Like nothing ever happened before.
   Maybe this is what happens in all families
   Maybe im just ranting here and in the heat of the moment because im angry also
   Maybe my mom is just being emotional and would be back to “normal” soon
   Maybe my mom was kidding when she said she wanted to kill my brother
   Yeah maybe.

A guy shared a story of how his ‘little brother’ in so sensitive to the point that he always ‘finishes’ in less than one minute upon gaining entry into his partner.

It came to a point where there was once he hanged out with a group of female friends who he mostly did the ‘deed’ with before and accidentally eavesdropped on them talking about his skills in the bedroom and he even heard them laughing at how quickly the deed is all over.

This took a big hit on his ego and he decided that he should do something about it.

However, he shared that he did not want to seek professional help for it as he feels very embarrassed about it so he came out with a method to help him keep ‘going’ longer when he is doing the ‘deed’.

He wants to share his story as he feels that this is an efficient way and will be able to help fellow bros out there who suffer from the same issue as him.

He claims that doing this enabled him to be able to last ‘longer’.

Here is the story

‘Hi, I would like to share a story about one of the most embarrassing period that has ever happened to me in my life.

For context, I am a guy in my mid 20s and am considered by my peers as minimally above average looking, friendly and charismatic.

This ‘characteristics’ of me as described by my peers got me a lot of female attention and mind you, they are all pretty decent looking as well.

I bring a fair share of girls back home quite frequently and while people might be envious of me, there is one secret which makes me quite embarrassed.

My ‘little brother’ is quite sensitive and usually by the time it ‘gains entry’, I would feel like finishing and would really finish.

This is something that I could not control and it has brought a lot of disbelief to the girls which followed me back.

Just imagine that they are about to get in the mood and I just leave them hanging there after 1 minute of fun.

I thought that I could hide this fact but there was once where I hung out with a group of girls which most of them I have brought back before and I accidentally heard them discussing about me and how quickly I ‘finish’.

This took a big hit on my ego and I told myself that I should seek help for this but I did not want to seek professional help as I was too embarrassed.

Hence, I thought of a way to improve on my stamina which would not make me embarrassed and will not cost money.

It then came to me that I was not good at math back in my days of studying and every time I think of how to do a sum, I get distracted and will lose my focus because I will take a long time to think of the answer to the mathematical sum.

I decided that maybe I can apply this to my time with the girl in my bedroom in future to see if it will help me to improve my stamina.

Fast forward to a few days later, I went out to party and got a girl to go back with me.

As we went through all the motion, it was time for me to ‘gain entry’ and I found myself already wanting to ‘finish’.

I quickly applied the method which I thought previously and started doing all the mathematical sums in my head.

I continuously did all the addition, subtraction, multiplication and division in my head to distract my ‘little brother’ till the point where I got so good with mental sums and I proceeded to root and square root numbers to keep me more distracted.

At last, it was almost half an hour and I decided that I have done well and I ‘finished’.

Sharing this to let all brothers out there who have a similar issue with me to know that it is not the end and to try this out in future.’

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