is being too pretty a thing ?

i have two friends that are seriously super gorgeous, not like those skinny long-haired xmms, but they could pass off as models, influencers, sentosa-cove kind of ladies, and as friends we always push them to be more open so that we can get some benefits.

they are pretty private ppl as they are rather shy and lack confidence but i truly believe if they put themselves out there more they would be super successful in the media industry. the main point of this post is, whenever we push them to get us benefits at clubs, bars, hotels, people just gaze at them and dont approach. they get compliments from strangers everytime we go out but no one has ever gone out of their way to get them drinks, a table, a flower even.

we told them that it could possibly be because they are simply TOO pretty that people are afraid to approach them or that they are too pretty that people assume they are attached when they are not.

i understand that there are more pressing issues happening around in the world but we were just curious on what the public thinks is the “problem” with my friends ? they try their best to come across as approachable and yet people still dont dare approach them…

they have tried approaching others first but the opposite party would go for the friend that is dressed more slutty and willing to go all the way with those guys…..

is there such thing as being too pretty in sg ?

Here are what netizens think:

• U must be entitled much.Pwetty = free gifts, tables, food, drinks, hotel stay.People in the media industry will reject people like you first. Want others to give you freebies but you have nothing to offer but….i don’t know….your looks?There isn’t any problem with your friends but your mentality. You’re the very reason why many XMMs think that all they need is to look good, have many followers on instagram and go around asking for free food and hotel stays.So no, there isn’t such thing as being too pretty, but there is such thing as being a pest. A pest who freeloads off their pretty friends cause you know no one will do it to you. Lol

• Or maybe they just aren’t as pretty as you think they are. Women’s idea of pretty can be quite different from men’s idea of pretty… Always got some female friends tell me this girl damn chio wanna intro me, then when i finally see her, she’s like a 6/10….

• usually very pretty girls are the one with no one going after. it is the really confident guys or guys who have no intention or interest, just want to be friends, will be the one approaching. It has always been the case. because many guys thought they have many guys going after, then dont dare approach. but if you asked the girls, they will say, NO BODY LEI!

I (26f) was not very close with my sister (30f) during our adult life. My sister, we will call her Amanda, has not always been the best person. She started becoming addicted to “pills” and alcohol when I was around 15. Although she has made attempts to get clean, it never lasted, but only for a few days to week.

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A girl shared how she got scolded by her boyfriend while having intercourse with him over his positioning and her feeling pain, they even stopped midway just to argue.

Here is the story:

“Are there fellow females out there who was scolded by their boyfriends during intercourse?

Me and my bf were getting it on but he was hurting me (i thought it was due to the angle he was hitting it at) so I kept telling him to centralise his body, he shifted a few times but I was still feeling pain whenever he thrust so I kept telling him to move to the centre.

he then got angry at me and shouted “it’s already in the fucking centre la”.

there were also other times when we would argue mid-intercourse due to our rs problems (he would start shouting at me and we would stop intercourse halfway cos our mood was spoilt).

Traumatized

I feel like he has traumatized me and my perception of intercourse bc of the bad experiences I had w him, and I don’t know how I’m going to ever heal from this.

I can’t be the only one who was scolded and shouted at during intercourse right? (it wasn’t in a kinky way btw, but he was legit mad at me)”

Editor’s note: Just scold him back and stand up for yourself.

I am aware that I acted unfairly in this situation. I‘m not expecting my friend to act like my babysitter and be there for me 24/7.

I just wish she would have cared a little more. (I have known my friend since we were kids and we have always been close. 

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A woman shared how her boyfriend bought her a Macbook Air for Christmas but expected her to pay for his $3k hotel bill.

They then got into a fight over it and in the end, he made her pay for the Macbook Air instead.

Here is the story:

“We are both investment bankers and bf is 7 years more senior than I am.

Over Christmas, he got me a Macbook Air but after an argument where he wanted me to foot his entire $3k hotel bill during our holiday, he billed me for the device.

I’ve always worried about his stinginess. Deal breaker?”

Editor’s note: Get out of the relationship while you still can – that’s not a relation-ship, that’s a sinking ship.

My daughter is 18 and because I’m cautious and I’m aware that she’s becoming a young woman I’ve had all kinds of talks with her.

I came home a few nights ago and I noticed shoes outside the house that I didn’t recognize. I called for my daughter, nothing, I call for my daughter, and I hear “ f, my dad’s home”. Door to her room is closed, I knock, door’s locked, she opens, this boy comes out. She tells him to “ just go” and that she’ll call him later.

I ask her who he is, she tells me he’s nobody. I ask again, the same answer. I ask why the door was locked. She says she locked it on accident. I told her I heard her say “ f, my dad’s home” and what that was about. She claims the closing of the front door by me, scared them.

I told her I’d had enough of the lying and that since she wants to be with a guy she can stay outside and not in my home. Once she heard “ move out” she started telling me that even though the door was closed nothing was happening. She’s telling me I’m the most unfair father ever and that I’m “ not being fair”

Am I wrong? Could I have made it worse?

I know by letting her stay out she can have as many guys over as she wants, I was angry and did not know what to do.