A woman created a post online and wanted her moral compass checked by netizens, she said that her husband is not giving her any “exercise” and she has been seeking it from elsewhere.

She then seeks the advise of netizens only to get blasted by a hail of negative comments.

Here is the story:

Is having a FWB wrong?

My husband and I do not have S. I have a friend with benefit (FWB) and my husband doesn’t know. Is that wrong?

I’ve approached my husband countless times to have S or make out, but he doesn’t seem interested. When I ask him if anything is wrong with our marriage, his reply is always the same – that we are doing ok, but that we are too busy and tired to have time for intimacy.

As for the FWB; he is also married and we both have no intention of divorcing our spouse.

Is S outside of this marriage wrong?

Here are what netizens think:

• If you think…FWB is not wrong to fulfill your needs, you can honestly tell your husband, isn’t it?If anything has to be kept secret or done in hidden, then it might not be right. Your consciousness knows it well but your heart tries to deny it.Please talk seriously with your husband that you still need intimacy with him. Tell him, making love is important to you. If he is unable bec of physical problem, then consult doctors. If it is bec of busy schedule, it is an excuse to me. You hv to work it out. Take care

• My husband says, “must as well divorce, and you can do whatever you want, stay together with your spouse for what?”For me, so long you are using your needs with the other person, be it your husband unable to fulfill, that is cheating!Why not you ask yourself, is that wrong when your husband does the same like you, and was it wrong?You and your that FWB both are joker. Do not stay and remain marry if can’t understand the meaning stay Faithful and loyal.

• I felt it’s not that u dunno if it is wrong , you are just trying to find people to approve of your doing .

• Your partner deserves to know the truth. Have a talk. Unless your partner is ok with open relationship. I don’t think it’s correct to be fking around behind his back.

• Don’t ask your husband if anything is wrong. TELL your husband something IS wrong with your marriage because of what you need and he isn’t giving you. Does he have a medical issue, is he not interested coz he has someone else, is he really THAT tired, does he not love you anymore? There must be a reason and you need to dig until you find out. If he doesn’t want to communicate then you have to make a choice on whether this is how you want to keep going or maybe end the relationship. Cheating never ends well and how would you feel if the roles are reverse …would you tell your husband it’s ok to cheat on you if you no longer want to have sex with him? Think of the other wife.

Hello I (25f) need some advice here. I’ve been with my current boyfriend(22m) for about a year now. At the start of the relationship, he would shower me with gifts all the time with lots of sweet talking. I’m not a person who prefers a younger male as a partner, in fact it just never crossed my mind in the past that I would ever date a younger guy. But he was different, he seemed so mature and compromising at that point of time, I felt like a princess with him. But everything went down after the honeymoon period.

At that point we’ve actually moved out to stay together. We started arguing over the smallest things every other day and it mostly starts from him shouting and scolding me when something I do doesn’t please his liking.

Many of his and my friends have all pointed out that the way he speaks to me is rather rude and that’s just not how you should be with your girlfriend. I agreed, but I was okay with it as that was just the way he spoke to everyone around tbh.

But the arguments only got worst, with me bursting into tears in the process of it. I was never an emotional person in the past, neither did I used to cry this often.

I realized that as time has gone by, I’ve started being more and more submissive towards him and getting more and more emotional each time.

My friends had suggested that maybe moving in together so early into the relationship wasn’t a good idea, and so I suggested that I’ll move back to my family home and we can meet 3-4 times a week. But of course he didn’t allow it.

The relationship has started to pull my self esteem down, I no longer feel pretty infront of him, instead I feel like I’m a daughter controlled by an abusive father and he no longer treats me like a princess like before.

Going out was no longer fun as many times he has suggested to go dutch or let me treat him instead. When I voiced out my disapprove, he would get upset and say something along the lines of ‘ I’ve spent so much on you in the past, so why can’t you just treat me once?’

Recently the scoldings and shouting has gotten worst as well, he’s even starting to throw stuff around the room during our arguments and it’s really taking a toll on my mental health. I’m feeling more and more depressed each day. I’ve already suggested breaking up a few times, but he wouldn’t let me leave. And it always ends with him begging me to stay and telling me he would change and to forgive him. I gave him a ‘ last’ chance everytime but the change never happened.

I really love him and don’t wanna leave him either, I thought threatening him with breakup would help him make up his mind. But it’s already been almost a year, it’s our 11th month next week…. Still no change….

I want to think that maybe it’s because he’s still rather young and needs time to grow before he becomes more gentlemen-like but at the same time, what if he doesn’t change even after 2-3 years? I wouldn’t want to waste the rest of my youth grooming him just for it to fail and end in a break up.

Please give me some advices how I can salvage this relationship.

Okay disclaimer! we hooked up before my fiancé and I were together.

I did meet my fiancé through other reasons (we were fwb) and I was ready for a relationship with him from the start but he treated me like I was nothing but a f buddy where I was thinking of him as way more.

He (fiancé) met up with his ex gf and then he ghosted me before that fell through and we eventually got together (which is a whole other story).

Around then, his friend was all about me (I guess he always was?) He always tried to hang out with me, take me on dates, etc.

i always said no cause I was still in love with my now fiancé. I was drunk on my birthday and said he could come over and he did and we hooked up.

I didn’t talk to him much after cause i felt bad for sleeping with him when I didn’t have feelings when he obviously did

Now him and my fiancé have come back into contact after a few years and fiancé invited friend to stay with us cause he has no place else to live which im totally fine with and want to help.

My question is do I tell my fiancé we sept together or just act like it never happened?