Okay disclaimer! we hooked up before my fiancé and I were together.

I did meet my fiancé through other reasons (we were fwb) and I was ready for a relationship with him from the start but he treated me like I was nothing but a f buddy where I was thinking of him as way more.

He (fiancé) met up with his ex gf and then he ghosted me before that fell through and we eventually got together (which is a whole other story).

Around then, his friend was all about me (I guess he always was?) He always tried to hang out with me, take me on dates, etc.

i always said no cause I was still in love with my now fiancé. I was drunk on my birthday and said he could come over and he did and we hooked up.

I didn’t talk to him much after cause i felt bad for sleeping with him when I didn’t have feelings when he obviously did

Now him and my fiancé have come back into contact after a few years and fiancé invited friend to stay with us cause he has no place else to live which im totally fine with and want to help.

My question is do I tell my fiancé we sept together or just act like it never happened?

Girlfriend spends too much time with work

Hi everyone, I’m typing this on a date right now as my girlfriend is currently replying to work texts, and would like your opinions on this situation.

My girlfriend has just changed into a new job and is really busy with replying texts to the point of constantly being on the phone during our dates, even on weekends.

I understand that it is a new job and she wants to put her best foot forward, as I have previously did the same as well, replying to work during our dates.

As it is work-related and sometimes urgent, I also get that she feels the need to reply immediately. But I feel like work is really eating into her life and our dates.

Will it be unreasonable to ask her to have her be more focused during our dates and not work?

netizens’ comments

• If she just started the new work only, you should just support her~
  Unless it’s still like this 6 months down the road, then her job seriously has issue and you need to talk to her about it
• Considering you did the exact same thing, where she presumably put up with it, I’d say expecting her not to do it is unfair, if not unreasonable. Not gonna go down well if I’m the gf.
• I think that you should be proud of your girlfriend for putting in effort into her work. Having a positive and diligent attitude is important for someone entering into a new job.

I’m breaking up with my boyfriend because he said I dont know how to blow him.

Dont ask for head and then when I( 20F)give you head you tell me I’m using too much teeth .

This man(22M) literally screams “AAAaaAahhh” every second. “You’re hurting me” “that hurts” or “girl….your teeeeth ”

i apologize to him when he says I’m hurting him and start back and he enjoys it for a second and goes back to crying.

One time he even pulled his pants up in the middle of it basically forcing me to stop and drove to get some food.

and It hurts me because I want him to enjoy it, I’m insecure about it and It got to the point I dont even want to get intimate with him anymore.

He then texted me that he wanted to get naughty with me today and we got into a little argument and he said “well maybe ill only want head if you actually knew how to do it right”

this hurt my feeling and I cant believe he said that . I’ll be breaking up with if I cant please him I’d rather not be with him he can find somebody else.

Found out both my parents are cheating on each other

I [22M] found out my mother is cheating on my dad 6 years ago, was using her phone for some random I don’t even know what it was thing when a message popped up on the screen.

When I confronted her about it she begged me not to tell my dad and how this was all a mistake and she was just lost and won’t do it again,

me being young I kept the secret, the problem is… during those 6 years I caught her 7 more times, my dad is oblivious to it… or simply doesn’t care.

And to be honest this really fucked me up mentally, I have not been able to have a healthy relationship since..

Today my father forgot his phone at home and he received a call from an unknown number, I thought this was him and answered, a woman answered calling him sweet names before I could even reply..

I hung up, I do not know if I should tell him about it, our relationship is hard enough as it is.

I got two younger brothers that I am practically taking care of and I understand why my parents are sneaking around, they are not meant for each other,

but I feel if I did tell my dad when I was younger all of that never would have happened, I always used to tell my mom I do not care what she does but she has to get a divorce first,

cheating is disgusting and really affected me in a hurtful way.