Am I wrong for not paying in my relationship? I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years.

But he want to be a “gentleman” by showing off his money.

My boyfriend is a Adult Baby

Hello, fellow readers. I hope all of you are doing good. I have been wanting to share a story about my relationship with my Boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years and like every relationship, we have our ups and downs.

I love him for who he is but recently he has opened up a secret with me that I can not comprehend. My boyfriend has Adult Baby Diaper Lover Syndrome.

Adult babies are adults who enjoy regressing to a younger age (usually between the ages of 0 months and 7 years). Most ABs will wear diapers and some will wet or even soil them.

They may enjoy wearing adult-sized baby clothes, playing with baby toys, watching cartoons, being bottled or breastfed, sleeping in a crib, eating from a high chair, and doing other baby activities.

He usually wears diapers at night and his diaper will be soaked the next morning. The thing that baffled me all these years was, as he never wore any diapers when we spend a night together.

Only, recently when we had our vacation, he told us this secret of his and brought his supplies to our vacation.

On the first night of our vacation when he had drinks is where he took the opportunity to tell me. Both of us were tipsy and I was not paying attention to it but somehow I agreed with him about wearing diapers for that night.

That night I felt asleep first and I woke up with a sight of him just in a diaper with his T-shirt on. His diaper has a teddy bear prints on them and it is soaked.

It was an awkward situation for me because I do not know if I’m angry towards him or felt for him. Eventually we make love that morning and continue our activities together.

The second day of our vacation, we don’t talk about the subject but the second night we did open up about our feelings.

I felt cheated for some reasons but also I don’t see this matter as a big issue. I tried my best to understand him and give him the assurance that I still love him for who he is.

However, having him wearing diapers. I still need more time to digest because my view towards my boyfriend has changed. 

I always believed that in any relationship, both partners must be transparent but it is also hard and I know secrets like these can break a relationship or it can bring benefits to it.

Response from the “Real hubby” of the old Honda Civic

Hi folks, I’m the hubby with that 10 yr old Honda Civic whom my lovely wife “chided” me. There was a fake reply out there but the admin will know I’m the real McCoy (hint: only admin knew the post was sorted from another whisperer’s submission)

Just following up for the curious minds. Nope, I don’t have to sleep in my car. Nope she’s not that angry and merely just messing with me (admittedly I was really caught off guard). I was like “WTF” when reading it and we both giggled throughout the comments section!

The story is real although some facts were exaggerated. Now she wants me to be the spokesperson since I have “fans” siding me…lol

Truth be known, she has no problem with me spending on my hobby but her issue is more on the communication part. I admit I should not have hide the fact that I was spending so much and so fast modding the car. But I want to spend one-shot to mod the car and get over it so I can have fun with the car… without the nagging. If I was more upfront earlier she wouldn’t have made a fuss. That is wrong on my part.

Anyway, we reconciled and enjoyed the comments. She didn’t knew her post will trigger so many car enthusiasts and garnered so much reaction!

And to answer the rest who are interested:

Yes, it’s an FD2R (white, yr 2008) and I’m loving it! Always wanted a Tyre R, a fren is selling his, easy done deal.

The 25k is not the real amount (she wrote that to scare me lol) it was lower actually.

What I spend on:

– G25 rims

– RE71R tyres

– Classified coilovers, for privacy in case you all CSI me. Workshop took down my car photo too.

– Endless Mono 6 potter

– Exedy stage 1clutch

– GruppeM intake (2nd hand)

– Ceramic coating package

– various engine components, sparkplugs, gasket and fluid replacement… really wear and tear

– other mods done by previous fren owner.

– more to come (maybe)

Thanks all … signing off Mr YZH (that’s not my real initial too, more like my nickname’s initial)

Ps: Will not reply/post anymore follow ups…

Alright, I promised to give an update on my situation and honestly I feel like writing about things has been pretty helpful to me, so here goes:

Several people on my initial post advised that I should speak with a therapist before seeing or speaking with either of my parents. I called one I had seen a few times in the past, and she was able to book me in for an emergency session, and she really helped me work through what I saw, as well as my worries, and constructing a list of questions to ask my mom when I spoke with her.

I met with my mother over the weekend. My friend who I’m staying with, and her boyfriend went with me for moral support, but they hung back and let me talk to my mother alone.

I’m not going to go through our entire conversation because we talked for over an hour, but it was pretty much what I had feared. She was roleplaying as me when I walked in on her and Dad. She wouldn’t confirm how long it had been going on, but gave me a list of several pieces of my clothing (3 dresses, then two of my sleep sets) which she had previously borrowed.

She claims they were all cleaned thoroughly before returning them, and I have no reason to believe she wouldn’t have cleaned them, but I’m never going to wear any of those things again regardless. It was probably stupid of me, but I asked which one of them came up with the idea for her to roleplay as me. According to her, it was her own idea.

I still really don’t feel comfortable seeing or talking to my Dad, and he hasn’t reached out since I walked in on them either so I guess he isn’t comfortable talking to me about it either.

My Dad was at work when I spoke with her, I made sure of that because I wanted to be able to go by the house and get a few more of my things. She let me go there alone with my friends and get the things I needed, before going back to her place.

I’m still working on where I go from here: I ended up having to fully explain the situation to my friend’s parents. They were both extremely understanding, and are willing to let me rent their spare bedroom for a few months while I figure something else out.

So yeah, that’s pretty much all that’s happened. I doubt I’ll update beyond this, but I’m sincerely thankful to everybody who reached out and tried to help me.