We were bar hopping at Clark Quay with a group yesterday and in one of the bars, three ang moh men came in. We were on our way to the SG river to sit there and enjoy the rest of the evening and one of our guys asked the three ang moh tourist to come with us to the river, 3 seconds after they came in. He probably did not think about how randomly inviting three strange men could affect the women in the group so I will let that pass.

My (28F) boyfriend (30m) can’t even handle a puppy, let alone a child

My boyfriend and I recently got a puppy, our first pet. This is something we both wanted since the start of our relationship. We never discussed what duties will fall with who, I guess I just assumed we would both be looking after him.

For the last few weeks I’ve gotten up between 4am and 6am to take pup out. I also do most of the potty breaks during the day.

Puppy had a bad night yesterday and I had to take him out five times. This morning I asked my boyfriend about the possibility of sharing morning duty. He straight up said no and walked away.

He’s happy to take him out to play, cuddle and post photo’s on social media. But all of the boring stuff like booking the vet, training, grooming, buying toys, early mornings, diet, etc. falls to me.

We’ve discussed children and both want them. But now I don’t know if I want children with him.

I understand that puppies and babies are different but this doesn’t bode well to me. I get there’s a lot of adjustment with getting a pet but it seems unfair that everything falls to me.

I’m not sure how to broach this topic with him or whether I should at all.

My boyfriend has been unemployed for too long and I’m tired. Well, I love my boyfriend, he is caring, supportive, funny, he is everything.

But since I met him, he was (and still) unemployed.

He is a good profile, speaking 3 languages with a master degree, but the pandemic ruined his career.

for the past 18 months he has been looking for a job, and I’ve been supporting him emotionally and financially (and I’m not complaining).

Except that lately I kinda feel tired, I started feeling the weight of this responsibility (knowing that I just started my career too)

I LOVE him so much, and I don’t wanna hurt him at all, but I dunno how to tell him that I’m tired, and I want a normal relationship, where my boyfriend can take care of me too,

I’m not a gold digger or something, I just want to know how to share this with him without hurting his feeling.

My sister is 25 and has been “seeing” an girl beater for a couple of months. He refuses to fully date her but to her it’s definitely more than just friendship and he knows it.

He sees other women and brags about hickies to bug my sister. He actively compares her to his side chick which has caused her to drop like 20kg or more seemingly overnight (she looks extremely unhealthy).

The other girls talks her calling her a kampong poor girl. The guy talks bad about my sis to his friends and he threatens to drop her/puts her on “probation” if he doesn’t like a joke she says (for example he put a bet on black at the casino and she said she thinks it’ll be red, and he said he’s done with her and told her to take the train home the next day, but then gave her another chance and told her she’s on PROBATION).

Idk what to do; my sister is like she is on a spell or gong tao or something. Gets beat up but still want him.

She says she has borderline personality disorder (she’s a hard person to be around) and that she’s “too old” to find a new man and she’s lucky she found ONE who wants to be around her.

My sister and I encourage her to leave but I don’t think she will. Ive never seen a person this psycho in real life. Do I just stand by or do I actively intervene?

Boyfriend throws a fit when I’m not in the mood for sex

My (27f) boyfriend (40m) just came over the other day and we were watching stranger things, he starts nodding off, so I recommended he take a shower and go to bed.

I’m laying in bed, he gets on top of me and wanted to have intercourse, I say I’m not in the mood. He goes berserk.

Claims it’s not normal to not want to hop right onto your partner after not seeing them for a while (it was like a week) and we were about to go to bed anyway.

I love him very much and am definitely attracted to him, but every time I’m not in the mood and he is, he claims I’m not attracted to him and that “he isn’t an idiot” and “has been here before.”

Am I missing something? Every relationship is more intimate in the beginning, it wanes down a little bit once you’re in a serious relationship.

Plus I’m moving in with him in 2 weeks, I’m broke, I’m going back to school, going through a friend breakup, and am having family issues.

It feels like he has no regard at all for the stress I have going on in my life. Intimacy is absolutely not a priority for me right now, and so no, I am not in the mood too much lately.

It feels like he’s taking out his own insecurities on me, and I’m not sure I can deal with this long term. Thoughts?

I’ve had an affair with my neighbour for 4 years

Considering how closely people live in SG, its kinda surprising how rare cases of affairs involving neighbors are. At least based on what i managed to hear of.

We’re both married and have been having this affair for the past 4 years. It all started with a simple gesture to help her with groceries from then we begun texting and eventually come to this stage of weekly “meetups”. Covid and WFH arrangements made it easier for us to conduct the deeds. Her husband and my wife do not get to WFH unlike us. I have no kids while her kids are in school in daytime. There was one incident where the husband came unexpectedly to bring lunch and i had to hide in the shelter before finding the chance to make my exit while he went to the toilet. Luckily we finished the deed before that, phew..

As to our own partners, we’re both just no longer feeling the connection with our respective partners and this relationship just rekindled the love that was missing in this stage of our lives. My wife’s turned into the kind that easily lose temper. She used to be kind and we would fix mistakes and work towards goals together, but now she’s just nagging daily, using work as justification.. i’m working too.. so what gives??

On the other hand, my neighbor would complain to me that her husband is always preoccupied with all the other things other than her, could be friends, colleagues, work, games, etc. I see my neighbor with her husband near the block from time to time, always wondering how he could neglect such a lovely wife. Not that it matters, since i can be the one keeping her company and happy.

I would suggest to introduce myself to the husband but she would always reject the idea as it is risky and her husband would pay more attention to me. I know many of you will simply say “why not divorce and marry each other?” yeah well, first off she’s got kids which is not something I’m comfortable with handling and those kids will be much better with their own parents. second of all, going over the divorce procedures and exposing ourselves to close friends and relatives as a two-timer isnt exactly something we want, gotta keep a good rep.

Anyway we expected other neighbors to eventually catch on with our affairs and then we’ll see what happens from there. Or they may have actually already known and chosen to keep mum about it, respecting privacies.. Who knows?

I’ll start off with a little background. My bf had a job about a year ago that required him to 12+ hours every night.

Because of that job his mental health spiralled down to the point I was scared of him possibly hurting himself. It put a huge strain on our relationship as well as he was either at work, sleeping, or I was at work.

He ended up quitting that job and got a new one. The new job let a lot of employees go including him in February. Since he has only applied for jobs like the one I described at the beginning of this post. I have especially said that if they expect you to work more than 40 hours a week then it’s a no.

He promised me that he would decline a job if they asked that of him. As of yesterday, I found out he got a job offer to work that same shift as he did a year ago….

He took it. I am absolutely pissed and I told him exactly what I thought about it when he told me and haven’t talked to him since. My friends keep on saying that giving him the silent treatment will only make things worse and that I’m being over dramatic over a job. 

I know it’s a job but if it affects him mentally it is going to affect me.