I am a dentistry student and I’ve always been a little more particular about dental hygiene. I have been dating a really sweet girl K for about 3 months.

She has a great personality and a cute face, but there is just one thing that really bothers me…

K is quite an affectionate person and likes to kiss often. However, she has no qualms about leaning in for a smooch right after devouring a huge mala hotpot or inhaling a load of garlic bread.

It’s especially bad when she exhales right into my mouth mid-kiss. I can smell the curry on her breath and taste the remnants of her dinner on her tongue… yuck.

I’ve tried to politely wiggle my way out of a kiss in such situations, but sometimes she doesn’t get the hint.

This has been such a turn off for me that I think I’m slightly emotionally traumatised now and find myself less attracted to K, which is a shame.

I know K is a sensitive girl who sometimes has low self-esteem and I don’t want to embarrass her or hurt her feelings. Please help me think of a way to let K know as politely and gently as possible that I don’t want to kiss unless we have both brushed our teeth and flossed, preferably with some mouthwash..

Whenever I try to speak to my colleagues about the problems of women, most of them just brush it off. I’m sick of hearing that women have it easier than men because almost every single day I feel so uncomfortable near them.

Sometimes is the older dude who stares at me in the bus or some random guy who stops me on the street, trying to get to know me. Other times I know I’m being followed by some weird dude. Or if I need some help with any small thing, I feel that they think I owe them so much in return.

In all of my relationships, I’ve felt extremely replaceable. I’m so sick of emtpy promises, one guy told me he had serious thoughts about me, talking about meeting my parents, going on trips with my family…and a few days after I got woken up by his girlfriend,(that I knew nothing of), messaging me like crazy. I’ve been cheated on a lot, I’ve been made to feel worthless by past partners and in general, I feel like men treat me like I am way waaay below them. I did a lot of things for my partners, but they didn’t really show any appreciation.

I would call myself a feminist, I always feel very good and safe near women that I even don’t know that well, but sometimes I feel really bad and unsafe near the men that I know.

My question is…how can I be taken seriously and respected? How can I feel safe? Is it possible to trust men again after all this experiences? I still want to have my own family one day, but I also want to be treated the way all women should be treated: with appreciation, esteem and politeness.

Here are what netizens think:

• Ditch the boyfriends for awhile. Take Tae Kwon Do and continue until you can break a board with your hand and your foot or start training to either walk or run a marathon. Do something physical that requires your persistence, goal setting and perseverance — while also improving your physical well being. Or, start seeing a therapist for your low self esteem. Any of these idea will help you feel better about yourself from the inside out.

• How about changing to another job since you colleagues are not treating u like an equal

• Meet new people and find someone who treats you respect.

My husband and I are recently married and every so often he will hit me in the face or head pretty hard while we are falling asleep.

I didn’t think much of it at first, and assumed he was just an active sleeper, but I am starting to wonder if there is a pattern here that I was missing before.

For example, some nights when we go to bed he is super relaxed especially if we got intimate and he will fall asleep quietly with no groaning or throwing hands.

However I’m noticing that when he is annoyed about anything, especially when I don’t want to do it with him, he will be very agitated through body language as we are going to sleep. (shaking his leg, hitting the bed with his hand, heavy sighing/ breathing, and creating a tense environment sometimes for hours.)

I also want to note that we get intimate at least 6/7 days per week but that’s not enough, he wants it 2x daily & super rough for him to finish.

Last night I told him I was too tired to do it and he seemed annoyed. As we were falling asleep he hit me square in the face enough for it to scare me.

I yelled “babe!”? He looked to be asleep, but I am starting to think he is trying to cover for it and could possibly know what he is doing.

I also was not giving into his advances this morning before work and he elbowed me in the eye “on accident” and said “he barely touched me”.

Its all really vague the way it happens and is causing me confusion. This has happened a strong handful of times before and I am just starting to get more suspicious.

When he is frustrated he will also just be very loud as I am trying to fall asleep sometimes for hours sighing heavily, and grunting/ just making a ruckus almost to keep me awake on purpose.

Has anyone heard of anything like this before ? I am trying to decide how to approach the conversation or whether to bring it up at all.

My mother (43F) is upset by the way my girlfriend greeted her. Im really confused as to why this upset her so much,need advice.

This happened today. My girlfriend (19F) texted me that she was nearby and i was prepared to greet her and walk along since she was going the same way knowing it would be a bit awkward with my mom (conversation wise you know how it is).

My mom however told me to go ahead and greet her and that she would be waiting at the end of the street. It turns out she was going near the shop we were going so i told her we would catch up with my mom and walk together.

We met our mutual friend (19M) along the way and were just walking.

We met my mother at an intersection and my girlfriend was walking up while smiling at her. We stood next to eachother for a minute then my friend shook my moms hand and my gf proceeded to do the same with another smile.

I thought nothing of it but my mom just suddenly said that shed be going home instead.

I insisted on her staying since my gf would be going to her own plans in like 5 minutes of walking.

She just said it again and went home and i just thought she didnt want to make anything awkward and told me to check the shoes and call her about it.

After like 20 minutes i finished everything and went home only for her to rage out.

She said nothing was my fault but she feels highly disrespected by my girlfriend because she didnt say “Good day” she just shook her hand (note: in my country and in our language it is concidered a polite way of greeting someones parent or someone in general).

She also says that she only did it when my friend did it first. (Which she did but she greeted her normally and all i think she would have done it anyways)

She said that my gf was looking at her “from above” as in that she thinks shes below her and that i shouldnt mention her to her again and that she felt extremely disrespected. My girlfriend isnt like that and i know she doesnt look at anyone in any way but she wont listen to me.

From my pov it just looked like a normal smiling handshake they both looked normal and all. I didnt expect it to escalate to something like this.

What should i do? Is this considered my girlfriend being rude?

Hey all. So basically, I (20f) have been with my boyfriend (23m) for a few months now and things are great, except S, it really hurts sometimes. I am left with ugly bruises that don’t go away for a while (thighs, hips, chest mostly). He says it’s because I’m too skinny (160 like 50kgs, so not that skinny). Either way, it’s hard for me to gain weight and I don’t really feel a need to. It’s just like painful sometimes when we do iot.

Also, the last time we were intimate I wasn’t really turned on (my fault, I just had a lot on my mind) and it still hurts inside, how do I treat that?

Thanks!!

Here are what netizens think:

• Has he even tried to be very gentle during s? If he’s not taking into consideration the fact that s hurts and needs to be nice and slow so both of you enjoy it, then he’s not doing it right. I don’t think being skinny is the main cause of your bruises.

• Honey. S hurts because you’re having it with a man who doesn’t care if you’re enjoying yourself or if he hurts you. Dump him. If a man is willing to use your body to pleaasre while you’re not turned on to the point where you are still experiencing internal pain, then he doesn’t care about you.

• Don’t have s when you aren’t into it. It’s not your job to have s no matter what. Find a new boyfriend who is gentle. Don’t get attached to these rough, entitled, idiots.

• You are “underweight” enough that you should be checked out by a doctor to make sure those symptoms aren’t symptoms of a larger health issue. There are some conditions that can cause easy bruising and slow healing that are more common with poor nutrition/low body weight, such as anemia & blood pressure issues.