Can anyone explain why my friends who are doctors or lawyers constantly live in a bubble where they believe they are “elite” or special and separate from other corporate workers?

As much as their work is very meaningful (I mean the doctors), they talk about their jobs like they are much more important than others. Some even glorify how many hours they work as a measure of their “importance”. I also noticed they seem to automatically believe they make more than others or have more earning potential.

Sorry to burst your bubble but times have changed. There are actually regular” people who work in tech, only work 20-30h work weeks and make 200-300k annually a few years out of university. And people who start their own businesses make even more at their own time and target. Not like doctors and lawyers who usually make it big only when they get their own practice in their late 30s or 40s.

Here are what netizens think:

• I think it has to do with the nature of the profession, and not so much about how much money they earn.To be fair to lawyers and doctors (I’m not one), their work usually involves providing solutions to life threatening or life changing matters, which perhaps give many the impression that lawyers and doctors are one of the most important people out there.Not to mention the high barriers to entry into these 2 profession (education, mental capacity etc). I don’t think simply by showing them figures of earnings outside their bubble will “burst their bubble”. Let them enjoy their bubble bath because you know, they somehow deserve to be in that bubble. Not all… but most of them

• Sometimes it’s us who think they are better than us.Good to check upfront with them.

• You obviously have not visited a specialist nor know how much they make?! 300k ?!? LOL that’s just part of the expense for their cars.

• Elite professionals are haughty, cuz they’ve been well protected.Business owners are humble & they stay under the radar. Even at 100+m net worth competitors can still con you and lead to your downfall

Is it only me? Seems like there is 2 Singapore….

Everyday when I take a walk in the malls and browsing through the web, there seems to be 2 Singapore….

There’s the crowded malls with shoppers spending money like there’s no tomorrow. There’s the property market where everyone seems to be able to afford all the properties that I wouldn’t be able to purchase in my lifetime.

Then there’s me on a 1.8K salary, having 2 meals per day, no property. Got to save up $$ to support my old folks without any retirement planning,,,,,

Am I the only one?

Netizens’ comments

• Yeah I’m not sure why you are earning that amount. My coffee shop downstairs is hiring people for over $2,000.

Last month, Waterway Point downstairs is one shop hiring sales assistants for $2500 or $2800 per month.

Professional starting salaries can go as high as $4,000+ these days.

If you want property, get married, apply and wait for BTO. With dual income, you can definitely afford it.

• there are people earning more and people earning less. Why are you earning 1.8k? Hai Di Lao is hiring for 3k.

I recently went to the doctor to get a standard wellness visit and got some bloodwork done. I mainly wanted the bloodwork to see if my iron levels were low and check my cholesterol levels. My doctor asked if I wanted to check for stds as well and I said yes not thinking much of it. Well I got my results and I have chlamydia. I know it’s a fairly common and treatable std but I panicked a bit when I found out.

I always get tested before and after each new partner and I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for 2 years now. I know I got tested before my current partner and it came back clean. Not only that but I had a been scare about 6 months into dating my current partner and went to go get a test. I went to get tested and I had bv, which I treated, but that test also came back clean for stds.

So my only logical conclusion is that I got chlamydia from my current partner. I was really confused about this because in the beginning of dating before we had S, I had made to sure to ask if he was clean and if he got tested recently. Based on this I was somewhat worried that I got it because he had slept with someone else during our relationship. But I didn’t make any accusations. I called and told him I had chlamydia and that he needed to get tested/treated.

I then asked him when was the last time he actually got an std test. It took a bit of questioning but he eventually admitted that he did not get an std test in between me and his previous ex.

So that really pissed me off and I pointed out that he lied when I asked him if he got tested and was clean in the beginning of our relationship. I asked him if he had anything to say to that. He got quiet and didn’t say anything. He just said that he would get tested and tell me the results. I pointed out that my chlamydia didn’t show up on the test I got when I had bv either which was weird because we had been having sex for about 5 months already (with a condom but we didn’t use condom or dental dam when doing oral and we had a couple of times where the rubber broke..). He didn’t say anything to that either. I said alright let me know when you’re getting tested then I hung up because I was pissed he wasn’t apologizing or admitting to anything or talking in general.

Basically now I’m just waiting until he gets tested and tells me. But it’s been three days and we haven’t talked and he hasn’t told me that he’s scheduled his test or anything. I don’t want to make any rash decisions until he gets his test results back. But I’m pissed. I don’t know how long I’ve had chlamydia and I know the longer you have the more at risk women are for PID and other complications.

I don’t see any other possibility other than him having it from his ex and passing it onto me or him acquiring it from someone else during our relationship. Is it wrong of me to assume this? And should I push for him to get his testing done faster? The waiting is really bothering me and he hasn’t said anything about scheduling it. Am I overreacting by thinking this is possibly breakup worthy?

I fell for a Siam bu.

Before u guys judge me, please hear me out. I often frequent Thai disco / Siam Diu as a means to de-stress. I find that the loud music and spinning lights help take the stress away from my work.

Like any other visit, I sat at my usual spot when a petite silhouette from afar caught my attention. Her round eyes, sharp nose, and elongated legs is what many would consider “attractive”. Not to mention that her long and silky hair that is constantly brushing against her shoulder line; any man would subconsciously gravitate toward her and I was no exception.

I could not help but to glance in her direction without making it too obvious. I got caught eventually and we exchanged eye contact for a good 10 seconds. She understood the assignment and came over for a chat. As we began sharing more about each other, I realized that we have many things in common. We immediately clicked as though we had known each other right from the beginning. She introduced herself as “Moon.”

At that moment, I felt as though I had found my soulmate. Talking to Moon made me forget about my fatigue from work. It was as though time had stopped. Deep down, I was sincerely hoping that the conversation could last forever. Time flew quickly, and before I knew it, the place was closing for the night. We exchanged contact and parted ways.

The next day, my phone rang. On answering, I was greeted by a familiar voice. It was Moon. My face lit up knowing that I could connect with her again. We agreed to meet up at a Thai restaurant called NaNa at Golden mille.

NaNa restaurant is a famous Thai restaurant in SG. Moon claimed to be a frequent patron of the place as their food tasted close to home. She even use the opportunity to teach me the name of the dishes in Thai. Halfway through our meal, she was rudely interrupted by a phone call which led her to leaving the restaurant. She claimed that she had something urgent to attend to, and needed to excuse herself. She sounded anxious.

Feeling concerned, I quickly paid the tab and followed her. I was soon led to one of the floor exits where I found her seated on the stairs and sobbing uncontrollably. I approached her to check on her. My presence caught her off guard and, almost immediately, she apologized for leaving me alone in the restaurant. She then went on to explain what happened. Turns out, her mom was terminally ill, and needed money for her operation. Sympathizing with her plight, I agreed to help her out without much hesitation.

As I was about to get up and make the withdrawal. She grabbed my hand and pulled me towards her. She gave me a peck on my cheek to express her gratitude. Things got heated up and we made love in a public space. Despite the shabby location, the S was good and memorable. The day ended on a good note with her settling her family matters with my financial support.

That incident pulled us closer as we started hanging out more. Despite numerous warnings from my friends and family about her intention, I chose to believe her as I felt that the society perception towards hostress is based on stereotypes. Things, however, did get dubious when she started asking for more money…

I’m a 30 yo working adult, female, and financially independent since ~10 years ago. Yet my mom is still trying to control my life. I have a job that I find meaningful and pays well, yet my mom thinks i have not reached the level of achievements she expected and wanted me to do a PhD (any discipline; she only cares about the title anyway).

For context, I have a Master’s degree (funded by scholarship, didn’t spend my parents’ money). I have no interest in going into academia or research, or spending 5-6 years on another degree I neither need nor want, and offers no better job security in today’s economy.

My mom is not university educated, held an admin-type job for her entire career, and retired a few years ago. Her life advice is usually supported by her intrinsic feelings rather than facts.

When I told her my views, she got pretty nasty and even used this as a reason to object to my upcoming marriage to my long-time partner (“you haven’t reached the apex, hence too early to be dragged down by a family”).

Am I the wrong if I just proceed doing whatever I plan to do (get married and continue living my life without a PhD)?

Here are what netizens think:

You are adult enough to decide ur future. She may advice or say nasty things but one thing for sure, she dont and cant control ur life. So do what you need to do

The average human lifespan in Sg is around 83 years. You can decide if you want to continue being under her thumb for the next 53 years or pander to her every desire at the expense of your emotional well-being.

Nvr succumb to other’s expectations of you. Do what your heart says (not brain) always. Bcoz there will be one day (if you follow your parents’ wishes), that you will regret the things you didn’t do instead. 

The guy i’ve mentioned i’ve knows for a few years. we both met through temporary work and exchanged contact info since we had similar hobbies snd interests.

i had a feeling this guy liked me. he was very flirty from the get-go.he’s an alright guy; funny, nice, but i just felt no connection or attraction that i’ve felt in past relationships. when we first starting talking, i didn’t know how to turn him down. i was 19, had only had a few short relationships, and was stuck in the mentality of agreeing or going along with things to avoid confrontation. i would hang out with him once in a while and then go my separate way.

we recently planned to hang out, and he asked if it was a date. i was straight up and told him no. he asked if he had a chance in the future and i also said no. he was disappointed but said he respected my choice.

i’m proud that i’ve gotten to the place where i feel like i can firmly say no to things i don’t want. i just thought i would share this small victory.

I am a limited edition goods, I won’t accept any dogs and cats and other strays that come to me. I expect a man who is good looking and has a fancy looking car to fit my status.

Here are what netizens think:

The best part is that the more you do it, the easier it gets. Be EXTREMELY proud of yourself. There are people, women and men, who never get to that point in life.

That’s got to feel so good! And honestly good for him for taking it like an adult. Hopefully he meant it when he said he would respect it.

I hope you rot in hell

I know how this might seem but hear me out..

So I’m a single 24F and I’ve never been in a proper “relationship” like boyfriend and girlfriend, but I’ve been in plenty of situationships.

I guess I am not a forward person so I’ve never initiated the talk (I don’t think I would ever want to have dated any of those people anyways), but I’m truly wondering how two people become bf/gf, like how the conversation is brought up, when, who brings it up, etc.

So anyway, just asking for people’s personal experiences on how they landed in a relationship.

I’m reaching an age where my parents/relatives are asking and I have literally no idea … how… to even get started with that chapter of my life. I’ve never really had anyone tell me how they became official.

I think my point is that I’ve spoken to plenty of men for long enough but no one had initiated that convo, but I’ll see women who are able to have a bunch of relationships and I’m just curious why I’m built different

Here are what netizens think:

• Download the dating app loh

• I’m a 35M that got into my relationship with my 35F girlfriend because we met back in primary school and we reconnected many years later and we ended up being a couple.

• A friend and I started spending more and more time together. We’d have sleepovers, go on long walks when neither of us could sleep, and we’d spit Boba pearls at one another. When I realized I’d fallen for him, I just blurted out that I wanted to be with him. He told me that he felt the same and things have been good ever since.

• After you’ve been seeing someone for some time, you can ask “hey, do you want to be exclusive?”. It can help if you can wait a bit before having sex. Establish a relationship based on common interests etc before getting physical.