I’m a guy so my best female friend and I have had some relationship problems in the past, but this might have been the tipping point for me.

We met when we were 15 and I knew that she was in love with me for a while, she asked me out and I said no, after that her feelings past (or so I thought) we remained friends. When we were 16 we became best friends and that was kind of the high point of our friendship.

When we were 21 is kind of when the problems started brewing. She had a very difficult time, she became kind of overprotective and possesive for a while. When I did something she thought was risky, she would call me a ton of times. When I started dating my girlfriend at the time, she said things to the effect of be careful she might be using me, she had a full on mental breakdown at a party when I told her I had S with my girlfriend because she didn’t trust her, she also told me that one of my friends who I was getting closer to might be using me. At one point she burned bridges with a lot of our friends, so I was one of the few she had left. Once we were on a festival and we shared a bed and she would get closer than was appropriate and that I was comfortable with, though I never said anything. We didn’t hang much for a few months after all that.

That brings us to this year, she seemd to have really grown alot and got herself together, she got herself some new friends. I kept myself at a little bit of a distance from her so that our relationship would flow back into healthier waters, but she really seemd alot better and I was super happy for her because I really did care about her.

Drunk

This last week, however, we had our last day of school and we all bought booze and went drinking in this park nearby. She got super super wasted fast and confessed to me that she had a boyfriend and I was happy for her. She then put her head on my lap which I was comfortable with.

Then she started saying how his boylfriend and me are the two most important men in her life and she started kissing my thigh, like light pecks on my thigh, but alot of them and I got very uncomfortable very quickly. I then got up and told her I was going to talk to some other friends and she begged me stay a few more minutes and then I did while she drunkely rambles and at one point asks me If she is a bad girlfriend.

I walked away later, 20 minutes pass and she’s throwing up for a third time and I decide i really need to take her home. We go to the edge of park, I order her a grab and we sit on a bench, she then puts her head on my shoulder which was fine, but then she kisses my neck. I kind of freeze in shock and thankfully the grab arrives. I get her in there and go back to the party. The next day I send her a text that she made me uncomfortable and she thought it was because she told me she had a boyfriend.

Don’t get me wrong, I really care about her and we’ve known each other for a long time and we have had some truly great times together, but this might have been the last straw for me. I gave her a second chance once before and I don’t know if I could do it again.

I’m confused and kind of sad and dont really know what to do now about her. Any and all advice appreciated.

Can anyone explain why my friends who are doctors or lawyers constantly live in a bubble where they believe they are “elite” or special and separate from other corporate workers?

As much as their work is very meaningful (I mean the doctors), they talk about their jobs like they are much more important than others. Some even glorify how many hours they work as a measure of their “importance”. I also noticed they seem to automatically believe they make more than others or have more earning potential.

Sorry to burst your bubble but times have changed. There are actually regular” people who work in tech, only work 20-30h work weeks and make 200-300k annually a few years out of university. And people who start their own businesses make even more at their own time and target. Not like doctors and lawyers who usually make it big only when they get their own practice in their late 30s or 40s.

Here are what netizens think:

• I think it has to do with the nature of the profession, and not so much about how much money they earn.To be fair to lawyers and doctors (I’m not one), their work usually involves providing solutions to life threatening or life changing matters, which perhaps give many the impression that lawyers and doctors are one of the most important people out there.Not to mention the high barriers to entry into these 2 profession (education, mental capacity etc). I don’t think simply by showing them figures of earnings outside their bubble will “burst their bubble”. Let them enjoy their bubble bath because you know, they somehow deserve to be in that bubble. Not all… but most of them

• Sometimes it’s us who think they are better than us.Good to check upfront with them.

• You obviously have not visited a specialist nor know how much they make?! 300k ?!? LOL that’s just part of the expense for their cars.

• Elite professionals are haughty, cuz they’ve been well protected.Business owners are humble & they stay under the radar. Even at 100+m net worth competitors can still con you and lead to your downfall

Is it only me? Seems like there is 2 Singapore….

Everyday when I take a walk in the malls and browsing through the web, there seems to be 2 Singapore….

There’s the crowded malls with shoppers spending money like there’s no tomorrow. There’s the property market where everyone seems to be able to afford all the properties that I wouldn’t be able to purchase in my lifetime.

Then there’s me on a 1.8K salary, having 2 meals per day, no property. Got to save up $$ to support my old folks without any retirement planning,,,,,

Am I the only one?

Netizens’ comments

• Yeah I’m not sure why you are earning that amount. My coffee shop downstairs is hiring people for over $2,000.

Last month, Waterway Point downstairs is one shop hiring sales assistants for $2500 or $2800 per month.

Professional starting salaries can go as high as $4,000+ these days.

If you want property, get married, apply and wait for BTO. With dual income, you can definitely afford it.

• there are people earning more and people earning less. Why are you earning 1.8k? Hai Di Lao is hiring for 3k.

I recently went to the doctor to get a standard wellness visit and got some bloodwork done. I mainly wanted the bloodwork to see if my iron levels were low and check my cholesterol levels. My doctor asked if I wanted to check for stds as well and I said yes not thinking much of it. Well I got my results and I have chlamydia. I know it’s a fairly common and treatable std but I panicked a bit when I found out.

I always get tested before and after each new partner and I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for 2 years now. I know I got tested before my current partner and it came back clean. Not only that but I had a been scare about 6 months into dating my current partner and went to go get a test. I went to get tested and I had bv, which I treated, but that test also came back clean for stds.

So my only logical conclusion is that I got chlamydia from my current partner. I was really confused about this because in the beginning of dating before we had S, I had made to sure to ask if he was clean and if he got tested recently. Based on this I was somewhat worried that I got it because he had slept with someone else during our relationship. But I didn’t make any accusations. I called and told him I had chlamydia and that he needed to get tested/treated.

I then asked him when was the last time he actually got an std test. It took a bit of questioning but he eventually admitted that he did not get an std test in between me and his previous ex.

So that really pissed me off and I pointed out that he lied when I asked him if he got tested and was clean in the beginning of our relationship. I asked him if he had anything to say to that. He got quiet and didn’t say anything. He just said that he would get tested and tell me the results. I pointed out that my chlamydia didn’t show up on the test I got when I had bv either which was weird because we had been having sex for about 5 months already (with a condom but we didn’t use condom or dental dam when doing oral and we had a couple of times where the rubber broke..). He didn’t say anything to that either. I said alright let me know when you’re getting tested then I hung up because I was pissed he wasn’t apologizing or admitting to anything or talking in general.

Basically now I’m just waiting until he gets tested and tells me. But it’s been three days and we haven’t talked and he hasn’t told me that he’s scheduled his test or anything. I don’t want to make any rash decisions until he gets his test results back. But I’m pissed. I don’t know how long I’ve had chlamydia and I know the longer you have the more at risk women are for PID and other complications.

I don’t see any other possibility other than him having it from his ex and passing it onto me or him acquiring it from someone else during our relationship. Is it wrong of me to assume this? And should I push for him to get his testing done faster? The waiting is really bothering me and he hasn’t said anything about scheduling it. Am I overreacting by thinking this is possibly breakup worthy?