So I’m home for the holidays, and I started working at my usual part-time job. They love having me back and could always use the help since it’s a small retail shop. I love working there, but sometimes the people I encounter are…not great, but that’s a story for another day.

On my second day back, a man gave me his number and left. I wasn’t interested so I wasn’t going to text him, but was definitely flattered since I don’t get that attention very often. The next day (yesterday) he came back in, and asked me why I didn’t text him. At this point, I became VERY uncomfortable, because who the EFF does that? If you give someone your number and they don’t text, DON’T BRING IT UP AGAIN, THEY’RE NOT INTERESTED.

He noticed I got uncomfortable and even said “what’s that look for?” I’m not very confrontational, so I didn’t know how to say I was uninterested and just said I was tired because my cat kept waking me up the night before (which was true).

Not to mention I’m in the middle of working and am scared of angering him. I’m almost scared to go back to work because I don’t want to deal with that again. It’s obvious I wasn’t interested, and by the looks of it, he seems to want to keep pushing. He saw I got visibly uncomfortable and still pushed. I hate it.

I’m nice because I have to be, not because I want to be. Men, stop giving women who are working your numbers. They aren’t interested. And don’t bring it up to them again if they don’t text. It just makes things awkward and uncomfortable for us.

Luckily for the next two weeks, I’m on night shift, so hopefully, he doesn’t figure that out and comes and harasses me, especially because I’ll be alone.

Here are what netizens think:

• I think a lot of men are told to go after what they want, don’t take no for an answer, pursue and chase til you win etc. I don’t know if all of those types realize what they are doing is scary and creepy and just flat out cringey or not, but you’d think they’d have a clue by now.

• Suggest as a precaution you start a diary back to the initial coming in and then subsequent things. It would be nice to say nothing will happen from here but it might . Some people can be obsessive. At the time when it gets to the reporting stage documentation is important from management levels to the authorities

• A lot of Men (me included) don’t get much attention from the opposite sex, so when a women is nice to us it’s hard to guess if the interest is genuine or not.

I just broke up with my boyfriend over armpit hair.

My now ex-boyfriend and I got in an argument over me not shaving, and that was it for me. He said he wouldn’t be attracted to me.

I was already not very happy in the relationship and I’m so relieved.

This was the same man who coerced me into sleeping with me, roped me into saying I love you, and lied to me. This was just the final straw.

Ladies, never settle. It’s not worth it.

Netizens’ comments

• You threw the whole man out, good on ya
• Cheers! My ex boyfriend broke up with me over my leg hair. He said me not shaving was like two men living together? We weren’t even living together yet.
  He told me all this over text so I have screenshots and sent them to my friends.
• People like that confuse me. I literally cannot imagine caring that much about someone else’s armpit hair. I don’t even put that much thought into my own armpit hair. Good on you for dumping him.

Will you date a girl that’s not over her ex?

I am dating a girl and everything is amazing. We decided to go exclusive abt 2 months ago. One day she sat me down and explained that she wanted to be 100% honest before we carry on. She’s not over her ex but promises her ex will never come between us.

I probed la, cos I dont want to deal with some crazy ex. Turns out her ex passed away right before they were about to get married and she explained that he was perfect. She has dated after but none of the other guys came close. She firmly believes that no one will ever replace her ex and that her ex was “the one”. She is willing to build this relationship with me, but she wanted me to know how she really feels.

I am the “comfortable” choice. I’m at a loss now. I feel like the consolation price… but it’s true that the ex will never be an issue.

Here are what netizens think:

• Will my life lessons taught to see everything in different perspectives . You sound to be shaken by her narrative so you really have to decide for yourself.

• It’s painful to lost a loved one, it’s good if you can be compassionate and feel the pain with her. It’s actually an honour that she decided to share with you about her past.Everybody has their memories, she is willing to bury her past and start afresh with you. You are that special person that gave her the confidence to start afresh.Please don’t ruin this beautiful new chapter.

• Whether or not she is able to heal, none of us will know. Obviously she don’t want to live in the past and looking forward to heal and continue with her life in a meaningful way which is why she is looking around for someone else.Ask yrself if u are willing to help her heal even if nothing comes out of the relationship. If u love her and want the best for her, u should not give up and help her even if eventually she is just a friend to u.If you treasure your time and will not want to risk yr time and effort, probably she is not the one for u. Let her go.

• A female bestie taught me: A girl’s promise is only as trustworthy as her current emotions. She alr admitted that her ex that passed will be the best she had, so technically u are just the best out of the current choices she have. And that might change in the future lol.She promises u that her ex will not come between the rs but didnt say if another better guy along the way comes, won’t.What i can tell u is, walk away. Women with emotional baggage/scars from past rs requiries serious care and concern ….. which is fine if u have the time and money ( to not work and cater to her needs)AND the part most ppl dont talk about is if they ever managed to heal, they may realise that their new healed self deserves someone better and ur rs will end.Ive seen so many of my guy friends who fall into the stereotype of “nice guys”, trying to heal their exes who were broken, but in the end they were so exhausted and left with nothing but heartbreaks. 

• You’re half right.Her ex may never be an issue because he’s dead; ORHer ex may be an issue forever (that can never be resolved because he’s dead).50/50… she’s got emotional baggage .Up to you whether you like traveling light or with a full 30kg of check-in luggage

HELPPPP what do you do with guys who try so hard to act cool in front of girls? On Friday my mentor said he will treat me to lunch to celebrate my first week at the job; I agreed to the lunch but politely declined the treat, then suddenly he pulled off a Korean CEO move by cornering me into a wall and resting one hand on the wall, saying “I don’t take no for an answer. It’s settled.”

Unfortunately, his outstretched arm featured a ginormous ARMPIT STAIN AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Not only that, on my first day when I passed a comment worrying about whether I will pass probation, he knocked his index finger against my forehand and was like, “Silly girl. You have me.”

He obviously didn’t watch properly how they do it in kdramas, because instead of a light tap he Mike Tyson-ed it and my head literally snapped back and I muffled an “OOF”. Laoniang had a blue-black for two days okay.

In case you were wondering, yes he wears his jacket with the collar turned up. Oh my god.

Here are what netizens think:

Hahaha! That blue black super turned off!!!Seriously, the act cool is more to haolian.If u prefer humble guys, that’s obviously not your cup~~

HAHAHAHAH main point is, how handsome he is.

Watch too much Tele liao then want act like Korean actors.

Important qns is does he look like a korean oppa or korean opps? No picture hard to comment

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