We’ve been a couple for 2 years alr but I’m getting tired of him.
We’ve been arguing almost everyday for the past 2 months. Every argument was just full of grudges.
When we first started dating, he seem fine. Good looking, treats me well but as our dating days goes by. We lost more trusts n faith with each other, always second guessing each other. We breakup n get back uncountable times n now I’m really getting sick n tired of this relationship.
We met through mutual friends and his job just happened to be mine interest, so I left a comment on ig and then we started dming each other so end up being together. First few months of the relationship was good. Afterwards, we been arguing at least twice a week. The contradiction between us getting bigger every arguments.
When we dating, I once saw his phone apps consist of those meetings new friends apps ( but these apps usually is meet new gender friend and end up being a couple). I asked him why u need these kind of apps? He said I’ve always been ignoring him, since mine phone always on silence and he suspect I have affair outside just because a guy sent me a hotel room detail. But that was because I need to go his room for works and that guy I working with is a good husband. Everyone know how well he treated ppl, how popular he is at work. I cannot deny having eyecandies on him when he have capabilities as a boss and as a person.
We went out for a date n my bf didn’t say anything. just silent treatment when I asked him qns and he just left me alone in the mall n walk away. I messaged him what wrong,why are you giving me cold treatment. He said was because of the hotel incident and I said why didn’t u ask me. I could’ve shown you the full messages. I was very disappointed that he think I was such an easy person to get laid with. When I was working, all in mine mind was just to earn enough money so that we can have a grand wedding event. We could’ve sat down and talks about his unhappiness but he decided to just being angry and thinking that I cheated on him.
He also been meeting his exes. I once saw his message notifications from his friend stated ” wah, you going meet Ur exes ah? Not scared Ur current found out?”. I was so furious when I saw that notification.
During dating, we said we’ll be honest with each other regardless of what but he didn’t even mentioned that the ex asked for meetups with him. Only when I confronted with him,he started blurting out.
I’ve never mentioned about my exes because it’s in the past n we didn’t have contacts anymore but he did. He not only didn’t mention about it but also went to meetup with his exes.
One of our biggest arguements almost lead us to breaking up permanently. He suggested it but I didn’t want to. So he said ok. Let’s have cooldown periods instead. So during the cooldown period, I went out with 3 other friends( 1 F, 2M) we went to USS tgt. But he been accusing me of cheating on him with one of the guy because we took pair shot.
All of us are close friends and even my bf know them since we have mutual friends. He’s such a atrocious person to think that because of pair photos, I cheated on him. Moreover, the 2M also have gf already. We’re just purely hanging out to catch-up as clique. He also accusing me saying I’m a slut for hanging out with guys during our cooldown period but I don’t see anything wrong with mine actions.
he also ownself went out to drinks with friends, make new female friends at the drinking place. His friend ig stories videoed him playing happily with all the gals and said he’s single during our cooldown period then his friends also proceed to video him asking the gals for their social media, contact no and etc.
He said all the female contacts he added was just Vase. Just to look like he’s popular with gals but he don’t contact them.
He said he just using the ig stories to make me angry cause I went out hanging with clique that have guys included so he’s doing the same and he also have a lot chats that require password to enter.
I’m so done with him but I don’t want breakup with him. I should be the one dumping him not him dumping me. I have many admirers and all of them are better than him whether in looking, studies or as a person. I gave him the chance yet he felt that I was the one unreasonable during our 2 years of relationship.
Here are what netizens think:
- So he has to accept you went to a hotel with a guy alone, but you are not ok with him having app on his phone.”I am so done with him, but I don’t want to breakup with him”You are so full of contradiction. If you can’t decide go and pluck flower petals.”I should be the one dumping him, not him dumping me”What are you 3 years old?”I have many admirers blah blah”With your mindset, nothing will change.
- Just break, both of u are not emotionally and mentally matured to carry out a proper relationship.
- Certainly, there’s NO LOVE between you two, only resentment, hatred & grudges. Why don’t you two break up? Social pressure? or mutual friends? Forget everything about what others might think and just break up. Because at the end of the day, it’s only YOU who are gonna be responsible for your life’s decisions. Start a new life full of love, care & respect. You must be able to LOVE & RESPECT someone in order to be in a relationship with him. Love is about feeling for each other, bringing meaning to each other’s lives, uplifting each other & finding immense happiness in doing all these. That’s so fundamental to start with.
