My 29 year old Singaporean born and bred son is a mess. If it wasn’t bad enough that he was a V even at 29, his first relationship had turned him into a hot mess. But he isn’t to blame. It’s partly my fault.

I grew up in the Kampong and always had a rebellious streak. You could call me an Ah Lian from the nineties. I loved hanging out with all races and tattooed men especially made me drool. But that was only until I met my husband and decided to settle down. My husband is the exact opposite of me. He follows every rule, believes in the virtues of chastity and I must say he has raised his children well. I’m so proud of all of them. They attend church on Sundays and have vowed to live chaste lives.

The problem started a few years back when my daughter (now 27) turned 23. Even though she was a straight “A” lister and went JC/Uni she got into some bad company and before we knew it she was breaking almost every rule that her father and brother believed in. Even though I have never told them about my ex-life I think genetics played a part and my daughter seemed to take to everything that I liked in my youth. Things came to a head when my son caught her in bed with her then FWB of another race. To make it worse he saw them “in action” and the guy was not just well built, but also tattooed and well endowed.

I think this trauma of seeing his sister drift, wanting to be the virtuous son and then getting into a relationship with a girl who has a past has played a big part in messing him up. He was already insecure. After he found out about his girlfriend’s past he is even more insecure and the past trauma makes him think everyone will be like sister. To be fair, his sister is now settled down (like me) and with a steady Ang moh boyfriend. I’m sure my son is still reeling from the trauma of seeing his sister’s partners tool and figuring his Asian manhood wasn’t anywhere near that.

I believe my boy is scared of going to church on Sunday and facing off the fact that he was with an “easy” woman. He broke off with the girl even though he loved her because he can’t imagine how he would introduce her to his father.

I feel so sorry for my poor boy who is still living with the hope of meeting that special someone who will be as virtuous as him. My heart goes out to him. But I’m secretly glad she took his virginity and gave him a taste of what he is missing out on. I wish he gains his confidence again and get get into a relationship. I only wish the best for him.

[Am waiting to her the sister’s and father’s view]

A woman recently posted her frustrations on the internet after her husband humiliated her during their bedtime hours.

The husband made unruly comments about his wife’s physique and she has since been destroyed after hearing the words that came out of her husband’s mouth.

Here is the story:

Last night was one of the nights that made me tear up the most in my life.

My husband who is working 9 to 6 came home at about 7 PM and it was our anniversary, I cooked a big meal for him and our two kids. Hoping that I would get some praise for him.

He totally did not even spout a word and did not notice the difference in the dinner. He eat, showered and went to bed and started scrolling on his phone.

I told him that it was our anniversary and he said “hmph”. I tried to engage him to have a night that is full of passionate love but he suddenly pushed me aside.

I asked him what was wrong and he said: “your belly is too big, it’s very hard to get hard”.

I was destroyed when he said those words. I bear for him two children, go to NTUC to buy food, cook and clean.

I barely have enough time for special diets or exercise.

I went to the toilet and cry and he did not even bother to comfort me. He went to the kitchen took a beer and started watching Youtube videos.

Later he off the light and said tomorrow he have a meeting early in the morning and started to snore.

I don’t know what to do…

Its seems like after many years of marriage, nothing is special anymore.

Hooked up with a guy who scratched/petted me like a dog and I loved it.

I hooked up with a guy last night and it was great, we were chilling on his sofa eating snacks and he starts scratching my neck, back, behind my ears.

Just absentmindedly scratching whilst we watched tv, like I was a dog.

It felt bloody wonderful. I adored it. If I could have done that weird self scratch dog leg jitter thing I would have. I will now assess scratchability in all future partners.

Netizens’ comments

• I have a very itchy back, like I think there’s a pinched nerve or something that gives me these itchy spots that can feel better than intercourse sometimes.
  Anytime I’ve got an impending breakup it’s always front of my mind “who will scratch me??” Its one of the more intimate affections I share with my current partner and I’m not sure he even realizes.
• Physical touch is my love language and when family, friends, or lovers touch me affectionately it makes me feel so happy
• Lmao this is something else.. especially with you wanting to do the dog leg jitter. Kind of like when humans stretch and then we start shaking cause it feels good haha

My boyfriend didn’t want to talk to me after I threw a party at home. What should I do?

Hi. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for more than 7 years, living together for 5 years. We are both in our 30+ age.

We never had any party at our home. I threw one with my friends, he knew it in advance and didn’t want to join. I prepared everything myself because he doesn’t want to help.

I can understand that because it is my decision to have a party and I took that responsibility. At first, everything went well.

We talked normally as usual. He came home when the party is still ongoing, so he went directly to our room.

When the party was over, I called him for dinner after heated all the leftover food. Most of the time we ate together, but this time he told me to eat first.

When I woke up the next day, I realized he was sleeping in the other room. I asked him if there is something wrong, he said it is about our relationship but didn’t want to tell the details.

Did I do anything wrong? At the party, my friends and I never talked bad about him. They asked me where he is, I told them he went to meet his friends, and they are impressed about his job. That’s all. What should I do now? He told me to leave him alone, so should I do that to give him some time?

My mom passed when I was 4. I have two older brothers who were 6 and 7 when she passed. Our dad remarried just after my 9th birthday and had two children with his second wife. My brothers and I are 28, 30 and 31 now. And my half-sister recently turned 15. My brothers and I work with our mom’s parents. She set up a restaurant with them before she had us, and our grandparents told us we’ll be the owners eventually. As it is we make decisions like owners.

My half-sister is obsessed with being a chef. She watches all the cooking shows and wants to be famous. Recently, she has started asking if she can work at the restaurant and start to get to know the family business. She said she’d love to take over as head chef one day and her mom could be head waitress. My brothers told her she was getting way too carried away. But she got all excited. She ended up talking to our dad about working for us, he said he was okay with it as long as we were.

We’re not. What it comes down to is this is a business our mom started with her parents for us to take over some day. For our family. And none of us believe she would want our dad’s second wife or our half siblings who are nothing to her working there, and taking such a huge place in it. We know our grandparents aren’t comfortable with it either.

I’m the most gentle out of us three, so I told her that she couldn’t work for us. I encouraged her to find somewhere else to work instead. She asked me why and I told her it was a decision made by those of us who owned/ran the business. She asked me how it could be a family business if we don’t allow family to work there. Then said how her mom should have been asked a long time ago. I told her that wouldn’t make sense since her mom isn’t related to my grandparents, the owners, and that ultimately, it’s my mom’s legacy for her children and how we’re trying to honor that. She said it was dumb and F how my mom would feel when she can’t even speak about it.

My dad and his wife are so pissed we turned her down. They said she is OUR family and that should be what matters. It also brought some bitterness up about dad’s wife not being offered a place at the restaurant years ago. Seems there’s some weirdness because dad had worked alongside mom and my grandparents for a while when they were first married.