I need serious intellectual advise here.

I bought my partner a box of condom consist of 12 pieces in it as my partner kept complaining each time we are doing it there’s an bad odor. Which I thought it would helped. But it didn’t, and my partner did not like the feel of using condoms during the intercourse. So in totality 4 pieces were used out of 12 during this whole phrase.

Moving forward, as couples we tend to have quarrels and arguments. So happened that when I was at my partner’s place, I asked casually where are the condoms that I purchased, my partner replied due to the arguments that we had, it was thrown away.

Subsequently, a few months later passed, I was searching for something and chanced upon the exact condom box kept in a table drawer which was not used frequently and I realized the balance pieces are only left with 6pieces. I have yet exposed or confronted my partner about it till now.

Now tell me, what would you advise or do if you’re in my position?

Here are what netizens think:

• Poke tiny holes in it and soak it in chilli pepper oil. In time the truth shall surface…

• The correct question is how many times your partner has been doing it without a condom.

• Leave him since he lied to u that he never use, somemore on someone else

• Maybe he used it on others to see if the bad odor was present.Maybe he wore it for fun.

• Never trust a person who lie if you confirmed is the same box.

• He makes animal air balloon out of it

• Maybe He chew it like bubblegum

• Buy a new box in case not enough for next runs.

• You should turn out all the lights and ask if he’s got a flashlight.

My 23M bf has a close female friend (Girl A) that is like a confidant of his. They would meet up a few times a year to chitchat about life and occasionally text one another.

Previously  i asked what they were chatting about during their meetups as it often takes 3-4 hrs for each meeting. He mentioned they were just gossiping about their ex classmates and some boring life talks which is normal and understandable on why they had never invited me to join for dinner.

Last week, i made a new friend which happens to be Girl A’s good friend and my bf’s acquaintance. She mentioned that Girl A had occasionally shared their conversation topics from those meet up sessions with her and its usually comprises of one of them asking advice for their relationship, and also frequently involve discussions of a more explicit nature e.g how to self pleasure and how to get better in bed etc.

After hearing it, i just dont feel comfortable knowing that such personal stuff about our relationship and intimacy are made known to someone outside our relationship. Furthermore knowing that he may be twisting the facts about the conversations they had during their catchups. As my bf and Girl A has been friends for a decade, he probably had been discussing all these issues with her prior to getting attached with me and I want to respect that privacy of his.

But how can i go about asking him respectfully refrain from discussing such intimate and personal issues with Girl A in the future?

My boyfriend’s personality changed during the year he spent abroad

I’m (21F) My bf (20M) went overseas 3 days after he turned 19, He came back a week ago We’ve spent almost every second together during them. I’ve came to release that he changed.

I understand people can change but he changed a lot both ways he gained a massive amount of muscles and he became more handsome more than he was before and his personality changed a lot too.

He doesn’t look at the world from the same way I remember, his actions too I feel like he’s analysing everything around him and he’s always being cautious.

When I asked him about it he said “when you’re a alone in a country where your nearest relative is more than 7000kms away from you, you have to adapt and get used to what you have”

I’m not saying I lost feelings for him I love him deeply more than I can describe it. I’m just wondering what caused this massive change on him

Netizens’ comments

• Life experience changed him. To get specifics. You’ll need to make him comfortable enough to tell you about it.

What caused this massive change in him? Everything you said in your post.

• People change a lot at your age anyway, there’s a lot of maturing and emotional growth during this time in your life. 100%, him leaving home and being all alone in a foreign country is a VERY quick way to make someone grow up quick. You go from being a kid with mom and dad nearby to *everything* is on you. I’m not saying it’s a bad experience (having done something similar myself!) but it does have a big impact on people’s lives. You know how the people around you can help shape the kind of person you are? Well, for one year, everyone that used to influence him was gone. Everything was. And in place of all that he had a whole new life, surrounded by new people. It’s only natural that he’s going to take a little piece of all those interactions with him as he moved back home.

I’m currently serving SOL in *camp name redacted* camp, and I stay in none other than the infamous level 6 bunk, alone

Was about 6pm, was studying my own things in camp, mind u it was a rather sunny day, sun hadn’t set yet.

All the usual stuff you’d hear about cupboards banging, breathing down yr neck, feeling like you’re being watched,

what shocked me the most was that one moment I was doing my own studies, then the next moment I was outside the bunk lying on the bunk floor, having just hit my head on one of those metal box things, as well as red marks on my arm

Sitting here rn at the medical centre; DO told me to go to guardhouse but it isn’t a long term solution, I’m in my smart 4 and I have nothing with me except my wallet and my phone and a powerbank, and the guards don’t have spare manpower so there’s no way I’m going up to get my stuff

it’s day 2 of my sol, I have 12 more to go, 6 nights of sleeping alone, anyone have any advice? is this enough reason to get an ooc? I’m not stepping foot in there even if my whole platoon is with me.

Netizens’ comments

Damn, why do they still make people sleep at Level 6 if it is that infamous for paranormal activity?

I’ve seen multiple stories shared by people with their own experiences about *camp name redacted* Camp. Would not want to set foot in there, definitely.

My (28F) bf (27M) insinuates im high maintenance and it kinda pissed me off. For context , we always go dutch. Even my birthday dinner i paid for it. We normally eat home cooked meals or kopitiam/ food court and probably eat at restaurants once a month. He doesnt buy me flowers or gifts and i dont ever ask for it.

Frankly, i cook and clean ( i wash the toilets too ). On the other hand , he has never washed a toilet in his life. I think im considerably low maintenance already.

When i look at my female friends , most of their bf pay for all their things and never expect them to cook or clean. Most girls i know also get driven around by their partners too.

Tbf , im his first girlfriend. I think he has not seen what kind of high maintenance girls are out there.

Money or time question : his sentence was related to bringing me out and my type of clothes.

Dont worry my bf is a great guy , im just here to rant cause i dont wanna discuss with him while im angry. I also dont like to rant abt my rs to ppl who know him in rl ( my friends & family )

Also, people who said im seeking validation. Would you have said the same thing is the genders were reversed ? The same people would asked me to dump that unappreciative woman LOL

Here are what netizens think:

• To me, as a girl, high maintainance is probably one of these few things. Drinking BBT or barista coffee everytime you go out. Needing to eat at cafe and restaurants every week. Only buying branded clothes and bags. Doing gelish every month. Taking grab everywhere you go. If going to restaurants on special occasions is high maintenance then he’s either dirt poor or a miser. If he want to prepare a special meal then it’s a different story. If not what does he expect, eat cai png for birthday? I’m sorry but he sounds like he doesn’t even want to maintain a gf.

• I dont really buy branded clothes or bag ( i have 1 branded bag and wallet ). I rarely take grab and i dont do manicure at all haha. Maintaining a gf is very hard for him.. cause he was single for the most of his life.

• My bf was single until 30. He’s… not like your bf. It’s definitely not because he was single for so long, and don’t let him use it as an excuse. Btw I never take grab and I don’t have branded bags, only mid tier ones. But I do get gel mani every month, so I consider myself average maintenance fwiw. He cleans my toilet and my dishes, 2 things which I told him I hate doing.

• Hey, I pay for all these you mentioned for myself but I don’t consider myself high maintenance.