Do most women change into their pajamas or comfy (unflattering) clothes as soon as they get home?

When I get home from work the first thing I do is change into my pajamas. Take my bra off. Get comfy.

My boyfriend has recently complained about this, saying that it isn’t “attractive.” Like the other day I was getting into bed and he just looked at me and said “that is the least attractive outfit I’ve ever seen.”

It really hurt my feelings. I mean it was just an oversized gray t shirt and shorts. Why does it matter what I wear at home? Is this normal?

Netizens’ comments

• A friend of mine once wisely told me that “home is where the bra isn’t”. Ever since it’s the first thing I take off when I get home

• I work from home most days so I’m usually in sweats or my pjs when my boyfriend comes over. I used to apologize for my unkempt appearance but he repeatedly told me that he loves how I look no matter what and he’s glad that I’m comfortable.

• Does your boyfriend bother to be appealing at all times or nah?

• I would love to know what HE was wearing at the time he made that comment.

I installed a camera in the living room and caught my husband making out with the babysitter.

I have been having suspicions for almost 4 months since I hired this part-timer young babysitter for my 3-year-old daughter. I’m a nurse working full time while he works three nights a week and comes home to sleep during the day.

I felt I was going crazy because something was off and he refused to ease my mind and answer questions I had – so I put a camera in the living room and saw nothing till day 4 when he and the babysitter were making out on the couch behind my daughter’s back while she was watching tv. I felt like my entire world came crashing to the ground. I felt all kinds of negative feelings including guilt even though I just wanted to keep my job when he complained about me pushing him to the side.

He started crying when confronted, tried to get me to listen but I took my daughter and went to stay with mom. It’s been a whole month now. The babysitter is gone and he’s still crying about his slip up, even went as far as say the babysitter was the one initiating.

I feel like I’m done with him after this. He managed to make me feel guilty for not dressing up or giving him enough attention now I do strongly believe I bear part of the blame in what happened.

I feel disgusted and my mind and heart keep racing not knowing how to deal with all of this. he’s begging for a second chance and his family are defending him against me.

Here are what netizens think:

• He’s blaming the wife too. And he’s got her believing both. I hope she turns him in via video and kicks him out. He’s just a drain on her life anyway. In all shapes and forms.

• It is not your fault. Shifting the blame is the cheater’s way to muddy the water and make you doubt what you know to be the truth. That goes hand-in-hand with blaming the babysitter – she initiated it – riiight. Read your own words: I feel like I’m done with him after this. I think that is your gut. Trust your gut.

My brother excluded my husband from his wedding because he’s in a wheelchair. I decided to not go.

My husband (30) got into an accident that caused him to become wheelchairbound 2 years ago, I’m his caregiver and it is all hard as it is.

My brother is getting married soon, he sent me an invite but excluded my husband implying it’s because he’s in a wheelchair.

My brother explained that he didn’t want for me or my husband to “suffer” and suggested that I leave him at home and come alone.

I had a fight not just with my brother, but my family as well after I said I wasn’t going to attend the wedding because my husband was excluded and for what?

he didn’t do anything to anyone, he’s struggling and doesn’t need them shunning him for something he has control over.

I made my mind to skip my brother’s wedding which caused a problem because he’s my oldest and only sibling and be there was a must.

My mom, dad and others are pressuring me to go and said my husband was being dramatic for not letting me go enjoy myself a bit, but my husband didn’t stop me and this was my decision.

I got called unsupportive and petty for refusing to attend now.

This might ruin my relationship with my family and I might be letting my emotions get in the way, but I’m just so mad and hurt right now.

My fiancé found my underwear and put them back on me after I told him I was too drunk to sleep with him.

I can’t stop thinking about him and how happy and safe he makes me feel.

I was wayyy too high and drunk last night after we had started to get busy with it, and I asked him if we could try again later.

He just smiled at me and said okay, and before I could say anything else or even sit up, he found my underwear and put them back on me.

After the nausea had passed, we had the best intimacy I’ve ever had.

And to top it off, when I was cleaning up in the bathroom, he knocked on the door and said “I left your clothes outside the door so you don’t have to walk out without any clothes on”

My heart, I just can’t. Who knew I would be so turned on by respect???

Netizens’ comments

• When we find the right one we realize why it didn’t work with anyone else

I’m happy you found someone to respect your boundaries and someone you’re sexually compatible with

• When no actually means no and is respected in kind you know you have yourself a good dude.

My wife and I have been together for about 5 years in total. Last year we kind of broke up/separated for about 8 months. She dated someone else, and I had some hookups but nothing serious. We have a daughter together, and she has a son from her previous marriage who calls me dad. Due to the family we had I agreed to give her and I another go.

For sake of the people reading and to make this short, I’ve left out a lot of details. In short, the guy she dated after me, to be honest, was better looking all around. Way taller than me, in way better shape, had a lot of stuff in his life that I don’t amount to.

It was emasculating, to say the least. Like we have been trying 2 months to work things out. At this point, although my insecurities have really gotten to me. Honestly, I don’t wanna do this anymore. I love her more than anything honestly but I don’t know the fact that she went out and got “someone better” just weighs on me too much. Anytime she and I “do it” it makes me feel sick.

Makes me feel insecure and depressed with a lot of bad emotions.

I’ve tried to end it several times in the last 2 months. But she either convinces me to stay, or I have a hard time letting go.

I can be on my own I’m cool with that 100%. Matter of fact it’s better for me, I have a lot of things as a man I need to work on in order to be who I want to be, and the constant bad vibes from this I feel Like is going to hinder my growth.

I just don’t know how to leave her for good. I am going to have to see her every week for the next 15 years. It’s gonna kill me to see her with someone else again, but I just know deep down this is making me miserable.

We do have a great connection when I’m not in my head and thinking about her. But it’s to the point where I’m losing weight and sleep from stress. My OCD that I pretty much put into remission when u was alone is back into full force. Feels like I’m losing myself. Similar to when she left.

I’m looking for any advice. Also it was nice to just vent.

Here is what netizens think:

• The best advice I’ve ever gotten in terms of a relationship is that when you have something and you want to keep it, you try to fix it instead of throwing it away. Has she said anything about the other guy being all around better or is that your anxiety filling your head with these thoughts? If she has, leave. You really need to think about this since you’re in such a position with having a child and all, you could work on yourself while still being in a relationship. Think about what will truly make you happy and go with that decision.

• Maybe it’s time to write out a long calm list of pros and cons of being involved with this person any further. Keep it unemotional. Such as the fact that you enjoy your daughters company. (I assume as much, although you haven’t stated so.)

• I don’t think you should leave a relationship for the reason you gave. That’s self hate/ self sabotage. That low self esteem is coming from inside you, not from her, so it will follow you post break-up. I think you should consider staying with her and working on you simultaneously. Think of that other guy like you would any other previous relationship she had before you ever met her. That relationship ended and then she chose you. You’re obviously pretty damn good in her eyes.

So my aunt is going on a trip in a couple of weeks.

She has 3 dogs, a lab, a chocolate lab and a poodle. She asked me to dog sit at her house for a week. The problem is all her dogs are one year old so they’re pretty much puppies.

I don’t have the best experience with dogs, i have one but she’s always been a very calm dog her whole life.

All my aunt’s dogs are super hyper and not very well trained. They’re so much work as i’ve heard and i just don’t think i can handle it.

I told her that and she asked me to reconsider. She said she’d pay me $400. I strongly reconsidered after that but once again i just don’t think i could handle it.

I told her sorry but no again. She called my mom afterward and tried to make my mom make me dog sit.

My mom told me that she called again and said she was desperate. I told her to just find someone else and she said she can’t find someone in such short notice.

My mom told me i was being a little selfish for telling my own aunt no. We left it at that.

Last night my aunt called me again and said that she’s reconsidering me as a dog sitter but she’s lowering the price to 300.

I told her that i said no was my final answer and she said that she’s going to have to cancel her trip because of me and my “irresponsibility”.

Usually i wouldn’t feel bad but she was looking toward to this trip apparently

So my fiancé has been raving about a birthday gift he’s planned on giving to me, he said it was sentimental because I told him I wanted more items of my own since I don’t have much money.

He said this gift was going to be $450 and I’m not materialistic but I was so happy he was getting a really thought-out gift and wanted to spend that much. Even though I told him multiple times he really doesn’t have to spend that much.

Anyways, today he tells me my gift is that he plans on giving me the Xbox I bought him for HIS birthday last year and spending money on a PlayStation for himself to replace it.

I said, “so basically you’re giving me something I’ve already paid for and getting yourself a new PlayStation..?” And he said “ugh if you’re gonna react and put it like that… never mind now I feel like Im having the worse day of my life and I don’t want to talk about it” so now it’s this whole ordeal.

I don’t if I’m for responding in a correct way to him.

Here are what netizen thinks:

• Wow, your boyfriend sounds like a moron to me! First, he tells you the value of this gift, which is weird and like he’s boasting about it. Then the fact it’s just his old X-Box that you gave to him? Then HE gets mad at YOU?

• He sounds like an extremely immature boy to me. He needs to do some growing up fast! Maybe this is a sign of too much gaming instead of getting out into the real world and finding out what life is REALLY like and how society actually works.

• All he’s trying to do is save himself the hassle of selling it on Carousell/Ebay. What an utter moron.
• He made out like it was a gift for you, when it was 100% a gift for him. He must know on some level that he’s done an awful thing, because of his reaction. 
• Your reaction is accurate & valid.

For some context, my 84 y.o grandfather is from my father’s side so my mother isn’t biologically related to him.

My father passed away several years ago, and my grandmother (grandfather’s wife) also passed away about 2 years ago. My mom and I have never really been close to my grandfather but since my dad’s and grandma’s passing we’ve tried to reach out more and provide more support since he’s really struggling and grief-stricken on his own.

My mom has this routine of dropping off this specific brand of bread to my grandpa’s place whenever he’s low on bread even though he goes grocery shopping with my uncle every Sunday and can easily get the bread himself.

My mom has also been acting very visibly uncomfortable when my grandfather greets us all with hugs which I never understood. She just recently revealed to me that she’s been acting uncomfortable because when she goes to drop off bread and asks my grandpa if he needs anything else, he has said multiple times that he “does need something more but she never gives it to him”, and also makes a lot of comments about how young she looks.

So she suspects he only wants her to drop off bread so he has the chance to see her alone.

He also has winked at her after making these types of comments, and she said he’s even slapped her butt before. He’s never done or said anything inappropriate to me but after learning this it’s changed my perception of my grandfather completely and I kind of want nothing to do with him anymore, or to at least confront him about it, because he has kept questioning me about why my mom acts so distant and uncomfortable around him.

My mom won’t go to visit him by herself anymore and will sometimes get me and my brother to drop off the bread. I don’t really know what to do or believe since it’s very hard to envision my grandfather in this way, especially since he’s still in so much pain from losing my grandma, but my mom would never lie about something like this.

We plan to have dinner with him on his birthday since no one else is visiting him but I don’t know if I’ll be able to face him. Should I bring this up with him? Question him? Tell other family members about it? Cut off all contact with him?