I found out that my boyfriend of 2 years is married and has kids, I’m showing myself to his family tomorrow at his church.

I’m just so confused right now and need to talk to somebody.

I’ve been seeing this guy “Adam, 32” for 2 years. We don’t live together but he visits me on weekends. I never met his family, friends or been to his house.

3 weeks ago, I found out that he’s actually married and has 2 kids, I was devastated and in a state of disbelief but most of all, I was mad, especially after I confirmed this via his wife’s social media account.

We’re still talking and I haven’t broken up with him yet…I planned and decided to show myself to his family on Sunday at his church and let them know that he used me and took advantage, I plan on ending it right there and then.

I’m doing this tomorrow and no one knows except myself, He’s still texting me lies thinking that I’m stupid or ignorant.

I feel terrible but something’s pushing me to do this. Don’t know if it’s anger or feeling bad for his wife and kids..

I just…I’m not gonna lie I’m worried this might backfire on me but at this point, I have nothing to lose, I just feel like I need to get my respect and dignity back after being lied to and fooled for 2 years.

A man shared how he can’t take spicy food but he then went to a restaurant with only spicy food as it was his wife’s birthday.

Here is the story:

My wife’s birthday was this past weekend and she wanted to go to this specialty Sichuan restaurant because she is from that region. Sichuan food is known to be really spicy, and is a lot more than I can handle. She knows I can’t do spicy, and we’ve been trying to work on my tolerance with her cooking, but it’s still not that good.

I told her this and suggested we go to a regular Chinese restaurant, but she claimed it’s not the same. She said there will be non spicy options and at worst, she can ask them to make it not spicy. She clung to me and gave me those cute eyes that I couldn’t say no to, so I gave in and agreed. It’s her birthday so I didn’t want to ruin her day.

Well turns out I did anyway. We were at the restaurant and the entire menu was in Chinese. They had an english one but it didn’t really tell me what was spicy and what wasn’t. I let her order a few dishes, the food came, and it was all spicy. Even the ones she said weren’t. I tried to eat it, but I couldn’t so I asked her if she can ask them to make it less spicy.

She told me to take it slowly and to eat more rice. But I wasn’t enjoying it and asked her again. She got a little huffy but called the waiter over. The waiter kind of gave me a look, like one of those confused “why are you here?” looks, but took a dish back. It came back out and it was not as spicy but still has a kick. I think it was the sauce they’re using or something.

I told the waiter it’s still spicy for me, and the waiter said they can’t make it any less spicy than that. My wife was getting embarrassed I think, because the tables next to us were all looking now. When the waiter went away, I asked her if we can go to another restaurant. She said she didn’t want to, since we’re already here and we already have food on the table.

I started getting frustrated and saying that we’ve been out all day, and I haven’t eaten and now I won’t be able to eat because everything is spicy. She told me to just eat the rice and we’ll get something for me after.

I got really offended by that and got up and left, walked around for a bit to cool down then came back to see her by our car. She was furious and said I embarrassed her. I said she knew I couldn’t handle spicy, and she said I shouldn’t have agreed to the restaurant.

In hindsight, I could’ve probably eaten the dish that came back with a lot of rice…but I wouldn’t enjoy it. I don’t think I can get used to spicy food.

A while ago, my friend brought up that she had seen my boyfriend on Tinder, which obviously was cause for concern. This wasn’t the first time there had been hints of infidelity since I would see flirty texts and innuendo pop up on his phone all the time, but he would claim that they were jokes from friends. I haven’t been able to confirm nor deny this statement, that they’re jokes from friends, but it’s still questionable.

When I asked him why he still had a Tinder profile, he said he just opened the app to check if his account was still there. This makes enough sense to me, except he also edited his bio and added more photos, so this wasn’t a quick check to see if his account was still being shown, in addition his account was still up even after so evidently he didn’t delete it.

A while later, when my friend said he’s still on, I asked him why he’s still using the app and he said to make friends, which seemed dubious to me. With that said, he hasn’t been on for the last few weeks, but I think that’s because he broke his phone, rather than because of my concerns.

Later, I had another friend he didn’t know essentially catfish him to see if he would respond and sure enough he did. And from my interpretation, the messages he sent were more than just friendly, with innuendo and everything.

I’ve already brought this all up before and he’s had excuses (the flirty texts are old and from friends, he opened the app to check, he’s just using it to make friends, etc) and through my posts, I’ve come to the conclusion to try and confront him one last time, see what he says.

But my most conclusive piece of evidence is the fact that I catfished him and I don’t know how to reveal that. I’ve already brought up the other pieces of evidence before, but I should’ve saved it all up and presented it at once because by doing it in small chunks, I allowed him to create little lies and time to think about an excuse. So I don’t know how to bring up the older pieces of evidence without coming across as really naggy.

I don’t want to just dump him without any explanation, but I also can’t think of a way to bring up that last piece of info without looking like a complete psycho. In addition, there was some glitch where my friend and I lost the Tinder chats so I don’t even have any screenshots to confront him with.

I’d like to have some evidence just so I can watch him squirm and also make it clear that I knew what was happening. I don’t know, maybe this way he won’t do it to someone else.

My wife is going on a girls trip with her friends.

It is a mystery trip so most of the group will not know what resort/island until they arrive at the airport. I’m a little worried the resort may be swimsuit optional(at least topless in designated areas).

My main concern is many of the women are not in great marriages. Some are totally on the rocks. Also, most of the other ladies are quite overweight (obese).  My wife on the other hand is very beautiful and has a nice body. I’m afraid they will want to go topless because their husbands don’t show them any attention and would not care if they did. 

The problem is my wife WILL get attention from men. My wife and I have great nightly “activity” but I have always been the initiator. She doesn’t show much interest.

For me, it is a source of sadness. I’m afraid I will be hurt/jealous if she joins in on the fun as she will be looked at basically not wearing anything on the top by other men and may like it.

I know technically she would not actually cheat on me with another man but I am not eliminating any possibilities. Sometimes it could be going with the flow as the rest of her friends are some would be described as “The seafood seller’s oyster rotten already and giving it out for free”. If you know what I mean.

But I am still very nervous about this possible scenario. If she does goes topless and see/talk to other men, (or maybe see other men).

Does anyone think I have a right to be upset? Would this be considered cheating? 

so today I found out my BF still sees his ex from time to time and I don’t know how to feel about it.

He says it’s nothing and that he’s just trying to break up with her easily so he doesn’t hurt her which is a nice sentiment that I can appreciate.

But when he spends nights over at her place it kinda bothers me. I’ve had issues with jealousy previously so I’m sure it’s just me but it’s still annoying for me.

They were in a long relationship before me and him started dating so obviously I understand it can be hard to break up, but I just wish he would’ve told me that he was still breaking up with her when we started dating because then I probably wouldn’t even have started dating him in the first place.

She knows he’s dating me as well it’s just me who didn’t know they were still seeing each other.

I wonder if she knows that he’ll break up with her which also is something that bothers me, I’m feeling really bad for her and if I could contact her I think I would tell her what he was gonna do.

I’ve never personally broken up with someone over such a long period before, usually it’s a faster thing and a breakup has never really gone on for a year for me so I’m just curious whether this is usual.

Obviously I respect that he needs time and doesn’t want to hurt her but it would’ve been nice to know that they were seeing each other.

I never thought I’d be able to say this. 5 years, $10,000+ in debt. Payday loans. unpaid contracts that became owed.

Throwing away piled up letters in the 100’s.

Not only have I overcome smoking addictions, and bad habits. I’m beyond out of debt, I can finally quit my job.

No full time work for a while, TIME to look for something I would like to do more. TIME to create new friendships, travel (soon, I hope) and do more stuff again.

I can reclaim my life, and become myself again. I can finally live without having to worry every waking minute of the day.

I’m at peace, and I could only do it because I lost someone who I now want to reach out to, but it’s not so simple.

Lifeworks in mysterious ways. The best thing is I was able to support some people I know by helping them through the month so far.

I wrote this letter to share with all Singaporeans out there who are struggling, sometimes life is more than just working every day. Everyone is so realistic that most people are unhappy no matter how much money they earn.

I know we are all wired or programmed to go to school at a certain age, then sooner or later work and finally getting pushed for marriage and grandchildren etc.

This actually inhibits our level of creativity and sometimes our happiness.

Sometimes, it’s important to take a step back and ask yourself what is the meaning of life or really makes you happy. If you’re chasing a dream of buying luxury just to show off you will never be happy no matter how much you earn.

The most excuse I heard is “cause I like it”. Most of the time it’s a lie and the worse thing is their lying to themselves.

I’m 24 and I’m here at my boyfriend’s house shaking and crying. We agreed that I come to his house for some food and I told him that I’m gonna wake up early tomorrow so I’ll go to sleep earlier.

I got here at 20:00, his friends were here, ordered food, ate then I started getting ready for bed at around 22:30 to actually go to bed at 23:00. He then came upstairs like 10 minutes after eleven, started touching me. I didn’t say anything I just stopped his hand but he continued. He didn’t get the memo said “let me touch you a little”. As he was pulling down my undies I told him “but seriously please, I’d like to sleep”. He then said “I’m gonna effing do it myself then” in an angry voice and rolled over before crying like a baby.

The thing is that 2 days ago I had a breakdown and told him I wasn’t doing well mentally (he always tells me that I never initiate conversations about this stuff and I should, this time I did). I wasn’t really in the mood either for a while that’s true but tonights situation really upset me and I’m sitting downstairs on the couch and have no idea what to do.

I feel bad as it feels like taking candy away from a baby.

Am I wrong?

Here are what netizens think:

• go home and go to bed. you still need to wake up early.

• This at 27 and after you’ve directly expressed to him that you’re not in a good space for it and you need to wake up early. He needs to date his hand.

• Anyone who gets angry at you for saying no to doing it is not someone you want to be with. You aren’t his toy that he can just use whenever he’s in the mood. Disgusting. I cannot imagine my partner being this uncaring towards me.

• Someone throwing a fit when you’re tired and struggling mentally or any other time you say no is a red flag. He’s selfish and immature and he doesn’t get to punish you for saying no. No means no. You don’t get to be forced or abused because someone is horny. That’s sick and selfish.

I have been with my boyfriend “Jason” for about 2 years we are both in our mid-20s. I have known my friend “Stacey” for about 8 years.

For as long as I’ve been dating Jason, Stacey has made rude comments about how unattractive she finds him. She always says things like “I would never date Jason because his nose is SO big, it’s like a clown nose” (that’s literally something she said last week). She doesn’t say it to Jason’s face, just to me.

I always ask her to stop, and she does for a bit. But then after a day or two, she’ll do it again. It really irritates me.

The other day, she made the clown nose comment and she also made fun of Jason’s laugh, and I snapped. I told her that she should stop wasting her time on hating Jason because if Jason was single, there’s no way he’d date her. I also asked if she would like me to make fun of her to her back the way she does to Jason, and I threatened to do it. As a disclaimer, I would never actually do that. I just said it to prove a point.

Stacey started crying and she left my house. She told some of our other friends about the incident, and they said I was an AH for saying Jason wouldn’t date her. They said it really hurt her feelings, and since she’s single and I’m not, I should have had some tact. Stacey also said my comments implied that she was undateable, even though I never said that. I just said that Jason wouldn’t date her.

Anyway, it’s been a mess of a situation. so am I?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your friend is a sicko. She either has a crush on him so she tries to constantly insult him to hide it or she’s extremely jealous of you having a bf so she’s projecting hard. Either way she sounds like a shitty manipulator by trying to twist your words and running to others.

• She probably also told the friends a completely different story of what had happened, most likely making herself appear like the victim in that situation.

• She is probably trying to manipulate you into breaking up with him, so they can be single together and hang out more often (or go out or whatever she thinks you are doing less with her since having a bf).