A while ago, my friend brought up that she had seen my boyfriend on Tinder, which obviously was cause for concern. This wasn’t the first time there had been hints of infidelity since I would see flirty texts and innuendo pop up on his phone all the time, but he would claim that they were jokes from friends. I haven’t been able to confirm nor deny this statement, that they’re jokes from friends, but it’s still questionable.

When I asked him why he still had a Tinder profile, he said he just opened the app to check if his account was still there. This makes enough sense to me, except he also edited his bio and added more photos, so this wasn’t a quick check to see if his account was still being shown, in addition his account was still up even after so evidently he didn’t delete it.

A while later, when my friend said he’s still on, I asked him why he’s still using the app and he said to make friends, which seemed dubious to me. With that said, he hasn’t been on for the last few weeks, but I think that’s because he broke his phone, rather than because of my concerns.

Later, I had another friend he didn’t know essentially catfish him to see if he would respond and sure enough he did. And from my interpretation, the messages he sent were more than just friendly, with innuendo and everything.

I’ve already brought this all up before and he’s had excuses (the flirty texts are old and from friends, he opened the app to check, he’s just using it to make friends, etc) and through my posts, I’ve come to the conclusion to try and confront him one last time, see what he says.

But my most conclusive piece of evidence is the fact that I catfished him and I don’t know how to reveal that. I’ve already brought up the other pieces of evidence before, but I should’ve saved it all up and presented it at once because by doing it in small chunks, I allowed him to create little lies and time to think about an excuse. So I don’t know how to bring up the older pieces of evidence without coming across as really naggy.

I don’t want to just dump him without any explanation, but I also can’t think of a way to bring up that last piece of info without looking like a complete psycho. In addition, there was some glitch where my friend and I lost the Tinder chats so I don’t even have any screenshots to confront him with.

I’d like to have some evidence just so I can watch him squirm and also make it clear that I knew what was happening. I don’t know, maybe this way he won’t do it to someone else.

My wife is going on a girls trip with her friends.

It is a mystery trip so most of the group will not know what resort/island until they arrive at the airport. I’m a little worried the resort may be swimsuit optional(at least topless in designated areas).

My main concern is many of the women are not in great marriages. Some are totally on the rocks. Also, most of the other ladies are quite overweight (obese).  My wife on the other hand is very beautiful and has a nice body. I’m afraid they will want to go topless because their husbands don’t show them any attention and would not care if they did. 

The problem is my wife WILL get attention from men. My wife and I have great nightly “activity” but I have always been the initiator. She doesn’t show much interest.

For me, it is a source of sadness. I’m afraid I will be hurt/jealous if she joins in on the fun as she will be looked at basically not wearing anything on the top by other men and may like it.

I know technically she would not actually cheat on me with another man but I am not eliminating any possibilities. Sometimes it could be going with the flow as the rest of her friends are some would be described as “The seafood seller’s oyster rotten already and giving it out for free”. If you know what I mean.

But I am still very nervous about this possible scenario. If she does goes topless and see/talk to other men, (or maybe see other men).

Does anyone think I have a right to be upset? Would this be considered cheating? 

so today I found out my BF still sees his ex from time to time and I don’t know how to feel about it.

He says it’s nothing and that he’s just trying to break up with her easily so he doesn’t hurt her which is a nice sentiment that I can appreciate.

But when he spends nights over at her place it kinda bothers me. I’ve had issues with jealousy previously so I’m sure it’s just me but it’s still annoying for me.

They were in a long relationship before me and him started dating so obviously I understand it can be hard to break up, but I just wish he would’ve told me that he was still breaking up with her when we started dating because then I probably wouldn’t even have started dating him in the first place.

She knows he’s dating me as well it’s just me who didn’t know they were still seeing each other.

I wonder if she knows that he’ll break up with her which also is something that bothers me, I’m feeling really bad for her and if I could contact her I think I would tell her what he was gonna do.

I’ve never personally broken up with someone over such a long period before, usually it’s a faster thing and a breakup has never really gone on for a year for me so I’m just curious whether this is usual.

Obviously I respect that he needs time and doesn’t want to hurt her but it would’ve been nice to know that they were seeing each other.

I never thought I’d be able to say this. 5 years, $10,000+ in debt. Payday loans. unpaid contracts that became owed.

Throwing away piled up letters in the 100’s.

Not only have I overcome smoking addictions, and bad habits. I’m beyond out of debt, I can finally quit my job.

No full time work for a while, TIME to look for something I would like to do more. TIME to create new friendships, travel (soon, I hope) and do more stuff again.

I can reclaim my life, and become myself again. I can finally live without having to worry every waking minute of the day.

I’m at peace, and I could only do it because I lost someone who I now want to reach out to, but it’s not so simple.

Lifeworks in mysterious ways. The best thing is I was able to support some people I know by helping them through the month so far.

I wrote this letter to share with all Singaporeans out there who are struggling, sometimes life is more than just working every day. Everyone is so realistic that most people are unhappy no matter how much money they earn.

I know we are all wired or programmed to go to school at a certain age, then sooner or later work and finally getting pushed for marriage and grandchildren etc.

This actually inhibits our level of creativity and sometimes our happiness.

Sometimes, it’s important to take a step back and ask yourself what is the meaning of life or really makes you happy. If you’re chasing a dream of buying luxury just to show off you will never be happy no matter how much you earn.

The most excuse I heard is “cause I like it”. Most of the time it’s a lie and the worse thing is their lying to themselves.

I’m 24 and I’m here at my boyfriend’s house shaking and crying. We agreed that I come to his house for some food and I told him that I’m gonna wake up early tomorrow so I’ll go to sleep earlier.

I got here at 20:00, his friends were here, ordered food, ate then I started getting ready for bed at around 22:30 to actually go to bed at 23:00. He then came upstairs like 10 minutes after eleven, started touching me. I didn’t say anything I just stopped his hand but he continued. He didn’t get the memo said “let me touch you a little”. As he was pulling down my undies I told him “but seriously please, I’d like to sleep”. He then said “I’m gonna effing do it myself then” in an angry voice and rolled over before crying like a baby.

The thing is that 2 days ago I had a breakdown and told him I wasn’t doing well mentally (he always tells me that I never initiate conversations about this stuff and I should, this time I did). I wasn’t really in the mood either for a while that’s true but tonights situation really upset me and I’m sitting downstairs on the couch and have no idea what to do.

I feel bad as it feels like taking candy away from a baby.

Am I wrong?

Here are what netizens think:

• go home and go to bed. you still need to wake up early.

• This at 27 and after you’ve directly expressed to him that you’re not in a good space for it and you need to wake up early. He needs to date his hand.

• Anyone who gets angry at you for saying no to doing it is not someone you want to be with. You aren’t his toy that he can just use whenever he’s in the mood. Disgusting. I cannot imagine my partner being this uncaring towards me.

• Someone throwing a fit when you’re tired and struggling mentally or any other time you say no is a red flag. He’s selfish and immature and he doesn’t get to punish you for saying no. No means no. You don’t get to be forced or abused because someone is horny. That’s sick and selfish.

I have been with my boyfriend “Jason” for about 2 years we are both in our mid-20s. I have known my friend “Stacey” for about 8 years.

For as long as I’ve been dating Jason, Stacey has made rude comments about how unattractive she finds him. She always says things like “I would never date Jason because his nose is SO big, it’s like a clown nose” (that’s literally something she said last week). She doesn’t say it to Jason’s face, just to me.

I always ask her to stop, and she does for a bit. But then after a day or two, she’ll do it again. It really irritates me.

The other day, she made the clown nose comment and she also made fun of Jason’s laugh, and I snapped. I told her that she should stop wasting her time on hating Jason because if Jason was single, there’s no way he’d date her. I also asked if she would like me to make fun of her to her back the way she does to Jason, and I threatened to do it. As a disclaimer, I would never actually do that. I just said it to prove a point.

Stacey started crying and she left my house. She told some of our other friends about the incident, and they said I was an AH for saying Jason wouldn’t date her. They said it really hurt her feelings, and since she’s single and I’m not, I should have had some tact. Stacey also said my comments implied that she was undateable, even though I never said that. I just said that Jason wouldn’t date her.

Anyway, it’s been a mess of a situation. so am I?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your friend is a sicko. She either has a crush on him so she tries to constantly insult him to hide it or she’s extremely jealous of you having a bf so she’s projecting hard. Either way she sounds like a shitty manipulator by trying to twist your words and running to others.

• She probably also told the friends a completely different story of what had happened, most likely making herself appear like the victim in that situation.

• She is probably trying to manipulate you into breaking up with him, so they can be single together and hang out more often (or go out or whatever she thinks you are doing less with her since having a bf).

My fiance and I have been together for five years. He’s the love of my life and I literally can’t imagine being without him. So the thought of doing this is making my stomach roll.

He was adopted and neither he nor his parents knew much about his medical history. A few weeks ago, he met his biological brother for the first time and found out that his birth father had passed from Huntington’s disease.

There’s a 50% chance that my fiance also has the genetic defect that causes Huntington’s, but he refuses to get tested.

It’s not the disease I’m scared of, it’s the not knowing. If we know he’ll get it, we can prepare financially, practically, and emotionally. He says a positive test result will hold him back from living his life, but I feel like it’s the opposite. How can we live with this giant maybe looming over us? How can I make smart decisions on where to live, how to budget, or even whether or not to have biological children with this man if I’m not allowed to have all the facts?

So, I’ve come to the decision that I have to break it off. I respect his decision, but I can’t understand or accept it.

I have literally no one I can talk to about this because it’s his secret and not mine to tell.

I just want to clarify a few things up here:

1. I would not leave him if he tested positive for the defect. I would not leave him if he got sick. I just want to plan for us to be able to afford the best life and care for him if he does – which means we’d have to start immediately.
2. I don’t want or need ‘perfect’ children. That isn’t realistic. But it is possible to avoid them being subjected to a 50/50 chance of having this disease. Of course there are alternative options, but again: they involve preparation and planning. I’m more than willing to take a full genetic panel as well.
3. Yes one or both of us could get cancer, or permanently disabled in an accident, or any other number of things. But I’ve come to learn that you can’t plan for every unpredictable thing life throws at you – this is the rare occasion that we do have the opportunity to prepare.
4. Essentially it comes down to the fact that we’re incompatible, regardless of how much we love each other. I’m a planner and he’s very laid back. Until now, these traits have complemented each other, but unfortunately they’ve brought us to an impasse that I don’t think we can both move forward from happily.

About 20 years ago, I lived in an apartment. I would hear knocking on the ceiling quite often. I asked my neighbour about it and she replied “oh, that’s just a spirit. It stopped once you moved in.” A bit after the knocking started, odd things would happen around the apartment: things would be moved, windows closed, lights turned off… things that you would say that I just forgot that I had done. Well, one night, I looked out my bedroom and saw the light from my computer on in the other room. I went in and the screen saver was off. When I went back to my bedroom, I laid down on the bed facing the other room to see if it happened again. It wasn’t long before I felt something touch my back side, it was a forceful touch. From that time on, I would wake up with four scratches on each shoulder at least once a week.

I switched bedrooms. The scratches stopped, but every time I was going to see my BF, my keys would come up missing. I would find them in the oddest places. Even though I knew that I wouldn’t put them in the bathtub, the kitchen cupboards, or my dresser, I brushed it off like I just misplaced them myself. My BF stayed over one night and in the morning he asked what I had done to him the previous evening. He showed me his neck, he had four scratches on one side and one on the other. It was as if someone grabbed his neck with one hand and scratched him. That was the last time that he came over and I soon found out that he was not a good person.

I moved out of the apartment and in with two friends. I could hear someone running every night. It stopped once I put a cross over the door. Other odd things happened. One night we were going to my aunt’s home to get my cousin’s Ouija board. I distinctively saw someone behind me when I was the last one to leave. My roommates also would hear someone walking around my bedroom when I wasn’t home.

A year later, I moved into my current home. My cousin moved in with me for a little bit. She would always say that she could hear someone walking up in my bedroom when nobody was home. Nothing much different than the happenings from my apartment happened… until I met my husband. That’s when the traditional “haunting” things started: doors closing, things falling, lights flickering, brand new light fixtures breaking…

I should say though, that my husband has since passed away as well.

There has been some small things that have occurred since: a car was speeding down the road and driving erratically, it would have hit me, but it hit a tree and changed its course.

I am convinced that whatever was in the apartment followed me. However, I do not think that it is malevolent. I think that it is protecting me like it did with my bf. What I am convinced of is that there is something very evil in my home. I say this because I would hear a very odd sound from outside. My dog would hear it. One night, my camera sent me a notification that it captured the sound. It sent chills up my spine that I told my children not to let any of the dogs out. I did investigate the area the next day and I could not find any signs of animals. I can’t attach the video with the sounds, but I was told by a medium that it sounds like a demon.

This same medium told me that the next time the lights flicker, I should tell “it” that it’s my home and it’s not wanted. Shortly after this, my daughter and I were cooking dinner. The lights in the kitchen were flickering for about 20 seconds before going out. I figured they were just burnt out. But, I laughed and said, “Can you not? This is my home and you don’t pay me rent so until you start paying, you need to leave my stuff alone.” I then walked into the dining room and the lights came right back on.

I also have a sleep app that records while I sleep. Many, many times it says that I am snoring. But, it actually sounds like a death rattle on one occasion I had woken in the middle of the night and heard it myself. One of the recordings actually has some other sound at the very end that is overlapping the rattle. Another recording had me talking in my sleep saying that something is heavy, then you can hear what sounds like footsteps walking away.

Recently, my son moved out of the home. I have put my dog’s food, water, crate and toys in the room. The past two days, my dog refuses to go in there, she used to go in there if he was in there. But now, it’s to the point that I literally have to take her food out of the room or she will not eat.

I am open to any advice about what to do and if anyone knows what is going on. Moving isn’t an option, I may be stupid, but I feel as if my husband is in the home and if I move, I will be leaving him.

A netizen shared how he told his sister that it was her fault that her son is being tormented by other kids at his school.

Here is the story:

So my 7-year-old nephew is an awesome boy and I love him to death. He is a pretty smart kid but has a pretty obvious speech impediment.

He talks pretty similarly to his 3-year-old cousin. for example, he says yeyyo instead of yellow, gween instead of green. He sounds pretty child-like compared to other children his age.

If you don’t know my nephew, you’d probably have a harder time understanding. It often frustrates him to repeat himself while we try to understand.

I really want my sister to get him help. I have suggested speech therapy for years. This obviously affects him negatively.

After the holidays, he’s back in school. He’s been getting targeted by an older kid since the first week of school, who calls him a baby.

And I’m certain the speech issue is why. I’ve also heard of an incident happening at school where the kid kept asking “are you sure this kid is older than me?” Over and over.

It breaks my heart and makes me furious at my sister who has never once tried to get him help. She doesn’t even try to correct or coach him at home. His father is out of the picture so it’s really up to her.

My sister was yet again crying about him getting targeted at school. And I told her I’m not sure why she’s upset considering it’s 100% her fault that he is getting bullied.

We’ve known this is an issue since he was 4. Now our mom is involved and angry at me because “if I’m implying that it’s her fault, I’m suggesting that he deserves to be tormented at school”.

It’s such a sensitive issue in our family but nobody seems to want to do ANYTHING to help.