In this country with a high cost of living, it is understandable that the marriage rate is low but I believe there are also issues which cause people to dislike people from different genders. What are some of the reasons?

Respond 1

Just today, I said im happy to pay for my fiancé expenses since i earn a lot more than him and someone said that i was a sour grape who stayed with my fiancé only cause i cant get someone who earns more lol. His assumption was that women just want to pick the richest man lol.

I think the people here just dont have the exposure to normal girls. All they see is insta or tinder and well, i guess it presents a skewed perspective. I try to explain a bit of the women’s pov while im on reddit, i just hope it helps at least some ppl lol.

Respond 2

Here are the general sentiments I’ve gathered. Trying to be unbiased, just repeating what I’ve heard.

Men think Singaporean women are entitled, pampered, choosy & materialistic without a valid reason. They think lots of them have “princess syndrome”. Some also feel that women are too independent and refuse to settle down, which they see as a negative.

Women usually feel that Singaporean men are unromantic, rigid, uncultured. The usual complaints from friends is that they’re very one-note. Can only talk about school/work/NS or football/gaming.

My take? Of course, there might be some truth in these generalisations, but once you form these overarching opinions, you’ll force yourself to see them in everyone. Everyone is a either a GCB or a BBFA. I think people should (try) to let go of these preconceived notions when they meet people, give them a shot.

Respond 3

Both sides like to hiam each other, often relying on stereotypes – ladies are materialistic, always watch Kdrama. Men are superficial, only like to game and watch anime. But I honestly think these are just the unhappy and loud people on the internet, and they just need some attention.

Many of my friends in real life who are average people found love and are happy. Even those who didn’t found love also don’t feel the need to go online and bash the other gender, they choose to be happy in their hobbies and life.

Respond 4

Too sheltered. Too “standard life story”. Too many expectations of what a potential partner should be, but not enough self awareness/knowledge in what they can offer in return. Too much stereotyping. A lack of life experiences beyond what’s just in SG/mixing with locals, which gets painfully obvious if one studied abroad before and came back “home”. Superficial, easily distracted, no intellectual depth. Treats dating and love like ticking off checkboxes on a list, at the end of which you get your standard “happy ending Singaporean couple story”.

All these apply equally for both men and women.

I’ve been struggling with mental health for a while now. I haven’t been the best boyfriend to her and I know that. In our year together we had a miscarriage and an abortion.

We were very safe, and we found out the reason she ended up getting pregnant is that her method of birth control wasn’t effective. When we figured this out she changed methods. I was a mess after the miscarriage as was she.

I wasn’t there for her. We were broken up and I am very lucky she took me back after. I was really mean to her, and said some unforgivable things like accusing her of impregnating herself with a jar of my man juice.

I was a douche, to say the least. We got back together too fast. I felt really guilty and I ended up not treating her the way she deserved. She ended up getting pregnant and this time it was healthy. This completely shattered me.

I’m not ready to be a parent, and I’m in no mental state for that. I told her that if she ended up having it I would hurt myself or worse. She seemed really distant and we argued a few times. She didn’t let me go with her to the appointment because I upset her two days before. I accused her of faking the pregnancy. My mental state got even worse and for my sake, I couldn’t have her in my life anymore.

I broke up with her and told her to sort out her pain. I know it’s harsh but it’s what I needed. Now she won’t leave me alone, and I’m considering a restraining order against her. She’s said some really hurtful things regarding my manhood and I don’t need to take her abuse quite frankly.

I own a company, and my wife has a senior executive-level position at it. 14 months ago, she gave birth to our son. We elected to have a C Section and she went on maternity leave a month before she was scheduled for it.

My wife expected that 3 months would be more than enough. However, after giving birth, and having agreed that we would only be having one child together ( I already had 3 daughters), my wife was exceptionally adamant about not missing a moment of our son’s formative moments because she knew that he’d only be a baby for so long.

When the time came when she should have gone back to the office, I didn’t have the heart to refuse her when she said she needed more time. After giving birth, she joined a mom-specific life coaching program and still sees a life coach regularly. She also volunteered for underprivileged kids.

After a year had flown by people started asking my wife when she was coming back. Unbeknownst to them, my wife had discussed the fact that she had some light abdominal separation and wanted a tummy tuck, after which she was itching to get back to work. Around that time, another employee at the company, ” Mary”, had gone on maternity leave.

Around a month ago, we decided to go for it and the surgery went perfectly. My wife was advised to take at least two weeks off from work, but her doctor said to take 4. However, the other day, my wife asked me for around two more weeks before she officially went back to work because more rest after surgery couldn’t hurt. I agreed and we announced that she would be resuming her duties on February 1st.

Mary spent 5 weeks after giving birth at home before returning to the office. Yesterday, after only a few days back at the office, she asked her manager if she could take more time off, begging for at least a week. The manager in question brought this up with me, and I told him to deny Mary her request. The reason is that while my wife’s duties could be taken up by others, Mary’s team was borderline understaffed and her customer service position required her to be there at work. One person leaving is tough on the rest.

When I went to personally tell Mary this, she looked very upset. She angrily said that my wife has been gone for a year and that the nurse she sees blames the stress and body pains caused by coming back so early for her struggles in breastfeeding. I apologized but reiterated that it was a busy season for the customer service team and that perhaps we could discuss her getting more time off down the line.

When I told my sister about this encounter, she said I was being a jerk for giving my wife special treatment.

Do you guys think Im wrong for denying Mary’s request after having just allowed my wife an extra two weeks?