Both my partner and I are in the same field of work. We both make great money and have good careers. I left my last job a year ago to refocus and decompress. A friend of mine offered me a job with the company he is joining. This job has stupid high pay. Last year while I wasn’t working she was making a lot. She recently just took a pay cut to reduce her workload.

If I take this job I’ll basically be making 2.5x her salary. She flat out told me she was angry and jealous, but not in the funny ha-ha way. She was very angry, almost crying. She’s always been slightly competitive, but I try not to be. I expected a celebration, or at least a congrats.

I have ideas of what’s upsetting her, but I don’t want to jump to conclusions. Is this common with couples? I’m just giving her space for now, but I was hoping for her to be happy about it.

I really did not expect her to respond this way and I thought that she will be delighted as we can eventually buy a better car or some gift or even a holiday for her to actually relax and be happy.

Oh well seems like money is not important, she has more pride than a man.

We’ve been together 10ish years. This was new for me.

I seek advice from a female friend and she said:

“From a women’s perspective. Her reaction was over the top and completely unacceptable. Yet let’s treat her and praise her for it. If GF doesn’t apologize and express regret for her reaction, he really needs to reevaluate his relationship not reward her. Give her a few days and see how she behaves after she calms down. Her reaction even with stress is not understandable. There are some people out there who are only happy if they feel you are below them or are doing better than you. “

Im 16 this year, So yeah long story short caught my mom after I was at friends house I was supposed to stay the night but came home because I forgot something (dad was working on new years) and mom was kissing a guy on the couch who I knew he was a colleague of moms.

I never was the angry type but I remember just yelling at her and even threw the damn wine bottle she had on the table into the wall and called her all kinds of things.

The colleague who I had known since I was kid tried to calm me down, but I just ran up to my room locked the door and called dad.

Dad called my uncle (his big brother) and he came and picked me up and stayed with him until dad came back, he sometimes has to travel for a couple of days maybe once or twice every year.

I still have not really talked with mom I just get so angry when I see her and honestly after the shit I called her I think she is afraid to even speak to me.

Mom just seems like a wreck and dad is considering divorce but Dad has agreed to counseling first.

I am seeing a shrink before anyone asks but I after going there for almost six months now I still just go home angry and just feel so angry everytime I see mom, it’s easier to pretend she does not exist at all.

Like I said we hardly talk anymore and I am afraid of saying something even more stupid if I have the conversation.

Christmas this year I quickly finished dinner had no interest in presents or any of that christmas stuff.

Dad asked me to try to have regular christmas and I was trying but sitting at the dinner table with our family pissed with my uncle putting his hand on my shoulder once in awhile to just calm me down.

He must have seen how pissed I was and realized I could explode at any moment but I remained polite and thanked my grandparents for the presents, but I just said I was tired and went to my room early.

It just felt so fake to be sitting there having a “normal” christmas with the rest of the family present the only person who realized just how I felt was my uncle.

I don’t know what to do sick of being angry all the time

So for context, my boyfriend is a doctor, Most of his friends are from work and they all seem to dislike me and act distant maybe cause I’m not a doctor too? Idk and don’t care honestly, since we started dating they’ve been asking to hang out without me and they leave any event I’m at. My boyfriend said they’re just taking their time to get used to me.

Anyways, His B-day was days ago, I’d arranged for the party and paid for everything. It wasn’t a surprise since the party was held at the restaurant, and he needed heads-up so he could invite his doctor friends.

We got there then his friends started arriving, They came to greet him and started shaking his hand and hugging him while completely ignoring me though I was there next to him!.

The tension started when one of them started making remarks about the way I dressed, I sucked it up but another friend started interrogating me about my degree then implying I was ignorant of my food choice (wtf?).

An hour later another one asked if I could leave because they wanted to discuss work stuff and it’s confidential. I was so shocked I laughed asking why he thought it was appropriate to discuss work during a party and he replied that I had an “attitude”.

An argument ensued and they ‘demanded’ that I leave but I said absolutely not, My boyfriend finally spoke up after it escalated and asked that I keep the peace and go home but I refused and reminded him and let his friends know that I’d arranged for this party and paid for it and so they should leave since they’re just “guests”. He pulled me aside and begged me to go home after they said if I don’t leave then they will but I still refused. They left, all of them, and the party was cut short. my boyfriend was upset and started complaining at home that I ruined his B-day the minute I started arguing with his friends. I told him they were being disrespectful to me but he said I was wrong too cause they said they wanted to discuss medical stuff and I should’ve respected that and not made it “personal”.

He’s not speaking to me now, I was so hurt I couldn’t argue anymore, I felt like I ruined his birthday by making a scene like he said and acting pass-aggressive.

Am I wrong?

To say that the reason I refused to leave was that I figured they used the “medical stuff discussion” as an excuse to get me to leave early.