My father told our family he had another son.

I assumed that it was a like a kid no more than five, it turns out he was 16m almost the same age as my younger brother who was 15m at this time.

After this announcement our family’s hasn’t been the same, which to be fair our family was never normal anyway. I had already held a lot of dislike to our father because the way he is.

Anyway when he told us he swore he didn’t know anything about the kid till recently. My mother went along with it even though it was obvious he was lying. So since then my dad has been in contact with this second son.

We had a meet up with family that had adopted him. My dad talked to both us, and the kids dad’s about wanting to bring him into the family and how this could be his home. I think he’s on his self-righteous bs, but my mom really believes him. The problem is it’s clear the kid doesn’t want that.

Recently we had him over for dinner and I could tell he was visibly uncomfortable around the family. He didn’t talk much, he didn’t touch his plate, and he would disappear in the guest room (where he was staying) for an hour at a time.

It turns out the kid is vegan and also has peanut allergy.

So I went to get him a meal from a vegan food place, and when I gave it to him his face lit up with happiness. It was the happiest I had seen him around us, and he seemed to had relax around me. When spent the rest of night talking and I learned a lot about him.

He’s a music prodigy and plays piano and violin, and overall is a really sweet kid. He showed me a picture of his mother that he keeps with him.

After that our relationship has been really good, but the problem is right now is that my dad is still pushing the “join the family” rhetoric.

The kid is shy, so how exactly can I go about tell my dad to step off about the subject?

I am going through a miscarriage and my boyfriend told me to stop being so dramatic.

He says its not like I am new to this as its my second miscarriage. I thought he would be more supportive especially after he saw how bad it was last time.

He refuses to help me with anything and still expected me to help with his daughter as well as getting his things ready for work.

I could not sleep properly because of the pain so he made me go sleep on the couch as he needed his rest.

I understand his job is physically demanding but it’s not like I am doing it on purpose. I can’t seem to do anything right in his eyes and it hurts.

Netizens’ comments

• I’m so sorry for what you’re going through.

• Please don’t have a child with this man. Who wants to be with someone who doesn’t give a shit about you?

• I had two miscarriages over 10 years ago and my heart is still broken. It is not something you just “get over”. He is treating you like garbage during an extremely difficult time, he obviously doesn’t care about you. Why should you care about him? Is there anyone you can go be with like a family member or a friend? You need support right now and to focus on getting through this, not taking care of his selfish butt.

• First, I’m sorry about what is happening. I can’t imagine the physical and emotional pain your in.

Second, you are with him because? Don’t say “I love him.” Love isn’t a reason to be with someone. You have listed 6 reasons to not be with him and zero reason you should, so why are you with him?

I recently lost my father. I have two siblings, my twin brother and older sister . We all grew up together in my parents’ house. It is a large multi-story 5 bedroom house worth almost a few million dollars.

My father’s will stated that his assets, cash, house, etc… were to be divided equally among the three of us. During my father’s funeral, I asked my siblings when a good time would be to meet up about putting the house on the market. My sister told me that there was no need, because my father had sold the house prior to his death.

I was confused because he was still living in it. My sister went on to explain that my father had been sick for years and was deep in debt, so he’d needed to sell the house. Of course, with his health as poor as it was, that would be a complicated undertaking. So my sister and her husband bought the house with the understanding that he would continue living there for free.

I was flabbergasted. When my father died, he only had about 120K in liquid assets. Her story made no sense to me. I demanded details.

She said that the mortgage lender would only approve them for 375k, which is far less than the house is worth. My dad apparently spent the other 250k paying off his debts, paying for treatments and “maintaining his quality of life” as my sister put it. So basically she’s telling me my inheritance is 40k and no more while she gets that + a house.

I called her a thief that took advantage of our father when he was vulnerable. She basically pocketed the difference in the value of the house out of my inheritance. She got really mad. She told me that she and her husband have been struggling to pay two mortgages for years while also raising four kids (not my kids, not my problem) and getting no income from the second house, but that was her CHOICE, and she got a house out of it. She started yelling at me and crying, so her husband intervened and took her away.

I turned to my brother for support, but he just shrugged and said he couldn’t find it within him to care about a house after we just buried Dad. I miss Dad too, and I hate fighting with my sister, but what she did was wrong. I’ve reached out to a lawyer and am planning to sue my sister, but I’m nervous. I know this will permanently fracture my family. I just want what’s rightfully mine, but is it worth blowing up my sister’s life?

I wish people wouldn’t judge me so harshly for my job

I’m 35 years old and I’m a cleaner, I have ADD, autism and learning difficulties which makes everything ten times harder for me

so I didn’t do well in school, so cleaning was the only option for me, my only problem with my job is the shit I get from people friends even my own family

I just had a family reunion and I overheard my aunts telling my mom it’s OK to be disappointed in me, I lost most of my friends when I told them.

now I’m down to 3 friends who are not bothered by my job.

today my cousin told his kids to study and used me as an example of why it’s important.

I cried so much because of this, I feel so worthless and alone. iv even considered quitting because of this, the worst part is I actually really like the job, it gets me out the house, it’s satisfying to do and I have no boss or manager breathing down my neck

it’s low stress and when the work is done, that’s it, no phone calls, emails after, it’s great.

I consider it the best match for me which makes me feel worse

I really needed to get this off my chest