A woman shared how she is in her 30s but her mother is still controlling her life, including choosing what she buys and wears, following her around when he’s outside, even to her job interview.

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Does any of you have helicopter parent? I am in my early 30s and an only child. Till now, my mom is still overprotective. Some examples like:

– Back when I was in secondary school/poly days, she will follow/hide and observe us when I went out with my friends. Everyone was freaked out – due to that, I have no friends.

– When having a job interview after grad – she will follow me to my office and waited for my interview to end – which makes me feel uncomfortable.

– Fetching me from work every day, make me lie to my colleague that she works nearby so I won’t feel ashamed. I kinda feel left out when they went out for dinner and I can’t join them. And control on what I can buy/wear

Till now, whenever I left the house, she will follow. I was only allowed to have my house key when i was 26. I have talked about this(overprotective way)  to her and she will get mad and ask me to stop being concerned about what people think/view on it.  I still love her, and I don’t want to make things worst.

It’s driving me crazy soon, what should I do? Is there any support group or counseling on that?

p.s I can’t move out of the house.

Netizen’s comments

• U really need to sit down with her n tell her nicely that you are already an adult to be making ur own decisions in life. If she dont leave u to do ur things, then its very hard for u to be in control of ur own life. She really needs to understand that u need some space including follow u around. Yeah, find her some new hobbies to keep her occupied.

A man shared how his wife doesn’t want to get intimate with her and he is going to ask for an open marriage so he can be fulfilled.

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My wife has little to no interest in getting intimate with me. I’m going to suggest an open marriage tonight because I want intimacy and I’ve been unfulfilled for over a year.

I’m just fed up at this point. I’ve tried to be understanding and kind with what she’s going through but the fact is our intimate life sucks.

We barely sleep together and when we do it’s just her going through the motions like it’s a chore. She clearly doesn’t want to do it with me anymore so fine.

I should be allowed to pursue it elsewhere then. She can sleep with anyone she wants too as well obviously because she certainly isn’t interested in doing it with me.

We’ve talked the issue to death at this point and like I said I have tried to be understanding but honestly I just can’t do this anymore.

I don’t even really want to sleep with other women. I want my wife who enjoys getting intimate with me back. I want this to be a wake-up call and maybe make her jealous or better yet get a real answer as to what’s actually bothering her.

A girl shared how she met a guy online and they started talking and flirting with each other, but she recently found out that he was actually married and is looking for an affair.

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How common is cheating/ infidelity in relationships and marriages? How to know what your partner is really thinking or doing outside of the relationship without infringing his/ her personal space?

I (24F, single) consider myself as an average person, and I have a fair mix of female and male friends because I am friendly and outgoing. I also enjoy talking to and meeting new people.

Recently I have been using an online chatting platform and began talking to a guy. We chatted quite a lot and found out that we shared similar interests and worldviews. I was drawn to him and felt he was different from other guys who have previously expressed their interest in me. I would even consider being in a relationship with him after knowing him better. As time passed, we became more comfortable with each other, showing care for each other and also flirted a bit.

However, a few days ago, I came across his social media page and realised he was married! (He is much older than me). I was horrified and felt betrayed as he didn’t previously mention he was married despite me asking. And when I clarified with him about it, he told me he was looking for something along the lines of an affair (!!). I was really shocked and didn’t expect it as he is in a prestigious career and a high-ranking position.

Since then, I chatted less with him and he says we are just friends when I asked him his intentions for talking to me. Is what he’s doing counted as cheating and are such occurrences common? I have never thought about and will never mess with others’ marriages. But my hope for finding a loyal partner has declined and I don’t know if I can trust guys that easily anymore! How to find out what a partner is doing outside of the relationship while giving him/ her the personal space?

A netizen shared how his family thinks he has made it, with a stable office job and etc; but his friend just bought a resale HDB and has a watch collection worth more than the house.

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I have a long-time friend since sec school. Really smart and humble guy. Awesome dude all around, always treats our clique with meals whenever we go out.

We always knew he is earning more than us, but we just assumed it was slightly more.

He bought a resale HDB flat with his wife recently, nothing too extravagant, 4 room flat that just MOP. During the housewarming, as he was showing us around his study… that’s when we saw his watch collection.

4 watches that cost more than the entire house. We questioned him abt it and he just sidestepped our questions. He did let us admire and touch the watches though.

Damn………. thats when I realised how big the ability gap is. We started from the same sec school. My family all think I “made it”, local grad, office job, stable pay and all.

While my fren here is just keeping quiet doing his own thing. Made me realise how big the world is.

Netizens’ comments

• There will always be a bigger fish . Stay humble and keep going

• At least he is humble and not the flaunty type!

I was drunk and she was too and I already felt really pressured by my friends to hook up with her.

Nevertheless, I did it anyway due to peer pressure. Which is my fault. I told her I just wanted “head” and she said to find a condom cause she wanted to do it.

I looked for one and asked my friend hoping he would say no. He said he didn’t have one and I was happy but she then told me she was on the pill and was only worried about diseases. I didn’t have one and my body count was only 1 so I wasn’t worried about that. However, I told her I didn’t want to and I told her to keep giving me head. Right after I said that she sat on my kkb… I was like what the… I

I wasn’t enjoying it and eventually finished and kicked her out of my house and had the worst post nut clarity ever. I literally started crying. Never told anyone and wanted to vent cuz it was disgusting.

Here are what netizens think:

• Yeah, it doesnt matter, if she was attractive or whatever, you said no (didnt consent) and she forced herself onto you. Both men and women can be raped. Its not magically okay just because a woman does it to a man. Im sorry you went through that, I would get therapy or something. If youre really upset about it, its up to you, you could look into pressing charges. Again, imagine if you were a girl and some dude did that to you. It would be a no brainer.

• The drinking is irrelevant to this scenario as being drunk relates to invalidating consent. You not only didn’t consent, you expressly said no.

• Bro, no means no. I’m sorry you had to go through all this. And she definitely had to stop at the first moment you expressed not being comfortable.

A netizen shared how he bought a $300 bottle of scotch for his friend as a surprise gift but his girlfriend then opened it and ruined the surprise.

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I bought my best friend of 15 years a decently expensive birthday gift and his girlfriend opened it
I spent $300 on my best friend’s favorite scotch and his gf opened it and the card I wrote him. It seems silly but I’m annoyed.

Would this annoy you?

I took time out of my only day off to buy a present, wrap a present and write a card all for the purpose of it being a nice surprise for my buddy once he got off work.

And his gf straight up opened everything. Am I being selfish?

Scotch isn’t a long term gift so it was important to me that the “surprise factor” was there.

Netizens’ comments

• I think you’re justified in feeling a little annoyed and disappointed, but keep things in perspective… this is small peanuts. And ultimately, this is an issue between your friend and his GF. If he’s annoyed, he should raise it with her. I wouldn’t do anything in your position. It’s just not your place.

• I would be slightly annoyed. Sometimes couples seem to morph into one and it takes away from special moments you want to have with the person you’re actually bonded to. Not to say you can’t be friends with their S/O as well, but it’s not the same.

I’m just gonna start off by saying that under normal circumstances I wouldn’t have ever been this stupid. I was dumped from a first serious relationship recently, though there was the hope of getting back together after she wanted to meet up, turns out she just wanted to tell me I was friend-zoned and that she was looking for hookups on tinder cause I never gave it to her. Yes I’m still a V. So I have all of that on top of the normal school stress.

Today a girl I had messaged in the past and had seen posting on my schools social media pages messaged me. We had both posted on our school’s page. She messaged me saying hey cutie and stuff like that. Asked me where I was staying. I told her. She said she lives in the same area. I told her my address.

Eventually she gets to it. She wants a hookup. A paid one. I as a depressed dumbass agreed. She said it was 50 for a bj. I was hesitant at first but she was able to describe her hall pretty accurately. I told her I wanted to meet her in the lounge before I paid. She said that was a waste of her time for such a low price and didn’t feel safe doing that. She asked that I send a 25 dollar safety fee. I do. And then as you all know, I was blocked.

At first I thought she is scammer, but she turned up and there goes my first time.

I’m so scared and nervous. Not only have I proven without a shadow of a doubt that I’m a total idiot, but now there’s potentially someone on campus laughing at me for it too. I hate myself so much. I’ve never done something so stupid in my life.

I’m shaking now.

This happened yesterday so I’m still traumatized, yet here I am letting the world know about my screw up.

For context, our house is extremely small. We’re currently living with our relatives for the time being in this big house but we’re given literally just three rooms. The rooms themselves aren’t even that spacious; one is the sleeping, dining, living room area, while the other is the work/storage area that leads to the bathroom.

So, here I was, right? Going about my day, browsing Man haven with my whole family watching the Wall-E in the other room, meanwhile, I’m looking for good “films” to watch. I have this weird thing that turns me on more, but I’ve been limiting myself to watching vanilla as of writing this post. Then, I found more weird stuff And it turned me on. (Old-school looking animation, but I mean it’s a small price to pay for double the moans.

As soon as the girl walked in on the two other girls doing it on the club room’s couch, I got rock hard and I thought to myself “this is wrong” with a chuckle. Immediately, I went to grab my emergency fap-pack consisting of my phone, a pair of earbuds, a towel, and a change of clothes. I’ve been doing this since I was 13, I know my stuff. Go to the bathroom, set your phone on silent, bring a pair of earbuds so nobody hears it, you smell too after you come so I usually take a bath after, and last but not the least I open the window to let the suspicious stank out (poor neighbors).

Another successful fap, I think to mysel and I start erasing the evidence. Then, I see it. A notification about casting something to a TV. Holy…, my ku ku jiao went inverted and became a magic hole so fast before in my entire life, all the blood went from my stick back in circulation as I turned off my phone’s Wi-Fi. I nervously finished cleaning and taking a bath, preparing for the worst. Took my sweet time in there, but I was delaying the inevitable. I stepped out and stayed in the other room.

I quietly sat down and continued typing on my computer. Nobody said ANYTHING. The TV was still on playing Wall-E, and my little brother (6) was still smiling and laughing because of the weird egg robot. In the end, I don’t know if it actually streamed, but I sure as hell hope it didn’t. Maybe it was the neighbors (poor bastards, now they know how the stank came to be)