Singapore’s Minister of Defence Ng Eng Hen spoke during the Committee of Supply debate on Mindef’s expenditure plans, and he made an announcement about key changes for NSmen.

Among the key changes is functional assessment, which will be used to get a “more precise gauge of whether the servicemen can perform specific vocations” during pre-enlistment screening.

Ng added that about 1,000 jobs have been redesigned so more servicemen can contribute in areas that they were previously ineligible.

Another key change is for better data management across agencies, so make-up pay for NSMen can be streamlined and become automated.

There will also be a default base pay which NSmen can claim for their reservists in camp, which will be $1,600 per month, and prorated for the duration of their ICT.

Thirdly, the HOME (Housing, Medical and Education) awards will be enhanced, with additional credits of $2,000 across the three milestones of NS to be disbursed to NSmen via the LifeSG app.

A netizen shared how his girlfriend called him out for not wanting to get nasty with her while she was on her period.

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My girlfriend and I have been talking a lot about our intimate lives recently after we hit a bump in the road, so to speak. We agreed to be as blunt and honest with one another as we could in order to get to the bottom of things.

I didn’t have many real complaints other than I wish she initiated more, and she acknowledged she basically always waits for me to initiate and would work on it.

But then she hit me with this: “It hurts my feelings that you don’t want to get nasty during my period when you’re perfectly happy to ask for “backdoor” when you know I hate it.”

First of all, I didn’t know she hated “backdoor”. She told me it “wasn’t really her thing”, but that she was willing to do it for me because I like it. If I knew she hated it, I wouldn’t ask for it.

I know she can get super horny on her period, but I don’t like period intercourse. I’ve tried it and I just don’t like it. I don’t like the mess, the smell or the sight of blood on my dick. It’s a huge turn off for me and I can’t pretend it isn’t. She said the same could be said with us doing it “backdoors”, which isn’t wrong, but unlike with doing it on her period – there are steps and prep we can do to avoid any mess or smell. We’ve never had an “incident” with backdoor play before because she preps beforehand.

But she stuck to her guns and repeatedly told me that it was hypocritical of me to want backdoor but not intercourse on her period. If she “endures” for me, why don’t I do the same for her?

I told her that now I knew she hates backdoor play, I’ll never ask her to do it again and that I wish she’d told me how she really felt sooner. For some reason she seemed disappointed, as if she wanted me to say “since you do backdoor for me, I’ll do period intercourse for you.” But I don’t want that. I don’t want to have intimacy that I don’t want, and I really don’t want her to have intercourse that she doesn’t want.

The whole conversation has left me feeling really uncomfortable. Especially her use of the word “endure.” Imagine being told by your partner that they’ve been enduring intimacy with you. It makes my skin crawl and I feel like I’ve done something wrong – and now I’m actually thinking I should have done it for her even though I don’t want to.

I don’t even know exactly what advice I’m looking for here. I can’t talk about this with my mates because they’re her mates as well and I don’t think it would be appropriate. I think I’m just venting and would like to hear what others think about this.