A guy found out that his girlfriend of 7 years has been cheating with his best friend of 11 years, and he was horrified and distraught.

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Honestly, I’ll just spare the details and keep it short, but my best friend of 11 years got off with my girlfriend of 7 years at a party last week.

I have all the proof from another person, including videos and I am wondering how I should go about this.

Neither of them know that I know, and they are acting like nothing happened, asking me to play video games, meet up etc which is honestly making me feel sick.

After spending 3 days in my room in a state of distraught I finally went outside yesterday. I’m an absolute state right now and it all just hurts so much.

I was hoping it was all a nasty rumour but i’ve seen videos of them getting off and I don’t know what to do now.

Should I just cut off both of them completely or should I confront them. Any advice is welcome 🙁

Netizens’ comments

• Confront them and then cut them off. If you don’t say your piece then it will eat at you and you will regret not saying anything. It’s going to suck and it’s going to hurt for a while, but it’s gotta be done.

• focus on future you.

Put yourself 6-12 months down the line.

There may be unknowns – but balance these with the verified and undoubtedly uncomfortable known truth that sadly surfaced a few days ago.

The unknowns will become exciting adventures full of laughter and romance in time.

The known truth will eat you up the longer you keep it to yourself.

Confide in close friends, talk to people who’ve been through long term break ups before, ask for advice on an exit plan and have your friends help you:

1. keep you accountable to your plan; and
2. keep you sane in the rough first few months. It gets better, I promise and I’m confident your friends will promise the same too.

I’m a 32, and my wife is a 36.

I have a weird hobby. Model trains. My whole storeroom is filled with them. I don’t know when I first had this hobby but ever since I’ve loved them. I have the money for model trains because I don’t have any kids and I make a decent amount of money.

My wife doesn’t work but that doesn’t bother me. She’s not an excessive shopper or gambler or drinker, she just lays around and that’s fine. She’s worked most of her life, she deserves a break. However, she went to far.

She touches or plays or do whatever she wants with my model trains, as long as she tells me if one breaks. A week ago, I found out while I was at work, a man came and took a bunch of model trains. I was gonna report to the police but my wife admitted the guy gave her $100 dollars for them.

(The trains were worth more that) I flipped out but she stood by her actions saying I needed to grow up. I snatched her favourite LV purse, upon the Facebook marketplace, $10. In 5 minutes, someone came and picked it up.

Now I’m the bad guy and have to sleep on the couch.

Here are what netizens think:

• But why are you married to her? Doesn’t work (despite no kids), sells your stuff, kicks you out of bed. What’s in this for you?.

• Yeah, I never understood the whole thing when one spouse banishes the other to the couch-f that!! If you’re so upset you go sleep in the couch.

• An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind

• Your wife’s a thief, you’re sleeping on the couch and you think that was an intelligent response. dude you’re hopeless.

A netizen took to social media to ask for advice about being an ugly woman, says she wants love but is always surrounded by beautiful women.

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How can I handle being an ugly woman?

On campus, in bookstores, on the bus, I am surrounded by beautiful people. Brilliant and fresh and interesting. I read novels about lovely women, all of them beautiful. Even the ones that are “plain” (Jane Eyre, for instance) are slender, fine-featured, and have a certain elegance to them. I am tired of looking like myself. I am tired of being myself.

I berate myself for my superficiality, but it is only because I have nothing else to offer. I am not intelligent or insightful, not particularly outgoing, unable to contribute anything of worth.

Why, on top of that, do I have to be so unpleasant-looking? I can’t believe that people have to interact with me on a daily basis.

I cannot fathom anyone having romantic thoughts about me. Nor should they deign to. I wouldn’t want to burden someone with my presence.

Yet I want these things so badly. I want to offer something pleasant to the world, to bring beauty and intellect and interest. I want someone to want me. I must remind myself, though, that I deserve none of that, and I should accept it.

I apologise for this rambling post. Any words of advice would be appreciated.

Netizen’s comments

This is going to sound very blunt… Get yourself in counselling or therapy. Your perception of yourself as a burden with no worth is absolutely the root of your problem. And you deserve so much more for yourself than to feel like that. You absolutely deserve those things, and if I could find whoever/whatever put those thoughts in your head I would burn it all to the ground. I am so incredibly sore over the fact that people anywhere feel like this, and your post breaks my heart all over again.

Invest in yourself. Take the things that interest you and run full tilt towards them, devote yourself to learning the things you wish to do. You deserve good things in life, and in doing those you will boost your confidence and you will find love. The best recipe for success is to love and nurture yourself, always has been.

I found out my wife cheated on me we are both in our early to mid-20s.

So to give you a little background me and my wife have been together for 4 years come august. Last August we got married and by no means are we picture-perfect, we had a lot of bumps in the road in the beginning.

We luckily got thru a lot of those problems, but I can admit in the beginning I was good to her but towards the middle and closer to now, I neglected her. I wasn’t being a good boyfriend at the time, but she stayed by my side thru everything.

Late last year I had started to notice her attitude/mood change towards me very cold/callous. She wasn’t the same girl I was used to (sweet, flirty, funny)plus she was on the phone more with guys and very secretive with her phone.

So I confronted her about it once it was too much for me to bear. She admitted that she had lost feelings towards me and she was tired of carrying the relationship on her back. I was devastated because prior to that was trying really hard to change my ways and not just giving her a hal-half bo chap attitude “okay, I’m sorry I’ll change” but not sticking to it.

I was actually doing it without even saying anything. I understand that I’m not obligated/entitled to anything from her I just thought If she saw that I was changing we could fix it for good. Well I found out in early January that she was talking to someone. To say I was devastated is an understatement, but I didn’t want to give up hope.

We talked about it a lot Around Valentine’s Day weekend me and her got back together and she told me she blocked the guy she was talking to. Well, the other day our son was playing with her phone and he had pulled up a picture w her and a guy in what looked like a hotel and she says something along the lines of no that I wasn’t in a hotel that it was at a party in someone’s room.

I don’t try to argue with her so I brush it off. Well, I come home today and my son had her phone while she napped for a few minutes. So I grabbed the unlocked phone and he was on her pictures. I look to my horror and she had a video of her and this guy having intercourse.

I about lost it, and I couldn’t stop crying. She hears me and wakes up, she comes into the living room and I toss the phone at her. She immediately denies anything and I told her I saw everything and to stop lying already and to once and for all tell me the truth. So she wants to talk but I have nothing to say, bc I always told her that I can forgive a lot of things and having intercourse another person isn’t one of them.

I love this woman to death guys should I give her a second chance or do I end it with her and co-parent? I’m so confused right now. My mental health has always been an issue that runs in my family but with me specifically, I have a lot of unresolved issues. I need advice please and thank you.

A girl shared how she saw her boyfriend crying in private when she went to surprise him at his house.

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So it was his birthday and I wanted to surprise him so I went over to his apartment with my key. He was turning 26 and I’m 24.

I let myself in and went to the living room area and couldn’t see him. I peaked around the corner of the wall and I could see his door was open and he was on his knees crying.

At first, I thought he was laughing or praying but then I saw tears. I didn’t know what to do because he has never cried in front of me and it feels like I wasn’t supposed to see this.

It was full on loud crying. He was always close to his grandpa who passed away. He also has a picture of him on the mantle above where he was crying.

I snuck back out the door and left. He didn’t see me at all but I felt I was intruding. After I went to my car, he texted me and asked if I wanted to come over because he wanted to cuddle.

I obviously said yes and waited a couple of minutes then went back in. He was really sweet and I could tell he had been crying and I asked. He said he just got out of the shower and he was fine.

Why didn’t he tell me why he was crying? I know men think they can’t express there feelings but why can’t he with me. Is there a way to tell him what I saw or even should I.

Netizen’s comments

He didn’t tell you he was crying because he was having a private moment he didn’t want to share with you. Not every emotion has to be shared, not every expression of your partner’s inner life is yours. Respect his privacy. He’s allowed it.

I was called in for an interview over the phone. I went to the restaurant I thought I was supposed to be at. Told them I was there for my interview and got hired on the spot. Realized after the interview that it wasn’t even the location I applied to.

It’s the same company but a different location.

Should I pretend it never happened and try to go to work as normal? Or should I risk admitting my mistake and potentially losing the job due to negligence?

Here are what netizens think:

• What do you mean the wrong restaurant? Like it’s a chain and you went to the wrong location?

• Yea just take the job don’t bother saying anything. The other place probably though you no-showed and this place probably just took you as a walk in interview because every place is desperate for staff. Show up, get your offer in writing, and good luck at the new job.

• As someone that used to work for a restaurant with a sister location nearby, this used to happen a loooooot. I never thought it was that big of a deal and I was a hiring manager there for years.

• Congratulations! There’s no negligence here. You turned up, interviewed (or at least confirmed your name and that you want a job) and you were hired. It’s your job, if you want it. Enjoy!

• I really want to try this. Just show up at a place you want to work and tell them you are there for the interview.