A guy shared how he thinks he fgured out why his girlfriend dumped him, that it was because she hasn’t partied enough and wants to be young, wild and free.

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I think I figured out why gf (22) dumped me.

She said, she wanted a break (I declined) because she hasn´t partied enough, wasn´t spontaneous enough, didn´t travel enough, hasn´t been single for long and needed to feel free.

She also said she was worried she was gonna miss out on being young and wild and all that.

Well I recently discovered FOMO (fear of missing out) and I think it fits this situation pretty well. Happens a lot from what I´ve read online.

Plus near the end she was meeting a lot of new people, who were pretty much all single, sleeping around shamelessly, clubbing all the time and I think she just started to crave the same.

AND when we met (2.5 year long relationship) she was kinda fat, which I didn´t mind at all, but throughout the relationship, she started to work out a lot, watched what she was eating and she lost a lot of weight, became hotter and I think she was getting more male attention, which I´m pretty sure she enjoyed.

Is it FOMO or am I missing something?

Netizens comments

Often when we’re grieving, we try to figure out why something painful happened because we think it understanding it more will make it hurt less. It doesn’t. Unfortunately it is a cruel reality of this world that we can not control anybody but ourselves, people can break up with us for any reason they choose, and no amount of logic can bring back feelings once they’re gone.

Get out of your head, go do something nice for yourself. You can only control yourself, and you can only truly know what you are thinking at a given moment. And that’s plenty.

A woman shared how her mother-in-law was angry at her and her husband for being pregnant with a girl instead of a boy.

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DH and I have been married for a couple years now. We live with MIL for reasons that are not likely to change. We got pregnant 2 years ago.

DH wanted a girl, I wanted a boy. MIL decided we were going to have a boy- to carry on the family name.

When the results came back girl, she was furious with us because we were happy and excited that it was a girl and alternated between not speaking to us and reading us the riot act for having a girl.

And for the next 6 months had only negative or mean things to say about the baby (i.e. calling her “your stupid daughter”)

My first trimester was difficult because I had severe fatigue and was still working a physically demanding job in the evenings.

But MIL just called me lazy and said I needed to attend an aerobics class regularly or the baby was going to die.

She harassed me over text and in person every day about it and told me I was killing my baby. She practically lost her mind when I stopped taking my prenatal vitamins. I could never remember to take them, so I stopped trying with my OB’s permission.

I got this harassment every day of my pregnancy until I was nearly 8 months and finally popped. When I finally started looking really pregnant, she suddenly became the proud, excited GMa and couldn’t say enough nice things about the baby.

I wasn’t buying it, haven’t gotten over the lines she’s crossed and I know she loves DD now, but I still haven’t forgotten or forgiven her for any of it.

NOTE: MIL’s behavior like this started as soon as we got married to the point that if I loved DH an ounce less than I do, I would have left in the first month.

Also, DH gets the brunt of her behavior and he would and does sometimes try to stick up for me except she’s like a force of nature (try to stop a hurricane with your bare hands) and he’s very nonconfrontational.

We have been having problems in our 5 year marriage for about 2 years now. We have a 3 year old son and for the past 2 years, I have to basically take care of him by myself (when we aren’t at our jobs in which we have a nanny come by) because she refuses to do anything.

When I ask her for some help, she accuses me of limiting a woman’s freedom by asking her to be a stay at home mom (which isn’t true). She just watches TV and hangs out with her friends instead of helping me out. I ask her to at least cut the spending as we need the money to pay the bills but she makes accusations again.

Finally, I got suspicious a week ago and went to one of the bars she goes to and caught her making out with a random stranger. When I confronted her, she accuses me of stalking her and that I have no right to limit her freedom. When I angrily said that she had been cheating and that I would never do that, she starts punching me which shocked me as she had never done that before.

The stranger by the way also got angry at her since she lied to him that I was just her ex.

I ended up taking our kid to stay at my parents’ place where they are encouraging me to file a police report or at least file for divorce.

Maybe this is just me venting but why would she turn physically violent now?

A netizen shared how her fiance is very upset about his close female friend RSVP-ing “NO” to their wedding and her alarm bells are ringing.

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Long story short, my fiance and I are getting married later this year and one of his long-time friends RSVP’d no to our wedding. He has been upset for a week since he got the news.

This “friend” has always rung alarm bells to me and I really don’t trust her. When we first started dating, she used to make “jokes” about him dating me for money (my family is very wealthy). It also doesn’t help that he had a thing for her when they were younger, but never had a chance to get together as she was always in a relationship. I believe she kept him around for attention but obviously, there’s no actual evidence for this and whenever I brought it up to my fiance in the past he has stopped short of calling me crazy.

His friend is also exceptionally beautiful whereas I’m on the bigger side. In the past whenever we’ve hung out as the three of us, she has asked to go to the beach, which is weird because there are a million other things to do in our city and it kind of comes off like she just wants to get her clothes off in front of him so he can compare her body to mine. Whenever they hang out alone, she’ll have him over for dinner at her place or they go to a restaurant.

My fiance’s reaction has given me major alarm bells. The irritability, the sadness, it all feels hyperbolic considering they aren’t THAT close and the most important thing is our wedding, not whether or not she can come. He suggested inviting her to my bachelorette to ‘make her feel more welcome” and obviously I said no. Whenever I try to talk to him about his mood since the news, he just tells me he doesn’t want to talk about it.

Should I be worried? Our wedding is a few months away and now i’m fearing he has some sort of emotional entanglement with her.

So I and my wife have been together for 4 years and we are extremely comfortable with each other, nothing ever really grosses us out with each other. She also gave me permission to post this.

A few weeks ago, my wife pang sai herself. She was laughing, ate something she shouldn’t have, and it just happened. She was a little embarrassed, but later we laughed about it together and have made multiple jokes about it.

Recently we were at dinner with mutual friends of ours and she started laughing. I told her to be careful or it’ll happen again and she stopped and got really quiet and embarrassed. She was pretty reserved the rest of the night and when our friends left she shut herself in our bedroom, saying I had really embarrassed her and it was mean to make jokes about it without asking if she was ok with joking about it with friends beforehand.

She told me I needed to apologize to her for embarrassing her, but I told her we make jokes about it all the time and I don’t see a difference.

I wrong meh, I thought she like it when she pang sai in her pants.

Here are what netizens think:

• Joking alone with your wife about something is vastly different than humiliating her in front of friends.

• How could you even begin to think you’re not the AH? Do you not see the difference between a private joke between a couple and a private joke that has been exposed (and thereby exposing your wife) to the world?