So I and my wife have been together for 4 years and we are extremely comfortable with each other, nothing ever really grosses us out with each other. She also gave me permission to post this.

A few weeks ago, my wife pang sai herself. She was laughing, ate something she shouldn’t have, and it just happened. She was a little embarrassed, but later we laughed about it together and have made multiple jokes about it.

Recently we were at dinner with mutual friends of ours and she started laughing. I told her to be careful or it’ll happen again and she stopped and got really quiet and embarrassed. She was pretty reserved the rest of the night and when our friends left she shut herself in our bedroom, saying I had really embarrassed her and it was mean to make jokes about it without asking if she was ok with joking about it with friends beforehand.

She told me I needed to apologize to her for embarrassing her, but I told her we make jokes about it all the time and I don’t see a difference.

I wrong meh, I thought she like it when she pang sai in her pants.

Here are what netizens think:

• Joking alone with your wife about something is vastly different than humiliating her in front of friends.

• How could you even begin to think you’re not the AH? Do you not see the difference between a private joke between a couple and a private joke that has been exposed (and thereby exposing your wife) to the world?

In the last two weeks or so, sometimes at night I will hear banging and stomping from the flat below ours. This usually happens around 1 am when normally the whole building is silent. It’s interesting because no one lives in that apartment. The elderly woman who occupied it since before we moved in sadly passed away very suddenly last month. She actually slipped on one of the steps in front of the building when it was wet outside, and died right in front of our place.

I wrote off the noises as my imagination the first few times since I am very much a believer of the paranormal so I am known to get overly excited about these things. That was until my boyfriend and I heard the noises this morning. He confirmed they were coming from directly below us. As a huge non-believer, he said it’s likely a window was left open in the apartment below, and that the wind is causing it to open and shut. He didn’t sound very confident though, because you could clearly hear the sounds moving around the house, not just from the wall where the window would be.

I went downstairs to try and see if there was a shadow through the window and check if there are any movement inside. However, there was no sign of life whatsoever. To make it weirder, you can see my building clearly from the playground just behind, and when I walked up there earlier, it looked like the windows in the apartment below us were fully closed.

With two person hearing it I was very sure that I am not overethinking and I really think that someone or something is in there.

What should I do the banging is really a bit too loud. I’m afraid that if i interfere too much it might come visit my home instead.

A netizen shared how she has had acne breakouts for years and it has left her with scars on her face, and people always comment on her acne and ask her “why your face liddat”.

Here is the story

I have acne breakouts for years until now and it had left scars all over my face. I have heard many people commenting on my face.

Children and classmates asking me “why your face liddat?” I know they don’t mean it but I just don’t know how to answer them.

Also adults and elderly recommending me products. All of this comments were still ok for me.

But what really affects me or made me very angry was that there was a guy (I think he is a student around my age?) He kept staring at me in the mrt and said “your face so oily, so many scars, so ugly”

I was angry but I didn’t said a single word at that point of time…

Can people please think before they speak or just keep it to themselves. Words hurt you know?!

Netizens’ comments

Unfortunately, it’s one of the uglier aspects of Asian culture. Somehow people have no filter here. They love to point out your weight gain, pimples and see no issue with it.

I once had a friend from the US who had some skin issues, when he came here he also said the same thing. Lots of people comment on it, tried to tell him to wash his face more, try this cream, try not eating X and eat more Y. He said he was quite taken aback at first as stuff like this is taboo to talk about in western countries. But he realised it’s just the Asian way of showing “care/concern”

That kid saying that stuff in the MRT is out of hand though. I would’ve given him an earful.

My son Ben came out as bisexual a couple of years ago. Most of our family accepted him. Although I know he disliked some of our actions when he came out (we are still in contact with familiars or friends that didn’t accept him), we tried to be as supportive as we could. And a bit after he came out he introduced us to his boyfriend. He was a really sweet guy and clearly loved our son.

However about a year ago some rumours, apparently spread by my other son James, said that he used to be a woman. We didn’t believe it but eventually Ben confirmed that his boyfriend was trans, and I admit it was quite shocking and hard to process. This also kinda ruined the relationship between our sons.

Now to the problem itself. Yesterday we decided to have a small gathering with the four of us ( me, my wife and our two sons ). We ate a delicious meal, we talked a lot, in general we were having a good time. I could tell that there was some tension between our sons but I thought that they could handle it. Then I decided to ask Ben “what is [his boyfriend] doing now?”, to which James replied “yeah, what is she doing?”.

This immediately angered Ben, so they started insulting each other. Luckily I managed to change the subject and tell them to calm down before they started an actual fight.

After James left, Ben confronted me about this. He was angry that I didn’t “defend him or at least say something to James”. Now, I agree that what James said was rude, but it was Ben who insulted his brother and worsened the situation. So I don’t think it would have been right for me to defend or pick a side. But he didn’t see it that way, he told me that “either you do something or I won’t visit again”. Which hurts me a lot.

Since then I have not talked to either of them directly, but apparently the rest of our family is choosing sides. Ben is still very angry at me, and although I understand why he was angry at his brother I think he is being unreasonable with me.

The question may sound dumb, but I’d really appreciate some honest feedback. I’ve always thought I had a fairly responsible relationship with alcohol, but my wife recently brought that into question, so I told here I would stop drinking. I’m probably going to give too much information, but I want to make sure I get accurate feedback

I’m in my late 30s, I’m married, have children, have a great job that requires me to be at 100% whenever I’m work – and I’ve never felt like alcohol negatively affected any of that until my wife said something.

I almost exclusively drink socially – and when I do it’s usually only a couple of beers, or a cocktail with my wife, or friends. If I’m at home, and we’re having a party around the pool I may have a couple more than usual – but always still want to be in full control of myself in case of an emergency. I often go weeks without drinking, and rarely drink during the week as I don’t like to feel affected by alcohol around my children, and don’t want it to affect my sleep on work nights.

A few times a year I host a cocktail night where friends get together, make the best cocktail they can make, and we all share them while playing games.

My wife is 100% okay with all of that.

Where my wife has an issue, is that once, or twice a month – on a weekend, I like to play some video games online with my friends, and have some drinks. I never start drinking until my wife, and children go to bed, and I always communicate with her that I’m going to stay up late, have a few drinks, and play some games with my friends

Whenever my 9 years old son gets injured or hurt, I’d normally kiss the injured area as a way to comfort him and make the pain go away, I also use it as source of strength and he certainly sees it this way. I DO NOT kiss the skin directly but after I cover the injured area obviously.

My 35-year-old husband got into an accident and had an injury (wound) on the left part of his chest. He has 0 pain tolerance but he takes medication for it.

The other day I was helping change his wound dressing and clean up the wound, before I could place the new wound dressing he asked me to kiss it. I refused. it just didn’t feel right, his wound was still fresh and there was already antibiotic ointment applied there so I just didn’t want to do it.

He insisted and I kept declining,

He then got mad and said that I do this with my son why not him. I suggested that we just let it go and proceeded to apply the new wound dressing. he stopped me and went on a long vent about how I don’t care about him and that I clearly feel grossed out by him to not want to kiss his wound. I thought that was silly, I told him to let me finish changing the wound dressing but started arguing and had me leave the room. I left and he kept sulking for the rest of the night. he then told our son that mommy doesn’t love daddy and don’t want to kiss his wound so he could get better. I was floored, my son actually came at me for upsetting my husband and just made me feel bad all around.

I kept thinking that I caused this situation and should’ve just done what he wanted me instead of creating this tension in the house.

So what do you think?