My wife is an Instagram influencer. She gets a lot of likes and comments and she posts a lot of spicy content.

I’ve told her several times it makes me uncomfortable how much people objectify her online, but I’m not ever gonna tell her she can’t have her insta anymore because it means a lot to her and she works hard at it.

I told her it stings a little when dudes who follow her and also follow me so they know that I’m her husband comment things like “I love you my queen,” and she likes the comments. Like, I get that it’s just the internet but it still hurts to see other men saying she’s their queen and then to see her encourage it.

Well recently ive decided to try and get past all that and to try and to be more understanding.

So I’ve been liking all the posts and commenting on all of them and replying to other peoples comments on the posts.

Like when I see some guy say “you’re so hawt I wanna suck those things so bad,” instead of getting angry, I try to recognize that he’s paying her a compliment so I’ll reply something like “oh yeah man, me too!”

One guy said “I wanna marry this chick” and I playfully replied “beat you to it 🤤”

She came to me pissed yesterday and demanded to know why I was commenting on all her posts and talking to all the dudes in her comments.

I explained I was trying to be more supportive and that I know that interacting with the posts more and leaving more comments and stuff helps the algorithm and gets her more exposure for her page.

She said she doesn’t need my help. That kinda hurt like damn I’m not even allowed to interact with my own wife’s Instagram posts?

How do I resolve this?

My GF had her e-mail open on her computer and I saw a bank transfer email open showing a payment of $5k from her wealthy ex BF to her.

We’ve been together 3 years and I know she’s stayed friendly with her ex. I can’t think of any reason he would be sending her money or that they would have any financial entanglements. The guy is wealthy and does like to throw around money but it makes me deeply uncomfortable that he would send money to her and she would even remotely consider keeping it. It’s not like we have any financial hardship thankfully.

I feel bad for reading her e-mail (even though it was up on the screen) but it doesn’t sit well with me that her ex sent her money. I don’t know if this is a one-time thing or has been ongoing. It just doesn’t sit well and I’m trying to think of the best way to ask her about it without sounding accusatory. I do occasionally feel a bit insecure and don’t want to come across as overbearing. I obviously can’t tell her what to do but I want to get across that taking that kind of money from an ex is way over boundaries for me.

Found out girlfriend received money from her ex. How do I ask her what the deal is without sounding accusatory?

Here are what netizens say:

• I would be thrilled if my ex sent me $5k, and if my partner saw it he’d know it’s because he still owes me money. If you know he’s not paying her back for something, I’d want to know why too. Rich or not, the reason is important.

• I say just be honest and curious. It is not wrong to accept money from someone, she’s allowed to do that if she wants to. You’re allowed to feel uncomfortable. You two can talk about it and maybe you’ll find a good level of understanding for each other’s perspectives

“This is awkward but earlier you had your laptop open and it looked like your ex sent you a lot of money. Did I see that right?”

He could owe her money. He could be apologizing for something. He could have sold something he gifted her years ago. Approach it with curiosity instead of anger

• Honestly don’t be uncomfortable if she decides to keep it. I’m not close with any exes, but if they decided to send me 5k out of the blue I’d keep it. I’m ok financially but I’m not turning down 5k if it shows up in my account.

The reason I’m writing this is that I’m unsure of how to approach it with him, but before I get into it, we have been dating for 5 years after meeting in a club in our college some years back, and the reason I’m unsure is because of the subject matter. We’ve argued in the past, and he’s not quick to anger. However, I’m not sure how the subject of what I found that I wasn’t supposed to could make him react., nor how I would even approach it with him. So, I want to ask for advice before I potentially do

Long story short, he has a laptop, and I do too. We live together, and he’s used mine many times. I’ve used him before too, and he’s never been shy about it whenever I asked. However, when I asked if I could use it recently, he told me that I could which led to what I found.

A lot of his search prompts were of him googling “contortion/contortionists” in different searches, and when I went into the history, I found a lot of links to videos/Instagrams that seemed like regular training/sports pages. But, mixed in-between those were sexual terms/positions regarding contortion, and a few of the Instagram accounts were of younger athletes too in their teens or seemingly younger.

I was honestly horrified and figured that he forgot to clear his history, and it’s made me not want to get married at all, at the least. And while nothing I saw featured anyone not wearing clothes, some were more clothed than others and seemed to walk a thin line from what I remember. While I’m not sure if that’s enough/anything to report given that they’re clothed (unless someone tells me otherwise because I’m unsure), I’m leaning towards going up to my parent’s and telling him that I don’t want to get married, and I don’t even know how I’d even try to address something like that with him unless anyone has done so and would be open to sharing advice.

I just want to ask how I should proceed at this point and if there’s anything I should add to what I’m thinking

Edit: I found it very disturbing because of some of the terms he was searching such as “sexy kid contortionists” or even mixed in with sexy position something in-between some PH searches too

TL;DR: My fiance seemingly forgot to clear his search history which led to me finding a lot of stuff that horrified me, and I don’t want to get married anymore at the least