I met this guy in a dating app nine months ago and after meeting a few times, we just got too attached and decided to get together under one roof. mind you that during our first date, we laid out everything that could be a deal-breaker. none of the things he mentioned broke the deal for me despite him mentioning that he isn’t mentally healthy. he gave me a list that consisted of depression and anxiety but what got my attention was that he is supposed to have a multiple personality disorder. my insensitive ass laughed about it in my mind and ignored it because I don’t believe in it at all.

I brought him to a psychiatrist after seeing him act like a completely different person right in front of me but the doctor said it was still debatable since there’s no proof of the disorder itself yet but confirmed his depression and diagnosed him schizophrenic instead. my guy doesn’t hurt me and he loves me dearly but I don’t know what to do when he suddenly acts like a 2-year-old in public or speak fluent Russian despite him being full Chinese! everything else is fine between us but it scares the heck out of me when “somebody else” inside comes out!

His body has scars that look like from cutting himself or stab wounds but claims he doesn’t remember any of it and that he hates the idea.

Has anyone come across or has any idea where to go that specializes in this type of cases?

Netizen responds:

This is Dissociative Identity Disorder. Try to watch Hyde, Jekyll, Me (actor Hyunbin), you will know the character well. Think you have to find the cause by observing what stimulates him to turning into another person at time goes.

I’m glad he was transparent about his condition to you, but I’m baffled why you laughed it off and didn’t think it was serious? Schizophrenia is serious. If he’s on medication, make sure he takes it. He may become violent if he stops and might harm himself or other ppl.

I’ve been with my wife who was my GF for 9 years now and we are happily married. But as a guy, I have a huge problem. I have never been able to “satisfy” her and she has always had a good S drive and now it seems as the drive is starting to die down because of me which makes me feel bad.

Now the reason why I’m not able to satisfy her is that the skin covering the tool is tight around me and it’s really painful when even attempted to be pulled back a little, let alone all the way. I think the problem here is called phimosis? Yeah.

So my question is, is there others out there that faced this same skin problem and if you did, how did you get around it? Or should I see a doctor or something?

I have been trying to do other things to keep out romance up but I don’t think it will be a long term solution. Also feel free to laugh at a guy not being able to enjoy one of the best things a human being can.

Here are some advise from “internet doctors”:

1. See a doctor. Theres meds to help you losen the skin to stretch, iirc. The doctor will teach u how to stretch out ur skin. Worst case scenario is you might need a circumcision, but that would be rare. This is nothing shameful. Many people deny seeking treatment because they are afraid of shame, but end up harming themselves and their loved ones.
2. Just pull back and bear with the pain. No choice. You should have done it earlier.
3. This one not guy, he ah gua so scare pain.

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I feel like it’s time to move on from my current job, but I do not know how to tell my boss. He’s a good boss, doesn’t micromanage, doesn’t shout or scold. The initial job scope has changed but the salary hasn’t. I highly doubt the salary would increase but I have not asked for an increment yet. I don’t know how to ask lol.

Currently, I’ve been offered a job with about a 35% increase in salary. I want to leave but I feel bad about it because my boss has been great.

How would you go about it?

I just spoke to my boss, he said he can’t match the increment and the best he could do is an additional bonus at the end of every year. But he did say at the end of the day I have to think for myself and decide what’s best for me. He has no issues with me leaving.

So that’s good I guess? I told him I will give him an answer by Chinese New Year, he said he is okay with waiting. I offered to complete all current projects for him first before tendering my resignation. Which should be around March when all will be done. Thank you everyone for the encouragement!!