Asking on behalf of someone I know.
A guy (let’s call him B) aged late-30s to 40s from another department kept texting his younger female colleague (someone I know – we shall call her A) for explicit pics, which of course she ignored, and got scolded by him. He said he loves smooth and fair-skinned chinese girls.
He also apparently sent her d pics (which he said “sent you my 7-inch pic already and you ignored?”) but she didn’t see the pictures. She has either been ignoring him or told him to stop it and to respect her many times but to no avail.
In the past, he will give remarks when she wears a dress to office about her legs and would Skype her “I wonder how wild can you be”.
This has been going on since Jul 2022, but A kept quiet, as she needed to liaise with him for work-related matters. He is the main person in his team.
She is contemplating reporting him to HR but fear retaliation by him like taking revenge and hurting her.
Incidentally, A isn’t his first target. Another chinese girl reported him but he is still in the company. Shockingly, he was still promoted even after the incident!
What should she do?
Here are what netizens think:
- 1. Collect evidence discreetly. Record his comments, save screen prints of the inappropriate sexual advances.
2. Go to police and HR with all the evidences.
3. Men who doesn’t know how to stay out of other people’s comfort zone and boundaries, need to be taught a lesson.
- 1. Report police First
2.then report to HR WITH THE POLICE REPORT. This is the only way to make HR take action coz sadly sg hr wont do f all until they are cornered.
- If she kept the evidence, criminal charges can be pressed. You can see how unrepentant B is…kena complained once before and still doing this. Getting away with it hasn’t made him wiser…it’s emboldened him. If she doesn’t enforce her boundaries, working there may very well become untenable pretty soon.
- If this is civil service, just air it out with real evidence on social media. Create a separate account and blow it on twitter or something. I’ll be sitting her with pop corn.